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FEBRUARY 2018
Department of Wit
13 Valentine’s Day Gifts
Are Silly. Unless ...
Robin McCauley definitely
doesn’t want gifts for Valentine’s
Day. Or does she?
Words of Lasting Interest
16 Say Yes to
P. | 29 The Ruined Dress
Coming to appreciate that
nothing in life is permanent,
READER FAVORITES except maybe that ink stain.
J E NNY ALLE N FROM THE BOOK
WOU L D EVERYBODY PLEASE STOP?
22 100-Word True Stories
26 Photo of Lasting Interest Finish This Sentence
32 Points to Ponder 20 I’ve Always Wanted to
34 Life in These United States Write a Fortune Cookie
50 News from the Saying ...
ILLUSTRATION BY NOMA BAR
World of Medicine
You Be the Judge
52 All in a Day’s Work
29 The Case of the Icy
83 Laugh Lines Walkway
106 Laughter, the Best Medicine A woman slips and falls after a
116 That’s Outrageous! snowstorm. Is her apartment
127 Word Power complex liable for nature’s
130 Humor in Uniform handiwork?
132 Quotable Quotes V ICK I G LE M B O CK I
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Relationships
40 How to Say I’m Sorry
P. | 124
(And Really Mean It)
LISA FIELDS
WHO KNEW?
P. | 120
Emily Whitehead (inset,
left), now 12, was two weeks
shy of her seventh birthday
when she received the
therapy that saved her life.
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me a letter she had received. It was was going to be hilarious. But I was
unique because it had only two things wrong. The author was as serious as
on the envelope: Grandma and 28904. a heart attack. Sure, I indulged last
It was the early 1960s, when the ZIP Thanksgiving, but I certainly didn’t
code was new. But those five digits strategize ways to gorge myself, and
got the letter to Hayesville, and in the I expressed my gratitude to my
tiny town of 428 residents, everyone hostess by bringing a nice flower
knew who “Grandma” was. arrangement. KARYN POOLE, MSN, RN,
REV. ROLAND HAUTZ, C i n c i n n a t i , O h i o P r e s c o t t Va l l e y , Ar i z o n a
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Storm Troopers
We often put the wrong people on a
pedestal. Our heroes are athletes and
movie and TV personalities, while
the people who should be admired A TRIBUTE IN TAPS
are brave souls like the Coast Guard
crew members who helicoptered into Our Everyday Heroes story
a hurricane to rescue stranded sail- about the man who taught
himself the trumpet so he could
ors. They deserve our respect and
play taps at military funerals
gratitude—and a lot more money for received an unusual number of
doing what they do! LYNDA SCHNEIDER, letters from grateful readers.
Ma t t a p o i s e t t , Ma s s a c h u s e t t s
What a wonderful way to honor
our veterans. My father was an
Word Power Air Force veteran, and there was
I pride myself on having a credible supposed to be a recording of
vocabulary and usually do well with taps at his funeral. But the tape
your Word Power quiz. But dare I say didn’t work. It would have been
it, your November culinary offering nice to have a live trumpeter or
ate my lunch. bugler to make sure he received
the honor he deserved after
DANA BIBLE, We s t Pa l m B e a c h , F l o r i d a
22 years of service to his country.
DORIS TAIN, P i t t s b u r g h , P e n n s y l v a n i a
Thank You for Caring
So Much This story makes me think of my
dad, who played taps in the Army
I was touched by the love story of
in World War II. I wish I were Gary
Peter DeMarco and his wife, Laura Marquardt’s neighbor so I could
Levis, and his tender thank-you for hear him play every night.
those who cared for her at the hospi- LISA BURKE, L e a d v i l l e , C o l o ra d o
tal. But right below Peter’s final words
was a humorous blurb. Ouch! The HE’S GOT A
thoughts I was thinking, the emotions MILLION OF ’EM DAD
JOK
I was feeling, were hijacked by humor. Do you remember WANTES
DESHUA JOYCE, B u r k e , Vi r g i n i a a time when your ED!
dad told one of those
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EVERYDAY
HEROES
Princess Power
BY AS H LEY LE WIS
The Boy
“When kids are in a hospital for so
long, they don’t get all the magic that
In the
most kids do,” says McGrane. “It’s nice
to give them time to be themselves.”
