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BILL: “Midnight last night,” writes Grace, “I got out of bed to find my boyfriend at his
computer, the screen filled with porn. Ken admitted he’s been doing it all three years Explore deals, hidden
we’ve been together. When I told him it made me feel insecure, inadequate as a woman, vacation fiestas, the best
he promised never to do it again. Dr. Dave and Bill,” she ends, “can I believe him?” cruises and long-
weekend escapes!
DR. DAVE: A lot of men can take porn the way they take a drink. Now and then, or never at GO NOW!
all, and with no apparent harm done. But if Ken’s erotic interests are wrapped up in an
addictive cycle, Grace is probably going to be disappointed. EDIT ORS' PICKS
BILL: We all know how the sight of a pretty woman zooms from a guy’s eye directly to the Hamster? Gerbil? No, it's
testosterone with the speed of light, completely bypassing the heart and brain. My Snooki inside that ball!
difficulty is understanding how something can be addictive without introducing some new
chemical into the system Reality TV 'star' practices for
tonight's ball drop (love the
DR. DAVE: Several decades of science tell us that the major brain chemical in non-drug plastic cup, Snooks!)
addictions is dopamine. Eating, gambling, compulsive shopping and, sure, porn too.
Simply put, you get high on dopamine, and before you know it, you are chasing an even
Happy Stinkin' New Y ear:
greater dopamine fix in a fog of denial and delusion.
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BILL: Dave, what makes porn a For Men Only addiction? Celebrities and politicians too Garbage removal, street
numerous to mention all seem to confirm my admittedly non-scientific hypothesis. sweeping still days away, says
NYC sanitation boss.
DR. DAVE: Our society applauds “the stud,” the seemingly oversexed male. Women’s
sexual desires still get hidden in the shadows, lest they be called the ugly names we all
Russell Brand likely in t he
know. Just as women were the closet alcoholics of the 80s, they are the closet sex
doghouse for t weeting
addicts of this decade.
THIS pic
BILL: I recently read that what addiction M.D. Scott Perlman noted about Grammy Award The funnyman posted this photo
Winner Kanye West who says that his sex addiction contributed to his success! When he of wife Katy Perry with no make-
was in 7th Grade he created a sex-themed video game. As an adult he takes up on and quickly deleted it.
pornography with him everywhere he goes and says he “needs” sex at least twice a day.
What is she 'do-ing?!
DR. DAVE: Nor is it surprising to see that compulsive sexual behavior is often entwined Kardashian sports braids
with alcohol and drug abuse. Who can forget Kanye’s rant onstage about how Beyonce Reality TV starlet is
was cheated out of her trophy at the MTV Awards--where he was swigging Cognac photographed wearing tight
straight from the bottle on the Red Carpet? cornrows. VOTE: Hot or not?

BILL: So, sex addiction is an equal-opportunity compulsion, often hidden in women and
commonly wrapped up in a dual addiction to alcohol or drugs? The most notorious
Twitt er moment s of 2010
DR. DAVE: When we worked together at Scripps, you may remember how many couples
we discharged for jeopardizing their alcohol or drug treatment by having furtive sex Demi Moore tweeting of pics
almost anywhere but in their beds. Of course, the other issue was that they were each herself in a bikini was a
married to someone else! milestone in stupidity.

BILL: All of which—surprise! surprise! -- brings Lindsay Lohan to mind. Did you see how Mom, daughter accused of
the celebrity blogs were “a-twitter” at her last stay at the posh rehab called Cirque?
molesting same teen boy
Allegedly, Lindsay was caught in a compromising position with a male patient in a
for 3 y ears
bathroom cubicle when staff went to check on some unusual moaning coming from
behind the door. Police say the pair did it without
knowing about each other’s
DR.DAVE: I will let your imagination float with that; but the important thing was that, relationship with him.
several days later, when she was reportedly tested for substances — her urinalysis
came back positive for drugs, sources revealed.

BILL: Let me mention some non-scientific thoughts of my own about why women are
rarely addicted to porn. Early in my career, I used to write for Helen Gurley Brown at
Cosmo. “Bill,” she told me one day, “the sexes are equal, but not the same. Evolution
shaped men to want to impregnate as many women as possible. Which means, ‘Love’
em and Leave ‘em.’ Men can separate sex from love. The genetic structure in women
always remembers there may be a child, and she needs a man to stick around to help
raise that child. Women want involvement, they want romance.” Dave, times may have
changed. That genetic structure in women has not yet.

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DR. DAVE: Or, for the person who wants the more scientific perspective from The
National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity, an overview of the unique
characteristics of women who do experience compulsive sexual behavior or addiction
has been developed. For our readers who want more information on this subject and
women-specific treatment options, hit this website: the Sexual Recovery Institute.

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