Counseling and

Role of a Counselor
COUNSELING
Problem solving techniques to
help people manage their own
problems using their own
resources.
Simply stated, counseling is any
relationship in which one person
is helping another person to
better understand and solve
some problem.
Counseling is a change (growth:
healing) process in which people
(individuals, groups, couples, and
families) are helped to
express themselves (catharsis) in a safe,
supportive, collaborative, non-judgmental
climate;
identify, sort-out, clarify their problem laden
"stories" (deepened awareness of past &
present story and alternative future stories)
identify non-helpful patterns (e.g. "crisis"
pattern);
learn, where appropriate, more helpful
coping skills (e.g. "assertive skills")
identify and achieve goals that are
important to them.
There are numerous
counseling approaches:
Cognitive
Behavioral
Psychoanalytic
Adlerian
Person-Centered (Rogerian)
Gestalt Therapy
SOLUTION-FOCUSED BRIEF THERAPY
Eclectic Therapy and etc
Core Principles
1. Confidentiality
2. Social Skills
3. Acceptance and Non-
judgemental
4. Genuineness and Warmth
5. Controlled Emotional
involvement
6. Maintain professional distance
What are counseling skills?
The counsellor must :
Listen
to allow him to express and think
Not judge
- Client will Feel safe and respected
Pay attention
Accept the client's feelings
- means YOU CARE

Accept the client's feelings

-means he/she is not being judged
Counsellors should not
Argue
Dwell on their own difficulties
Solve the problem for the client
Give advice
Belittle the clients' concern
Avoid touching any physical contact
can be potentially dangerous
Being judgemental
Treat client in isolation
How to be an effective Counselor?
Listening
Being authentic
Prescribing tasks or behaviors
Being objective
Patience and Acceptance
Experience
Practice, Practice, Practice
Attitude of a Good Counselor
toward Client
Worthwhile person
Unique Person
Dynamic Person
Responsible Person
In Intervention, a counselor
should bear in mind the ff:

GO SLOW
START SMALL
BE CREATIVE
Tips to Prevent Burn-out for
counselors
Manage your cases
Develop a team
Time management
Separate work and personal life
Strengthen realtionship
Develop yourself
Be flexible
Meditate and pray
Struggle a Little - Then Fly!
By Author Unknown

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly, that he brought home.

One day a small opening appeared he sat and watched the
butterfly for several hours. It struggled to force its body
through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any
progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could
and it could go no farther.
So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of
scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon.
The butterfly then emerged easily, but, it had a swollen
body and small, shriveled wings. He continued to watch
the butterfly, he expected that, at any moment, the wings
would enlarge and the body would contract. Neither
happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life
crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings.
It was never able to fly.
LESSON
The man acted with well-intentioned
kindness but he didn't understand the
consequences.
The restricting cocoon and the struggle
required to get through the tiny opening,
were nature's way of forcing fluid from the
body of the butterfly once it achieved its
freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we

need in our life. If we were to go through life
without any obstacles, it would cripple us.
We would not be as strong as we could have
been and we could never fly