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DIEZ PILARES ,
PARA CRECER
COMO P~RSONAS
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Muchos se preguntan c6mo
lograr que en las sociedades
contemporaneas se dialogue mas
y se valore la diversidad. Aqu1
algunas pistas para empezar por
el compromise personal.

ASESORA
DANIELA BETANCUR GONzALEZ
Psic61oga, especialista en Clfnica y Salud i'1ental

uando se piensa en c6mo construir socieda-

C
buscar
des mas incluyentes, que valoren el dialogo,
plurales y que convivan en paz, no hay que
por fuera, el viaje debe comenzar en el inte-
rior de cada persona.
Aquel que se reconoce y se comunica adecuada-
mente consigo mismo entiende que existen otras
maneras de ser, pensar, sentir y rnanifestarse. La
psic6loga Daniela Betancur Gonzalez, lider del pro-
grarna Expansion en Ser de la Colegiatura
Colornbiana, explica que existen unos pilares trans-
versales a la farnilia, al colegio, a la vida laboral y a
todo aquello que irnplica la vida personal, que per-
rniten la evoluci6n del ser hurnano.
 ' 1 0 PILLARS TO
- " GROWING AS A
PEQSON

Many people wo nd er ho w
n1o de rn societies can engage in
more dialogue and value diversity.
By taking on a personal
commitment to this, the following
are a few tips to ge t started.

ADVISOR ,
DANIELA BETANCUR GONZALE;Z
and Menta l Healt h
Psych ologist. specia list in Clinical Psych ology

ting
hen it com es to thin ki ng abo ut crea

W more inclu sive socie t ies that valu e dialo gue,

are dive rse and live toge ther peac efu lly, there
this jo urne y
is no need to look beyo nd you rself, as
start s with in each pers on .
with
Those who know and co mmu nica te wdl
r ways uf
them selves unde rstan d that there are othe
lw-
being, t hi nki ng, feeli ng and expressin g. As
the psyc
nzale z explains, a lead er of
logist Daniela Beta ncur G o
ra m at Cole gian tra
the Pers onal Expa nsio n prog
i ng pilla rs that
Colo mbia na, there are certa in over arch
lh"c.:::. . ;111.._I
apply to our fam ily, scho ol anll wu rk
that heir us
ever ythi ng related to ou r pers 0nal lives,
d evelo p as h u man s.
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CONS, tNTIR
MIS VINCU-
LOS ESEN-
CIALE:S
De la relaci6n consigo mismo
parten las que se establecen
con padres, parejas, amigos y
companeros de trabajo. £s
importa nte preguntarse, lque
mensajes me envfo?, lc6mo
proces o las emociones?, lque
tanto me acompaiio?, lque
tanto me perdono, me quiero,
me respeto? Cuand o hay una
relaci6n conflictiva con las
demas. la reflexion debe par-
tir de una idea: lque pasa con
ese ser? "Porque uno da lo
que tiene''.
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AMOR PRO-
PIO PARA
RECONOCER
AL QTQQ
Si un papa, con sus acciones,
demuestra que se valora
poco, lc6mo podra dar
ejempl o al hijo? Cuand o me
quiero de manera sana,
puedo querer al otro de
igual forma; cuando me
escucho, escucho al otro.
Pero, "cuando me concen tro
en mf desde el ego, anulo a
ese otro. Al ego le gusta
ganar, tener la raz6n, solo
piensa en s/ mismo. £n cam-
bio, el amor acompaiia, no
controla ni juzga".
OBSERVAR
MIS PENSA-
MIENTOS
Yo elijo c6mo estar, que sentir
y con que pensamientos con-
versar. lOue quiere decir
esto? "La respuesta es que a
veces creemos que somos lo
que pensamos y que eso nos
determina. A veces se pueden
tener pensamientos negativos
y limitantes, y creer que se es
eso. Y yo no soy lo que pien-
so, mi ser es lo que siente",
explica la psic61oga. Los pen-
samientos y la inteligencia son
herramientas que debemos
poner a nuestro favor.
LAS EMOC
NESSON
t..JtE"1SA Jf n
Somos seres emocionale5.
Cuand o el bebe nace expri:-
sa emocio nes y su madre le
entien de desde el amor.
Cuand o se aprend e que
estas expres iones no son
enemigas, se puede fl uir cor
ellas. Mucho s niegan o bu~-
can solucio nes externa s a ,a
tristeza o la rabia. Y, l que
pasa si las escucho? l Oue rr i:
quiere n decir? £s importa n:e
darles la bienvenida y apren·
der de ellas, pues hacen
parte de la vida.

