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Tim Rarick
Nobody is perfect even our parents. Our Heavenly Father even has
“But as you go throughout this course, remember that the only perfect
parent who’s existed still had many of His children defect in the pre-existence”.
"Pero a medida que avanzas en este curso, recuerda que el único padre perfecto
que ha existido aún tenía muchos de Sus hijos defectuosos en la preexistencia".
“So rather than judging your parents , I hope this course will help you look at them
with more compassion”
Because every parent is doing the best they can with what they know. We wouldn’t
fault a child [image changes to show a child being held by her mother] for not obeying
something they didn’t know about, just like we shouldn’t fault our parents for not
doing something they, themselves, weren’t raised with or were never taught. So
please look at this course [A cartoon drawing of a family is displayed behind the
speaker] as a way to understand your parents and your own biases, your own
perspectives.
And always remember that we are trying to be and understand our Father’s
parenting style. Heavenly Father is the one true, perfect parent.
We’re not going to get there in this life. But I promise line upon line, precept upon
precept [The father, from the previous picture, is embracing his son] as we strive to
understand the mystery of godliness and what we’re here for- we can find lasting
peace in our imperfect parenting now..
Como aprendiz, ¿cuáles son las implicaciones de saber que soy un agente,
bendecido con albedrío, que puede actuar en lugar de un objeto sobre el
que simplemente se actúa?
¿Cómo me preparará la comprensión y el cumplimiento efectivo de mi
responsabilidad individual como aprendiz para el mundo en el que vivo
ahora y en el que viviré?
¿Qué no es aprender? ¿Qué es aprender?
¿Por qué debemos aprender?
¿Cómo debemos aprender?
¿Qué tienen que ver sus respuestas a las preguntas anteriores con su
tiempo en BYU-Idaho?
¿Qué fue lo más profundo o sorprendente de los artículos? ¿Por qué esto te
atrapó tanto?
W01 Study: Learning to Love
Learning ... Not Grades
To-Do Date: Jan 4 at 11:59pm
"The ultimate goal of an education is to make us better parents and servants in
the kingdom. In the long run it is the growth, knowledge, and wisdom we
achieve that enlarges our souls and prepares us for eternity, not the marks on
college transcripts."
— Elder Dallin H. Oaks and Kristen M. Oaks, "Learning and Latter-day
Saints" Links to an external site.Ensign, April 2009
Overview
Task: Study the provided resources.
Purpose: Prepare for the week's assignments.
Introduction
Course Disclaimer
Let's face it, parenting isn't for wimps or the faint of heart. It's been said that our
children will either turn us into a God or a devil, depending on how we choose
let us influence us. Many professors are quite bias about their field of study and
will talk about it as if it is the most interesting and important area that anyone
can learn. When viewed through the lens of the Plan of Happiness, however,
we can confidently conclude that it is the family that is the basic unit of society
and eternity. As important as physics, business, and medicine are, they cannot
equal the vital and fundamental role of family relationships in this life and the
next. In his insightful book When a Child Wanders, retired BYU religion
professor Robert L. Millet wrote the following:
"For Latter-day Saints who know what matters most and what is and ought to be
at the top of our list of priorities, some things hurt much more than others. It
hurts to bear our testimonies to friends and loved ones who shun our witness as
foolish and absurd. It hurts to see the poverty and abuse and neglect and
degradation in society when we know that the world's only hope is the gospel of
Jesus Christ. And it hurts when we do our best to bring up our children in light
and truth, only to see some of them turn away from that light and choose to
walk in darkness. If the greatest joys in life are family joys, then surely the
greatest sorrows in life are family sorrows."
