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Sarah Winnig, MA
Imagina que tu mejor amigo acaba de pasar por una ruptura. Ellos te cuentan la
historia y tú escuchas de principio a fin. Tu amigo no es perfecto, pero merece ser
feliz. Les aseguras que superarán esto, que son un partido y que estarán bien.
No juzgues a tu amigo. No les dices que no son dignos o que necesitan cambiar. Le
muestras compasión a tu amigo.
Para muchas personas, es fácil mostrar compasión por los demás. La familia, los
amigos, las mascotas, los extraños e incluso los personajes de la televisión son
mismas. Se atienen a un estándar que nunca exigirían de otros. Luchan por practicar
la autocompasión.
trata de tener una actitud de aceptación hacia uno mismo, en lugar de juicio, y tratarse en
consecuencia.
Imagina recibir una crítica constructiva de tu jefe. Viniendo de un lugar de juicio, solo
escuchas lo negativo y te dices a ti mismo: “Soy un idiota. No puedo hacer nada bien.
mismo: "Definitivamente hay cosas en las que puedo trabajar, pero estoy haciendo un buen
trabajo en general".
Las personas autocompasivas creen que son buenas, bien intencionadas y competentes.
Cuando cometen un error en el trabajo, es solo eso, un solo error. Las personas que no son
es visto como algo mucho más grande, como una falla personal.
Cuando eres crítico y te juzgas a ti mismo, es más probable que experimentes infelicidad,
inseguridad y ansiedad. Cuando te tratas a ti mismo de manera justa, puedes manejar mejor
“I made a mistake. I’m only human.” vs. “I made a mistake. I always mess
up.”
Accept Yourself for Who You Are
(rather than trying to be someone else)
Muchos de nosotros tenemos ideas sobre quiénes "deberíamos" ser. Un hombre
puede creer que tiene que ser fuerte, valiente y extrovertido. Una madre puede creer
que siempre debe anteponer sus necesidades al último. un defecto.
En realidad, los humanos no son tan simples. Mientras que algunos hombres son
fuertes, valientes y extrovertidos, otros son tímidos, emocionales y cautelosos.
Mientras que algunas madres anteponen sus necesidades al último, otras valoran su
carrera tanto como su vida familiar. Suena a cliché, pero todos somos diferentes... y
está bien.
Las personas que son autocompasivas se aceptan a sí mismas por lo que son, en
lugar de por lo que "deberían" ser. No solo eso, sino que a menudo se enorgullecen
de sus características únicas. Por ejemplo, un hombre autocompasivo que es
emocional podría verse a sí mismo como profundamente conectado con los demás,
en lugar de tener una debilidad.
La autoaceptación no significa amar cada pequeña cosa sobre ti mismo o creer que
eres perfecto. Significa aceptarte a ti mismo por lo que eres, en lugar de por lo que
no eres.
Note: Self-acceptance isn’t just about gender roles. It includes personality, interests,
sexuality, religion, abilities, appearance, and anything else that makes you who you
are.
Accepting yourself looks like...
A mother who values her career highly could view herself as highly
motivated, a role model, and recognize how she provides for her family.
A person who wishes they had straight hair could see examples of beautiful
curly hair like their own, and learn to appreciate what they have. They might
still wish to have straight hair, but they learn to like their curly hair, too.
A person who is not athletic but loves sports could find themself fitting into
coaching or support roles.
Take Care of Yourself
(rather than denying your needs or overindulging)
Even when life gets busy, it’s important to look out for your own health and
happiness, and take care of your needs. This means eating regular meals, getting
enough sleep, taking time for fun and relaxation, or whatever it is you need.
Taking care of yourself is not the same as spoiling or overindulging. For example,
taking a break to eat a healthy meal is not the same as eating whatever you want,
whenever you want.
This might be easier to understand when you think about caring for someone else. If
you’re caring for a young child, you don’t ignore them when they're hungry. But
that doesn’t mean you give them an ice cream sundae for breakfast. You think about
what’s best for them, and take care of their needs accordingly.
Caring for yourself requires a balance between immediate needs and long-term
goals. For example, if you’ve been studying for hours, it’s reasonable to take a
break. However, if you want to pass an exam, you do need to study at some point.
Self-Care Tips
worksheet
Remember that no one is perfect. Being imperfect is part of being human. Everyone
has bad days, loses their temper, and makes mistakes. Sometimes, those mistakes are
really big.
Whatever your struggle, try to put it in perspective. Know that it’s normal to have
flaws and make mistakes, even if you don’t always see them in others.
Recognizing that your struggles are normal gives you permission to feel self-
compassion, despite any shortcomings.
In addition to creating distance, mindfulness will help you become accepting of your
feelings. It’s common to think “I shouldn’t be sad” or “I shouldn’t be angry.”
Mindfulness lets you acknowledge your feelings, without the need to change them.
“I shouldn’t be angry” becomes “I am angry, and that is okay.”
Mindfulness builds self-compassion by creating perspective and acceptance of your
thoughts and feelings. This lets you take control of your life, rather than being at the
whim of your emotions. Additionally, mindfulness will help you practice other self-
compassion habits, like recognizing when you are being judgmental toward yourself,
ignoring your needs, or failing to see your struggles as normal.
Learning to view your experiences mindfully makes everything else easier. When
you take a step back, you can see things more clearly.
“I feel angry at myself, but that does not mean I am a bad person.”
“I am caught up in this problem, but it is not the end of the world.”
In Summary
Unsurprisingly, practicing self-compassion is easier said than done. Many people
focus on their flaws and feel that they are not worthy of kindness. Others set
unrealistic goals, demanding nothing less than perfection.