CUNDO ES INCORRECTO VOLVER A

CASARSE?
Esto es a menudo la mejor pregunta, "Tengo el
derecho a casarme de nuevo?" Usted puede
tener el derecho, y sin embargo, puede estar
equivocado. Un creyente en Cristo de una vez
expres su deseo de volver a casarse. l dijo:
"Lo nico que me molesta es que yo no tena la
conciencia tranquila sobre mi relacin con mi ex
esposa." Ella se haba divorciado de l, pero no
haba vuelto a casar. Yo claramente le deca que
no tena nada que volverse a casar hasta que se
resolviera esa cuestin! l tiene que tratar de
reconciliarse con su ex esposa antes de que
tenga algn plan para volver a casarse. Me
gustara compartir cuatro razones cundo y por
qu est mal volverse a casar.
En primer lugar, es un error de volver a
casarse si usted todava no ha resuelto sus
problemas pasados. Qu caus el divorcio? Ha
vuelto a casar su ex-cnyuge? Ha tratado de
reconciliarse con su cnyuge que no ha vuelto a
casar?
En segundo lugar, ha confesado, arrepentido
y abandonado sus acciones que dieron lugar a
un divorcio cuando tena ningn fundamento
bblico? Si no lo ha hecho y si te vuelves a casar,
que, naturalmente, llevar a esos problemas en el
nuevo matrimonio. Esto podra afectar a usted y
su nueva pareja an ms.
En tercer lugar, es un error de volver a casarse
si no tiene una conciencia clara acerca de cmo
hacerlo. Muchas personas tratan de dejar de
lado su conciencia o prestar poca atencin a este
problema, y con el tiempo sufren a causa de
ella. Es mejor esperar hasta que Dios le da a
usted sigui la paz interior en la consideracin
de las segundas nupcias.
Para localizar la boca de un puerto, el
capitn de un buque debe ver tres luces en el
puerto hasta que se alinean detrs de s como
una sola. Cuando los ve tan alineados, conoce la
posicin exacta de la boca del puerto. De la
misma manera, hay TRES LUCES que nos
ayudan
a
conocer
la
voluntad
de
Dios. Segn FB Meyer, que son: "el impulso
interior", "la Palabra de Dios", y "la

tendencia de las circunstancias". Dios en

nuestro corazn nos impulsa hacia adelante,
Dios por medio de la Biblia corrobora lo que dice
en nuestro corazn, y Dios a travs de las
circunstancias indica su voluntad. Nunca ponga
en marcha hasta que estas TRES LUCES
estn de acuerdo.

Hay
que
comprobar
si
experimentamos
inquietud,
impaciencia,
o
el
conflicto
interno. Leemos en Isaas 32:17: "Y el efecto
de la justicia ser paz, y el servicio de la justicia,
reposo y seguridad para siempre." No debe
haber nada de ordinario a perturbar nuestra
seguridad de que estamos en la voluntad de
Dios. Se nos ha prometido, "la paz de Dios, que
sobrepasa todo entendimiento" (Filipenses
4:7). El salmista dice: "Los que aman tu ley
Mucha paz tienen " (Salmo 119:165). En su
voluntad est nuestra paz. "Que la paz de Cristo
reine en vuestros corazones " (Col. 3:15).
Si esta paz est ausente, entonces hay algo
mal. Volver a la Palabra de Dios y oracin o
reexaminar
las
circunstancias. Es
muy
importante esperar al Seor por su clara
direccin y voluntad, en cuanto a la posibilidad
de volver a casarse. Una persona divorciada no
debe estar ansioso por el momento por otra
persona hasta que las circunstancias con su ex
cnyuge
muestren
claramente
que
toda
esperanza de reconciliacin se ha ido.
Por ltimo, es un error de volver a casarse si
usted
no
tiene
un
fuerte
deseo
de
hacerlo. Algunas personas se vuelven a casar
bajo la presin de los dems. Ser soltero es a
veces criticado por aquellos que piensan que
todo el mundo debera estar casado.
En cuanto a la situacin de "yugo desigual", los
cristianos que se divorcian por los cnyuges no
creyentes son libres para casarse de nuevo sin
pecado (pero slo a otro creyente). Esta
disposicin est hecha de gracia de Dios para
nosotros, y creemos que est muy claro por
Pablo en Primera de Corintios cuando dice que
un creyente "no est sujeto a servidumbre en