— Robert L. Millet, When a Child Wanders, Links to an external site.Deseret
Book, 1996
This is not to bring you down into the depth of sorrow or to assume that this
course will only delve into the difficulties in raising children. But through this
lengthy disclaimer we are highlighting the sacred and personal nature of the
family unit. This means that each of us—regardless if our children are young,
old or if we have no children—have had deeply joyful and painful experiences in
a family setting of some sort. The reality of mortality is that mortal parents will
always raise mortal children. Which inevitably leads to sins and mistakes in the
family. The only perfect Parents that exist are in the heavens...our Heavenly
Parents. In this course you will be asked to consistently apply the ideas,
concepts, theories, and principles to your personal relationships. Because of the
personal nature of this course it might be tempting to either go too deep and
treat it like a therapy session or shallowly skim the material just to get through it.
You will need to find this balance as you move through the course.
As you will learn throughout this semester, we all have assumptions and biases
that we may not be aware of. Some of these biases were developed over a
lifetime of experiences and may not be entirely in line with objective truth. Our
job as parents and professionals is to be willing to consistently ask ourselves
questions such as the following:
In summary, the most important work any parent will do will be within the walls
of their own home. This supremely important work is only done by imperfect
people. Personal introspection and application is necessary to truly understand
secular and sacred concepts. Our growth and learning will be largely
determined by our level of humility in seeking objective truths about parenting.
Now let's get into this!
Instructions
Study the following information and resources.
Doing vs Becoming
Have you ever stopped to consider why you go to school? Is it for a grade? A
diploma? A job or career? Is it to impress others with knowledge and
credentials? If any of these are the primary reasons for your learning in college
—and life for that matter—then you might be missing the bigger picture and the
higher blessings associated with the real purpose of education.
In this class, you will have the opportunity to study and engage in assignments
that will help you learn how to become the parent the Lord and your children
need you to be (even if you never become a parent). This will—in large
measure—be accomplished by learning about how our Father in Heaven
parents each of us. However, in order for that learning to be long-lasting and
change you, it is vital that we first build a strong foundation on the process and
purpose of learning itself.
Therefore, in this first week of class we will set the stage for the rest of the
semester by differentiating between doing and becoming. Behaviors vs
attitudes. Body weight vs health. Application vs Principle. Grades vs learning.
Make no mistake, one cannot become like the Savior without doing what He
has asked. Additionally, we don't have to choose between learning and grades.
Each of these "contests" are really two concepts that should support and
reinforce each other. What matters is the focus of our lives. For example,
relying on indicators such as academic grades to determine your intelligence
and self-worth will often undermine your interest in and ability to really learn and
grow.
How We Learn
Now that you have taken some time to consider why we learn, let’s focus on
how learning occurs. Cognitive theories and research findings abound in this
area. As a student, you should care about how you learn, because
understanding that key notion can unlock your potential, not only in academic
learning, but especially in becoming a life-long learner. The short video below
shows education reformer Alfie Kohn explaining the research findings on grades
vs. learning.
Watch: Alfie Kohn: "Achievement vs. learning"Links to an external site.
(01:05 minutes, Achievement vs. Learning Transcript Links to an external site.)
What are you learning about learning from the examples of “top-notch”
college students illustrated in the video Minds of Our Own?
How might this be true for parenting? Is it possible that you have some
wrong assumptions or foundational beliefs regarding parenting?
1. If you could only choose one, what do you think is more important: learning
a subject or topic or getting an "A" in that subject or topic?
2. If I were to track your past and present studying, reading, attendance, and
test prepping practices for the past few years, would I conclude from these
behaviors that you are more learning or grade-focused? Why?
3. What do you think will benefit a student more throughout their life: High GPA
or avid learner? (Disclaimer: it is possible to get good grades and be an avid
learner, but this seems to be more rare than common)
"Learning with the Spirit is not confined to classrooms or preparation for school
examinations. It applies to everything we do in life and every place we do it—at
home, at work, and at church.
"An education is not limited to formal study. Lifelong learning can increase our
ability to appreciate and relish the workings and beauty of the world around us."
— Elder Dallin H. Oaks and Kristen M. Oaks, "Learning and Latter-day
Saints" Links to an external site.Ensign, April 2009
How can parents raise children that are focused on learning and
becoming if they are only focused on "closing the rings"? Worth pondering!
We finish with a repeat of questions Elder Bednar asks each of us the following: