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I.
The idea of love was a constant preoccupation from the time I was old
giving Belle a library of her own, and Thumbelina and Cornelius skimming
their toes across the surface of ponds, and oh, how I wanted a Beast, or a
rhapsodizing over them in the diary I started, clumsily, when I was seven and
commandeer the small, rickety nipa hut in the corner of the playground,
because Miguel always came running in from the swings, clambering up the
few steps to play bahay-bahayan with us. I was always the mommy, and he
was the daddy, and we had two children, a dog, and a yaya. Our interaction
was limited: as the father, he stayed only for the breakfast I served our small
family on small pieces of paper torn from our notebooks, and then drove off
to work, the office conveniently located near the swings. And yet, cocoons
and I never knew what these meant, always just reveling in the fact of our
marriage until the ringing of the bell, sharp and tinny, promptly put an end to
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Today, other boys’ names jump out at me as I read the pages of my
diaries, edged with decorative lines and lined with crisp black letters: Martin,
the boy I saw at Sunday mass, every week without fail. He kept my sense of
to pray, when he was a few pews ahead of me. Jolo, a boy from the village
with whom I exchanged over a thousand text messages with every few days,
a brief affair that lost its intensity almost as quickly as the fading of the
summer heat. Justin, with whom I had danced, slowly, to “The Nearness of
A professor told us that Romeo and Juliet had to die for theirs to be a
talisman, an ideal. Their love was only as truthful as it was short-lived. I was
always secretly relieved when these little affairs amounted to nothing, just
brief memories that I could laugh over later on, when, years later, I could
palpably feel the old, worn, giddiness as I read and imagined. I imagined
myself to be in love, when I was in the fifth-grade (despite the fact that
Martin and I had only had slight contact), and I imagined what it would be
like to be kissed in high school. Everything - the jittery feelings, the slow
curling of heat in my stomach, sending shivers all the way down to my toes -
was important insofar as it was in the imagining, written down, like the tales
And I imagine everything to be much like the golden statues that were
fashioned after the lovers, as Shakespeare tells it: glittering sharply, briefly
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in the rays of sunlight that pass over it, then forgotten in the other things
that catch our eye, the skyline of the city, a handsome man, a crying child.
II.
I am not sure how old I was then – but I do remember that I was young
enough that I was allowed to venture outside the house that day in a thin
sando and red flowered shorts bought cheaply from Divisioria. Ate Annabelle
refused to let me and Patty, my younger sister, change out of the sandos we
wore every day under the blouse of our school uniforms because she said it
was a waste of laundry, when we had just worn it for half a day, and so I
I also remember it was late afternoon because Patty, Gabby, and I had
been allowed to venture out on our own to the park, four streets down from
ours, an hour earlier. I remember that it was a hot day, because when Gabby
pressed his head against my shoulder, while we were walking back, I could
feel the beads of perspiration that molded wisps of hair to his forehead. We
were hungry, and wanted merienda, and so, we walked back without anyone
house, and men speaking loudly to each other in Filipino, and our slippers
raised dust from the gravel as we hurried, hands reaching out to grasp each
other, as my sister, with her free hand, rattled the gate. It was locked - but
the top half was composed of white columns, around three inches across,
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spaced equally apart, and we were all tall enough to see through them and
remember.
I remember construction workers from the house being built next door,
clad in faded jeans, and loose shirts of varying colors surrounding a sack that
had previously contained rice as the red letters on the front proclaimed. It
was squirming, although one of the men was holding it by its knotted top,
tied firmly with straw rope wound around and around. It was squirming and
yelping, and I was a child, but the keening cries of pain and death tore into
my ears, the first time I had ever heard those come from our terrier,
imaginatively named Terry, and I knew, I just knew that he was screaming,
writhing in the sack as another man struck him again and again and again
with a block of wood, long and thick enough to be held comfortably and
I forgot about my sister and my brother, both younger than I was then,
both beside me, all three of us with our faces pressed against the bars and
screaming so loudly you could no longer tell his cries from ours, so loudly
begged them to stop, how long we stood there – did we stand there,
clutching the bars of the gate, until someone saw us and dragged us away?
