The Human Brain and Law of Attraction: Optimizing Brain Function with EFT Hi Everyone, In this detailed article,

Laurel Cozzuli shares her thoughts about the role of the brain with EFT and the Law of Attraction. This is a technical article of interest to those exploring the science that may be behind our work with these fascinating procedures. Hugs, Gary

By Laurel Cozzuli In the pursuit of personal betterment, the mechanics of the human brain are often overlooked in favor of treating emotional issues. Yet a poorly functioning brain can mean pervasive behavior dysfunction, which translates into an enduring pattern of difficult life experiences. This is whether or not emotional relief has been attained through the use of EFT. Well-established neuro-pathways that have dictated a life of misery or disenchantment must be rewired before genuine change can take place and a life of abundance can be created. In a nutshell, the person that has the most difficulty putting the Law of Attraction (LOA) into action is the one that 1) has a hyperactive amygdula, the human brains emotional storehouse, 2) has a low functioning prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for helping a person take action in accordance with goals, 3) has impaired functioning in the anterior cingulate, which is responsible for processing information between the right and left brain hemispheres, and 4) has an overactive nucleus accumbens, which is responsible for a humans experience of extreme pleasure. An overactive nucleus accumbens is often seen in addictive behaviors. The following treatment plan addresses the most common trouble spots in the human brain that lead to an impaired ability to engage LOA. Even if you do not really understand all this brain jargon, going through this process will help you take substantial steps towards future goals and create a life of abundance and inner-peace. During these exercises, use the diagram below to assist you in visualizing the specific brain areas being treated. You may wish to print out this entire treatment plan before proceeding. Happy Tapping! Laurel Cozzuli

Your Amygdula To calm a hyper-startle response (patterns of anger, automatically lying when confronted, intense anxiety or panic at the drop of a hat), EFT can be focused for treatment on your amygdula (uh-mig-duhl uh). Tap the karate chop point and then apply rounds of EFT for each of the following statements: Even though my amygdula is hyper active Even though I have always allowed fear to run my life, I now choose peace and trust. Even though my ancestors needed a hyper amygdula to survive, I now choose to release this pattern and evolve to higher thinking. Even though my brain thinks I am still a caveman, I now allow my brain to get with the times so I can thrive in todays world. Even though my amygdula is on high alert, I now choose to stay calm and centered.

Even though Im so grateful my amygdula has seen to mankinds survival, I now evolve to a better way of life. Now, tap the noted meridian points while repeating these positive statements: EB: The world is a safe and beautiful place SE: Im so grateful that my amygdula is able to adjust to modern times UE: My amygdula can discern real danger from false alarms UN: My amygdula knows its place and surrenders to my prefrontal cortex CH: I trust my amygdula to warn me when real danger is present CB: I now allow my brain to evolve to higher functioning UA: The world is a safe and beautiful place TH: My amygdula is functioning perfectly Your Prefrontal Cortex To overcome habitual dysfunction (EX: procrastination, avoiding the bills/homework, overeating, careless sexual encounters or blowing your whole paycheck) we can use EFT to liven up a sluggish prefrontal cortex. Tap the karate chop point and then apply rounds of EFT for each of the following statements. Even though I cant make productive decisions Even though my pre-frontal cortex is not doing its job, I send love and forgiveness to this part of my brain. Even though I am such a disappointment to the world Even though, my sluggish prefrontal cortex has caused a life of disappointment and despair, I now allow its functioning to mature. Even though my prefrontal cortex is trying to protect me by taking a back seat, I now allow it to sit in the drivers seat. Even though there is not enough blood flow to my prefrontal cortex Even though I cant find the way Even though people think I am lazy Now use EFT to tap in these positive statements:

EB: My prefrontal cortex is functioning perfectly SE: It is safe to put my attention on the future UE: I easily follow through with productive decisions UN: I send love and healing to my prefrontal cortex CH: I have healthy activity in my prefrontal cortex CB: I have optimum blood flow to my prefrontal cortex UA: I love setting goals and accomplishing them through my own volition. TH: I am creating a happy and healthy future! Your Anterior Cingulate To normalize activity in your anterior cingulate, we will focus attention on your brains tendency towards pattern recognition. Tap the karate chop point and then apply rounds of EFT for each of the following statements. Even though my anterior cingulate refuses to process my past emotional trauma, I choose to trust and love myself anyways. Even though Im subconsciously scared that danger might return Even though, my anterior cingulate is going crazy with pattern recognition, I now allow my brain to evolve to todays world Even though, my anterior cingulate is keeping my right and left brain hemispheres from communicating Even though, my impulses to stay stuck are really strong, I choose to release this old-brain pattern. Even though I have created a lot of chaos from living a life this way, I lovingly release my need for instant gratification. Now, tap in a few positive rounds focused on your anterior cingulate: EB: My anterior cingulate is functioning optimally for todays world SE: I trust that all danger has past. UE: I allow optimal activity in my anterior cingulate. UN: I now awaken the neurons in my anterior cingulate.

CH: The right and left hemispheres of my brain are in perfect communication. CB: I now see future rewards as more appealing than instant gratification. UA: I love letting my prefrontal cortex take over to focus on future goals TH: My anterior cingulate is functioning optimally for todays world Your Nucleus Accumbens We can use similar techniques for the anterior cingulate to optimize your nucleus accumbens. Remember that the nucleus accumbens plays a significant role in rewards and pleasure. It is the area of the brain that can make overcoming addictions so challenging. People can be addicted not only to substances, but to video games, surfing the internet, sex, chocolate, or even shopping. If a person allows this pleasure center to direct his or her life, there is positively no chance of creating a bright and glorious future. We can use the following EFT guide to quell a crazy nucleus accumbens, which, of course, will play a part of creating optimum brain function. And then we can truly enjoy those moments of chocolate, sex, shopping, etc for the joy it brings, and not from a desperate, ineffective survival response. Tap the karate chop point and then apply rounds of EFT for each of the following statements. Even though my nucleus accumbens refuses to give up ______ (your addiction or compulsion Even though, life will be boring without having this constant pleasure Even though, I am stuck in here and now survival by way of my nucleus accumbens, I now choose to create a productive future. Even though my nucleus accumbens is not going to be happy about lowering its neuro-firing Even though Im a slave to the experiences of pleasure generated by my nucleus accumbens Even though, my nucleus accumbens is stuck in survival mode, I now release this pattern and evolve into todays world. Even though, I desperately need my fix, I choose to enjoy life without this enslavement. Even though, I fear deprivation Now, tap in these following positive statements: EB: My nucleus accumbens is relaxing. SE: I appreciate my nucleus accumbens sweetening my life with pleasure. UE: I easily derive pleasure from looking at my bright future. UN: I contentedly delay gratification in favor of my future goals.

CH: I am satisfied and relaxed at my core. CB: I allow my nucleus accumbens to evolve into todays world. UA: My nucleus accumbens is my friend. TH: We work together to create a happy life. Enhancing Your Overall Brain Function In the weeks and months to come, you can tap the following positive EFT statements for a generalized enhancement of your brains functioning: EB: My brain is catching up with modern times. SE: My brain is in perfect harmony with todays world. UE: I am the most reliable, honest person I know. UN: Everyone can count on me making healthy life-choices. CH: I easily bring my actions into alignment with my goals. CB: I have an internal locus of control. UA: I am an inspiration to others looking to create a bright future. TH: I continually amaze myself at my ability to act upon my future plans. In addition to using this EFT plan for optimizing your brains function, integrate the following suggestions into your quest for creating happiness and abundance. Listen to beautiful music. Music stimulates the pleasure areas of our brain in the same way sex, drugs, and chocolate do, but there are literally no negative repercussions! Always remember this! If you are human, you have a prefrontal cortex. Period. This means that you can always choose to override unproductive habits that have previously dictated a dead end life. You can refuse the drug hit. You can walk away from the one night stand. You can open your bills and PAY them before blowing your money. And you can absolutely stop yourself from calling the ex that has repeatedly let you down. And then, you can CHOOSE a better way of life! Engaging your prefrontal cortex on a daily basis will stimulate your brain for even bigger and better accomplishments. Start by setting a small daily goal, such as waking up 15 minutes earlier for a morning walk, or balancing your checkbook on a daily basis. Then prove to yourself that you can use your prefrontal cortex to follow through with this goal. Your future will thank you! Choose happy thoughts. Use EFT to quell compulsive, negative thoughts which, as you now know, are a byproduct of our ancestral need for survival. Your prefrontal cortex has the power to choose joyful thoughts, no matter what may be going on around you.

Journal daily. Journaling stimulates our brain processing system so we can overcome past regrets, failures, angers and grief, and move towards enlightenment love, and joy. You can also use art therapy for the same purpose. Learn something new! Learning a new skill can stimulate overall sluggish brain functions and infuse them with new vitality. Why not try your hand at juggling? Crafts? Planting a garden? Learning a foreign language? An exotic new recipe? Practicing a new sport? Even taking a tour at a local museum or local science fair can assist in waking up dormant brain areas. Associate with happy, productive people as much as possible. If you are used to getting wasted with your friends every weekend, or have become disenchanted with youre your perpetually negative spouse, moving on from this can be a scary supposition. The mere thoughts of leaving a predictable life could send your amygdula into hyper mode and your anterior cingulate desperately tries to distract you with its affinity for predictable patterns. And since your ego sees these circumstances as part of your identity, letting go of these patterns are literally perceived as a survival threat. What will the neighbors say? can be just as threatening to your brain as a saber toothed tiger jumping out of the bushes. Again, the same principals of the above treatment plan apply. You can use EFT to distill fear of the unknown, fear of rejection, fear of judgment, fear of abandoning others. And then, for goodness sake, ENGAGE YOUR PREFRONTAL CORTEX to make choices in support of the brilliant future you deserve. Take risks! Especially emotional risks. Call your estranged brother and tell him you love him. Hug your mom. Apologize. Own up to mistakes. Mend fences. Love the unlovable. Sing. Enroll in graduate school. In fact, get used to living life in the unknown for this is the only time humans are truly alive. And as you take these risks, bank on the fact that your prefrontal cortex has got your back. God Bless, Laurel EFT and The Law of Attraction - A Perfect Match Hi Everyone, This 2 part series by EFT Master Carol Look is specifically designed for fans of The Law of Attraction. If you are not already familiar with it, The Law of Attraction expands on the well known notion that "Your consistent thoughts become your reality." What many people do not recognize is that the combination of EFT and The Law of Attraction is unbeatable and can be used efficiently for abundance, weight loss, health and a long list of other human pursuits. Hugs, Gary Part 1 of 2 Part 2 of 2

By Dr. Carol Look, EFT Master Part 1 of 2 Youve written down your wish list, you know what you want and what date you want it by, and youve patiently been waiting for the stuff to fall into your lap. So where is it? Whats the missing piece, and why hasnt it come to you yet? According to the popular philosophy of the Law of Attraction, you havent yet allowed it into your life. How do you allow it into your life? You relax, feel more joy,

appreciate what you have and choose positive thoughts instead of dwelling on fear or scarcity. This raises your vibration. Your job is to raise your vibration. How can you possibly focus on joy and appreciation when your life is full of pain, strife, angst or past memories that scare you? You use EFT! Weve all done plenty of asking, plenty of telling the universe who and what we want in our lives. The missing piece is that we dont know how to get out of our own way and open the door. Enter EFT.

LAW of ATTRACTION: The Law of Attraction is ALWAYS working for us. For those of you whove seen The Secret, What the Bleep Do We Know, or been following the Abraham-Hicks work, (just to name a few) you know what the Law of Attraction is --- the popular term to describe why we have what we have or experience in our lives. It means like attracts like no matter what. If you vibrate in fear, you will be delivered more experiences that cause fear. If you vibrate in a joyful place, you will bump into more experiences that bring you joy. Pretend your thoughts and vibrations are like slow moving boomerangsthey always come back to you. RAISING YOUR VIBRATION: The theory of this metaphysical Law of the Universe states that whatever we are feeling or vibrating (not what we are saying) is what is communicating our energetic position or posture to the Universe. The Universe then hears this vibration we are emitting, and then matches it by returning to us similar experiences to produce more of the same feeling and vibration. (This is why I have been obsessed with using the Gratitude List and Gratitude Walk that I talk about in my book. When I use these tools along with EFT, I immediately improve my vibration which in turn magnetizes into my life the desires I have been focused on.) Many people misinterpret the principles behind the Law of Attraction, and think they can fool the Universe by pretending that they are joyful. This is not possible, as the Universe reads your vibration, not what you say or do. The key points of this article are: (1) The Law of Attraction is always operating (2) The Universe hears your vibration/energy, not your words (3) Knowing about this Law allows you to have more power in your life and feel/ be less of a victim (4) You DO have control over your vibration if you make choices about your thoughts and focus (5) EFT is one of the fastest and easiest ways to change your vibration So when you use EFT to release any negativity and conflict in your energy system, you will naturally be vibrating in a more positive, uplifting space. Then the LAW of ATTRACTION, which is always working, will bring you more of the positive things that you have been asking for. Its a perfect match. Think about all the pieces of EFT --- (1) choosing a specific problem, (2) affirming that you deeply and completely love and accept yourself no matter what, and (3) tapping on the points in your energy

system and relieving the stress, tension, and conflict that has been stored there. What a wonderful way to raise your vibration! What do you want to attract in your life? Professional success, money, love, friendships, joy, peace, spiritual depth, happiness? Its all available, but you need to know how to control your vibration which is in direct communication with the Universe. We need to use the Law of Attraction to our advantage since its working 24 hours a day for us anyway. In his recently released serious diseases DVD series, Gary Craig described how the hurtful or traumatic events in our lives drain and reduce the effectiveness of our immune system over time. This makes perfect common sense. When we have negative feelings and dont find ways to relieve or express them, we eventually run our immune systems down and we end up in a compromised physiological place. Then we are a favorable host for the flu bug or cold virus circulating in our environment. The same is true for our vibration. When we run ourselves down by focusing on negative thoughts, painful experiences, or upsetting what ifs, we lower our vibration which the Universe then answers. (Remember the image of a slow moving boomerang) RESPONSIBILITY: Using the theory behind the Law of Attraction is NOT a system of blame! It is an explanation of responsibility and an opportunity to take back control of your life and stop being a victim. We have all attracted negative things into our lives from time to time, some more than others. When people argue, but I didnt want that bad thing to happen you can bet that at some point, and definitely over time, they were inadvertently focusing on negativity, resentment, and probably fear. We all do it, we all attract negative things into our lives, and we are all afraid much of the time...it comes with being human. However, we have many more tools at our disposal now to reduce the fear, transform the powerlessness, and increase our genuine joy. Its an individual decision whether we want to pick up and practice using these tools or not. PATIENCE: It is also important to note that the Law of Attraction mechanism is carried out by the Universe in a big picture way. You dont have a resentful or fearful thought at 10:00 in the morning, and get a flat tire at noon. Its about your overall vibration on particular subjects, your accumulated vibration, and this is something you can change and influence in a very short period of time. So consider being patient, believing that what you want is on its way to you, and work on raising your overall vibration. Everyone oversimplifies the issue and manages to turn it around again into victimhood. Why did the universe send this to me??? They askBecause they were pulsing, vibrating, communicating that same level of vibration that was returned to them, on some subtle level in their energy system by focusing on resentment, pain, hurt, anger or feeling powerless. We all do it, we all have done it, and we all will continue to do it in our lives. But now we can choose to do it less, relieve the feelings, take back our power, and harness the incredible power of the Law of Attraction. Remember, this law works as often and as predictably as gravity, so its up to you what targets you want to offer it. The Law of Attraction has perfect aim. I wouldnt have asked for the flu you protest No, you wouldnt have and neither did I last winter, but I did communicate resistance, tension, fear, and irritation for a long time before I weakened my immune system enough to allow myself to react to the flu bug. In other words, I had to be ready, or a favorable host for it. (I also still expect to get sick at some point in the winteranother vibration I can work on changing.)

Remember, WE ALL DO IT. If any of you are hearing blame, you are not hearing me and what I am saying in this article. We all use the Law of Attraction in our daily life, why not use it for our benefit, rather than to hurt us or slow our progress down? GRATITUDE: If you want more in your life to be grateful for, focus on the appreciation you already feel for what and who you have in your life. Try the gratitude list or gratitude walk I talk about in my newsletters, or my gratitude tapping sequences from other articles. This all you need to attract outrageous success and abundance into your life: (1) Law of Attraction, (2) EFT, and (3) An Attitude of Gratitude. Try a marathon of gratitude tapping and measure how you feel afterwards, and what tail-enders surface. Start by addressing the genuine mood or feeling state you feel right now, then move into appreciation and gratitude. Karate chop point: Even though I feel a little down right now, I choose to focus on positive emotions Even though I dont feel very positive right now, I accept who I am and how I feelEven though Im wallowing in self-pity right now, I accept all of me and how I feel. EYEBROW: Im always afraid of what might happen SIDE OF EYE: What if something bad happens to me? UNDER EYE: I feel the fear in my vibration every day NOSE: I can feel the fear no matter what I do CHIN: I dont feel safe unless Im feeling worried COLLARBONE: Im afraid to let go of my fear UNDER ARM: I dont know how to feel any other way HEAD: What if I cant let go of my fear? EYEBROW: Im always afraid of what might happen SIDE OF EYE: What if something bad happens to me? UNDER EYE: I feel the fear in my vibration every day NOSE: I can feel the fear no matter what I do CHIN: I dont feel safe unless Im feeling worried COLLARBONE: Im afraid to let go of my fear UNDER ARM: I dont know how to feel any other way HEAD: What if I cant let go of my fear?

After you have relieved the sensation of chronic fear in you mind and body with EFT, move towards more positive and appreciative thoughts and statements: EYEBROW: I love feeling grateful SIDE OF EYE: I choose to feel good no matter what UNDER EYE: I feel appreciation for being alive NOSE: I love who I am and how I feel CHIN: Im grateful for my life COLLARBONE: I appreciate so much in my life UNDER ARM: Im grateful for the clarity in my life HEAD: I love feeling so joyful EYEBROW: I love feeling good SIDE OF EYE: I appreciate feeling so grateful UNDER EYE: I appreciate who I am NOSE: I love who I am becoming CHIN: Im grateful for all my feelings COLLARBONE: I appreciate the guidance I am getting UNDER ARM: Im grateful for who I am HEAD: I love feeling such joy Stay tuned for part 2 of this article about combining EFT and the Law of Attraction. Carol Look, EFT Master

Part 2 of 2 As a refresher, the following is from part 1 of this series: The key points of this article are: (1) The Law of Attraction is always operating (2) The Universe hears your vibration/energy, not your words

(3) Knowing about this Law allows you to have more power in your life and feel and be less of a victim (4) You DO have control over your vibration if you make choices about your thoughts and focus (5) EFT is one of the fastest and easiest ways to change your vibration Using EFT and LOA TOGETHER: So the million dollar question I answer a dozen times a week through emails, and hundreds of times in my Law of Attraction workshops is ...But EFT makes you focus on the negative, wont that make you attract more negativity into your life and make things worse? Good question. I have studied, experimented, pondered and come to the conclusion that the answer is a resounding NO. After 10 years of doing EFT, I can safely say that my personal and professional experiments have determined that EFT and the Law of Attraction are a perfect match. We need to STOP TRYING TO RESIST OUR REAL FEELINGS. EFT allows us to name them, feel them, and release them. Once this step is done, you are in a vibrational position to allow into your life (or magnetize) what you want. When we use EFT and target an emotion (what I call the truth) you have pinpointed the feeling that is causing your vibration anyway you are already feeling that way, so why not call it what it is? EFT is effective in direct proportion to the truth you are able to tell and the bullseyes you are able to hit. So instead of saying Im upset with her I recommend you say words that more deeply resonate with the truth: I feel enraged at what she did and it wasnt fair. This allows you get more of a hit and more of a positive result with EFT as you have nailed it on the head. EFT is the fastest tool I have ever come across to identify, address and clear an issue and find immediate relief. The event itself doesnt change, but your experience, memory, and perception of it and emotions about it change. What more could we ask for? And when you feel relief, the Law of Attraction is listening and allows into your life (by sending you) more of what you were asking for, whether it is relationships, money, opportunities or clients. FEELING vs. PRETENDING: When the real feeling (the one youve been trying to hide in your daily life) is finally addressed with EFT and soothed in your thoughts, mind, and body, you free yourself to vibrate in a more grateful, peaceful, joyful place, to which Law of Attraction then responds and adds more joy and more reasons for gratitude. Consider this... (1) People think that just because theyre pretending they dont hate their boss, that theyre not exuding anger or vibrating negativity and resistance. Humans are very transparent, so our feelings show. (2) People think a few seconds of EFT where they focus on a negative feeling is an eternity. They ignore the fact that they have spent 23 hours pushing hard against a feeling of fear, then worry about a few seconds of EFT. When they are asked to focus on the negative feelings, there is a direct connection to their vibration. This allows the deep feeling to finally be relieved. Its very quick...there is no wallowing in EFT...

(3) EFT allows you to clear the decks which makes space for peace and joy in your life. So once again, its all about relief. Even saying well-formed setup phrases allow people to feel more joyful and relaxed. When you feel relieved, the stuff you have asked for receives an invitation to show up for you, through many unusual channels. When you use EFT to get relief, you instantly vibrate in a better place, and voila, the manifestations start to appear. What stuff? Relationships, money, career opportunities, love, peace, coincidences, guidance, serendipity etc., you name it. I have actually had to stop some of my own experiments as I havent quite caught up yet with what I am receiving. So stop pretending you arent hurt by what happened. Stop pretending that youve forgiven everyone when the truth is youre seething mad inside. The Universe hears your vibration, not your words. Use EFT to target the feelings and release them once and for all, and allow peace into your life. Once you have cleared the negativity with EFT, you can be assured you have opened the door a little more to let into your life whatever you have been asking for, writing about, and visualizing. Karate chop point: Even though I have been too embarrassed to admit my hurt, I accept who I am and how hurt I really was by himEven though I didnt want to admit I was hurt, so I pretended I wasnt, I choose to express it nowEven though I felt devastated, I accept who I am and how I feel about it. EYEBROW: I was so hurt by what happened SIDE OF EYE: Ive been pretending I wasnt hurt UNDER EYE:Ive been so hurt all along NOSE: I thought I was supposed to forgive him CHIN: But I wasnt ready COLLARBONE: I still feel hurt UNDER ARM: I feel hurt by what happened HEAD: I need to admit my hurt EYEBROW: I was deeply hurt and couldnt get over it SIDE OF EYE: I kept trying not to be hurt UNDER EYE: It feels so good to say it out loud NOSE: The truth is Ive never gotten over it CHIN: It feels so good to admit the truth

COLLARBONE: I can finally say it out loud UNDER ARM: Im ready to release it HEAD: Its time to release the hurt after all these years. Using EFT in this way allows you to release the real pain instead of spending all that energy trying not to feel hurt! Now you will be in an emotional and energetic position to feel more grateful and allow yourself to feel relief and joy. FEAR: Fear definitely keeps you in a lower vibration and delays the magnetization of what you want. I find that EFT is the easiest way to relieve this feeling and change your focus. Remember, when you change your focus, you vibrate in a different place, and attract different (more positive) things into your life. A client of mine was very afraid of her negative thoughts but she spent most of her waking hours using tricks and affirmations to try and help her push away the fear and push away these thoughts. This always backfires, as she spent all her energy actually focused on the negativity rather than on something positive by trying so hard NOT to think about these feelings. This of course means she was ultimately focused on her fears anyway, as all her waking hours were spent trying not to be fearful! (You might want to try and substitute Im afraid of my negative thoughts for the sentences below if you related to the above story.) Karate chop point: Even though Im deeply afraid of what might happen, I accept who I am and how I feelEven though I live with these fears every day, I am willing to consider relieving them nowEven though Im afraid not to feel fear, I accept who I am and how I feel. EYEBROW: Im always afraid of what might happen SIDE OF EYE: What if something bad happens to me? UNDER EYE: I feel the fear in my vibration every day NOSE: I can feel the fear no matter what I do CHIN: I dont feel safe unless Im feeling worried COLLARBONE: Im afraid to let go of my fear UNDER ARM: I dont know how to feel any other way HEAD: What if I cant let go of my fear? Now that you have voiced the real feelings, you are able to gently guide the client and can make the easy transition into more positive statements and vibrations. If the client objects to positive statements, they will hear tail-enders surface such as no Im not or thats not true or something that counters the positive statements. This is good news! You now have more information and targets

for tapping. When their tail-enders surface, be happy you are getting to the core issues! But try a positive round first to see where it lands. EYEBROW: I will consider letting go if my fear SIDE OF EYE: Im afraid to let go of my fear UNDER EYE: I intend to be freer and lighter NOSE: I love feeling peaceful more often CHIN: Im ready to let go of my fear COLLARBONE: I love feeling grateful about my life UNDER ARM: There is so much to feel grateful for HEAD: I appreciate who I am and how I am living POWERLESSNESS: Of course the feeling of powerlessness is overwhelming and lowers our vibration immediately. Usually it is perceived powerlessness, rather than actual powerlessness, but it doesnt matter, its the feeling that counts, not the reality of the situation! For those of us who suffer from feelings of powerlessness, we need to find ways to feel more powerful, and using EFT is a wonderful tool. Karate chop point: Even though I have no control in this situation, and it makes me anxious, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anywayEven though I feel powerless, AGAIN, I choose to feel calm and peacefulEven though I feel out of control and powerless, I love and accept all of me anyway. EYEBROW: I feel powerless SIDE OF EYE: I feel out of control UNDER EYE: I hate feeling powerless NOSE: I want more control CHIN: Im afraid of what might happen COLLARBONE:Im afraid of not having control UNDER ARM: I want to feel more power in my life HEAD: I dont want to feel so weak EYEBROW: I still feel powerless SIDE OF EYE: I want to feel strong

UNDER EYE: I hate feeling weak and powerless NOSE: I hate feeling so down about it all CHIN: I want to feel better COLLARBONE: I still feel powerless UNDER ARM: I want to feel better HEAD: I will consider feeling better Now you and your clients are in a position to take in the gratitude tapping: EYEBROW: I love appreciating who I am SIDE OF EYE: I love receiving what I want UNDER EYE: I am so grateful for my life NOSE: I appreciate all my feelings CHIN: I feel better already COLLARBONE: I love feeling so confident and strong UNDER ARM: I love the clarity in my life HEAD: I appreciate the guidance I am receiving In closing, ask yourself how quickly you want to manifest more of your desires, small and large. If you are eager to manifest them sooner rather than later, I highly recommend using EFT to clear the blocks and neutralize the limiting beliefs. This will allow all that you have been asking for to come in your front door. Remember, the Law of Attraction is always working, but with EFT, we help it work for us and not against us. Carol Look, EFT Master Dr. Carol Look's Success and Abundance Series Click on the part below that interests you Part 1 of 4--Clearing blocks to success Part 2 of 4--Prosperity Consciousness Part 3 of 4--The Law of Attraction Part 4 of 4--Claiming Abundance

Dr. Carol Look is writing a 4 part series on using EFT for Success and Abundance issues. This is Part 1. Each future part, as it is completed, will be featured here. By Dr. Carol Look, Cht Part 1 of 4--Clearing blocks to success After completing another of my 4 week Success and Abundance teleclass series, I thought it would be useful if I outlined typical abundance blocks with accompanying suggestions for release and healing with EFT. Anyone who is unable to clear basic blocks to success will remain "stuck." It is not enough to desire something. And no technique comes close to the power of EFT for clearing limiting beliefs and moving you towards your goals, financial or otherwise. Whether teaching the abundance classes in person or conducting the teleseries, I find it easier to separate the work into 4 major themes or steps as follows: Class Class Class Class #1: #2: #3: #4: Clearing Blocks to Success Prosperity Consciousness Law of Attraction Claiming Abundance

For the teleclasses, each person is given a private turn while the remaining members (approximately 15) are placed on "mute." I ask each participant during their turn to describe their particular blocks (in the form of limiting beliefs, assumptions, fears, or general "yes, buts"). Of course the others profit from the effects of Borrowing Benefits by tapping along when it's not their turn. I instruct each caller to tap one standard round of EFT followed by one round of positive suggestions. Then they place themselves on "mute" and the next person takes his or her turn. I consolidated my notes from the last several series and chose a few limiting beliefs that I thought would be instructive for a larger group. During Class #1 of the series, titled Clearing Blocks to Success, one caller, "Debbie," stated she was convinced she never made the right (or good enough) decisions for her life and because of this, she believed she would never be financially successful. When I asked her how she came to this conclusion, she said her family told her this on a regular basis. "Everyone just knew it about me." Her father specifically told her on more than one occasion, "You never make the right decisions!" And then of course, this belief entered the family "truth" book. We tapped together as follows: Starting on the Karate Chop Point: "Even though I'm convinced I can't make good decisions, I choose to decide what's good for me now..." "Even though they convinced me I never made the right decisions, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway..." "Even though I don't have confidence in my ability to make the right decisions, no wonder I'm not successful, I choose to release this belief now." Then we tapped the seven consecutive points of the EFT shortcut: (1) Eyebrow(EB), (2) Side of Eye, (SE), (3) Under Eye (UE), (4) Under Nose (UN), (5) Chin (CH), (6) Collarbone (CB), (7) Under Arm (UA), plus (8) Top of Head (H) as follows:

EB: I don't make the right decisions SE: I never have UE: I can't be successful unless I know how to make decisions UN: Maybe my family was right about me CH: I'm afraid my decisions have been wrong CB: What if I'm not good enough? UA: Maybe I don't deserve success anyway H: Maybe I'll never make the right decisions Then I asked her to tap the eight points for a second round (skipping the karate chop point) focusing more on what she wanted. EB: I do make the right decisions SE: I have made many good decisions UE: No I haven't UN: Yes I have CH: I'm going to make the right ones now CB: It's too bad they were wrong about me UA: I love knowing I am capable of making good decisions H: I love feeling free of this old belief and I choose to make the right decisions Another caller, "Anne," said she felt guilty for leaving her husband. As a way to punish herself for this act, she has made her life a chronic struggle in every area. She felt convinced she didn't deserve to succeed. She finally "got it" that she had been punishing herself for leaving her husband who said "you'll be sorry...you won't amount to anything" as they left divorce court. We tapped as follows: Karate Chop Point: "Even though it's all my fault, and I shouldn't have left him, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway..." "Even though I feel guilty and have been punishing myself ever since, I choose to accept the decision I made..."

"Even though I don't deserve to be successful because I left him, I deeply and completely accept all of me." Then we tapped the 8 points: EB: I feel so guilty SE: I should feel guilty UE: I shouldn't have left UN: I hurt him CH: I don't deserve success CB: Yes I do UA: No I don't H: I feel so guilty; no wonder I'm punishing myself. Then we returned to the eyebrow point for the second round: EB: I am enough SE: I'm glad I left UE: I forgive myself for leaving UN: It's not all my fault CH: I deserve to release the struggle CB: I release the struggle now UA: It's time to get over this, I did the best I could H: I am worthy, no matter what he said. "Ron" said he was convinced he didn't belong with wealthy people. Consequently, he didn't believe he could or would ever become "one of them." His parents were always referring to "them" as different in so many ways. He adopted this belief and has been living it out consistently by sabotaging his success. We tapped as follows: Karate Chop Point: "Even though we were too different, and I don't feel like I belong, I deeply and completely accept all of me..."

"Even though I don't belong with them, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway..." "Even though I'm blocking myself from earning what I deserve because I'm not one of them, I deeply and completely accept myself." Then we tapped on the eight points as follows: EB: I feel different SE: I don't belong UE: I've never belonged UN: My family doesn't fit in CH: So I don't either CB: I can't imagine myself as rich UA: I don't deserve to make more H: What if I never fit in? Then we returned to the eyebrow point for the second round: EB: Suppose I could fit in SE: I do believe in myself UE: I deserve to feel worthy UN: I feel worthy now CH: I do belong now CB: I'm glad I resolved this issue UA: I'm happy this issue is in my past H: It's time to fit in The topic for Class #2 is "Prosperity Consciousness." Do you feel prosperous? Do you believe there will always be enough---even more than enough? Stay tuned for the next installment of this 4 part series. Regards, Carol Look

Part 2 of 4--Prosperity consciousness

In my last article I wrote about the theme of "Clearing Blocks to Success." This installment of the Success and Abundance Series will cover the topic I typically address in Class #2 of my teleseries, "Prosperity Consciousness." In my introductory e-mail for Class #2, I usually ask the participants one or more of the following questions: Do you believe in prosperity or scarcity? Do you believe you will be provided for? Does the subject of money make you anxious and uptight? Do you believe there is enough to go around? Do you feel competitive about money? Again, after combining my notes on several recent teleclass series, I chose participants' issues that I thought would be most helpful to a large audience. They are below. When I asked "Mike" where his consciousness vibrated around the subject of prosperity, he told the group "I never felt safe because we were always on the verge of running out of money. My parents fought about the bills constantly when I was a kid, and I continue to be afraid there won't be enough, no matter how high my salary is." We tapped as follows: Karate Chop Point: "Even though there wasn't enough, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway..." "Even though I'm convinced there won't be enough, I choose to believe in prosperity now..." "Even though money makes me feel anxious, I choose to feel calm and peaceful when I pay my bills." Then we tapped on the 8 points: Round one: Eyebrow: There was never enough Side of Eye: I didn't feel safe Under Eye: I still don't feel safe Under Nose: What if there isn't enough? Chin: I feel insecure about money Collarbone: I can't handle this anxiety about money Under Arm: I'm afraid to get my hopes up Top of Head: I must be careful about money. Then we tapped a second round on more positive suggestions: EB: I enjoy knowing there is enough SE: I love feeling safe and secure about money UE: I choose to feel safe about money now

UN: I believe that there will always be more than enough CH: I appreciate my prosperity consciousness CB: I choose to expand my prosperity consciousness UA: I am enough H: I'm grateful for all the abundance in my life. "Patti" stated she resorted to hoarding money just in case she would run out. No matter how big her "pile" was, she never felt there was going to be enough. She also admitted to hoarding food, and incidentally, has a weight problem. We tapped as follows: Karate Chop Point: "Even though I need to hold on to my money, I deeply and completely accept myself and my feelings..." "Even though I'm convinced there is prosperity for others but not for me, I choose to release this doubt..." "Even though I refuse to believe there will be enough, I accept who I am and intend to feel safe." Then we tapped the points for two rounds: EB: I don't deserve prosperity SE: There's not enough anyway UE: I need to be careful UN: Money makes me anxious CH: What if I run out CB: I need to hold on UA: Don't make me let go H: I always need more Then we tapped for more positive suggestions: EB: I love believing in prosperity SE: I love knowing there is enough to go around UE: I love knowing I am valuable

UN: I choose to believe in abundance CH: I feel safe about letting go CB: There will be enough UA: There is already enough H: I accept prosperity into my life. Another caller, "Lisa," told the group "I don't feel valued unless I am helping and taking care of others. So if I take care of myself and put my health or my business first, I'm convinced they will be angry or leave me." As a result, Lisa felt compelled to minimize her talents and undermine herself on every level. We tapped as follows: Karate Chop Point: "Even though I don't deserve prosperity because they never valued me, I choose to value myself right now..." "Even though I remember when they told me I wasn't worth it, I have decided that I am worth prosperity..." "Even though I'm afraid I'll be abandoned AGAIN, I deeply and completely accept all of me." Then we tapped two rounds on the sequence of points: EB: What if they leave me? SE: It's not safe to take care of myself UE: There is only enough for them UN: What if they resent me CH: I don't deserve prosperity CB: I don't want someone else to suffer UA: There's only enough to get by anyway H: I'm not worth it so why bother? EB: What if I'm the one who wants to leave? SE: What if there's enough for all of us? UE: I believe in prosperity now

UN: I love believing there is plenty CH: I feel secure knowing there is plenty CB: I believe in more than enough UA: I embrace plenty H: I'm so happy I resolved this issue and I embrace prosperity. Class #3 of my series is titled "Law of Attraction." I describe this theory to the group ahead of time: Whatever is currently showing up in your life (relationship conflicts, money concerns, health issues) is a direct result of what you are attracting. You are attracting what you are focused on, so if bouncing checks and high monthly bills are your focus, you stay stuck in this energy. You must be able to focus on prosperity and abundance if you want to attract success into your life. Stay tuned...

Part 3 of 4--The Law of Attraction The Law of Attraction has been written about for decades, and many popular metaphysical teachers rave about its power. The theory states that whatever you focus on, you will automatically attract in to your life; there are no exceptions. For Class #3 of my teleclass series, I ask participants what they are most focused on regarding their financial situation. And if they aren't sure of the answer, I invite them to look at the mixture of feedback in their lives in the form financial ease or struggle. Then we tap to clear whatever seems to be blocking the flow of financial freedom. One caller, "John" told the class he felt he needed to be in control for anything to work out in his life. I asked him his theory about why he didn't get anywhere financially, and he admitted he was holding on too tightly to everything---of his wife, of the checkbook, of his employees. No matter what he did, he kept getting in the same binds financially. He said he reminded himself of his father, a controlling alcoholic who worried about money all the time. John never seemed to make any progress and truly felt stuck. (When someone is stuck, they are actually just thinking the same equation of feelings about money, so it always evens out.) We tapped as follows: Karate Chop Point: "Even though I feel stuck again, but I can't release the control, I deeply and completely love and accept myself..." "Even though I refuse to release the control, I choose to release the fear..." "Even though I'm too afraid to release control and let it flow, I deeply and completely accept all of me anyway." Then we tapped on the 8 points: Eyebrow: I'm so stuck

Side of Eye: Don't make me let go Under Eye: I don't feel safe unless I'm in control Under Nose: I need to be in control Chin: No I don't Collarbone: Yes, I do! Under Arm: I don't feel safe about money Head: I can't release control. Then we tapped a typical second round with more positive statements. EB: I choose to feel safe as I release control SE: I can be safe when I'm not in control UE: I am in control now by feeling relaxed UN: I love feeling free CH: I deserve to attract financial abundance CB: I am a magnet for profitable opportunities UA: I love attracting abundance H: I appreciate how easy it is to release the control Another of the participants, "Cathy" informed the group that she must be "vibrating" at a level of poverty consciousness because she never had enough clients and the ones that call her always need drastically reduced fees anyway! Her block in this area was glaring: she said she felt guilty being compensated for her work because she was a therapist, and "didn't feel right asking for money." We tapped as follows: Karate Chop Point: "Even though I don't feel worthy of being compensated, I deeply and completely accept myself..." "Even though I shouldn't charge for the work I do...I should give it away, I accept my fears about what they'll think of me..." "Even though I don't do enough for others, I deeply and completely accept who I am and how I feel." EB: I shouldn't be paid for my work

SE: I'm not good enough at it anyway UE: I don't deserve to be paid UN: I shouldn't ask for money CH: I feel guilty taking their money CB: I'm not worthy of a good salary UA: I'm not enough H: There isn't enough anyway Then we repeated the shortcut round as follows: EB: There is enough SE: I deserve to be paid UE: I'm good at what I do UN: I love a fair exchange CH: I love attracting clients who pay for their sessions CB: I appreciate all the financial abundance coming in UA: I attract the right number of clients H: I realize getting paid is a good thing! The next caller on the Law of Attraction class was "Jen." Jen's theory about why she was stuck in a place of financial lack was that she never got any attention in her family unless she failed. She was afraid to succeed in her business because she expected her family to then ignore her. They felt needed if they could help her out financially and emotionally. Jen was an entirely competent worker and emotionally stable woman, and was on the verge of breaking through this limiting behavior. She told the group she was afraid of the changes that would happen if she let herself attract (AND KEEP) money. She had even been resisting doing the tapping because she suspected it would work and create this conflict about attention! We tapped as follows: Karate Chop Point: "Even though they won't like me if I'm successful, I deeply and completely accept my desires..." "Even though they need me to need them, I choose to accept that I have this conflict..." "Even though I'm conflicted about being financially successful, I choose to release this conflict now." EB: I'm conflicted about making money

SE: They need me to be poor UE: They won't pay attention unless I'm weak UN: I'm afraid of their envy CH: They'll be mean to me if I'm successful CB: I have a huge conflict and don't want to let go UA: Don't make me let go H: I can't let go of this conflict Then for a more positive round: EB: I can make money and feel safe SE: It's none of my business what they think of me UE: I choose to feel successful now UN: I attract the right business opportunities CH: I release the sabotage behavior CB: I love feeling worthy of abundance UA: I appreciate attracting what I want H: I choose to love them anyway As an assignment for the class, I recommend they write a brief Gratitude List at the end or beginning of every day. The list needs to be real (don't pretend you're grateful if you're not) and heartfelt. Focusing on the feeling of gratitude and appreciation attracts more of what you want into your life. Try it...it has changed lives. PART 4 of this series focuses on the topic Claiming Abundance. I will demonstrate more rounds of tapping for releasing remaining blocks and hopefully inspire you to claim success in every part of your life! Stay tuned.

Part 4 of 4--Claiming Abundance The final focus of the Success and Abundance Series is embracing and claiming abundance in your life. Many people clear the blocks to abundance and success and then reject the opportunities when they fall in their lap. If financial success, healthy relationships and wonderful opportunities come your direction and you push them away, what's the point? For each series, I instruct class participants to examine any remaining blocks they might have in their lives that continue to keep them stuck (in love, health, or money) or in financial hardship.

One of the callers during Class #4, "Fran," said every time she attracts more abundance and success into her life she becomes overwhelmed and then sabotages herself. She has a hard time asking for help, and tries to do it all. As a result, she ends up in the same place every time: exhausted, resentful, and baffled about why her income doesn't increase. We tapped two rounds of EFT: Karate Chop Point: "Even though I feel overwhelmed when my business increases, I deeply and completely accept my efforts..." "Even though I feel exhausted, and I sabotage my success, I choose to accept all of me anyway..." "Even though I sabotage because of my fear, I have decided to feel calm and be organized." EB: I'm afraid of success SE: No wonder I keep sabotaging UE: I don't really want success UN: I can't stand the pressure CH: I don't want the responsibility CB: Yes I do UA: No I don't H: I choose to accept my success Then we tapped for another round: EB: I choose to embrace my success now SE: I accept all that comes with my success UE: I feel inspired to accept my success UN: I love attracting abundance CH: I choose to attract successful opportunities CB: I love handling all my success with ease UA: I love knowing things are working out for me H: I feel grateful for all my financial success

"Janice" had struggled financially all her life, but was more focused on her lack of success as far as her health was concerned. She knew these two areas were linked, but wasn't sure how to address both of them. She had been suffering from a "chronic" illness which made her so tired she couldn't work. This of course led to a spiral of frustrations and problems. We tapped as follows: Karate Chop Point: "Even though I'm afraid to be successful, I choose to feel more energy moving through my body..." "Even though they'll expect too much of me if I recover, I accept all of my body and what it needs..." "Even though I'm afraid to get well, they might demand too much of me, I choose to accept that I have this conflict." EB: I have a conflict about recovering SE: I'm afraid of their demands UE: I don't want them to need something UN: They're so needy CH: It's the only way to fend them off CB: I need the protection of my illness UA: No I don't...Yes, I do H: I choose to find new ways to protect myself Then we tapped for a more positive outcome: EB: I love my healthy body SE: I love having so much energy UE: I enjoy bringing more energy through me UN: I appreciate how strong my body is CH: I appreciate all my talents CB: I feel grateful for what I learned UA: I'm ready to leave the illness in my past H: I love knowing I've started the healing process We did a final round:

EB: I can feel safe and healthy SE: I do feel safe and healthy UE: I attract the right opportunities UN: I can say "NO" to needy people now CH: I love knowing I have my own power CB: I appreciate all the abundance in my life UA: I feel inspired to heal now H: I feel grateful for internal guidance and I claim abundance now "Joseph" told the class he was taught that to want anything is bad and selfish. He could see that this belief ruined his attempts at "dreaming big" and getting to the place he wanted professionally. He had all the right skills, he just kept sabotaging himself and blocked his progress. He remembered his father saying "You're lucky you have anything at all! You shouldn't be focused on wanting anything else...that's selfish." While Joseph had made some progress and slowly expanded his financial comfort zone, he still heard these words ringing in his ears, and felt as if he had "one foot on the gas and one foot on the brakes." We tapped as follows: Karate Chop Point: "Even though I feel selfish for wanting more, I deeply and completely accept my desires..." "Even though I'm afraid of his disapproval, I choose to approve of myself..." "Even though I expect him to scold me, I accept all of me and all my desires." EB: I'm convinced I'm selfish SE: He said I was selfish UE: I need his approval UN: No, I don't CH: Yes, I do CB: I'm afraid of his disapproval UA: I don't want him to scold me H: I have this belief that desires are bad

EB: Desires are bad SE: No, they're not UE: Yes, they are UN: No, they're not CH: I'm afraid to admit I have so many desires CB: Doesn't that mean I'm selfish? UA: I feel ashamed of having desires H: I accept that I want more Then we tapped to resolve this conflict: Karate Chop Point: "Even though I have this conflict about succeeding, I deeply and completely accept all parts of me..." "Even though I'm afraid I'll lose him if I want more, I choose to feel safe now..." "Even though I feel ashamed of this conflict, I realize it's time to release it now." EB: I'm ashamed of this conflict SE: This conflict is so strong UE: I don't think I can win UN: What if I can't change? CH: What if I DO change? CB: I'm afraid to resolve this conflict UA: I want him to be proud of me H: I want to be happy with myself Then we tapped a second round: EB: I deserve to succeed SE: I deserve to be myself UE: I am allowed to want and have abundance

UN: We are all entitled to abundance CH: I love feeling free to express myself CB: I love knowing abundance is coming to me UA: I appreciate all that I have H: I feel safe claiming success now EB: I am enough SE: I have enough UE: There is enough UN: I love feeling grateful CH: I am happy I resolved this conflict CB: I feel grateful that this is in my past UA: I feel inspired to continue to succeed H: I love attracting abundance in all areas of my life. My own levels of success with my health, personal and professional relationships, and financial abundance continue to improve as I teach these classes! I have no doubt that EFT has broken through my financial comfort zones and limiting beliefs. I am surrounded daily with evidence and proof in my life that EFT is the most powerful tool to neutralize emotional blocks to abundance and success in any area of your life. Many thanks to Gary for the opportunity to share this series through his e-mail list. Dr. Carol Look Can we do EFT surrogately or through intention? If so, do we need permission? Many practitioners report impressive successes through applying EFT in this manner. Go to our Search Engineand enter "surrogate" (without the quotes) for a list of case histories on this subject. Then enter "intention" for still more. In my experience, the results are not as consistent as physically tapping but the reports are well beyond mere coincidence. The question of needing permission is an interesting one. Here is an article I wrote to our email list on this subject.

Hi Everyone, Our web site contains a growing number of successes using EFT surrogately and/or with intention. It would take a master of denial to read them and not be intrigued by the anecdotal evidence. The common question that arises about this regards asking permission to do this sort of healing work.

Shouldn't we ask the client first? If for some reason that's not feasible, then shouldn't we ask a Higher Power for permission to proceed? And if neither of those is done, shouldn't we at least first recite some permission generating statement like, "I offer this healing work only if it is in the highest and best good of the person receiving it." Good thoughts. All of them. They come from a caring place and, whether or not you agree with the necessity for doing this, the individuals choosing to go this route should be honored for their loving commitment. I don't know what's right here but I've been a party to this conversation on many occasions and thus offer below some interesting viewpoints I've run across (as well as some of my own). First, some people (a minority) have given me detailed procedures for getting permission. These procedures are put forward as MUSTs for everyone to follow. Otherwise, it seems, you will surely damage someone. When I asked where these procedures came from, they responded that they came from "personal understandings." When I asked for a list of specific damages that people had encountered as a result of well intentioned surrogate/intentional tapping (done without permission), there was not a single incident offered. Interestingly, these varying procedures each contained a DIFFERENT list of MUSTs. Therein lies a weakness, I think. To me, a MUST is a MUST. Thus if list #1 contains a true MUST then it must be on list #2 and list #3, mustn't it? Otherwise, how can it be a MUST? I didn't find this method very compelling. Other people believe that you must always ask permission of the client unless they are unable to grant it. Examples of those who are "unable" might be infants, animals, elderly people suffering from dementia, mentally retarded people, people who speak other languages, etc. This way, you can get direct permission most of the time. For those people unable to grant permission, it can still be obtained by asking a Higher Power. The permission asking questions I have heard go pretty much like this, "Is it in the highest and best interest of this client for me to do this work surrogately?" This technique is used by some practitioners for ALL their surrogate/intentional work. They never ask direct permission of the client. Instead they ask a Higher Power and proceed accordingly. Many people have found this meritorious and I'm always in favor of procedures that work. However, the logic of this bothers my left brain a bit. Why? Because I don't know anyone (myself included) who is able to get 100% pure Guidance. No one, in my experience, is able to consistently (always) discern whether a given "answer" comes from a Higher Power or is just their own internal chatter. Yet they assume the answer is accurate and proceed (or don't proceed) accordingly. Do they have "real permission"--or not? Or do they have it a good percentage of the time and that is good enough? Interestingly, those who do this report good results. You know what's interesting about all this? I have never heard of anyone being damaged by well intentioned surrogate/intentional work of any kind--EFT or otherwise. That doesn't mean it hasn't happened. I know there are stories regarding negative forms of Voodoo (hardly well intentioned, by the way) and stuff like that and so maybe it's possible. But I know a lot of people in the healing professions and over 1,000 clients and I have never heard of a single case where someone was disadvantaged in any way by well intentioned surrogate/intentional work. I have, however, heard many reports of successes by using this "way out" procedure. From all I can tell, these surrogate attempts either provide worthwhile benefits or fall on their face. But they don't cause harm. It's as though our efforts are stopped if, indeed, we are treading in areas which are not for the client's highest good. This is not to suggest, however, that getting permission isn't a good idea. I get permission myself but I don't do it in a formal way. Rather, I just get an intuitive notion regarding whether or not to proceed. This is my form of asking for Guidance. I lean on this intuitive notion even when I'm in a one-on-one session (and obviously have client permission). It is continually guiding me as to which avenue to pursue with the client. In our advanced tapes I consistently put forward the notion that effective healing is done

THROUGH US rather than BY US and the major skill involved is to GET OURSELVES OUT OF THE WAY. I find this much more useful and efficient than formally asking permission. True Guidance, some would argue, is better than permission because it is much more informed than both client and practitioner. Another issue along these lines is the potential intrusion into one's privacy if we try to "fix" them without their permission. It's also a big rapport breaker if they have beliefs against this sort of thing and discover later that you were doing this. This brings me to a related question that has been sitting within my psyche ever since this permission debate came to my attention (several years ago). It's an obvious question but I've never heard anyone voice it. Here it is. If it is important to get permission for our well intentioned healing work then shouldn't it be just as important, if not more so, to get permission for our negative intentions? For our angers at others? For our wishes that someone loses while someone else wins? For the mental rejections we might level at others? Yet how often do we do get permission for such thoughts? Does anyone EVER get such permission? Or do we just have the thought/intention without regard to the highest good of our "target?" Have you ever stopped yourself before having an angry thought/intention about someone and asked their permission to have it? I wonder what would happen if each of us did this. My guess is that we would have a lot fewer angry thoughts and a bit more peace in this world. So where do we land with all this? Have we come up with a conclusion about asking permission? I think the consensus is that it's a good idea. However, how it should be done--and when--and under what circumstances is up to debate or personal decision. I wish you Peace (which, by the way, is intentional and without your permission). Smiles, Gary

Permission, The Guiding Hand and the Love Letter Hi Everyone, I'll get to the ideas of the Guiding Hand and the Love Letter at the end of this message. But first, we have some foundational background to cover. Many thanks to all those list members who wrote me about their experiences and philosophies regarding surrogate/intentional healing efforts done WITHOUT permission. Even though I didn't have the time to properly respond to most of you directly, please know that I read everything you wrote. I printed out many of your insightful messages for further study (over 100 pages) and spent some quality telephone time with some of you. As it turns out, this is a hot topic. The input I received was varied and many held "dig-in-their-heels" beliefs about what is right or wrong regarding this question. Some warned of dark consequences for "going where you are not wanted" and some thought I would be totally irresponsible if I mentioned anything positive about such "intrusive efforts." Others queried, "What's the big deal? How can well intentioned healing efforts do anything but good?" At times I felt like I was at the center of a theological tornado where people fervently debate and defend their cherished beliefs. There's a question I

sometimes ask in my seminars that goes like this. "What weighs nothing, yet is powerful enough to start a war?" The answer??? Beliefs. I'm going to trace through some of the thinking I received (both pro and con) but the bottom line is that asking permission from either the client or from a Higher Source is a personal decision. So there you have the conclusion--up front and tidy. Thus there's no need to read further unless, of course, you are curious about some of the thinking (and non-thinking) that showed up on this perplexing journey "through the healer's looking glass." First, perhaps the most interesting fact in this entire debate was that, despite two requests, I was not presented with a single specific, verifiable example of a negative result experienced by a client due to someone's well meant non-permissioned surrogate/intentional healing effort. Not one. That doesn't mean that there were no such negative effects. Perhaps there were. Perhaps people just don't want to talk about them or admit them. Perhaps the clients didn't want to report them or maybe they didn't know to report them because they didn't realize what the causes were. All that's possible. However, even though I promised confidentiality to anyone who could provide me with such specific instances, no one did so. At last count there were 2,153 members on this list. Surely, if there were negative results out there someone would be reporting such an instance. This is especially perplexing since people have a built in attraction to negative things. There is something interesting about them and people tend to get enjoyment out of exposing them, reading about them, etc. That is why our newspapers are loaded with stories about what's wrong in this world. That stuff sells. Yet, despite that, not one verifiable instance of client harm was offered. About the closest we got to a negative example were 2 reports that surrogate/intentional healing was efforted by a practitioner who later noticed that the client appeared to have some down or depressive emotions. There was no direct evidence, however, that the surrogate/intentional healing effort was at fault. This sort of result can have many causes. It may have, indeed, been caused by the surrogate attempt but a statistician would be unimpressed by the evidence. By contrast, we have an imposing list of positive results on our web site which, although anecdotal, are so numerous that they go well beyond being merely coincidental. It is easy to find specific positive reports but the negative ones seem to be hiding. I did receive philosophy and thoughts about ethical issues and their negative possibilities. But no specific examples of actual harm to a client. In some cases, people asked permission of a Higher Source and received a "No." Assuming the "No" was a correct transmission, this leaves us without any input regarding the consequences (if any) had the practitioner proceeded anyway. I also received 3 examples where the practitioners assumed they were the client and "took on" the client's issues as part of the surrogate healing efforts. These resulted in emphatic reports of the PRACTITIONERS having problems afterward--but NOT the client. A point often made by those opposing this form of healing work is that we have no business intruding into someone else's psyche without first getting permission. How arrogant for a practitioner to assume they know what needs to be done and thus wade into someone's emotional make up and unilaterally "fix" things that the practitioner, in their presumed wisdom, thinks need fixing. How wrong? Who do they think they are? God? If not God, then are they even higher up on the wisdom scale? Does God ask advice of *them*?

This is a point well made. Who am I, for example, to truly know all the consequences of a healing effort. If a fear, trauma or nightmare is neutralized, for example, how do I know if that client is going to have trouble coping without their "old friend?" This argument, of course, is not limited to well meant surrogate/intentional healing efforts. The same thing applies in one-on-one sessions where the client is obviously giving permission. In such a case, not even the client knows what the consequences will be if their anger subsides regarding their father, mother, the world, etc. So now what? Do we simply cease our healing efforts just because we now have tools that are truly effective? Should we not attempt surrogate/intentional healing work just because we don't know all the ramifications? We are just beginning to learn here. Perfection is not ours yet. We are, as I have often said, on the ground floor of a Healing High Rise. To me, the possibility of applying these procedures remotely is a possible centerpiece of the spiritual awareness that I think these processes point toward. It may well be the next level in proficiency. This is not to suggest that there are no caveats or ethical issues. No indeed! There may be many such issues that need attention. But how are we going to understand them if we just sit on the sidelines and speculate about their features? We have to roll up our sleeves and prudently give these new levels a try. Otherwise, we can speculate forever on all the harm that can be done by non-permissioned surrogate/intentional healing work even though the evidence for such harm is skimpy at best. There are some interesting questions involved in this topic. When, for example, do we need permission and under what circumstances can we dispense with the formality? Do I need permission to pray for you? Do I need permission to think a good thought about you? Do I need permission to wish you well or, more importantly, do I need permission to have angry thoughts about you? Further, what constitutes valid permission? Who's to say your permission from a Higher Source is the same as mine? Who's to say that such permission is even from a Higher Source and not just our personal internal chatter? Is there an accepted permission phrase that everyone should use? Or will just simple intuition do the job? Further, even if permission is directly obtained from the client, who is to say that the client knows what is in their own best interest? Maybe they give you permission even though, unbeknownst to them, they need their ulcer or their headaches or their nightmares for some karmic purpose. If they give you such "faulty permission" aren't you unknowingly violating them by your healing efforts? Since we never know whether or not permission is validly given, shouldn't we just forego all these healing efforts? Or should we proceed only when we are absolutely certain that permission is validly given? If so, then who among us has absolute certainty in these matters? Who deserves the right to participate in healing and who doesn't? And who decides who has that right? Sometimes getting permission from the client is awkward. If I notice someone in distress on an airplane should I go up to them first and say, "Pardon me, I notice you are in distress and I would like your permission to mentally tap on your energy system while sitting in my seat." If I did this, I fear the flight attendants would give me a parachute and show me to the door. Perhaps I should just mind my own business while someone unnecessarily "white knuckles" it through the flight. Is this being respectful of the person's privacy--or am I being irresponsible by withholding healing relief? Looked at in this way, I am in a lose-lose position. I'm the last one to encourage harmful measures. On the other hand, there appears to be a greater risk of harm to others (statistically speaking) when we drive our cars. Further, surgical procedures and certain medicines (all of them applied with noble healing intention) carry far greater statistical risk than what has been reported for surrogate/intentional healing (with or without permission). Yet such healing interventions are undertaken every day. Many of them are even heralded as miracles. More harm has been reported from the use of sugar, pesticides, second hand smoke and dental mercury than from well meant surrogate/intentional healing efforts. Even aspirin has more reported negative effects. There are

very long lists of known harmful influences on people. However, our topic at hand has not made any of those lists. I've never seen well intentioned healing efforts listed anywhere as hazardous to one's health. Everyone needs to weigh the pros and cons of all this and make their own decision. Personally speaking, this debate has caused me to interrogate my own efforts in this regard. I went back through all my experiences with non-permissioned healing work and assessed the results. I am aware of some delightful successes but unaware of any harm that may have been done. I also remember some apparent duds where nothing seemed to happen. It's as though a Guiding Hand monitored my efforts, letting through that which was useful while deflecting the errant tries. I recalled that my successes were accompanied by a loving, but detached effort where I was making the attempt WITHOUT ANY INVESTMENT IN THE OUTCOME. It was a sort of unconditional Love Letter where I put my loving intention "out there" (augmented by EFT) and just noticed what happened. It was like I was offering the healing effort in a loving manner and trusting the Guiding Hand to do with it what it will. It was healing done THROUGH ME rather than BY ME. I know that's not very scientific, but that's what it was like. There was a positive side benefit to this, irrespective of the degree of the client's healing improvement. When I put myself in a loving mood the one person who was sure to benefit was me. That is the meaning of the spiritual idea that "To give is to receive." When I genuinely give love I am receiving (experiencing) that which I am giving. This provides an environment for mutual healing. I like this idea of a Love Letter. To me, all healing should come from this place. Guidance is better when we are in the midst of a loving space. So are our insights and rapport. So is our health. Write a Love Letter someday and see how it feels. I've never seen genuine love harm anyone. Have you? Love, Gary P.S. Let's do an experiment on this topic. In the interest of science, I will be a guinea pig for your Love Letters. Pick out any issue(s) you think I might have and then send me your surrogate/intentional Love Letter. I mean a mental Love Letter, not a literal one. Make up some issues if need be. Speculate and guess as to whatever negatives I might be dealing with. Use EFT or any other healing technique you choose. Since I have no idea what issue(s) you might pick out, I cannot give or withhold specific permission. So do it without asking. Don't ask formal permission from a Higher Source either. Just do it from a well meant loving place. I'll take my chances on any negative effects. If I notice any, I'll be sure to let you know.

Follow up letter from Kalie Marino Dear Gary, Your article on getting permission to heal is beautiful! Years ago I was warned about getting permission to heal so that I didn't violate a person's freewill. I carefully followed that advice until my 5 year old child lay dying of a terminal illness. The question of permission became much more complex. Not only was he too young to consent, because he obviously didn't know what was in his best interest, but, as his mother, I didn't know what was best for him either. Let me explain that statement.

The day after we received my son's death sentence from the doctor, I had an experience of dying and coming back. I had a heart attack. My heart stopped beating. I saw my angel, the light, etc., and I made the difficult decision to come back, to evolve, to be here now. This experience forever changed me. I saw both life and death in a new light. I now knew that death isn't a problem; only fear of death is a problem. I knew my child would be just fine if he died. I wouldn't even want to deny him the beautiful experience of being in the loving arms of God that I had just had. I no longer even thought I knew what would be best for him. I remember crying as I prayed, asking God, "What should I do? Should I be using the healing gifts you gave me to heal him or should I be helping him make the transition? What should I even be praying for? I only want what is best for my child, no matter what that is." God answered my prayers very simply by saying, "Just love him. If he is to die, your love will help him make the transition, and if he is to live, your love will heal him." God's answer cut through all the complexity of the question. It made it easy to know what to do. So I went back to the hospital that day with the joyful job of loving my child with all my heart and soul, knowing that my love would make a difference, no matter what the outcome. As I entered his hospital room, my son was playing soldiers in his crib in spite of his high fever. His soldier had just been shot, and he had picked it up and was holding it in his arms very lovingly. I said, "That's right, honey. Love him. Love heals." He looked puzzled by my statement as he replied, "It doesn't matter, Mommy. He'll just be born again." I was shocked. I didn't even know he understood that concept. The innocence of a child's wisdom is a powerful teacher. From his reply, I thought he was probably leaving us, so I joyfully talked to him about letting his soldier follow the light. He said, "What light, Mommy?" I pointed up into the air and said, "The light of God" His pupils dilated as he looked up into the air with eyes wide open in a fixed stare, saying, "It's booootiful, Mommy." He was so fixated on what he was seeing that I thought he was leaving right then. Just then the nurses arrived to take him for a lengthy bone marrow test. However, they returned in less than an hour to announce that his blood platelets had miraculously returned to normal, so they didn't do the test. The doctor said he had only gone into remission and warned me not to get my hopes up. He said we would be back within the month for my son to die. My son, David, is now 34 years old, has 2 children of his own and is almost never sick. Love heals. We never need permission to love, because it is our true nature to love. Love is never conditional, but we do have conditions under which we are willing to love. Our only job is letting go of any conditions we might have on loving; blocks that stop us from loving, anyone, anytime, anywhere. For me, one of those conditions I had to let go of was "getting permission." Love & Blessings, Kalie Marino Bringing down the barriers to a better bedroom Hi Everyone,

When committed couples have problems in the bedroom it is often a symptom of deeper underlying causes. Sometimes parental patterns are being run and sometimes the parties are unknowingly triggering certain conditioned responses in each other. It would be nice if we could consistently do a round or two of tapping for each partner and then sit back as they reverse their previous patterns and passionately "heat up the sheets." While this DOES happen from time to time, the more usual case requires skillful detective work to unravel a long list of "passion pausers." Paul Cutright and his wife, Layne, specialize in this important work and provide an artistic example of the use of EFT for bringing down some of the barriers to a better bedroom. There is an important followup that is appended at the end. Hugs, Gary

By Paul & Layne Cutright

Dear Friends & Colleagues, My wife, Layne, and I share a creative/professional partnership as well as a romantic one. Much of our coaching practice is with relationships and partnerships of various kinds. We work with some couples face to face and some over the phone. This situation concerns a couple in another state whom we coach over the phone with whom we use EFT. Hopefully, this will demonstrate how effective EFT can be with relationships even when they are not sitting right in front of you. This particular couple have been married ten years and they have three children. We will call them John and Mary. Their issue can be one of the most painful and seemingly intractable that a married couple can experience - SEX! The situation, in a nutshell, is this. John wants to have sex more often than Mary and feels angry and hurt by her rebuffing his advances. Mary, on the other hand, feels spiritually superior to John when he "comes on" to her and gets turned off to sex and to him. She thinks his desire for her is too "animalistic" and not "spiritual" enough for her. He feels her attitude of superiority and condescension and has the feeling that his emotional and physical needs are not important. The result is that they seldom have sex and when they do it is less than satisfying for either one of them. When we are working with them on the phone we know that they are in the same room and that they can see and interact with each other. One of the things about relationship issues is that there are generally multiple aspects to deal with that can often be quite surprising. Also, part of the beauty of EFT

is that you can begin with exactly what is presented and the work will lead you, aspect by aspect, ever deeper into the root cause of the issue. Before we go into either partner's issue, we get their mate's permission for them to go into the issue in front of them. We had John and Mary facing each other and began with Mary by having her tap on her feeling that John is not spiritual enough for her (which had an intensity of 8on a 0 to 10 scale) like this: Karate Chop Point while looking at John "Even though I don't think John is spiritual enough to have sex with, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself." "Even though the more John wants to have sex with me, the less I want to give it to him, . . ." "Even though I've had this problem for so long I don't think I can let go of it, . . ." Tapping on all points while looking at John with this phrase "The more he wants it the less I want to give it to him." This resulted in a drop from the 8 to a 4. We then had her tap on her face and torso points, followed by the 9 Gamut Procedure, which took her down to a 1. At this point we checked in with John to see how he was doing. His feelings had increased in intensity to a 10+ while listening to Mary. The feeling John was having was that he was never going to get his sexual and emotional needs satisfied with Mary. So, we had John tap on the Karate Chop Point "Even though I feel hopeless and frustrated about my sex life with Mary, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself." "Even though Mary doesn't want me as much as I want her and I have a lot of hurt about that, . . ." "Even though I feel like I'm never going to get what I want, . . ." Tapping on all the points while looking at Mary with this phrase "Feeling like I'll never get what I want." Note: It is often a judgment call who should go first in this kind of work. In this case we had Mary go first because her issue was not as emotionally vulnerable as John's. Then, when it was John's turn, she was able to be clear (emotionally non-reactive) and lovingly present while John tapped through his painful feelings. In fact, she was so free of her previous "better than" issue at that point that John reported afterwards that he felt like she was flooding him with love. John's 10+ dropped to a 4. He then reported a strong feeling of a tight blockage in his throat. We asked him what the energy in his throat wanted to say, and after a moment's reflection he said, "All I can hear is, 'You cold, castrating bitch!'"

We checked in with Mary to see if it was ok with her for John to go into this issue in front of her, and she said, "Of course, I know that's how he feels anyway!" She was still in a very clear and loving place. We had John tap on the Karate Chop Point while looking at Mary and saying "Even though I judge Mary as a cold, castrating bitch, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself and Mary." "Even though I have this tight feeling in my throat, . . ." "Even though I'm afraid of how powerful my feelings are and I'm afraid to let them out, . . ." We then had him do another two rounds through all the points with the phrase, "Cold, castrating bitch", followed by the 9 Gamut Procedure, which brought his intensity level down to ". . . pretty much a 1." After this they both reported feeling a lot better, which we could hear in their voices. They declared it to be a breakthrough in their relationship and it was a great relief for them to talk about such (previously unsafe) deep emotional undercurrents. They said they had taken some giant strides and were both feeling a little fragile. We made progress on all the aspects that we tapped on in this two hour session. We completed it with a forgiveness process that had them facing one another and placing their hands over their heart center in the middle of their chest. We then asked them to "ignite" their palm chakras, which is to imagine a beam of light flooding out of the palms of their hands into their chest. Then, they repeated three times to each other, one at a time, "Through the power of Divine Love, I forgive myself for doing anything that may have hurt you." Then, "Through the power of Divine Love, I forgive you for doing anything that may have hurt me." After this, they both felt emotionally open and connected with each other. They both expressed deep gratitude for having someone lead them through such deep, painful and vulnerable feelings and for having made enormous progress in such a brief time. Now, because this was our most recent session with this couple, we don't know yet what affect this particular session has had on their sex life. As of this post, they haven't "taken it out for a test drive, yet!" Remember, with relationships there are sometimes multiple aspects that can come up later. We may have helped them to clear enough to transform their sex life -- and we may have a bit more work to do. Stay tuned. . . What I have given you here is the essence of the EFT work we did with them. It was preceded, though, by quite a bit of talking to discover the issues. There are so many issues that EFT easily clears in a round or two, that we can sometimes forget that EFT is also effective with deeper issues requiring more time, patience and multiple sessions. One of the important things that was revealed that you should know about is the parental patterns that they were running, which we will address in future sessions. Mary's feeling of superiority and condescension was acquired through the modeling of her father's condescending relationship with her mother. She had been duplicating the emotional dynamic of her parent's relationship in her own marriage, but was completely blind to her doing so. In future we sessions we will be using EFT to address her feelings about her parents' relationship with one another.

John grew up in a family in which his emotional needs were seldom noticed or tended to, especially by his mother. It is no surprise, of course, that struggling to get his emotional needs satisfied has been a recurrent theme throughout his married life. We will likewise be able to work with John, using EFT, to clear other specific memories of him not getting his needs met. I hope you find this helpful as you expand your experience with EFT. Blessings, Paul Cutright

Hi Everyone, Here is a follow-up on Paul Cutright's recent post on clearing the way for sexual intimacy between clients "John" and "Mary." As you may recall, the first few sessions resulted in substantial emotional progress but it was unknown at the time as to whether or not John and Mary were actually going to ecstatically "heat up the sheets." This time we find out. Please note the emphasis on collapsing the deeply set "triggers" that are so often behind problems of this nature. It's an topic important for serious EFT'ers. Hugs, Gary

Dear Friends & Colleagues, Last month I wrote about the work Layne and I have been doing with "John" and "Mary" and the challenges they have been experiencing in their relationship, especially sexually. As of the last posting, we still didn't know if the EFT we did with them had been successful in terms of their renewed lovemaking. So, I thought you might like to have an update on their situation. To refresh your memory, here is a recap of the situation we were working with. The situation, in a nutshell, was this. John wanted to have sex more often than Mary and felt angry and hurt by her rebuffing his advances. Mary, on the other hand, felt spiritually superior to John when he "came on" to her and thus got turned off to sex and to him. She thought his desire for her was too "animalistic" and not "spiritual" enough. He sensed her attitude of superiority and condescension and had the feeling that his emotional and physical needs were not important. The result was that they seldom had sex and when they did it was less than satisfying for either one of them. We made progress on all the aspects that we tapped on in our two hour phone session. After this, they both felt emotionally open and connected with each other. They both expressed deep gratitude for having someone lead them through such deep, painful and vulnerable feelings and for having made enormous progress in such a brief time. Now, because this was our most recent session with this couple, we didn't know yet what affect this particular session had on their sex life. As of that previous session, they hadn't "taken it out for a test drive, yet!" Remember, with relationships there are sometimes multiple aspects that can come up later. We may have helped them to clear enough to transform their sex life -- or we may have needed to a bit more work.

Here is what has happened with John and Mary since then. We have two hour sessions with them once a week. (Three weeks later) As of their most recent session last week, they have had a major breakthrough with their sex life! And beyond that, they've made progress with their general level of intimacy, safety and emotional surrender. Now, let me tell you a bit about how we got there, because it wasn't a "quick fix." Rather, it was the result of persistence in focusing on their intended outcome and dealing directly with each aspect in their relationship as it arose. In helping people to recreate their marriage there are usually three basic elements to consider: 1. insight as to how their marriage came to be the way it is, 2. learning to make new choices that will produce new results, and 3. what we call "trigger work". Trigger work is where EFT is enormously helpful. When couples are frequently frustrated, angry, argumentative or distant, they usually have a long list of complaints about what the other person does to set things off. Triggers can be anything - a look, a tone of voice, a gesture, certain words, an attitude, silence - really, anything that produces a negative reaction in the other person. When triggers are cleared so that there is no longer any emotional charge, it leaves people in a more resourceful state when the same trigger occurs in the future. Rather than reacting automatically and making the same old moves that takes them to the same old place, they are able to make new moves that can take them to a new and better place. Any coach can tell you there is a huge gap between a client's willingness to make new choices and their ability to act on those choices in the heat of the moment. Clearing the triggers reduces the "heat of the moment" so they can actually do what their wisdom tells them to do. In our coaching with John, he realized that when he got even the slightest whiff that Mary was going to rebuff his romantic/sexual advances he got triggered into a younger self. He described the feelings as identical to the feelings he had as a boy with his father. John's father was verbally loud and physical in the way he expressed his disapproval of his son. He would be impatient with John and disapprove of him for not moving fast enough. In addition, he would often hit John sharply on the back of his head. John's experience was of being misunderstood and that his father was not there for him. John was still carrying the wound (trigger) of this treatment and every time Mary declined his overtures for sex this emotional wound would get activated (triggered). John would proceed to share his feelings about being refused by Mary without realizing that the old pain of this wound affected all of his communication with Mary. For Mary, instead of a powerful man coming to her with passion and desire it appeared that she had a powerless, whining child needing comfort. The recurrent pattern was for John to come on to Mary, Mary not being interested as quickly as John wanted her to be, and then being thrown into his feelings of rejection and being misunderstood. John interpreted Mary's rejection through his wounded child.

After we worked on John's feelings of unresolved disapproval from his father he was able to make some new choices and some new interpretations when Mary wasn't as interested in sex as he was. Previously, he would feel like a defeated child, but now he was feeling and behaving like a playful seducer. He even went so far as to do a Chippendale striptease that left them both rolling on the floor, first in laughter, then in passion. And Mary was responding differently now that John was more in his power in his advances toward her. Mary's part was that she was trained to put everyone else's needs before her own, and she had deep resentment about this that would show up when John wanted sex and expected her to be turned on before she had "warmed up". When John shared his feelings of disappointment and hopelessness, Mary would go into an analytical mode trying to help him understand his feelings, all on top of her resentment about not having her own needs seen and understood (her trigger), once again. The result of this pattern was always no sex and feeling distant and unsatisfied. Now, this dynamic in their relationship had been going on unconsciously. Our work was about helping them to become conscious of what was really going on,. One of the things that predictably happens on a transformational, healing journey like this is that old, repressed feelings will erupt at some unexpected and often seemingly inappropriate time. (How nice if it could all happen nice and neat within scheduled sessions!) Mary called one day after a schedule session in which we had her tap on her beliefs about other peoples' needs being more important than her own. She was experiencing spontaneous insights and energy rushes, so we helped her through them, after which she felt clear and open at a whole new level. This showed up in an interesting way in our next session with them. We were working with John, tapping on his feelings about his father disapproving of him, hitting him on his head and of John's feeling that no one was there for him. While John was tapping and clearing these historical memories and triggers, Mary, sitting across from John, began tapping on her own body on John's behalf (surrogate tapping). This had never happened before and it represented a breakthrough for John in being understood and cared about by Mary, rather than all alone in his pain. Mary shared that she felt a new understanding of John's previous behavior and a huge outpouring of love and support for him. Now, remember, all of this is over the phone and John and Mary are sitting in the same room with each other. In just this past week since this last session they have shared an amazing lovemaking experience with each other. Mary told us, "It was awesome. I feel like I'm falling in love all over again. He's sooo sexy!" John's comment was simply, "It feels like a dream come true!" The thing about triggers is that they tend to make people "me" oriented. You get triggered and go into self preservation mode which usually involves making the other person wrong. Blame interferes with love and understanding. But, when triggers are cleared people are able to step into a "we" orientation. They can work together as allies. They are able to liberate the energy used in a "power struggle" and use it for the creativity of cooperation. It doesn't take much to imagine the possibilities that open up for us as members of a larger society. What could we accomplish together as a society if the triggers that generate alienation disappeared? What if our good intentions to create a better world weren't continually undermined by our inability to simply get along? I hope this story offers you some insight into the value of persistence, as well the amazing power of EFT to clear triggers that could take years to clear (if ever) in more traditional forms of therapy.

Blessings, How to do Intentional (or Surrogate) EFT--a 4 Part Series Hi Everyone, Study this one well. Ryan Kurczak has developed many useful ways to successfully perform EFT remotely. This is sometimes called intentional or surrogate tapping and is the fascinating process of mentally doing EFT for another's benefit. Serious EFT students will find this 4 part series riveting. For those of you concerned about getting permission for this type of work I suggest you read my comments on this. Hugs, Gary Part Part Part Part 1 2 3 4 of of of of 4 4 4 4

Part 1 of 4 By Ryan Kurczak Dear Gary, First let me say since learning EFT I have nearly stopped practicing the techniques I'd learned earlier in my healing career, such as Reiki, CranioSacral Therapy and massage. I had never seen such rapid improvements in physical and mental health until I began implementing EFT as an adjunct to my other services. EFT quickly became my prime healing tool. A few months after taking an EFT level 1 class I decided to try out the DVD courses and began to devour the knowledge presented in them, which greatly increased my delivery of the technique and success rates. After watching the "Steps Towards Becoming the Ultimate Therapist" DVDs I became enamored with the idea of applying EFT intentionally without tapping or making any outward movement. The ability to facilitate healing from a distance was not a new concept to me, yet try as I might I just couldn't get the hang of how to do EFT without the physical movements of tapping either on myself or the client. After persistent experimentation I discovered a three stage process that allowed me to be able to practice EFT effectively, using only imagination and intention. The sessions recorded below illustrate the process for anyone looking for a spring board to develop their own intentional EFT abilities. Note: I had been practicing EFT every day with clients for about two months when I realized that the exact moment they took a deep breath or showed some outward sign of relief, I too felt a subtle surge of relaxation in my body. It dawned on me that by tapping with them throughout the session, I was in a sense tapping for them too. It was almost like I was resonating with their energy system and so could feel when that energy system released a negative emotion. This realization is what I based my first steps to being able to practice EFT intentionally. Step 1: Physical Surrogate Tapping (other steps will be covered in future installments to this series)

The first helpful step I took on my way to practicing intentional EFT was learning and practicing surrogate tapping. Here is the method that worked for me. Jack had called me one evening because of some weakness and pain in his knee. Jack is very athletic and a martial arts teacher. The pain in his knee would not allow him to squat very low in his stance, which from what I understand is essential in the martial arts. He knew all about EFT and practiced it often. When he called for help I asked him why he didn't try EFT on it himself. He said he had, coming at it from multiple angles, and could not make any improvement. So he wanted my thoughts on how to properly deliver EFT. Jack is a friend of mine and an open minded guy, so I asked if I could experiment with him. He agreed. I asked him for the intensity of pain on a 1-10 scale. He told me it was between a 6 and a 7 when he attempted to move into his stance. Then, I asked him to hold on a moment. Jack was still on the line, although I put the phone down. I closed my eyes and imagined that Jack was sitting across from me, as in one of my normal EFT sessions, and I began the Basic Recipe. I rubbed the sore spot and mentally repeated, "Even though I have this painful weakness in my knee I deeply and completely accept myself." With my eyes closed I kept rubbing my own sore spot and mentally saw the imagined Jack rubbing the sore spot and repeating the same phrase. Then I went through the rest of the Basic Recipe in this way. I would tap a point and mentally say, "this knee pain". Then I would imagine him tapping the same point in the same way. The process took less than a minute. When I was finished I picked up the phone and said, "How does your knee feel now?" There was a pause, and then he chuckled and said, "It is now a three." Then he asked, "What did you do?" I told him I'd explain when we finished. So I told him to hold on again. I once more put the phone down and went through the same process. This time I skipped the sore spot and used the reminder phrase, "This remaining pain." Thirty seconds later I picked up the phone again and said, "How about now?" He replied, "The pain is mostly gone. It is probably a one on the scale. Let me try to get in my stance and see what happens." Jack then said, "When I get in my stance the pain goes back up to a five, and there is a stiffness that won't let me go any lower." I asked him to stay in his stance as low as he could without causing too much discomfort so that he could be aware subtly of what the knee felt like while in the stance. I then set the phone down again and repeated the previous procedure. I changed the setup phrase to, "Even though this position causes my knee pain, I deeply and completely accept myself." The reminder phrase I used was, "This positional knee pain." After I went through the Basic Recipe on myself while imagining him doing it do right across from me, I picked up the phone and said, "How does your knee feel?" He said it felt looser and was not hurting at the moment. So he told me to hold on as he lowered his stance. Jack then said that he could almost get as low as he would like in his stance, but there was some residual tightness at the level of a 2-3 on the intensity scale. It occurred to me that maybe there was some fear of injury by getting lower in his stance. As a massage therapist I typically see tightness as a result of some part of the body protecting itself from injury. Without mentioning this I asked if he could stay in the stance at the 2-3 level he previously reported for about 30 seconds. He said he could. For the final time I set the phone down and repeated the entire Basic Recipe. The phrase I used this time was, "Even though I'm afraid I will injure myself if I go any lower in my stance, I deeply and completely accept myself." The reminder phrase I used was, "This fear of injury." At some point in the middle of this third run through I got a sense of my body relaxing and I took a deep breath. When I picked up the phone and asked how he felt at the moment, he immediately responded that during the thirty seconds I was not on the phone with him, he felt his body relax and his stance natural lower, pain free.

Happy with the results I explained to him what I was doing each time I put the phone down. He was very encouraging about the process and advised me to keep it up. Since that time I've done many surrogate sessions with him, and each time the process has become more elegant, effective and efficient. Practicing the Basic Recipe, in its entirety on myself, while imagining the person I was working with doing the same thing allowed me to see that the power of my imagination could actually create results. After about two other successful surrogate tapping sessions in the manner described above, I then began pushing my limits and cut out the tapping on myself completely. This process, which effectively resolved anger over a problematic coworker, will be described in my next installment. Ryan Kurczak

Part 2 of 4 After I became comfortable and successful using the imaginary surrogate tapping, described in the first installment of this series, I found that fully engaging my imagination in the process allowed me to surrogately apply EFT hands free. The next EFT application illustrates a method I found helpful for empowering the effectiveness of my "imaginary" EFT. After a few days of unsuccessful tries on friends and family, something clicked and this technique began to work like a charm. I had a similar experience when first learning to surrogately muscle test. After a week of consistent, yet failed, attempts to surrogately muscle test, one day it just started working. Consistent practice proved to be a necessary step for me in the process of finding a successful method of practicing intentional EFT. Step 2: Hands Free Surrogate EFT Sue came in for an EFT session clearly agitated about something. When asked what was bothering her, she immediately responded that one of her coworkers at the massage office she worked at was giving her a hard time. She said, "I was scheduled to give Jan, my coworker, a massage. A client of mine had bought a gift certificate for her husband's birthday. The client's husband came in one day with the gift certificate and wanted a massage while I wasn't available. Jan agreed to give him the massage, assuming I would pay her for the work she did. First, I am aggravated she would just assume this, rather than tell him to call and schedule an appointment when I am available. But that is not the point. She decided it would be ok if I just gave her a massage in exchange. So we set up an appointment. I showed up right on time. Jan was nowhere to be found. I checked my messages and Jan was on my voice mail saying, 'I have been waiting for a half hour for you to show up. My time is important and you need to respect that. You can leave a check on my table to pay for the hour's worth of work you owe me.' Jan is impossible and a pain to deal with! It's almost like she is intentionally trying to take my clients and have me pay her for it in the process!" I then began breaking down the components that needed to be addressed for Sue to get beyond this office environment trauma, which I expected to have many more facets than there really were. In response to her story I said, "It sounds like you are angry that Jan is trying to take your business and

also your money." She emphatically replied, "Exactly! I can't get that voice mail message out of my head. The tone of her voice made it sound like this mess was entirely my fault!" I then asked, "On a scale of 1-10, ten being as mad as you can get, how angry are you when you think about that phone message?" She said it was no less than a 9. This was affirmed by her facial expression. Since the phone message was most prominent in her awareness I decided to start with that. Now that I had a measurement of her intensity and a key issue I decided to try out my latest technique. The days leading up to this session had been hit or miss with the technique, but I decided to trust the process and it worked beautifully. Here is what I did. First, I told her to hold on a moment while I thought about a phrase to use for the Setup and Reminder Phrase. I immediately came up with a very simple phrase: "Even though that message infuriates me, I deeply and completely accept myself." The reminder phrase was simply, "That message." So as I was "sitting there thinking" I began the process. First, I imagined a sensation of my own karate chop point being tapped. Then I imagined her tapping her karate chop point, while I mentally repeated the phrase, "Even though that message infuriates me, I deeply and completely accept myself." After the third repetition I felt a relaxation in my chest. Second, I imagined a feeling of my eyebrow point being tapped while simultaneously imagining her tapping her own eyebrow point and mentally repeating, "that message." I repeated this second step for the following points: side of eye, under eye, under nose, under lip, under collarbone and under arm. At each point I imagined I could feel the point being tapped on my own body around 5 or 6 times, while imagining her tapping about 5 or 6 times on each spot as well. After the under arm point I felt the need to take a deep breath. I noticed her shoulder relax down a bit and I asked her to check into her body. She said she felt more relaxed. Note: Keep in mind, this sounds like a lot of sitting around doing nothing. It takes longer to read than it did to complete. The imagination works faster than actually performing an action. If I had to guess I would say it took no more than 20-30 seconds. On average it usually takes me about that time to come up with good delivery phrase. Since I saw her relax, I asked her to think about the message one more time. She did and admitted, "It isn't as troublesome as before. Besides, what else should I expect from Jan?" I said, "Has the intensity gone down any?" She said, "I'm more irritated with myself now than anything else. I'm more mad that I got pulled into her drama." She then asked what happened, since I was just "sitting there thinking". Jan is familiar with surrogate tapping as she too has seen theEFT DVDs. I told her I was practicing a method of surrogate tapping and asked if I could continue doing so for the duration of the session as long as it worked. She said that would be fine. She knows my policy is not to charge unless significant change is made during a session so she really had nothing to lose. I then asked how mad she was at herself, and she replied, "about a three." To get more specific with this phrase I asked her to tell me what was most irritating about the part she played in the situation. She told me she was upset with herself that she allowed Jan to make her mad, because that was probably Jan's intention. The phrase that immediately came to mind for the setup was, "Even though Jan tricked me again I deeply and completely accept myself." The reminder phrase was as follows, "That

tricky b****." Having worked with Sue on issues dealing with Jan before I knew this was a common term Sue used when referring to Jan. Again I imagined a sensation of my own karate chop point being tapped, imagined Sue tapping her own point, and mentally repeated the setup phrase three times. Then I went through the following points: eyebrow, side of eye, under eye, under nose, under lip, collarbone, and underarm. At each point I imagined a sensation of my own point being tapped, I imagined Sue tapping her points, while mentally reciting, "That tricky b****." Just as in the first round, once I got to the underarm point I felt the need to take a deep breath, and noted Sue doing the same thing. Then she laughed and said, "The whole situation is really silly isn't it?" I got the sense that these two rounds took care of the whole coworker situation, so I asked her to think about the whole thing and relate it to me as if she were telling me a story. I told her to close her eyes as she was thinking about it and really relive it. She recited the whole situation and did not get any intensity on it. Even though Sue's core anger was directed at Jan trying to take her business and her money, all it took was a round of EFT on effects of the phone message and an affirmation about how Sue perceives Jan. The entire process took less than five minutes to complete. I feel this would have taken at least twice the time to go through all the physical motions involved in regular EFT. The third installment of this series will address how to improve interpersonal communications that may be sabotaged by polarity reversal. This problem quickly disappears using a using an even more refined and elegant version of intentional EFT, which naturally evolved from the physical surrogate tapping described in part 1 and the hands free surrogate EFT described in part 2. Ryan Kurczak

Part 3 of 4 In the 5-star EFT DVDs the concept of polarity reversal is introduced. For those of you not familiar with the term, polarity reversal it is essentially an energetic phenomenon where a person may say one thing, but deep down inside not really mean it. For example, if Sally said she wanted to lose weight but then you muscle tested her to see if that statement was true you would get a weak response, indicating that on some level it is not true. In her head Sally may mentally know she wants to lose weight, but due to the polarity reversal phenomenon she will invariably sabotage all attempts to lose the weight and keep it off. Polarity reversals also keep EFT procedures from working. If there is a polarity reversal, which I will abbreviate as PR from now on, to getting beyond the problem, EFT will not work until the PR is neutralized. That is the purposes of the setup phrase while either tapping the karate chop point or rubbing the sore spot. By starting all EFT procedures with the sore spot or karate chop point you are certain to get rid of the PR. I spoke with a mentor of mine who is very proficient in Thought Field Therapy, a tapping therapy from which EFT was born, about the topic of PR. He gave me some very interesting information. He said that he always knows when his wife is suffering from PR because her conversations will always have an undercurrent of irritation and fault finding. He was speaking of when his wife was just "reversed" in general. This could be caused by a number of things.

It could be caused from eating a certain food, interacting with a certain person or even wearing an offensive chemical or piece of clothing. PR in general can be quite annoying when someone intends to carry on a meaningful or even benign conversation. It essentially sabotages the communication process from the very beginning. One of the great things about doing EFT intentionally is that if you notice PR occurring either in yourself or in someone else you mean to have a pleasant conversation with, you can correct it immediately. I would not advise telling your mate that he or she needs to do some tapping for being reversed while in the middle of the conversation. If they are reversed it will just make communication more difficult, because more than likely tempers will flare. If they aren't reversed it will just make you look foolish. I've learned this from experience. Luckily I have a very self-aware wife. I'm sure you can imagine how irritating it could be to have some say, "Maybe you should do some tapping. I think you are reversed." Especially when you really believe your aggression or frustration is valid as you try to communicate your point. At first she got irritated when I would ask if she was reversed, but when she saw that she was after doing a simple tapping procedure, we've learned to point it out gently to each other so we can make the most of our conversations without a PR getting in the way. Learning how to correct this with just intention is a marvelous tool to bringing harmony to all your communicative endeavors. Before learning the basic technique it is important to have a firm grasp on how PR can show up in conversations within the person you are talking to and within yourself. If you typically get along with the person you are speaking with and you find that everything you say is being taken as though you are attacking them or they are finding fault with just about everything you are saying, they might be reversed. If you find yourself getting easily irritated or frustrated with the person, you may be reversed as well. It takes a bit of detachment to see this clearly. So if you are not easily able to look at things as objectively as possible I would recommend muscle testing. If the person you are with is open to this, you can practice muscle testing on each other to determine where the reversal lies. Here is how we used to do it. I would put my arm out to pointing away from the midline of my body and say, "My name is Ryan." If it tested strong I knew I was not presently reversed. If it tested weak I would then say, "I'm a loaf of bread." If it tested strong I would know I am reversed, because I am obviously not a loaf of bread. To correct this, I would tap the karate chop point while repeating three times, "Even though I'm reversed, I deeply and completely accept myself." In most instances this would immediately correct the reversal. When you are in a situation or with a person where this method is not possible I advise surrogate testing. I have found that sliding my index finger pad across my thumb nail works great. It is inconspicuous and no one ever knows that I am doing it. When I make a statement and it is true my finger pad slides easily across my thumbnail. When it is false it stops abruptly in the middle. For example, if I find myself in a communication breakdown and I don't know if it is me or the other person that is reversed I first ask, "My name is Ryan." If my finger slides easily over my thumbnail (indicating the statement was true) then I ask, "So and so is reversed." If my finger stops dead in the middle of my thumbnail I have a fairly objective indication where the reversal lies. Sometimes to be safe I add another question: I'm deceiving myself." This helps me be certain about the surrogate testing.

Step 3: Flat Out Intentional EFT Now to apply intentional EFT to correct a reversal requires a bit of concentration at first. If it is my own reversal I focus my attention on my karate chop point and feel it being tapped or I focus my attention on my sore spot area and feel it being rubbed. Then I mentally recite, "Even though I'm reversed I deeply and completely accept myself." Then I either check in with my current state of mind in communicating with the person I am with or I muscle test myself again to see if I am myself and not a loaf of bread. I can usually tell immediately when the reversal passes, because I see the person I'm with in a less critical way. When in doubt I always use my thumbnail muscle testing technique. If the other person is reversed based on observation and muscle testing they can be corrected in the same way. Give them your full attention. Either imagine a warm light pulsing on their karate chop point or imagine a warm light moving in a circular motion on their sore spot. Then mentally repeat, "Even though that person (or insert name) is reversed I deeply and completely accept them" three times. You can use any visualization you like. A friend of mine imagines glowing flowers or crosses over the points as he recites the phrase and he admits this works just fine for him. Then, either watch their behavior for a shift or muscle test to see if that corrected the reversal. When you observe their behavior, you will know the reversal has passed when less of their "buttons are being pushed" for no reason. Once reversals are corrected conversations usually flow a lot smoother. Again, it doesn't matter what caused the reversal to correct it. It may be helpful to muscle test later to find out. This way it can be avoided in the future. All that is required to correct it is identification and focused intentional EFT. With practice this becomes easier and easier. You will be surprised at how much better conversations go for everyone when you are around. You will also gain a richer sensitivity to when reversals are present. When they are, you will either rub everyone the wrong way, or someone else will rub you the wrong way for no apparently good reason. Example: I went to Office Max to get some booklets printed for a class I was going to teach. I was having a fine day and was in a good mood. I walked up to the copy center clerk and as soon as he opened his mouth it just made me cringe a little inside. He wasn't a bad guy, I just got the sense he was agitated at the world. So I tested to see who was reversed, and it wasn't me. Then as he was processing my order I began applying the technique described above. Minutes later he was smiling and joking with me. The atmosphere felt much more at ease and less tense. My second test indicated no one was reversed in the area. The next and final installment will relate a fully intentional EFT session carried out on the phone. By using the technique described above, emotions from a painful break up were resolved quickly as the client was driving back to the apartment where the break up took place. By the end of the session, the client was walking through the apartment gathering up his things without the overwhelming sadness or grief that was initially present. Until next time! Ryan Kurczak

Part 4 of 4

In this final installment I will relate an EFT session with Bob that was performed over the phone using nothing but intentional EFT. Bob called me one evening as he was driving back to an apartment he had recently moved out of after a very emotional break up. He was clearly upset from his manner of speaking. Since he was driving and had about 20 minutes until he arrived at his destination, he asked if there were any energetic corrections I could offer to help him get some relief from this overwhelming sadness and fear of getting even sadder when he arrived. I told him I could try out some intentional EFT I had been practicing if he was up for it. He said he was up for anything. To get started I asked Bob what exactly was going on in his life to cause distress. He explained that after he broke up with his girlfriend he had moved out of his apartment in the city and moved back to his house in the country. When he left, he only took one car load of essentials and had quite a lot more of his belongings still at the apartment. He told me he was holding on to his apartment until the lease was up instead of going through the hassle of trying to get out of the lease. He mentioned he was now driving back to the apartment to get more of his belongings. He felt confident about making the trip at first. As he got nearer to his destination, however, he said he started remembering the good times and was afraid he wouldn't be able to handle all the things that reminded him about the relationship when he arrived. Specifically he was afraid of seeing the pictures on the wall. He felt they may bring up some very deep sadness. He was also afraid that his ex-girlfriend might have left a note or something near the entry way. Bob broke up with her because of her manipulative narcissism and he feared she might say just the right things in a note to try and get him back. I asked Bob what part of his explanation was most prominent in his awareness. Bob replied, "I really hope she hasn't left a note. I know this was for the best, but I'm afraid an attempt to get me back might work." So I asked Bob, "What is the predominant emotion you feel in your body when you think about the possibility of her leaving a note, and on a scale from one to ten how intense is it?" Bob replied, "It is mainly fear that I won't know how to respond. It is pretty high, about an 8 or 9. I can feel it all through my body." I then explained since he was driving all he needed to do was tune into the emotion anyway he could. He didn't need to tap on anything or distract himself in anyway from driving. Then I asked him to give me few seconds to apply the procedure. Note: Here is the procedure I used for every issue of Bob's during this session. First, I imagined a pulsing swirling light over where Bob's sore spot would be. (I've worked with Bob in person before, so I know what he looks like. I imagine if you were doing this on a person you don't know, you could just imagine the general body shape of a male or female and do the same.) Then I mentally recited, "Even though Bob is afraid of how he'll respond, I deeply and completely accept him" three times. Second, I imagined his eyebrow, side of eye, under eye, under nose, under lip, collarbone, under arm and top of head point glowing with a warm light. I imagined these points of light simultaneously, not one at a time. Then I mentally repeated, "He doesn't know what he'll do." I repeated this about three to four times, at which point I felt some relaxation in my own body and heard Bob yawn. Basically I keep repeating the phrase while envisioning all the points glowing until I witness or intuit some kind of release.

Another Note: Myself and others have found that you can usually tell when something is being resolved when doing this manner of work when either the practitioner or the client yawns, takes a deep breath, coughs or sighs. It has been our experience that immediately after this type of release, the intensity of the issue will be lower. I then asked Bob about his fear of the letter. He then said he felt his body relax a bit and he doesn't feel so much afraid as he does anger. I asked, "What is the anger from?" He replied, "That she may still be trying to manipulate me, that she could betray me like that and still try to control me." I asked what was most prominent the manipulation, the betrayal or the control? He said they were all rolled up in one. I asked for an intensity level of the anger. He said it was about a 9. So I imagined the sore spot swirling with warm light and mentally repeated the first thing that came to mind, "Who does she think she is" three times. Then I visualized the points listed above glowing while mentally repeating the same phrase, "Who does she think she is?" This took more repetitions than the first try. After 8 or so repetitions I yawned and he immediately reported the anger had lessened. I asked him what it was now on the 1-10 scale. He said, "About a 2. It is more of an annoyance than anything else." So I again visualized all the points lit up while mentally repeating, "this remaining anger." After 3 repetitions of this phrase I heard him sigh into the phone. He then said, "Well, the anger is gone, but now I just feel used." I made a mental note of this comment, but wanted to make sure all the anger and fear over the possible letter was resolved. To check the work I asked him to think about entering his apartment and finding a note from her. He replied, "There is no intensity. I could just as easily toss it in the trash." I asked, "So no fear comes up from thinking about her manipulating you back into the relationship?" He said, "No." I further probed, "And no anger about her trying to control you or manipulate you after what she has done?" He again replied, "No." He again stated now he just felt "used". So I asked him to describe the used feeling. I asked, "What images or bodily sensations do you get when you tune into this used feeling?" He said he got flashes of the pictures of the girl on the wall of his apartment and said they made him sad that all the good times felt empty. So I told him to tune into that used feeling as best he could while driving and give me a few moments. Again, I went with the first thoughts that came into my head, "She was just using me. None of it was real." I decided to skip the Setup phrase this time and just jump right in to visualizing the points glowing while mentally repeating the phrase, "She was just using me. None of it was real." This time a shift almost occurred instantly. I barely repeated the phrase one time to myself and I had a sense the issue was resolved. I immediately asked what he was experiencing now. He said, "Nothing." I inquired, "No used feeling? Think about those pictures and entering your apartment. Think about gathering up your belongings. No intensity?" He replied, "No. Now I just feel tired, like I'm tired of thinking about this. I guess I do feel sad that things turned out the way they did." He then told me he was pulling into the apartment complex and he would call me back once he got inside. A few minutes later, Bob called back. He said there was no letter, so that was good, but he was still having this remaining sadness over the loss of the relationship as he gathered up his things. He sounded a little teary when he admitted this. I asked him what was most bothersome about it. He replied, "That the relationship didn't turn out as expected." So I went through the same procedure of imagining the points glowing while mentally reciting, "This sadness. Things didn't turn out as I hoped." After 5-6 repetitions I felt more relaxation in my body and

asked him how he was doing. He said, "Hmm. I'm fine now. It's not like this is the end of my life or anything." I probed further, "So as you walk around the apartment and look around, you are not struck by any particular emotional intensity?" He said, "No. I'm glad to be free of her. She was an energy drain." So after confirming his emotional state was back to normal we ended the call. Some Self EFT to Use to Break Through Blocks for Using Intentional EFT Here is a list of EFT phrases I used on myself to help me move through any mental blocks that prevented me from doing intentional EFT successfully. 1) Even though I disbelieve this is possible.... 2) Even though I'm afraid something will go wrong.... 3) Even though my powers of visualization are weak.... 4) Even though my imagination cannot affect reality.... 5) Even though I am not able to do this .... 6) Even though I am not willing to bear this responsibility.... 7) Even though I am not ready for this kind of work.... 8) Even though I don't deserve to be able to do this.... 9) Even though I don't have the proper neural association to do this.... 10) Even though I don't welcome the permission to do this.... Closing Thoughts More than anything, intentional EFT takes practice and diligence to do well. I do have a friend that seemed to catch on as if he'd been doing it all his life, but for me it took determination and commitment. It also took trust that I had the capability. The methods described in these articles are just what worked for me. Be creative and follow your own intuition. I wrote these articles just to give you some ideas and to see that it is possible. Don't let failure prevent you from trying. Nearly all true successes occur after a failure. If you are afraid of failing, use EFT to get over it! Good luck and have fun. Ryan Kurczak Can we do EFT surrogately or through intention? If so, do we need permission? Many practitioners report impressive successes through applying EFT in this manner. Go to our Search Engineand enter "surrogate" (without the quotes) for a list of case histories on this subject. Then enter "intention" for still more. In my experience, the results are not as consistent as physically tapping but the reports are well beyond mere coincidence.

The question of needing permission is an interesting one. Here is an article I wrote to our email list on this subject.

Hi Everyone, Our web site contains a growing number of successes using EFT surrogately and/or with intention. It would take a master of denial to read them and not be intrigued by the anecdotal evidence. The common question that arises about this regards asking permission to do this sort of healing work. Shouldn't we ask the client first? If for some reason that's not feasible, then shouldn't we ask a Higher Power for permission to proceed? And if neither of those is done, shouldn't we at least first recite some permission generating statement like, "I offer this healing work only if it is in the highest and best good of the person receiving it." Good thoughts. All of them. They come from a caring place and, whether or not you agree with the necessity for doing this, the individuals choosing to go this route should be honored for their loving commitment. I don't know what's right here but I've been a party to this conversation on many occasions and thus offer below some interesting viewpoints I've run across (as well as some of my own). First, some people (a minority) have given me detailed procedures for getting permission. These procedures are put forward as MUSTs for everyone to follow. Otherwise, it seems, you will surely damage someone. When I asked where these procedures came from, they responded that they came from "personal understandings." When I asked for a list of specific damages that people had encountered as a result of well intentioned surrogate/intentional tapping (done without permission), there was not a single incident offered. Interestingly, these varying procedures each contained a DIFFERENT list of MUSTs. Therein lies a weakness, I think. To me, a MUST is a MUST. Thus if list #1 contains a true MUST then it must be on list #2 and list #3, mustn't it? Otherwise, how can it be a MUST? I didn't find this method very compelling. Other people believe that you must always ask permission of the client unless they are unable to grant it. Examples of those who are "unable" might be infants, animals, elderly people suffering from dementia, mentally retarded people, people who speak other languages, etc. This way, you can get direct permission most of the time. For those people unable to grant permission, it can still be obtained by asking a Higher Power. The permission asking questions I have heard go pretty much like this, "Is it in the highest and best interest of this client for me to do this work surrogately?" This technique is used by some practitioners for ALL their surrogate/intentional work. They never ask direct permission of the client. Instead they ask a Higher Power and proceed accordingly. Many people have found this meritorious and I'm always in favor of procedures that work. However, the logic of this bothers my left brain a bit. Why? Because I don't know anyone (myself included) who is able to get 100% pure Guidance. No one, in my experience, is able to consistently (always) discern whether a given "answer" comes from a Higher Power or is just their own internal chatter. Yet they assume the answer is accurate and proceed (or don't proceed) accordingly. Do they have "real permission"--or not? Or do they have it a good percentage of the time and that is good enough? Interestingly, those who do this report good results. You know what's interesting about all this? I have never heard of anyone being damaged by well intentioned surrogate/intentional work of any kind--EFT or otherwise. That doesn't mean it hasn't happened. I know there are stories regarding negative forms of Voodoo (hardly well intentioned, by the way) and stuff like that and so maybe it's possible. But I know a lot of people in the healing professions and over 1,000 clients and I have never heard of a single case where someone was disadvantaged in

any way by well intentioned surrogate/intentional work. I have, however, heard many reports of successes by using this "way out" procedure. From all I can tell, these surrogate attempts either provide worthwhile benefits or fall on their face. But they don't cause harm. It's as though our efforts are stopped if, indeed, we are treading in areas which are not for the client's highest good. This is not to suggest, however, that getting permission isn't a good idea. I get permission myself but I don't do it in a formal way. Rather, I just get an intuitive notion regarding whether or not to proceed. This is my form of asking for Guidance. I lean on this intuitive notion even when I'm in a one-on-one session (and obviously have client permission). It is continually guiding me as to which avenue to pursue with the client. In our advanced tapes I consistently put forward the notion that effective healing is done THROUGH US rather than BY US and the major skill involved is to GET OURSELVES OUT OF THE WAY. I find this much more useful and efficient than formally asking permission. True Guidance, some would argue, is better than permission because it is much more informed than both client and practitioner. Another issue along these lines is the potential intrusion into one's privacy if we try to "fix" them without their permission. It's also a big rapport breaker if they have beliefs against this sort of thing and discover later that you were doing this. This brings me to a related question that has been sitting within my psyche ever since this permission debate came to my attention (several years ago). It's an obvious question but I've never heard anyone voice it. Here it is. If it is important to get permission for our well intentioned healing work then shouldn't it be just as important, if not more so, to get permission for our negative intentions? For our angers at others? For our wishes that someone loses while someone else wins? For the mental rejections we might level at others? Yet how often do we do get permission for such thoughts? Does anyone EVER get such permission? Or do we just have the thought/intention without regard to the highest good of our "target?" Have you ever stopped yourself before having an angry thought/intention about someone and asked their permission to have it? I wonder what would happen if each of us did this. My guess is that we would have a lot fewer angry thoughts and a bit more peace in this world. So where do we land with all this? Have we come up with a conclusion about asking permission? I think the consensus is that it's a good idea. However, how it should be done--and when--and under what circumstances is up to debate or personal decision. I wish you Peace (which, by the way, is intentional and without your permission). Smiles, Gary

Permission, The Guiding Hand and the Love Letter Hi Everyone, I'll get to the ideas of the Guiding Hand and the Love Letter at the end of this message. But first, we have some foundational background to cover. Many thanks to all those list members who wrote me about their experiences and philosophies regarding surrogate/intentional healing efforts done WITHOUT permission. Even though I didn't have the time to

properly respond to most of you directly, please know that I read everything you wrote. I printed out many of your insightful messages for further study (over 100 pages) and spent some quality telephone time with some of you. As it turns out, this is a hot topic. The input I received was varied and many held "dig-in-their-heels" beliefs about what is right or wrong regarding this question. Some warned of dark consequences for "going where you are not wanted" and some thought I would be totally irresponsible if I mentioned anything positive about such "intrusive efforts." Others queried, "What's the big deal? How can well intentioned healing efforts do anything but good?" At times I felt like I was at the center of a theological tornado where people fervently debate and defend their cherished beliefs. There's a question I sometimes ask in my seminars that goes like this. "What weighs nothing, yet is powerful enough to start a war?" The answer??? Beliefs. I'm going to trace through some of the thinking I received (both pro and con) but the bottom line is that asking permission from either the client or from a Higher Source is a personal decision. So there you have the conclusion--up front and tidy. Thus there's no need to read further unless, of course, you are curious about some of the thinking (and non-thinking) that showed up on this perplexing journey "through the healer's looking glass." First, perhaps the most interesting fact in this entire debate was that, despite two requests, I was not presented with a single specific, verifiable example of a negative result experienced by a client due to someone's well meant non-permissioned surrogate/intentional healing effort. Not one. That doesn't mean that there were no such negative effects. Perhaps there were. Perhaps people just don't want to talk about them or admit them. Perhaps the clients didn't want to report them or maybe they didn't know to report them because they didn't realize what the causes were. All that's possible. However, even though I promised confidentiality to anyone who could provide me with such specific instances, no one did so. At last count there were 2,153 members on this list. Surely, if there were negative results out there someone would be reporting such an instance. This is especially perplexing since people have a built in attraction to negative things. There is something interesting about them and people tend to get enjoyment out of exposing them, reading about them, etc. That is why our newspapers are loaded with stories about what's wrong in this world. That stuff sells. Yet, despite that, not one verifiable instance of client harm was offered. About the closest we got to a negative example were 2 reports that surrogate/intentional healing was efforted by a practitioner who later noticed that the client appeared to have some down or depressive emotions. There was no direct evidence, however, that the surrogate/intentional healing effort was at fault. This sort of result can have many causes. It may have, indeed, been caused by the surrogate attempt but a statistician would be unimpressed by the evidence. By contrast, we have an imposing list of positive results on our web site which, although anecdotal, are so numerous that they go well beyond being merely coincidental. It is easy to find specific positive reports but the negative ones seem to be hiding. I did receive philosophy and thoughts about ethical issues and their negative possibilities. But no specific examples of actual harm to a client. In some cases, people asked permission of a Higher Source and received a "No." Assuming the "No" was a correct transmission, this leaves us without any input regarding the consequences (if any) had the practitioner proceeded anyway. I also received 3 examples where the practitioners assumed they were the client and "took on" the client's issues as part of the

surrogate healing efforts. These resulted in emphatic reports of the PRACTITIONERS having problems afterward--but NOT the client. A point often made by those opposing this form of healing work is that we have no business intruding into someone else's psyche without first getting permission. How arrogant for a practitioner to assume they know what needs to be done and thus wade into someone's emotional make up and unilaterally "fix" things that the practitioner, in their presumed wisdom, thinks need fixing. How wrong? Who do they think they are? God? If not God, then are they even higher up on the wisdom scale? Does God ask advice of *them*? This is a point well made. Who am I, for example, to truly know all the consequences of a healing effort. If a fear, trauma or nightmare is neutralized, for example, how do I know if that client is going to have trouble coping without their "old friend?" This argument, of course, is not limited to well meant surrogate/intentional healing efforts. The same thing applies in one-on-one sessions where the client is obviously giving permission. In such a case, not even the client knows what the consequences will be if their anger subsides regarding their father, mother, the world, etc. So now what? Do we simply cease our healing efforts just because we now have tools that are truly effective? Should we not attempt surrogate/intentional healing work just because we don't know all the ramifications? We are just beginning to learn here. Perfection is not ours yet. We are, as I have often said, on the ground floor of a Healing High Rise. To me, the possibility of applying these procedures remotely is a possible centerpiece of the spiritual awareness that I think these processes point toward. It may well be the next level in proficiency. This is not to suggest that there are no caveats or ethical issues. No indeed! There may be many such issues that need attention. But how are we going to understand them if we just sit on the sidelines and speculate about their features? We have to roll up our sleeves and prudently give these new levels a try. Otherwise, we can speculate forever on all the harm that can be done by non-permissioned surrogate/intentional healing work even though the evidence for such harm is skimpy at best. There are some interesting questions involved in this topic. When, for example, do we need permission and under what circumstances can we dispense with the formality? Do I need permission to pray for you? Do I need permission to think a good thought about you? Do I need permission to wish you well or, more importantly, do I need permission to have angry thoughts about you? Further, what constitutes valid permission? Who's to say your permission from a Higher Source is the same as mine? Who's to say that such permission is even from a Higher Source and not just our personal internal chatter? Is there an accepted permission phrase that everyone should use? Or will just simple intuition do the job? Further, even if permission is directly obtained from the client, who is to say that the client knows what is in their own best interest? Maybe they give you permission even though, unbeknownst to them, they need their ulcer or their headaches or their nightmares for some karmic purpose. If they give you such "faulty permission" aren't you unknowingly violating them by your healing efforts? Since we never know whether or not permission is validly given, shouldn't we just forego all these healing efforts? Or should we proceed only when we are absolutely certain that permission is validly given? If so, then who among us has absolute certainty in these matters? Who deserves the right to participate in healing and who doesn't? And who decides who has that right? Sometimes getting permission from the client is awkward. If I notice someone in distress on an airplane should I go up to them first and say, "Pardon me, I notice you are in distress and I would like your permission to mentally tap on your energy system while sitting in my seat." If I did this, I fear the flight attendants would give me a parachute and show me to the door. Perhaps I should just mind my own business while someone unnecessarily "white knuckles" it through the flight. Is this being respectful of

the person's privacy--or am I being irresponsible by withholding healing relief? Looked at in this way, I am in a lose-lose position. I'm the last one to encourage harmful measures. On the other hand, there appears to be a greater risk of harm to others (statistically speaking) when we drive our cars. Further, surgical procedures and certain medicines (all of them applied with noble healing intention) carry far greater statistical risk than what has been reported for surrogate/intentional healing (with or without permission). Yet such healing interventions are undertaken every day. Many of them are even heralded as miracles. More harm has been reported from the use of sugar, pesticides, second hand smoke and dental mercury than from well meant surrogate/intentional healing efforts. Even aspirin has more reported negative effects. There are very long lists of known harmful influences on people. However, our topic at hand has not made any of those lists. I've never seen well intentioned healing efforts listed anywhere as hazardous to one's health. Everyone needs to weigh the pros and cons of all this and make their own decision. Personally speaking, this debate has caused me to interrogate my own efforts in this regard. I went back through all my experiences with non-permissioned healing work and assessed the results. I am aware of some delightful successes but unaware of any harm that may have been done. I also remember some apparent duds where nothing seemed to happen. It's as though a Guiding Hand monitored my efforts, letting through that which was useful while deflecting the errant tries. I recalled that my successes were accompanied by a loving, but detached effort where I was making the attempt WITHOUT ANY INVESTMENT IN THE OUTCOME. It was a sort of unconditional Love Letter where I put my loving intention "out there" (augmented by EFT) and just noticed what happened. It was like I was offering the healing effort in a loving manner and trusting the Guiding Hand to do with it what it will. It was healing done THROUGH ME rather than BY ME. I know that's not very scientific, but that's what it was like. There was a positive side benefit to this, irrespective of the degree of the client's healing improvement. When I put myself in a loving mood the one person who was sure to benefit was me. That is the meaning of the spiritual idea that "To give is to receive." When I genuinely give love I am receiving (experiencing) that which I am giving. This provides an environment for mutual healing. I like this idea of a Love Letter. To me, all healing should come from this place. Guidance is better when we are in the midst of a loving space. So are our insights and rapport. So is our health. Write a Love Letter someday and see how it feels. I've never seen genuine love harm anyone. Have you? Love, Gary P.S. Let's do an experiment on this topic. In the interest of science, I will be a guinea pig for your Love Letters. Pick out any issue(s) you think I might have and then send me your surrogate/intentional Love Letter. I mean a mental Love Letter, not a literal one. Make up some issues if need be. Speculate and guess as to whatever negatives I might be dealing with. Use EFT or any other healing technique you choose. Since I have no idea what issue(s) you might pick out, I cannot give or withhold specific permission. So do it without asking. Don't ask formal permission from a Higher Source either. Just do it from a well meant loving place. I'll take my chances on any negative effects. If I notice any, I'll be sure to let you know.

Follow up letter from Kalie Marino

Dear Gary, Your article on getting permission to heal is beautiful! Years ago I was warned about getting permission to heal so that I didn't violate a person's freewill. I carefully followed that advice until my 5 year old child lay dying of a terminal illness. The question of permission became much more complex. Not only was he too young to consent, because he obviously didn't know what was in his best interest, but, as his mother, I didn't know what was best for him either. Let me explain that statement. The day after we received my son's death sentence from the doctor, I had an experience of dying and coming back. I had a heart attack. My heart stopped beating. I saw my angel, the light, etc., and I made the difficult decision to come back, to evolve, to be here now. This experience forever changed me. I saw both life and death in a new light. I now knew that death isn't a problem; only fear of death is a problem. I knew my child would be just fine if he died. I wouldn't even want to deny him the beautiful experience of being in the loving arms of God that I had just had. I no longer even thought I knew what would be best for him. I remember crying as I prayed, asking God, "What should I do? Should I be using the healing gifts you gave me to heal him or should I be helping him make the transition? What should I even be praying for? I only want what is best for my child, no matter what that is." God answered my prayers very simply by saying, "Just love him. If he is to die, your love will help him make the transition, and if he is to live, your love will heal him." God's answer cut through all the complexity of the question. It made it easy to know what to do. So I went back to the hospital that day with the joyful job of loving my child with all my heart and soul, knowing that my love would make a difference, no matter what the outcome. As I entered his hospital room, my son was playing soldiers in his crib in spite of his high fever. His soldier had just been shot, and he had picked it up and was holding it in his arms very lovingly. I said, "That's right, honey. Love him. Love heals." He looked puzzled by my statement as he replied, "It doesn't matter, Mommy. He'll just be born again." I was shocked. I didn't even know he understood that concept. The innocence of a child's wisdom is a powerful teacher. From his reply, I thought he was probably leaving us, so I joyfully talked to him about letting his soldier follow the light. He said, "What light, Mommy?" I pointed up into the air and said, "The light of God" His pupils dilated as he looked up into the air with eyes wide open in a fixed stare, saying, "It's booootiful, Mommy." He was so fixated on what he was seeing that I thought he was leaving right then. Just then the nurses arrived to take him for a lengthy bone marrow test. However, they returned in less than an hour to announce that his blood platelets had miraculously returned to normal, so they didn't do the test. The doctor said he had only gone into remission and warned me not to get my hopes up. He said we would be back within the month for my son to die. My son, David, is now 34 years old, has 2 children of his own and is almost never sick. Love heals. We never need permission to love, because it is our true nature to love. Love is never conditional, but we do have conditions under which we are willing to love. Our only job is letting go of any conditions we might have on loving; blocks that stop us from loving, anyone, anytime, anywhere. For me, one of those conditions I had to let go of was "getting permission."

Love & Blessings, Kalie Marino Dr. Carol Look's Top 10 Tapping Tips Hi Everyone, Spend some quality time with this one. Dr. Carol Look has given us 10+ innovative ways to approach the tapping process. They provide creative avenues and add some fun to the process. Hugs, Gary

By Dr. Carol Look Hi All, I have compiled a list of my favorite tapping tips that have had a dramatic influence on my work and results with clients. Use any that work for you, but I highly recommend trying them all before you dismiss them, especially the ultra simple ones. 1. Opposite Hand Tapping: When tapping on yourself, use your non-dominant hand for a full day, then switch back to your dominant hand, and back again the next day. You could also alternate from round to round of EFT. In my personal opinion, alternating in this way is very helpful because it allows you to more fully integrate the emotional material that you are working on. Of course, we usually favor one side, tending to be right-handed or left-handed, so making use of the "other" hand while tapping through emotional conflicts helps to more fully neutralize the issues. (For those of you who do telephone sessions as either client or practitioner, switch the phone from side to side regularly as well, so alternating ears are "hearing.") Here is another variation...Cross Over Tapping:Cross your hands over each other when you tap---so your right hand is tapping on your left side of your face and body, and your left hand is tapping on the right...at the same time. Also, consider tapping while in different positions. Aren't you always sitting down while tapping? Try standing up when usingEFT, try lying down, tap while you are rolled over on your side. Notice if any new material surfaces. Our bodies are brilliant, and have stored so much information for us. 2. Argument Tapping: I love using this process with clients in a group setting, because most people find it surprising and amusing and seem to get something of value out of it. When you are tapping, voice both sides of an argument with another person around an issue of self-esteem or conflict about yourself. For instance, let's say your mother or father said you "wouldn't amount to anything"...(or that "people like you can't get wealthy"...or that "people like you are never satisfied"...etc) Take both sides and argue the points while you tap, alternating the sides with each consecutive point. For instance, start with the karate chop point, and say, Even though he said I was no good and wouldn't amount to anything, I choose to accept myself now anyway... Then move to the regular sequence of points and tap as if you are arguing with another person as follows: a. Eyebrow: You won't amount to anything... b. Side of Eye: Yes, I will...

c. Under Eye: No you won't... d. Under Nose: Yes I will... e. Chin: Don't be ridiculous... f. Collarbone: I'm smart enough... g. Under Arm: Who are you kidding? h. Top of Head: I know I can do it...

Be sure to follow how the argument is "looping" in your memory, and vigorously argue both sides. This will help chop down a lot of "trees in your forest." Proceed with other similar arguments. TheArgument Tapping technique is wonderful for the brain, for the emotional release, and I expect that the absurdity of it all will surface for many of you and feel quite relieving. This is also useful for getting the tail-enders into your tapping. The next variation of Argument Tapping is to argue with yourself while tapping. When you are tapping and saying something positive, for instance, I know I have what it takes to be successful...you might 'hear" a tail-ender that says "No I don't!" Use whatever tail-enders that come up for you in your current round of EFT. So again, you are arguing, but this time with yourself...it would sound like this: a. Eyebrow: I have what it takes to be successful... b. Side of Eye:No I don't... c. Under Eye: I am smart enough to figure this out... d. Under Nose:No I'm not! e. Chin: Yes I am! f. Collarbone:No I'm not... g. Under Arm: I accept my feelings... h. Top of Head:I appreciate who I am...

3. Refusal Tapping: When you are using EFT, do one full round of Refusal Tapping to get over the issue you have selected. We have all been told what to do, controlled on a regular basis, influenced by others and manipulated all our lives, and when trying to change, it is very natural to experience an enormous amount of emotional resistance. Part of us believes the change is threatening to our survival. Try giving this part of you a voice for a change, and feel the relief of saying No! Don't be surprised when this technique speeds up the change you were intending. (I highly recommend using this Refusal Tapping technique is very helpful with chronic illnesses.) Your round from the eyebrow point to the top of the head would proceed as follows: a. Eyebrow: I refuse to give this up... b. Side of Eye:Don't even try to make me... c. Under Eye: I am so happy I don't have to get rid of this... d. Under Nose: I refuse to change... e. Chin: You can't make me... f. Collarbone:Ha ha, I'm keeping this problem... g. Under the Arm:You can't make me get over this... h. Top of the Head:I REFUSE TO LET GO OF THIS ISSUE.

4. Look in the Mirror: While tapping several rounds in a row, look into the mirror. This will help you in several areas. (a) This extra boost will encourage you to absorb the positive affirmation of the setup statement more fully(I deeply and completely love and accept myself).

(b) It will help you when you need to use visualization instead of regular tapping if you are in a public place and don't feel free to tap on your face and body. You will now have a picture and corresponding memory of what you look like when you tap. (c) This technique will allow you to see the subtle changes that occur in muscle tone, color and energy in your face and body as you tap. Definitely make use of these clues. 5. Singing Affirmations (while you tap): You may either sing the entire round from negative to positive, or just use singing on the second round when you are "installing" the positive statements. As usual, I do the first round focusing on the "problem" and often switch during a second round (before doing setup phrases again) to more positive statements (such as Pat Carrington's CHOICES), goals, and intentions. So during this second round, sing your affirmations instead of speaking them. This helps activate the right brain (which is why we use humming in the 9-gamut procedure) and any time we are doing something to promote balance between our two hemispheres of the brain, we are moving towards emotional and physical health. 6. Thank You Tapping: Do at least 3 rounds in a row while tapping on your "Thank You List." See below: a. Eyebrow:Thank you God (Spirit, Universe, Higher Power, Source, Universal Intelligence) for such an abundance of loving friends in my life. b. Side of Eye:Thank you God for bringing me the perfect clients for my business. c. Under the Eye:Thank you God for resolving that disagreement so quickly. d. Under the Nose:Thank you God for bringing that wonderful miracle through me to my client who was in pain. e. Chin: Thank you God for my vibrant health and energy. f. Collarbone:Thank you God for all the blessings I have in my life today. g. Under Arm:Thank you God for bringing me such peace in my life. h. Top of the Head:Thank you God for continued guidance and clarity on my path.

7. Guest Tapping: When you are tapping at home alone, wouldn't you like some extra help? Choose your favorite EFT practitioner, someone you want to give a test run, or Gary Craig, and pretend he or she is tapping for and with you. Picture it, feel it, hear their voice (you might have this in your head from a class or some of the videos). This will help those of you who don't think you're good enough at tapping (even though you are...) and opens up your treatment options tremendously. Allow your intuition to choose someone. And don't be surprised when the "guest tapper" comes up with profoundly brilliant ideas! 8. Photo Tapping: Take out old family photos and identify feelings, themes, incidents and thoughts that were going on when the pictures were taken. You might even take out your high school year book (since High School seems to be so fraught with conflicted feelings for many people...) and tap a few rounds while you are looking at yourself. You may be shocked at how effective this is for bringing up emotions you thought had been "handled." Here are some options: a. Look at yourself in the selected photo objectively, and use words as if you are treating someone else... Even though he was feeling so vulnerable back then, he has a good heart and meant well...Even though he was so scared back then, he's a great person and has really matured. b. Use the first person singular... Even though I was miserable during this time because of that incident, I deeply and completely love and accept myself...Even though I was feeling so sad because of the rejection...Even though I was confused...Even though I didn't realize I was such a geek... J

c. Do the same for family members when you see them in the photos: Even though he was angry and said that hurtful thing to me...I deeply and completely love and accept myself...Even though he was drunk in that photo and I remember the fight we had, I choose to release the pain of it now and accept both of us.

9. Past Tense Tapping: After you have completed 2-3 rounds on whatever issue you have chosen, do a final round in the past tense, feeling what it would feel like if you had completely gotten over the problem (even if you haven't yet). Communicating to yourself this way is very effective. Really FEEL the relief you feel now that it is over!! This is critical. a. Eyebrow: I am so grateful I got over this problem... b. Side of Eye:I'm so relieved this is over... c. Under Eye: I am so happy I am free of this conflict... d. Under Nose:It's about time I got over that! e. Chin:Finally, it is in my past where it belongs... f. Collarbone:At last, relief and peace on this issue... g. Under Arm: I so appreciate all the progress I have made... h. Top of Head:Finally, I feel peace from that problem.

10. "You" Tapping: While tapping on one of your own issues, use the "second person singular" over and over again. For example, setup statements at the karate chop point would be: Even though you made a mistake, you were trying to do it right and are allowed not to be perfect...Even though you didn't mean to hurt her, consider accepting all of you and your feelings...Even though you don't want to forgive yourself, try accepting your feelings anyway. Then tap the sequence of points using "you" as the subject: a. Eyebrow: You made a mistake... b. Side of Eye:So what? c. Under Eye:You meant well... d. Under the Nose:You are human... e. Chin: You don't need to be perfect... f. Collarbone:You are lovable anyway... g. Under Arm:You are such a good person... h. Top of head:You are totally lovable and worthy anyway.

And, FINALLY, a BONUS Tapping Tip... Much gratitude to all my clients who have taught me how to be a more effective tapper. 11. Kiss and Tap: Kiss someone you love on all the face points and say I love you. Great for kids! Great for lovers! Also, kiss yourself on the 5 finger points of both hands, the karate chop point on both sides, the gamut spot, and any other spots you can reach. J Do this very tenderly. Carol Look Surrogate tapping and collarbone breathing Hi Everyone: The latter part of this letter displays the important subject of surrogate tapping. I have done this myself with mother and child and had success. EFT seems more consistent when the client is tapped directly but sometimes the circumstances don't allow direct tapping. The lesson in this letter could prove invaluable if you are faced with such a scenario. Hugs, Gary

LETTER: Hi Gary, I had a very exciting experience today and wanted to share it with you. I have been working with a young boy (just turned 8) for the past 9 months. He is the most severely traumatized child I have ever worked with, having experienced sexual, physical, and emotional abuse mainly at the hands of his father. He has dealt with his trauma by dissociating when he is under a great deal of stress or whenever he becomes uncomfortable with what is going on in his life. Father has only been out of the home for about 3 months, and this boy is experiencing constant triggering of more and more memories of abuse. I have been using TFT/EFT and TAT with him since I first began his therapy. About 6 weeks ago I was called by his mother and made an emergency home visit. This boy was switching back and forth between two personalities and was out of control. I worked with him for about 30 minutes using EFT and Tapas Accupressure Technique (both of which he is very familiar with). Although we were making some progress, I was becoming discouraged (which is not common for me!). My intuition told me that a collarbone breathing exercise might be the answer - and much to my amazement it worked like magic! Half way through the procedure his eyes started to sparkle, he started to smile, and we successfully balanced his energy field! This was so exciting to see! Since then he has asked his mother to help him with the "breathing exercise" on two occasions. Today he came for his weekly appointment, and was pretty crabby when he arrived. He wanted his mother to buy him a new toy he wanted and she said no. He sulked, pouted, became rude, and at one point went to the washroom and from there found an empty office and hid. We were frantic, thinking he had run out of the building. I found him in the fetal position under a desk. His mother carried him back to my office where we tried to persuade him to do EFT with us (he is very familiar with and agreeable to both TFT/EFT and TAT). He refused. We encouraged. He cried. We tried adult logic with him - no go! I realized that he was in such a major psychological reversal that even discussing this with him (which we have done in the past) was not going to work. He decided he wanted to keep feeling bad! By this time he was extremely upset, and knowing him as well as I do I knew it was not safe to let him leave the office in this state. His mother was sitting beside him holding him as he cried, and I asked if I could tap her as his surrogate. She agreed to this, so we proceeded. She held him in her arms with his head on her shoulder. I rubbed the sore spot while she said the affirmation "I deeply and completely accept myself even though I am feeling so upset", and then I tapped her meridians while she tuned into his feelings. It was truly amazing to watch his tension and distress reduce!!! After 2 holons she asked him how he was feeling, and he replied, "I'm at a 2 now." This was especially amazing because he watched me tapping his mother and yet at this stage he participated as if he had received the tapping directly. After we did another holon and got the feelings down to a 1, he asked his mom to help him with the "breathing exercise" (collarbone breathing). He decided after the first set that it would be a good idea for him to do it a second time. And so, after about 25 minutes we were able to end our session with a mother and small boy leaving my office, both with smiles on their faces. And I was able to end my day knowing that once again EFT had performed a miracle! I ask myself after sessions like this one, just what did I do before TFT/EFT????

Gary, thank you for this opportunity you make available to correspond with you and the members of the list. I hope this idea of surrogate tapping is something that other therapists who work with young children will find useful when the child is unable or unwilling to participate directly. Although I often do the tapping on a child, this is the first time I have tapped on a surrogate. Isn't this exciting!!! Author name withheld for privacy reasons. A short version of the Collar Bone Breathing Technique Hi Everyone, The Collar Bone Breathing Technique is taught in The EFT Course and described in The EFT Manual. It can be useful when you are stuck on an issue ... but ... it does take awhile to perform. Ben Meijer from the Netherlands has experimented with a shorter version of it. You might wish to give it a try. Hugs, Gary

By Ben Meijer

Collar Bone Breathing is one very usefull exercise when you get stuck in EFT, after you have done some of the easier things such as the PR correction out loud with lots of emphasis, and maybe corrected some of the reversals. It can be foud in in Gary Craig's EFT manual page 51 (page 59 in acrobat reader) Because CBB is time consuming and cumbersome, I started experimenting. I created a shorter version, and have been working with it with complete success for over 1 year now with my clients and in the courses I teach. Please refer to Gary Craig's EFT manual to compare the below short version of Collar Bone Breathing (sCBB) with the original. Short version of Collar Bone Breathing (sCBB):

With one hand, hold both Collar Bone points (K27). With the other hand, tap on the Gamut Point of the first hand. Mentally repeat the reminder phrase (of the issue of which the 0-10 intensity score will decrease) while tapping, as doing so out loud would cause you to lose the breath we want to hold during this excercise.

So, count to 3 and take a large breath, and hold your breath in this maximum inhale position. Relax your ribcage but hold your breath. In this position, tap 10-12 seconds, repeating the reminder phrase mentally. Now, exhale to middle position. (middle between inhaling and exhaling). Again, hold your breath here. In this position, tap 10-12 seconds, repeating the reminder phrase mentally. Subsequently, exhale all the way forcibly, let all the air out of your lungs. Again, here you hold your breath. In this position, tap 20-30 seconds (or a bit longer), repeating the reminder phrase mentally. When you really start to want to breathe in, do so, inhaling once again to the maximum inhale position. Relax your ribcage but hold your breath. In this position, tap 10-12 seconds, repeating the reminder phrase mentally. Now, exhale to middle position. (middle between inhaling and exhaling). Again, hold your breath here. In this position, tap 10-12 seconds, repeating the reminder phrase mentally. Subsequently, exhale all the way forcibly, let all the air out of your lungs. Again, here you hold your breath. In this position, tap 20-30 seconds (or a bit longer), repeating the reminder phrase mentally. Now relax your breath, and tap a round on all EFT tapping points (without the setup) as your catch your breath. Take a 0-10 intensity reading. Kind Regards, Ben Meijer When it doesn't work.....??? Introduction to this extensive answer: When progress with EFT seems stopped--or it seems like "it doesn't work"--EFT is usually not the problem. Rather, the reason for the lack of progress can most often be traced to the inexperience of the user. Why do I say this? Because those who master EFT don't miss very often. They not only get their share of "one minute wonders" but, compared to conventional techniques, impressive progress is also made for just about any problem with an emotional cause-including many physical ailments. In those cases where the masters are stumped, however, they don't point the finger at EFT for "not working." Rather, the masters ask themselves questions like....

"What's in the way here?" "What have I not seen yet?" "What core issue have I been unable to find?" I'm not saying here that EFT is a panacea for everything. It won't paint your toenails, for example, nor will it allow you to drink gasoline. But just about anything that has an emotional cause--including many physical ailments--is a clear candidate for EFT. It often works beautifully, even in the hands of a beginner. But that doesn't mean we have perfection here. We are still learning and should give thanks for those "tough cases" that challenge us to perfect our skills. Those who want to achieve mastery of EFT will be interested in the following reasons why it sometimes appears that EFT "doesn't work." Menu for reasons why "it doesn't work" The EFT Course was not completed properly. The problem is being approached too globally. The Setup was not performed completely enough. The client is switching aspects. A core issue is interfering. Sometimes all that's missing is the human touch. Some other procedure (e.g. 9 Gamut, Collarbone Breathing) is called for or some other points need to be tapped. Although relatively infrequent, there may be an "energy toxin" involved which is thwarting the process.

The EFT course was not completed properly. I know it is tempting to skip through all those video tapes and audio tapes to get to "your topics." Many people do this despite the instructions given on the first page of the EFT Manual. This often results in taking the EFT Course out of order or, even worse, ignoring parts of the course altogether. When this happens, the importance of certain topics (e.g. aspects, psychological reversal, being specific, persistence, etc.) go unappreciated and are ineffectively used. You can learn The Basic Recipe from reading the manual and watching the first EFT videotape. From there, many people go out into the world and apply it to clients, friends & family--often with superb results (including some "one minute wonders"). However, if they don't study the rest of the EFT Course (in proper order), these practitioners are certain to scratch their heads in some instances and say "it doesn't work." Maybe Psychological Reversal needs to be done more emphatically. Maybe the client is actually making progress but is shifting aspects behind the scenes. Maybe the core issue hasn't been discovered yet. Maybe the problem is being approached too globally. Maybe, maybe, maybe. These topics, as well as many of the other topics in this Question and Answer section, are covered in the EFT Course. The EFT Course not only teaches The Basic Recipe in great detail but it also goes on to display the "art of delivery" with over 80 people in live sessions. You see and hear how people respond. You are taught ways to get at core issues and how to deal with aspects, Psychological Reversal etc. And because it's all on videotape you can watch it repeatedly to pick up more fine points. The more fine points you pick up the more masterful you will be and the less you will say, "it doesn't work." I can't emphasize this "take-the-EFT-Course-properly" suggestion too strongly. Therein lies the foundational problem beneath almost every "it doesn't work" claim I've ever heard. In the hands of an

artist, EFT can restore clients' lives into the living masterpieces they were meant to be. For a practitioner to fall short of that is to miss the real "juice" in this procedure. Back to top Back to Menu for reasons why "it doesn't work"

The problem is being approached too globally. The EFT Course stresses the value of being specific where you can. Some people tap on generalized anxiety (a VERY global problem) and wonder why their results are either temporary or non-existent. The reason is because global items such as generalized anxiety, self image problems, persistent anger, childhood abuse, etc. are comprised of numerous specific past events. The sum total of ALL of one's specific fears, rejections, traumas, guilt, etc. evolve into such global problems as generalized anxiety and self image problems. Approaching the problem too globally is a fairly common error by newcomers. To illustrate, here's a letter I just received along these lines... "...... I cannot successfully treat my own Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I have used EFT while focusing on "my anxiety problem" or the binge eating, or generalized mental paralysis that sometimes ensues, and I feel slightly better following, but there is no lasting effect." Usually we need to break a global issue down into its specific parts and neutralize each of them independently. This is clearly illustrated on "6 Days at the VA," a videotape in our EFT Course wherein EFT is applied to our Vietnam Veterans. Rich, the first vet on the tape, had "over 100 war memories that were 10's." These contributed to his more general ailment known as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). We used EFT with a couple of specific events on film and Rich worked with 3 or 4 other specific events on his own. As a result, all 100 of the memories faded and ceased to bother him. You can tap on a global issue, of course, and still make headway. However, the progress will usually seem gradual as the process will tend to chip away at the various aspects of the larger problem. One advantage of working with specific events is that we can usually provide relief for them rather rapidly, thereby allowing the client to recognize the result immediately. Another advantage is that, after knocking down a few of those negative trees in that negative forest, the whole forest tends to fall. It's as though each of the individual specific trees have items in common with all the rest of the trees. A generalization effect tends to occur and the whole problem becomes cleared. I have seen this many, many times. Back to top Back to Menu for reasons why "it doesn't work"

The Setup was not performed completely enough. The Setup is that procedure within The Basic Recipe that corrects for Psychological Reversal (PR). When PR is present it blocks the whole process from working. So, if you aren't getting anywhere, you would be well advised to "start from the top" and perform The Setup more thoroughly. By this I mean to tap the Karate Chop point harder or rub the Sore Spot more vigorously while emphatically saying (even yelling) the affirmation. On many occasions I have been stuck and, after having the client rub that sore spot with great vigor and literally YELLING the affirmation, we broke through the PR barrier and proceeded to get our normal results. One example of this is on our Steps toward becoming The Ultimate Therapist tapes where one participant, Richard, was having difficulty getting EFT to "hold" on a stomach distress that he had suffered from for years. A few moments of an emphatic Setup (including yelling) and the problem lifted. Richard wrote me months later that his stomach ailment went away and stayed away except for rare occasions when he had unusual emotional

stresses. All previous efforts with tapping (of any form) produced only temporary results at best. Also, let me extend a thank you to Dr. Fred Gallo for introducing what he calls Criteria Related Reversals. In his experience, people who are stuck in reversal may find it useful to focus the affirmation more specifically. Examples might be... "Even though I don't deserve to get over this _________" "Even though it isn't safe for me to get over this _________" I have used this myself with good success and recommend it as a useful tool. Another way to approach PR is as evidence of a major secondary gain or loss--that is, a much larger issue hiding beneath the presenting problem. This is the presumption I make when I am making no progress. I start looking for core issues. Once found, the reversal problem seems to fade and the client reports relief. We are still learning here and I'm not sure if this theory is correct. It works well in practice, however. Back to top Back to Menu for reasons why "it doesn't work"

The client is switching aspects. Often, the client makes good progress but doesn't report it because s/he keeps switching to new aspects of the problem. The original aspects are actually relieved but the remaining aspects still cause distress. The client is not at fault here because s/he is often unable to distinguish between the relief already obtained and the stress still remaining. This happens frequently and serves to fool both the client and the EFT practitioner into thinking "it doesn't work." Here's an example. Suppose a client still exhibits trauma symptoms from an auto accident of 20 years ago. When asked what bothers them about the accident the client says, "The headlights!! The headlights!! I can still see them coming at me." EFT is then applied to the headlight emotion and the client is then asked if the accident still bothers them. The client says, "Yes." Unless one investigates further here, it would appear that the client is making no progress and that EFT "didn't work." If, instead, the client is asked, "Do the headlights still bother you?", the typical response will be something like, "No, but I can still hear the screams in the car." Do you hear another aspect? Sure. Now it is the screams in the car. Once that is relieved you may run into other aspects such as guilt for going too fast, anger at the other driver, etc. Many emotional issues are single-aspected and it only takes one or two rounds of EFT to give them relief. They are among our "one minute wonders." Others, of course, have many aspects and require more diligence. How do you find these aspects? The process is usually simple. Just ask the client to describe the problem after each round of EFT and notice how their language changes. They may start out, for example, talking about the problem in terms of fear and, after one round of EFT, discuss the problem in terms of guilt. Also, the events they focus on may change (e.g. from headlights to screams). Further, the physical sensations in their body may change from, perhaps, a "tightness in the stomach" to a "constriction in the throat." The alert student might notice here that this "aspect switching" problem, while appearing to give evidence that EFT "doesn't work," actually gives resounding evidence of the opposite. The reason the

client switches aspects is because the original aspect was given relief. The headlights are no longer a problem (EFT success) so now the client focuses on the screams (the next aspect in line). Back to top Back to Menu for reasons why "it doesn't work"

A core issue is interfering. This was covered above under the section on The Setup but bears elaboration here. When an important core issue is "hiding" behind a lesser presenting issue, the whole process seems to falter. This is because the real issue is not being addressed. Finding the core issue is what therapists are trained to do, of course. It is the centerpiece of the therapeutic art. One way to find the core issue is to listen to how the client describes the problem. The keen ear will pick up the clues leading to "the bottom line." Another way is to develop the intuitional ability to hone right in on the real issue. This is demonstrated in great detail in our Steps toward becoming The Ultimate Therapist tapes. Before I began to develop (trust) my intuitional skills, I would just simply ask the client questions like, "If there was a larger emotional issue here, what might it be?" I know that question seems elementary but I found it to be quite successful. I would ask them the question and often they would say, "I don't know." Then I would gently prod them to give me an answer. I might just ask them to guess or I might use my favorite NLP question and say, "If you did know, what would it be?" Eventually, they give an answer and it almost always takes us in a useful direction. Back to top Back to Menu for reasons why "it doesn't work"

Sometimes all that's missing is the human touch. There is something about the "connection" between two people that sometimes allows the process to work more efficiently. I know this is an intangible item that doesn't lend itself well to scientific scrutiny. Nonetheless, I have seen plenty of anecdotal evidence for it. Sometimes, I find, the process will appear not to work UNTIL the practitioner physically taps on the client. Then, almost magically, the problem fades away. This is fairly rare but it DOES happen. Back to top Back to Menu for reasons why "it doesn't work"

Some other procedure (e.g. 9 Gamut, Collarbone Breathing) is called for or some other points need to be tapped. As you recall, a short cut to The Basic Recipe was introduced in the EFT Course wherein (1) only half of the points needed to be tapped and (2) it was suggested that the 9 Gamut and Collarbone Breathing procedures could be put "on the shelf" until needed. So, if you aren't progressing, these previously omitted points and procedures could be reinstated. The need for this is infrequent, however. I would pursue the above avenues first. Back to top Back to Menu for reasons why "it doesn't work"

Although relatively infrequent, there may be an "energy toxin" involved which is thwarting the process. I have seen clear evidence of this phenomenon, especially in cases of depression and hyper kinetic children (Ritalin users). In fact, it appears to me that often these latter maladies are CAUSED by the offending food or substance and that the only thing necessary to give relief is the removal of the item(s) from the person's environment. Once that is done, tapping may not be necessary. Generally, I find the interference of "energy toxins" much less pervasive than do those who practice Dr. Callahan's TFT. To me, persistence in looking for the core issue (the boil beneath the surface) is more likely to be effective than trying to search for an energy toxin. Energy toxins (if they REALLY are the problem) can be discovered by muscle testing. However, to do the job thoroughly, one would have to painstakingly test an imposing list of things people eat, drink, breathe, wear or otherwise come in contact with. Another way to go about this is to have the client eat ONLY the following ORGANIC foods for one week: Fruits, vegetables (except corn), rice, nuts, seeds and filtered water. NOTHING ELSE!!!. No sugar, bread, pasta, coffee, tea, ice cream, salad dressing, tobacco, alcohol, etc. This allows the system to "clean house" as the items included in the above diet are rarely toxic. In the vast majority of cases, if toxins are indeed a problem, you will be able to proceed much more easily with the tapping after several days to a week of this diet. If this doesn't work, proceed to eliminating perfume, deodorants, soap residues and other items that are in one's environment.