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THE
WOUNDED CHILD WITHIN
A wounded child within presents in her symptoms all the information necessary to complete her
healing. These symtoms, which permeate and tyranize the adult's experience, are unsuccessful,
primitive attempts by the child within to heal herself. When these symptoms are recreated in the
child's body in the past, a new opportunity for suc cessful healing is provided.
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TABLE OF CO NTENTS
Introduction................................................................................................................................................. 5
Mathematical Rape............................................................................................................................... 57
Bibliography.................................................................................................................................................. 60
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
Introduction.............................................................................................................5
Introduction........................................................................................................ 9
Introduction....................................................................................................... 37
Separation ........................................................................................................ 39
Individuation......................................................................................................40
Maturation......................................................................................................... 41
Solutions............................................................................................................42
Recombination................................................................................................... 50
Proclamation.......................................................................................................51
Splitting............................................................................................................ 52
Completing The Intervention................................................................................ 53
"Fuzzy"..............................................................................................................55
Mathematical Rape..............................................................................................57
Bibliography..............................................................................................................60
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A CHILD'S BILL OF RIGHTS
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12. To find a passage through their
experience that does not
retraumatize them.
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INTRODUCTION
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When you have been wounded as a child,
you need to be healed as a child.
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What is the purpose of a wounded child within?
· The purpose of a wounded child within is to prevent a trauma (T) from
happening. The child achieves this by regressing to a point in time (T-
1) just before the worst moment (T), and maintaining the homeosta sis
at that point so that time does not progress and T does not occur.
* As a result of this phenomenon, a child within does not know what hap-
pened at T or if she survived T-1. Therefore, to reach a wounded child
within the therapist cannot use any context.
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Where is a wounded child within found?
· A child within occupies very specific places in the adult's body.
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* A child within may be split between two locations:
1. Dissociated: one part somatized (in the body) and another ob-
serving from outside the body
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Where do symptoms of a child within come from?
* Symptoms are born at specific traumatic moments in childhood. These
moments may range from something as simple as a look in a mother's eye
that pierces the soul or unkind words from a father that bruise the heart, to
repeated violent sexual or physical abuse.
* Because a child within cannot distinguish her internal feelings from her body
or the external environment, the child, her body and feelings, and the
external environment become fused in an undifferentiated information mass
and create a symptom complex which permeates her experience and
persists into adulthood.
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Condensation: The total traumatic experience is condensed
into a single moment. This is stored in the child's body as a so -
matic memory. For example, a perpetration takes 20 minutes.
This 20 minutes is condensed to a moment 2 seconds long in
which there is pressure of the perpetrator being on top. This 2
second interval sublimates into a pressure like a heavy rock. It
is this heavy rock symptom a client reports in therapy 20 years
later.
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"It's like a stone in my stomach."
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The only way a child within can influence the adult and let the adult know she is still
trapped is by recreating these symptoms of a knot in the stomach, a blankness in the head
or a heart pounding like a hammer.
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When is child within therapy indicated?
* When a client complains of persistent symptoms which do not dissipate or reduce significantly with other
therapies
· When a client presents with symptoms whose etiology directly relates to childhood experiences
When a client continues to experience discomfort or difficulty after a presenting problem appears
satisfactorily resolved ("Now I understand why I feel this way, and that's much better, but ....")
· When a client presents with symptoms that have no obvious or direct causati3n in the present
* When a client is resistant (This may be the child's communication that the Cher pist's approach is not helpful
and that a different approach is needed.)
· When a trauma has occurred in adulthood but was preceded by sensitizing childhood experiences
Contraindications
This approach is not recommended for:
* Psychotic or borderline clients
· Clients with severe multiple personality disorder
* Clients taking thenothiazines or benzodiazeines (These drugs suppress physiological affect. Clients
may exhibit interesting imagery, but a strong physiological correlative will be absent.)