semejante caso, sino que Dios nos ha llamado a

la paz" (1 Cor 07:15). Hay algunos que no estn
de acuerdo y dicen que un cristiano no es libre
para volver a casarse en esta situacin, pero
creemos que este enfoque es incompatible con
las Escrituras. Una vez ms, este es un tema
controvertido y que debe orar y estudiar (ver
Mateo 5:31-32, 1 Cor 7:10 - 15..).
Prof. Dr. Chandrakumar Manickam
http://chandrakumar.net/About_me.html

WHEN IS IT WRONG TO REMARRY?

This is often a better question to ask than, "Do I
have the right to remarry?" You may have the
right, and yet it may be wrong for you. A
believer in Christ once expressed his desire to be
remarried. He said, "The one thing that bothers
me is that I did not have a clear conscience
about my relationship with my former wife." She
had divorced him, but had not remarried. I
would plainly tell him he had no business getting
remarried until that issue was resolved! He has
to try to get reconciled with his former wife
before he has any plans for remarriage. I would
like to share four reasons when and why it is
wrong to remarry.
First, it is wrong to remarry if you have not yet
resolved your past problems. What caused your
divorce? Has your former spouse remarried?
Have you tried to be reconciled with your spouse
who has not remarried?
Second, have you confessed, repented, and
forsaken your actions that led to a divorce when
you had no biblical grounds? If you have not
done so and if you get married again, you will
naturally carry those problems into the new
marriage. This could hurt you and your new
partner all the more.
Third, it is wrong to remarry if you do not have
a clear conscience about doing so. Many people
try to brush aside their conscience or pay little
attention to this problem, and eventually suffer
because of it. It is better to wait until God gives

you continued
remarriage.

inner

peace

in

considering

To locate the mouth of a harbor, the captain

of a ship should look at three lights in the harbor
until they line up behind each other as one.
When he sees them so aligned, he knows the
exact position of the harbor's mouth. In the
same way, there are three lights that help us to
know the will of God. According to F.B. Meyer,
they are: "the inward impulse," "the Word of
God," and "the trend of circumstances." God in
our heart impels us forward; God through the
Bible corroborates what He says in our heart,
and God through circumstances indicates His
will. Never start until these three lights agree.
We must check whether we experience
restlessness, impatience, or inner conflict. We
read in Isaiah 32:17, "And the work of
righteousness will be peace, and the service of
righteousness,
quietness
and
confidence
forever." There should be nothing ordinarily to
disturb our assurance that we are in God's will.
We are promised, "the peace of God, which
surpasses all comprehension" (Phil. 4:7). The
Psalmist says, "Those who love Your law have
great peace " (Ps. 119:165). In His will is
our peace. "Let the peace of Christ rule in your
hearts " ( Col. 3:15).
If this peace is absent then there is something
wrong. Return to God's Word and prayer or
reexamine the circumstances. It is very
important to wait upon the Lord for His clear
direction and will, regarding the possibility of
remarriage. A divorced person should not be
anxious to date another person until the
circumstances with his or her former spouse
clearly show that all hope of reconciliation is
gone.
Finally, it is wrong to remarry if you do not have
a strong desire to do so. Some people remarry
under pressure from others. Being single is
sometimes criticized by those who think that
everybody should be married.
Concerning the "unequally yoked" situation,
Christians who are divorced by unbelieving
spouses are free to remarry without sin (but
only to another believer). This provision is made

out of God's graciousness to us, and we believe

it is made very clear by Paul in First Corinthians
when he says that a believer "is not under
bondage in such cases, but God has called us to
peace" (1 Cor 7:15). There are some who
disagree and say that a Christian is not free to
remarry in this situation, but we believe this
approach is inconsistent with Scripture. Again,
this is a controversial issue and one that you

must pray about and study (see Matt. 5:31-32;

1 Cor. 7:10- 15).
Prof. Dr. Chandrakumar Manickam

http://chandrakumar.net/God%27s%20view%20of
%20Divorce%20and%20Remarriage.htm