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DARLE
SOMOS ABU
RIENDA A Ml
CREATIVIDAD
DANTES PO
NATURALt:Z
C ada activid ad que realiza el ser humano esta impregnada
de
creativ idad. Sin esta potencia innata, inevitable y univers La abundancia no se trata e~ exclusivo de! tener. Tradicio
al el ser nalrnen'.e,
no llegarfa a saber nada, ni podrfa hacer nada. La creativi se ha seguid o un modelo : hacer para poder tener y cuand
dad o
p ermite generar respuestas diferentes. Ayuda a la flexibili tenga, voy a ser. Desde la compr ensi6n de estos pilares
dad de! se
plantea que "cada uno ya es, con eso hacem os y la consec
nsamiento, a abrirse a diferentes maneras de ver el mundo uen
, de
• c~a es que tendre mos. La pregun ta es que tan abunda
rse de estar en la vida; a entend er al otro, que trae nte r'e
r ac1ona , s1ento o si me siento siempr e en escasez. lEstoy esperan
. su prop ia historia. d,, "
co s1go compra r una ca sa para sentirm e feliz?".

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TAKE CARE
OJ: YOUR
CLOSEST
RELATI O N-
SI-IIP
The relationships you form
with you r parents, partners,
friends and co-workers are
based on the relationship you
have with yourself. It is impor-
tant to ask you rsel f the
following questions: W hat
mes sages do I send m1 self?
1 hap pen s if I liste n to t hem?
1-Jow do I proc ess my emo -
tions? 1-Jow muc h do I support
myself? 1-Jow much do I forgi-
ve, love and resp ect myself?
When you have a con flict ive
relationship with othe rs, ask
you rself: "Wh at is going on
with that person?" Because
you get wha t you give.
. LETYOUR
5
th
.
. 1nna
1s
CREATIVITY
t=LOW are full of creativity. Without
All the act1v1ties we do as hum
. 1·tab le and univ
t e, 1nev
ans
ersa l ability, we wou ld not be able
ity allows us to come up with
to learn or do anything. Cre ativ
be more flexi ble in how we think
diffe rent solu tions. It helps us
to diffe rent ways of seeing the
ope n ours e Ive S Up
und erst and othe who each
to each othe r, live our lives, and
have thei r own uniq ue story.
WI-IEN YOU OBSERVE EMOTIONS
LOVE YOURSELI= YOUR ARE MESSA-
GES
ENOUGI-I, YOU Tl-40UGl-4TS
We are emo tion al beings.
You choose how you act, what
CAN ACCEPT you feel and what thoughts
Wh en bab ies are born , they
express emotions, and thei r
OTI-IERS you will disc uss. Wha t does
mot hers und erst and the m
this mean? "Sometimes we
If a father demonstrates that through love. Wh en you lear
n
be l,eve that we are what we
he does not value himself that thes e forms of exp res-
think, and that this defines
enough through his actions, sion are not enemies, you can
who we ar-= Sometimes you
how cou ld he be 3 goo d flow with them . Man y peo ple
example for h;~ ,:h1i.:i? v'-/hen can have nega tive and restric-
igno re thei r sadness or ang er
tive thoughts and believe
y;'u love }'() 1 ~. -•; •.- ·~ -r· .. ' ~ 1'''.-1/ or look fo r solu tion s to them
,',at 's who you are. But you
outs ide of themselves. Wh at
c:e: ,,:-:, t wh t you think; your
~- ::;r:g 1s w'ia t feels ," explains to
Wh at are they tryin g to say
:,.n ,,-.-:, -...; · 1--::!i' ;;sy,:holog1st Daniela Betancur.
"'.,·Vhen yot., feet.:·, me? It is imp orta nt to rece ive
O ur thoughts and inte lligence
fron- , a plac e of ego, you ::fony and learn from them, as they
are th e tools we should use to
othe rs. The ego likes to win, are par t of life.
our benefit.
be right, and only thinks about
itself. Love, on the othe r hand,
is supportive, isn't controlling
and doesn't judge."
express emotions, when
If children are not allowed to
n't know ho w to process
the y become adults, they wo
the y are given a cell
them. If a child is crying, and
to exp eri en ce the ir em o-
phone, the y will not be able
cted from it because em o-
tion. Th ey shouldn't be distra
tions are human.
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WE ARE
ABUNDANT
Abundance is not exclusively abo
follo wed the mod el of doing
then you are com plet e. Through
that "We are all already com plet
BY NATURE
ut having. Traditionally, we have
in ord er to have, and onc e you
thes e pillars, the suggesti
e. We make do with wha t we
on
have .
is
have
. muc h abundance you feel you
have. The question lies in how to
wor ld, rela te you wait ing
living in scar city. Are
or if you always feel you are
rs
buy a house to feel happy?"
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VEL A RE
POR Ml,
PRO POS ITO
Cada uno t iene el derecho . en
si mismo, de descubr n cual es
su prop6si to fundamental de
vida y su vocaci6n. El exito
real llega cuando ocurre el
encuen tro consigo mismo y se
expresa en un servicio a la
socieda d. La frustrac i6n con el
exito nace de la compar aci6n
con los otros. y ·no tenem"t> s
que ser mejores que nadie.
Solo tenemo s que ser la mejor
, Je nosotro s mismos".
ve rsion u
Bro 9 ~ 7 0@ LAEDUCA-
CIO N~ ME COM ~RC,-
ME C UID O
TRANSVERSAL MET O CON
C uando voy al gimnasi o Lio
hago por mi o por la aproba-
Ml ~ELICIDAD
Saber que la educaci 6n lo
ci6n socia l? Que tal si nos
que hace es potenci ar lo
aceptam os como somos y de Cuando se logra compre nde•
mejor de cada persona, per-
manera conscienle nos al i- y potenc iar estos p da res.
mitira entende r que compet ir
mentam os o ejercita mos. entonce s hay una sen sac 16n
no liene sentido. Es un proce-
I-joy, la sensaci6 n que gene- de fe licidad, que no es la ale·
so en el que se acompa iia al
ran las rede s sociales "es gria perman ente. No es ser
otro en el encuen tro consigo
que t o d o e l mundo es fel iz y aproba do, no es tenerlo todc
mismo, usando las herrami en-
yo no. Cuida do con la infor- La Felicida d es estar en coll'·
ta s que cada ser humano
maci6n que co nsumimos, pleta coheren cia con lo q.;e
t iene para afrontar la vida. Y,
qu e p uede generar mucha se es. con uno m ismo. Asl.
en esa lrnea, papas y docen-
fru straci6n cua ndo no estoy quien encuen tra coherenc,a
tes educan , pero tambien
listo para d,ferenc iar ent re lo entre lo que p iensa. lo q ue
puede hacerlo un medico que
qu e es o no rea l". hace, lo q ue siente Y lo q ue
atiende a su paciente .
d ice, alcanza la felic ·dad •
 PAY ATT~N-
800
TAKE
9 ~ 1 0 § )-
YOU SEE YO U ARE
TION TO EDUCATION
CARE O~ COMMITTED
YOUR LI~~ ASSOM~ING
VOURSEL~ TO YOUR
PURP OS~ al-born TJ-4AT IS
We each have the natur
How do we take care of what
we inhabit, our bodies? When
1-4APPINESS
right to discover what our
you go to the gym, do you do it
~OR ALL Whe n you are able to
main purpose in life and voca- By knowing that education is unde rstan d and impr ove
for yourself or for social accep-
tion is. True success comes what helps bring out the best upon thes e pillar s, you may
tance? Wha t if we accepted
when you discover who you of each person, you allow expe rienc e a feel ing of happ i-
ourselves for who we are, and
are and express yourself by yourself to understand that it ness, whic h is diffe rent from a
nourished ourselves or exerci-
being of service to society. doesn't make sense to com- perm anen t sense of j oy, from
sed consciously? Nowadays,
There is not just one form of pete with others. fduc ation is getti ng appr oval and from
social networks generate the
success; there are just as many a process by which you having it all. Happiness is
feeling that "fveryone is happy,
forms as there are peop le in supp ort others to find abou t bein g in com plete
but me. fvery one has the per-
the world. Being frustrated themselves, using the tools align men t with who you are.
fect body, but me. Be careful
about succ ess comes from that each person has to deal Those who find align men t
of the information you take in,
comparing ourselves with with life. In this sense, both betw een what they think,
whic h can be very frustrating
others, · w e don't have to be parents and teachers are edu- what they do, what they feel
when you're not ready to diffe-
better than everybody. We just cators, but so are physicians and what they say, are those
rentiate between what's real
have to be the best version of who treat their patients. who find happiness •
and what isn't."
ourselves," Betancur states.