Or did we witness everything down to the last drawn-out cry, the moment
when the sack went limp and the man holding the wood finally lowered his
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Later on, after I had succeeded in relegating it to the dust of the
containing I had written when I was very young. In the many badly-written,
stenography notebook, crisp and white, still, with a notation penned at the
end, in my father’s crisp, decisive printing. There, I had written a short piece
pets. I had entitled it “For mY pet DOG.” My handwriting was awkward and
grammatical errors and misspelled words, but Dad kept it, not only because I
had written it, but because he told me that it was something that had to be
remembered.
III.
recounted the day he and Mom first met. My eyes used to widen
considerably at the thought of Mom, clad in a power suit with shoulder pads,
running across the room, hairpins falling, in pursuit of the man she believed,
at first sight, she was going to marry. I imagined Dad with more pepper and
less salt in his hair leaping across chairs, clambering on top of the
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work amounting to nothing, when, finally, Mom cornered him under the
mounted electric fans and trapped him inside a brown sack she whipped out
of her purse. I thought of Mom, kicking off her heels to make her job easier,
as she lugged him to her car and dumped him into the trunk, and how scared
my Dad must have been on the drive to Arellano, and how he stared around
him, bemused and bruised, when my Mom finally let him out of the sack and
genetic trait that ran in both the Go and del Rosario bloodlines, one that my
interspersed with whistles and occasional lyrics, and pik-pik failed to put me
to sleep, Mom and Dad would take turns telling me the stories of their
parents, wildly romantic, fit to be turned into a movie script by Walt Disney
caught in the sun, in a window high above the bustling streets of Cebu, in the
days when Coca Cola was worth only five centavos. I think of Ama, still
indicative of the San Juan Recoletos college, where she studied pharmacy,
walking home to the small house she shared with her large family. I think of
with a seventeen year old girl barely out of the schoolroom. I imagine him,
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staid and businesslike, offering her parents enough capital to start a
pharmacy in exchange for her hand in marriage, and his signature in black
ink across the marriage contract. And of him, years later, kissing his child-
bride before leaving for work, and calling her, affectionately, “Linda aku,”
dressed in a thin button-down shirt, driving slowly along the dusty roads to
visit friends in a nearby barrio. I see my Lola Ima, face smooth and unlined,
hair waved in the fashion then, walking, carrying a number of bundles and
baskets. I imagine him offering her a ride, and she, turning him down,
because a girl considered to be the prettiest in her community did not just
in a hot Manila night, shouting for her, as the guard dog, unused to male
intruders, nipped at his heels, barking furiously. I imagine him, forgetting his
exertions and the shirt that clung to his back, as the ice cream slid down his
throat like icy threads and saw the look on her face, the first time she had
ever tasted ice cream, their first date, and I think of how he proposed
Hearing one, or both of these stories kept me sleepless far into the
night, nowhere near the intent with which they were told, and when I finally
fell asleep, I did so with the certainty that one day, the gene would surface,
dominant, in my life.
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IV.
the inside of her forearm. I remember, too, asking her why she did that to
and frail as it was? I remember her smiling, a little sadly, as she told me, “It’s
Laughably, what flashed through my mind was the image of another friend’s
forearm, years before, in the sixth grade, when it had been the fashion
among our class to write and draw little things in the same place. There was
a technique to it – pressing deeply enough that the tip of the pen scratched
against your flesh, leaving not only traces of ink, but a slight raise in the
flesh that could be read easily but stung when you touched it.
And then, a year or so later, the day came, and it was like a blade,
That day, I learned that heartbreak is the farthest thing from the truth, that it
feels more like rough hands grasping frantically at your heart, twisting it
movement of blood. But this is never so: I walked to class, clutching at the
arm of a friend, a flush spreading over my face as hot tears slid into my lips,
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spreading salt in my mouth, and, later that night, as I struggled to write, how
I remember that day, and I wonder what my Dad thought the times he
answered a ringing phone and heard his oldest daughter gasping for breath
on the other end, in an effort to control her tears, and what he thought to
say when she broke down. “Anak,” he always began, in the middle of my
our ties could serve as stitches, black thread threaded through the eye of a
silver needle, a way of restoring what was now fragile, attempting to reverse
what a good friend had the sense to tell me, you are broken.
word could destroy the composure I had wrapped around myself, a group of
my friends, all girls, visited me at home and brought me a cake, still in its
bright red box. I remember sitting among them, silently, in the living room of
loosely, nudging it downwards along the side of the cake to appease them.
I chewed and swallowed. It tasted sweet, and I told them so. I thanked
them for coming, and became the recipient of many hugs, before they all
left. I sat down again and saw the imprints of the fork, the outline of its tines
against the dark frosting, and I thought of lines crossing an arm, and the
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all: I had received a cake – one we, singing and laughing, had often given
others, with candles stuck in the frosting - to commemorate the first time I
had ever experienced pain in such a boundless, limitless way, and I wrote it.
I remember that every time a twinge of pain, sharp and white-hot, like
a jolt of electricity, went through my body, palpable though not like flesh-
wounds, every time a song brought tears to my eyes or I saw the look on my
sister’s face as she entered the small bedroom we shared, and found me,
crying, day after day, every time, I took a pen and filled lines in a journal
crossed t’s what it felt like to have papers to pass, classes to attend,
conversations to make when you were frozen in time, what it felt like to hurt.
remember what I had previously written, and every line, every page
completed was another cut, angry and inflamed, another bruise, different
V.
parents tell us, because they keep the truth out of the equation, leaving only
the gleam of gold and the heady scent of sampaguita flowers, much like fairy
tales that end right after the characters fall in love, until they, or life, deems
it a necessary evil.
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Now, I wonder if my Ama stared blankly up at the ceiling while
Angkong forced himself inside her, perhaps a few days after he signed the
check that gave her parents money for a pharmacy. I wonder if tears welled
in her eyes, if she bit her lip to keep from crying out in pain and displeasing
dressed himself, or if she had a journal she had written things in, like me. I
wonder what she could have written. And I wonder if she realized that
something in her had been torn apart, destroyed by her husband-to-be, if her
dreams had fallen away the first time he thrust. If she thought of the
pharmacy her parents built with money he had given them, and of her
meaningless. I wonder what she felt the day the first stirrings of life caused
realized that every single dream of their marriage his wife had built, layer
upon shimmering layer, filled with home-cooked meals and money enough
for clothes, disappeared every time she felt his side of the bed sag as he
wonder if she gasped, if thoughts of leaving him crossed her mind, the time
he flung plates angrily at the wall, to shatter into millions of pieces, the
shards flying across the room, falling across the couch, one of them
embedding itself in the cheek of their youngest son. I wonder if she thought
about these things, back turned to her class, as she wrote the day’s lesson
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on the blackboard, dust from the chalk shimmering on her clothes, if she
drunk.
When we are children, our parents want us to know that the glitter of
are lucky: these younger memories written, when read years later only bring
later that we find that when we stare too long into the flare, flames lick at
our eyes, and we may become blind, that it will become impossible to see
the page as we attempt to chronicle our loss – and yet, the day may come
that another bright gleam will revive the spark that was once lost, and allow
Writing this, I remember the tears that sprang to Mom’s eyes the day
she told me how much Ama mourned when Angkong left their family to
settle permanently in Canada, how the smoke from the red-lit tip of Ama’s
cigarette wafted in the air, obscuring her face in the same way that tears
affected her vision, as she told her children, “Ngayon kung kelan ko
natutunan mahalin ang Papa niyo, ngayon pa niya ako iniwan.” I remember
my aunts telling me how my Ama smiled the day before she died, even with
tubes in her veins and in her nostrils, because she said their father had
visited them.
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I remember well the first torrent of tears my Lola shed, halfway
through my Lolo’s funeral mass, the moment she realized that he was gone,
that she would have to contend with an empty bed, an empty house, and
how she sagged helplessly against my father’s strong arm as they both
and more pictures of the two of them together were filling the house, from a
family portrait including all seven children, bearing their faces and
What our parents never tell us is that scars never fade, that the
the image of blood welling up in a perfectly straight line carved out on flesh.
Sometimes, it is enough for us to learn for ourselves that what they never
told us may also be wrong – that, sometimes, the muted gleam of blood can
be beautiful, a reminder of life and passion and humanity. And even just a
single line of black ink crossing an expanse of white is enough to revive all
this in our memory, to bring back the sensation of eyes rubbed raw by hands
that refused to admit weakness, the same hands that will reach out to
someone later on, to bring back the day we learned that love is entwined
with destruction and memory, that love is watching someone die: “written by
Tina after seeing the death of her pet dog, Terry, 1997.”
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