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PRINCIPLES
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Introduction
Intelligence is used here in its etymological sense: the ability to read be-
tween the lines (from the Latin intellegere: inter: between, legere: lines). In
this approach, disciplined intelligence refers to the ability to hear and move
with the child within between the lines of adult expression
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T-Minus-One (T-1)
Concepts: T-1, T, and T+1 represent points in the time continuum of
a traumatic event. Duration may
range from 1/10 second to
several
hours. Normal duration is usually a few seconds to several
minutes.
T-1 T T+1
A moment in time The worst moment, A moment in time
just before the worst i. e., when affect is just after the worst
moment most intense moment
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T- 1 T
T+1
Rules
1. A child within is found at T-1.
2. The therapist's intervention must make sense solely to the child
at T-1.
3. Do not rescue the child at T-1.
4. A child who has grown beyond T-1 and T to T+1 has been em-
powered and can contribute to the psychic economy of the adult.
Examples:
1. A child who has been incested by her father always experiences him
walking into the room and sitting on her bed (T-1), i.e., before he
actually abuses her (T).
Questions Answered:
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Why can't the therapist rescue a child within before the
symptoms exacerbate?
T-1 T T+1
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Meta-Analysis: This section has illustrated how traumatic data is part of a specific time continuum.
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Information Storage Forms
Location Form
Form
CX
Cognition: "I think ..."
Within the adult (T+1)
.
coming to get me."
surrounding enviroment,
context
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and for the feelings in her own body . Individuating the child's body from
the environment allows movement to occur beyond T— 1.
When you are wounded as a child, 1. Gather all the information that belongs to the child at T-1 and separate it
you need to be healed as a child. into metaphor, memory and child within.
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Rules
I. Let the past be healed in the past by separating the adult's information
from the child's.
2. Individuate the child's body from her feelings and the environment.
3. The therapist's next question has to go to the same place (internal, body,
external) that the child within's last piece of information came from.
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( Information inside
the child's body
("I'm scared")
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Information about the The child is saying I want to move my body
child's body so I can get free from this environment. Heal
("I can't move") my body and empower it so I can move.
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Questions Answered:
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Learning Activity:
— I really want to understand why I keep feeling so angry. I think it has
something to do with when I was a child, but I'm not sure.
— And when you're not sure, whereabouts are you not sure when
you're not sure?
— In my head.
— And whereabouts in your head?
— Behind my eyes. It's like a blank.
— And is there anything else about a blank that's behind your eyes? —
He's coming in. I can't look, I'm scared.
— And you can't look and you're scared, and whereabouts are you
scared?
— In my stomach, it's tied up like a knot.
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Cognition
Metaphor
Child within
Memory
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Meta-Analysis: This section has explored information's four
locations and storage forms.
1. Conventional wisdom says: The client must own all her
feelings. By talking about feelings, the client will come to
understand why she has them.
Child within wisdom says: The child within does not
have to own those feelings. Individuation separates
feelings from the child's body and the environment so
that all forms of information can be grown appropriately
beyond T to T+1. A child within fragment can reach
T+1 without reliving the feeling or the memory.
2. Conventional wisdom says: Encourage the adult's
attempts to suppress symptoms as a means of providing
control.
3. Child within wisdom says: Separate adult cognition
from child within information to ensure that the
healing which occurs is the child's.
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OVERVIEW
"I'm Feeling
"
thought
CHILD WITHIN
", want to run away." And when (you) want to
run away what happens
next?
"I/ My Body
"He/It Environment"
Rule:
The last piece of information is usually the most important. For example:
— (C) I can't move and I'm scared.
—(T) And when you're scared, where are you scared? (internal locus) he's coming
to get me. (external locus)
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—( T) And he's coming to get you, and what happens next when he's coming to get
you?
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Example showing how metaphors help to transfer feelings in the adult's body to the child within.
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Metaphors help transfer feelings in the
adult's body to the child within by [I'm] not sure what [I] want.
switching pronouns from "I" to "it". The
first use of the pronoun "I" denotes — And when you're not sure what you
ownership by the adult. want, how do you know you're not
sure what you want?
T+1
Adult
Info
—[I] just go blank.
Transition for "I" to "it". — And in your head you suppose. And
when you just go blank and
it's
Use of "it" transfers ownership
from the adult to the metaphor
at T-1.
in your head, whereabouts in
your head?
Memory begins to form from the meta- — And is there anything else about a
phor of blank screen. large blank screen like that?
— A hospital curtain.
— And what happened next when a hospital
curtain is being pulled across? —
I get scared.
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The blank belongs to just little in the hospital and not to the adult.
— I get scared.
By changing the adult's "not sure" into the metaphor blank a memory
— And how old could you be when
you get scared?
is recovered from a blank curtain and inside the memory — I'm just little
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Changing Words Into Metaphors
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Metaphor: n., from the Greek 1.1.ctaCopot (a container): a form of
speech which transfers the sense of one word to another
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Rationale: Metaphors more closely approximate experience than words
because they contain more information than the words of ordinary
(adult) speech. This makes metaphors a useful medium of informa tion
exchange between the child and the tlierapist. The adult, on the other
hand, does not recognize the metaphor for what it is: "It's just a
word." Metaphors are a foreign language to the adult. This keeps the
adult from contaminating the child's experience.
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Rules
1. Symptoms are metaphors waiting to be born. The therapist must
value these negative symptoms above the adult's attempts to
suppress them.
1. Transform feeling and thought words into metaphors by asking
the question, "And when you have...where do you have...?"
2. Metaphors must make sense to the child within. They may or
may not make sense to the adult or the therapist.
3. Resistance is the metaphor's way of telling the therapist to stop what
Resistance is the metaphor's right she is doing.
to life campaign.
4. Any type of resistance, such as blocking, headaches or anxiety,
must be transformed into metaphor. Resistance transformed into
metaphor always contains the next element in the healing
process.
5. Interrogate the metaphor until it confesses its strength.
Questions Answered:
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Q. Can there be more than one metaphor?
A. Metaphors usually occur in sets of two or three. The most com-
mon set is the mind-body split when there is a metaphor in the
head, such as a blank, and a metaphor in the body, such as a
sharp knife in the heart. Both metaphors contain relevant
information. When they are brought together, the knife may
operate on the blank and transform into a pen ikhich draws all the
visual components on to blank paper.
Q. How does the therapist tell if the metaphor comes from the adult or
the child?
A. It doesn't matter which one the metaphor comes from. Its relevance
can be established only after it is formed.
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Meta-Analysis: This section has explored the value of transforming ordinary
language into metaphor.
3. Conventional wisdom says: The therapist can help the client by in-
troducing metaphorical allegories or teaching narratives. These
metaphors are based on personality profiles, and the therapist may
choose one that fits the client.
Child within wisdom says: The therapist learns to use the client's own
metaphors. Therapy provides an opportunity for both therapist and
client to discover metaphors already embedded in the client's
experience. There are no archetypes to these metaphors.
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Exercise for Developing Metaphors from Words
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If questions go to
the adult:
Re-direct to the
metaphors. For
example:
— And what would
you like to have
happen with...?
— I want to get rid
of...
— And when you
want to get rid
of....what
does...want to
do when you
want to get rid
of...?
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Developing Child Within
The First Clue: The first clue to a child's presence may be
* A shift in the tonality of the client's voice to a softer, whisper-like
quivering tone
* Client's use of the pronoun "I" (for example: "I'm scared") especially
if previous responses referenced only metaphor
* Client's use of the pronoun "he/she" (Indicates an adult observing
ego). For example: "She's cold and lonely."
Bringing The Child Into Being: Once identified, the child must be given a form
and sense of being. The following question brings the child into being: —I'm
scared.
— And when you're scared, how old
could you be when you're scared? —
Just little.
Defining The Child: Defining a child within requires defining both the child's
clothing and her surrounding environment. For example:
—And just little. And what could you be wearing when you're just
little?
— A dress.
— And a dress. And what kind of dress could that dress be?
— Pink.
—And pink. And is there anything else about a dress that's pink?
(Define in great detail any item of clothing.)
Other questions to define a child:
And when you're[ just little], do you have anything else on?
And is there anything else about you when you're [just little]? If
these questions draw no response, it usually means that there is no
body, or that the experience is pre-verbal. In these cases, ask
questions that go to the feeling inside or to the memory outside the
child's body. For example,
— And what happens next when you don't know how old you could
be?
Establishing Communication: Once the child is defined, communication be-
comes possible. Initially, communication is established solely between the child
and the therapist. Questions address the child directly to find out what she wants—
not what the adult thinks the child should have.
Objectives at this point are to find out what the child wants and to ask
questions to help her achieve that, and to grow the child toward T.
And what would...Ake to have happen?
And what would...Ake to do?
And how can that happen?
And what would be the first thing that would need to happen?
For example:
— And what would just little who's wearing a pink dress like to have
happen?
Developing Memory
When the focus of the child within is on the external environment, the therapist
must ask questions to establish the form of the ground, including people
present.
And is there anything else about....?
And...like what?
And what kind ...?
And where could .... be?
And who could....be?
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Maturing Information
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Concept: Because immature raw data results in repetitive negative symp-
toms at T-1, the first symptom information given by a child within is nor -
mally puzzling and incomprehensible. To make sense out of these
symptoms, they need to be matured and evolved. As symptoms are ma-
tured towards T, they get worse before they can get better.
T-1 T
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Rul e s
1. Information must be matured from data found in T-1.
2. All information from metaphors, memory and child within must be
matured until T where the information can be transformed.
3. Any information that has not been matured can repeat itself in the same or
similar symptoms.
4. The therapist must ensure that questions are experienced physiologically
("making words physical") as information is matured and that developments
are not just ideas or imagery from the adult or wishful child.
5. If the information has not reached T+1 by the end of a therapy session, the
child within must be "parked" in a safe place, at the furthest end of T-1 from T.
6. Things get worse before they get better.
Examples:
1. When a client presents with acute symptoms such as nausea, the therapist grows the information through 'I' into T +
1 to get a child within after she has thrown up, not before:
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— I think I'm going to throw up. T-1
The therapist encourages the metaphor to ma-
And as you think you're going to throw ture. By asking "What happens next?" time is
up, what happens next? moved on.
It's coming up.
— And as it's coming up then what The word "coming" is valued so that time can
happens? move forward. It denotes separation of feeling
— I think I'm going to die. from adult.
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And as you think you're going to die, The therapist values the word "die" and continues
how long does it take before you die? to move time by asking the client, "What happens
And what happens next after you die? next?"
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— And how long does nothing last and what "Nothing" exists in the time continuum, and after
happens after nothing? valuing "nothing," the client has new piece infor-
mation in T+1.
— I can breathe. I didn't die.
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and what would you like to do next?
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2. A young child will frequently want to sleep. When the child wakes, she is
older than when she went to sleep. Sometimes the child will have
matured several years. A clue to this: The bedroom will have different
wallpaper.
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Questions Answered:
Q. What if the child's symptoms are developed and the adult is not
happy with it?
A. The child has waited a long time to be heard. The therapist needs
to listen to her. If she is ignored, symptoms in which she tries to
commumicate will remain or exacerbate. The child's symptoms
need to be matured so she can be healed at T.
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Q. How does the therapist know if it is the adult or the child within
who is maturing the information?
A. The procedures are the same, whether or not the therapist knows
who is maturing the information. Once a solution is presented by
the client, the therapist asks questions to make words physical. If
the solution has come from the adult or a wishful child, these
questions will not receive answers that bring about movement to -
ward a solution. The therapist needs to continue asking questions
until a solution is found that is "do-able" by the child.
Meta-Analysis: This learning module has dealt with why and how data is
matured into information.
1. Conventional wisdom says: Data is obtained by taking a client's
history.
Child within wisdom says: Data that is relevant comes from the in-
formation sources at T-1.
2. Conventional wisdom says: Analyse data to understand why the
client feels anxious, then offer a crisis intervention, cognitive re-
construction or behavioral technique 4o counteract the anxiety.
Child within wisdom says: Don't analyse data. Mature it into infor-
mation from sources at T-1.
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Maturing Information
Questions to make parts of the child's body move: (My feet are stuck) And
what would (feet) like to have happen?
And what would (feet) like to do next?
And how can that happen?
And what could be the first thing that could happen so that (feet)
could...?
Then ask questions to make words physical, p. 33. These questions grow the
frozen fragment of the child along in time toward T to T+1.
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Maturing Information About Metaphors
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When all the qualities of the metaphor are known, time is matured by ad
dressing the metaphor with the following que0ions:
And what would ... like to have happen?
And what would ... like to do?
And as...(movemnt verb), what happens next?
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Clean Language
Concept: Clean language accesses the language of the child within (pri -
mary processing language) without contaminating it with the therapist's
metaphors. It is the therapist's responsibility to only ask questions that
feel just right to a child within.
Table of Comparison
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Lexical, word dependent "Ordinary" language use; the client talks about her
experience
Words are linguistic clues; lack of syntax, usual Sentences; case and grammar dependent
grammar
Use of primitive language of metaphors; symbols and A formalized language of models and similes
sounds, such as silence, grunts, groans, tremors
and shaking (A child within is most often
alexthinimic)
Draws out the contours of pre-traumatic experience Restricts information to an adult interpretation of the child's
trauma; only talks about trauma from an observer's
perspective
Time dependent, has a short half-life Not time dependent because it is dissociated from ex-
perience and can be recalled with minimal degradation
of meaning
Depends on the therapist's asking the right questions to Context can become merged with "solutions" the therapist
support the context offers
Structured according to its own internal logic Structured according to external logic dictated by grammar,
syntax and social context
Meaning depends solely on the information source Meaning depends upon both sender and receiver of
information
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Sends messages but is not interactive Sends messages and is interactive because it takes
into account the receiver
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Rationale: Clean language is used as a tool to:
* Create hygienic conditions within the client's experience, making the
event more amenable to transformation.
* Facilitate a state of self-absorbtion and naturalistic trance.
* Communicate effectively and efficiently with nonconscious
processes.
* Avoid contamination or deconstruction of the client's subjective
-r experience.
* Minimize resistance.
* Translate feelings out of words into physiological imagery.
* Achieve resonance and amplification of clients' language to discover
the source of their metaphors and symbols.
* Pinpoint accurately questions and statements that reflect the
client's model of the world.
* Empower the child within by using the child's primary processing
language.
Rules
A therapist is only as good 1. Ask questions answerable by the child within at T-1. If one question is
as her next question. not answerable, ask a different one.
2. Use the same verb form and tense as the client.
3. Use the subjunctive mood. This allows choices and solutions to
come from the information source.
4. Do not use the definite article "the".
5. Use "you" only when the client uses "I." "You" must be contextual-
ized so that it goes to the child, not to the adult.
6. Use "he" or "she" only if the client uses the pronoun, as it implies a
dissociated observing adult ego.
7. Begin each sentence with "And ...".
8. Use "And when ..." as a natural invitation to regress the client.
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Examples:
Clean Language Questions Ordinary Language Questions
What would you like to have happen? What can I do for you?
And is there anything else about that? How does that feel?
And as that happens, what happens next? Tell me what happened.
And what can happen so you don't have to be scared? What can you do to stop feeling scared?
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Questions Answered:
Child within wisdom says: Ask questions the child within can an-
swer. Use clean language to learn the child's lexicon so that she will
feel heard.
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