Septic Tank
In 2015, after raising $2,000 on a
GoFundMe page to pay for costumes
and travel expenses, McGrane and
McAndrew landed their first gig, at BY ANDY S I M M ON S
Cohen Children’s Medical Center
in New Hyde Park, New York. They MADISON WILLIAMS was
dressed as Elsa and her sister, Anna, studying in her bedroom in Dublin,
to the squealing delight of the girls Ohio, in August 2016 when the
and blushing smiles from the boys. door burst open. It was her mother,
They spent nearly three hours singing Leigh Williams, with a horrific and
songs, taking pictures, and traveling incredible story: “A little boy fell
from one bedside to the next until into a septic tank, and no one can
they had visited and chatted with ev- reach him.” Then she made this
ery one of the 50 children. “To see the request of her 13-year-old daughter:
kids believe in me, my character … It “Can you help?”
was life changing,” says McGrane. Madison and Leigh ran to a neigh-
Of course, a princess can work bor’s yard, where they found the
only so many miracles at once, so boy’s distraught mother and other
McGrane and McAndrew recruited frantic adults surrounding a septic
their peers. Today, A Moment of tank opening that protruded a few
Magic has 400 volunteers from inches above the neatly trimmed
11 colleges around the country. lawn. It was 11 inches in diameter—
They also have a growing kingdom slightly wider than a basketball—
of fans. Shara Moskowitz from New with a hatch that had not been
Jersey says that her seven-year-old secured. The boy, who was only two
daughter, Avery, still talks almost ev- years old, had slipped in and was
ery day by phone or text to the prin- drowning in four feet of sewage in-
cesses she met nearly two years ago side a tank that was eight feet deep.
at her birthday party. Avery was The men and women—who
receiving treatment for a neuroblas- minutes earlier had been enjoying
toma. “My daughter found something a party in a nearby home when they
that she really needed to connect to,” heard the boy’s mother scream—
says Moskowitz. “These girls gave her were dropping extension cords into
that moment of imagination, free- the sludge, hoping the child would
dom, and happiness of dreaming.” grab hold so they could pull him out.
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pole, injuring the muscles in her which, says neighbor Mary Holley,
wrist and arm so severely that the made the girl’s actions all the more
hand was rendered useless. impressive.
Rather than tend to her injury, “Madison’s a hero,” Holley says.
Madison skimmed the surface of the “What other teenage girl is going to
sewage, hoping to feel the voluntarily go into a septic tank?”
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Unless ...
BY RO B I N M CC AULEY
the one you like—which is all of would want red roses? Pink roses are
them. But no, I can’t eat them any- prettier. But as I said, please don’t
way, because I’m trying to not eat get them for me. They will just die
sweets. Unless it’s a special occasion. anyway, and I would be able to really
Some women like getting adorable enjoy them for only a week or so—
red or pink teddy bears for Valentine’s well, probably longer if I put an
Day. You know, the ones that have aspirin in the water. They would
I Love You embroidered on them. probably stay pretty for almost two
But not me! I can’t even weeks. Maybe three.
imagine where I would But don’t get me any.
keep something like I don’t need them.
that, besides on my bed Handmade And don’t even think
or on the couch or in gifts are the about planning a sur-
the back window of my prise romantic Valen-
car or on my desk at best, like tine’s weekend getaway.
work. Where would I a handmade I don’t need to be
put something like that? whisked away for a fun
I don’t need to go out
Tiffany trip to know that you
for a fancy dinner on diamond ring. love me. That would be
Valentine’s Day. Even just too much planning!
if we wanted to get a How would I pack for a
table at a fancy restaurant for Valen- surprise trip? You would have to pack
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Say Yes to
The Ruined Dress
BY JE N N Y A L L EN FR O M T H E BO O K WO U L D E V ERY BO DY PL EAS E STOP?
Esquire, and tailored waist, and a slightly puffy skirt. It had flattering, thin,
many other vertical blue and white stripes, and the fabric was a blend of
publications.
cotton and something human-made that nevertheless felt
Would
Everybody
soft and not fake and yet required no maintenance—no
Please Stop? dry cleaning, no ironing. The dress practically sprang itself
is her latest out of the dryer and stood up on its own, wrinkle-free and
book. ready to go. Also, it had my favorite feature in a dress, which
is pockets. They were hidden pockets, sewn into the seam,
which I like even more.
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After the explosion on the plane, I hotel, changed my clothes, and put
attacked the big wet splotches of ink the ruined dress into my suitcase.
with water and a napkin; if anything, I couldn’t bear to throw it away;
this seemed to set the stains. As soon maybe someone would invent a
as we landed, I ran to an airport store magical ink-stain remover in the
and bought one of those little travel next week and I’d have thrown out
packets of disposable cloths soaked the dress for nothing.
in stain remover and tried scrubbing Sometimes, when something bad
the splotches again. I knew this would happens to me, I play a little game.
be futile, and it was. I went to my The object is to ask yourself whether
the bad thing that just happened has makes sense, from people we love
any silver lining whatsoever. It’s who move far away or die too young?
corny but comforting; if you try it, So much loss! A new dress isn’t a
you’ll be surprised. There’s some show of attachment to material ob-
good thing, even if it’s tiny, even if jects (OK, maybe a little). I knew the
you have to strain for it, in almost dress would start looking shabby one
every misfortune. I never thought day. But buying a new dress is an act
I’d say it, but I can even see the of hope, a show of spirit in the face of
upside of my having an unreliable universe.
had cancer. It took me At least that’s what
a long time to feel that my new dress was. It
way, and I won’t get I like to play had been a trying year.
into it here, but if you a game: And now my emblem
don’t die—a big caveat, of hope had these big
I know—there is one, When something black splotches all
I swear. But I have bad happens, over it.
thought and thought But you know what?
about my ruined dress
I ask myself Here’s what I’m at-
and what the upside whether there is tached to: Possibility.
of it could be, and I a silver lining. Pleasure. They’re less
just cannot think of lofty than hope, less
one thing. credulous, less faith
I put this question to a friend, and based, but they’re more accessible. I
she said that the ruined dress was went to the flea market yesterday, and
one of those lessons about the imper- I found a pretty little platter. It’s prac-
manence of things, about nonattach- tically ordering me to roast a chicken,
ment. About how everything changes invite a couple of people over, and
and how life is about letting go. serve the chicken on it. I think I’ll
I considered this. And then I make peach cobbler for dessert.
thought, I already know that. Doesn’t Someone, probably me, could drop
everyone over, say, 40, know it? and break the platter during the
Haven’t we all lost a lot of things? evening—it’s unlikely but possible,
In fact, not to sound too dreary, but like the ink exploding from my pen—
doesn’t it sometimes seem as if life but was that a reason not to buy it?
is just one big leave-taking after My dress and I—we were great
another—from your children, from while we lasted. Never mind. That’s
Checker cabs, from weather that the way some love affairs go.
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Sincerity Trumps Timing apology has a name: a nonapology.
Did you screw up royally? A little “A nonapology is a statement such
cool-off time could help. “Sometimes as ‘I’m sorry you were offended by my
an immediate apology is called for,” joke,’” Giner-Sorolla says. “It uses the
says Antony Manstead, a professor form of an apology—‘I’m sorry’—but
of psychology at Cardiff University in follows it up by shifting responsibility
Wales. “But if the other party is angry to the offended person, implying he
at your perceived wrongdoing, it may or she is too sensitive.”
be more effective to wait because “Don’t imply that the other person
their anger may prevent them from is wrong to feel upset or angry,” adds
being receptive to an apology.” Mara Olekalns, a professor of man-
Waiting can benefit you too. “The agement at Melbourne Business
best time to apologize is when one School. “This diminishes and invali-
feels ready to sincerely apologize,” dates his or her experience.”
says Etienne Mullet, research direc-
tor of the Ethics and Work Labora- Let Your Body Do the
tory at the Institute of Advanced Talking
Studies in Paris. “There is nothing Experts agree that face-to-face
worse in these situations than in- apologies beat phoned-in, e-mailed,
sincere apologies.” or handwritten ones. “Facial expres-
sions, posture, and the tone of voice
Explain, Don’t Excuse have all been shown to be important
“Because admitting to being wrong is channels that convey sincerity when
painful and can make people worried you express remorse,” Giner-Sorolla
that they’re a bad person, they often says. “Anyone can type ‘I feel really
water down their apology with ashamed,’ but if you say it live, it’s
excuses—statements that undermine obvious whether or not you mean it.”
the responsibility part of the apology A phone call is second best:
to save face,” says Roger Giner-Sorolla, You’ll convey emotions with your
a professor of social psychology at the voice and get instant feedback.
University of Kent in England. E-mailed apologies aren’t ideal.
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LIFE WELL LIVED
Forgiving My Father
BY M . W ILLIAM LENS C H FR O M T H E BOSTO N G LOBE
NOTHING STAYS the same for He also had a temper. I did not like
long. Things and people change, of- him very much.
ten for the worse, it seems, but once One day I came home from school
in a while, very much for the better. and his car was already there. Once
I grew up on a small farm, living inside, I was told by my mother that
a life that I took for granted. I had he didn’t feel well. His back hurt.
a dog without a leash and mountains My father never missed work; in
in whichever direction I looked, and fact, when he came home, he went
I awoke to the call of pheasants in to the barn to work even more.
the alfalfa fields. My father worked I remember peeking around the
in the city as a welder. He was quiet; corner at him as he lay on his bed
distant, you might say. He was not in the middle of the day. I was in
highly educated, but he was smart, elementary school.
with an engineer’s way of looking at Multiple myeloma, I learned, is a
problems. He was a man made of type of blood cancer. It starts in the
leather, brass, and chewing tobacco cells that normally make antibodies
who tried to teach my brother and for the body to use in its immune
me useful things, including respect. response against infections. When
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HEALTH
Brittle bones and breast cancer aren’t
the only concerns women face as their
hormone levels change with age
8 Surprising
Postmenopause
Health Risks BY SU SA N JA R A
1 GUM DISEASE
After estrogen levels decline, women become
more susceptible to tooth loss and periodontal dis-
ease, so good oral hygiene counts more than ever. In
addition, “some postmenopausal women note dry
mouth, or pain or burning in gum tissue, as well as
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altered taste for salty, peppery, or sour foods,” says
JoAnn V. Pinkerton, MD, executive director of
the North American Menopause Society.
2 SLEEP APNEA
The risk of developing sleep
apnea rises after menopause, prob-
ably because of a drop in the
hormone progesterone, which
stimulates breathing. Unfor-
tunately, the condition
isn’t diagnosed in nearly
90 percent of affected
women, says Dr. Pinkerton,
citing the Wisconsin Sleep
Cohort Study. Instead of the
hallmark signs of the sleep
disorder—snoring, pauses in
breathing, excessive daytime
sleepiness—women may
experience insomnia, morning
headache, and anxiety.
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World of Medicine
The Benefits of Feeling them, which is why you feel less tired
Your Partner’s Pain when you drink coffee. But that pro-
A 2017 study published in Psycho cess also makes it harder for you to
logical Science followed 145 patients taste sweetness—which, ironically,
with knee osteoarthritis and looked makes you crave it more.
at the three ways that their signifi-
cant others responded when they Whey Protein for Antiaging
were in pain: The partners could Bodybuilders swear by whey protein,
be empathetic (show emotional and older folks should, too—whether
support), solicitous (take over tasks or not they pump iron. In a new
and encourage rest), or punitive (ex- study, one group of men age 70 and
press frustration). Only those whose older took a protein-based nutritional
spouses reacted mainly with empa- supplement for six weeks. A second
thy had improved physical function group took a placebo. Then they
after 18 months. In other words, you added resistance and high-intensity
really can help your loved one heal. interval training while continuing to
take the supplement or placebo for an
Why Coffee Makes You additional 12 weeks. The participants
Crave Dessert taking the whey protein gained
Cornell University researchers 1.5 pounds of lean body mass—
might have found a scientific muscle, mostly—in the
answer to that age-old first six weeks,
question: Why does coffee which is the
pair so perfectly with amount they
pastries? Normally, would typically
P ROP STY LIST: JANI NE I VERSEN
A Day’s Work
MY COWORKER was very excited at poet: “Do not follow where the path
the prospect of becoming an Ameri- may lead. Go instead where there
can citizen after passing her test and is no path and leave a trail.” It gar-
interview. “I just have one more nered this response from @porkbelt:
thing to do,” Pam said proudly. “I “With all due respect, this is terrible
have to go to the courthouse in a few advice for trains.”
weeks and swear at the judge!”
YEFIM M. BRODD, Ki r k l a n d , Wa s h i n g t o n I WORKED IN THE HR department
of a large apparel company where
AMTRAK TWEETED out this quote turnover was a big problem. So while
that allegedly came from a great interviewing a potential employee,
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I had to ask, “Are you looking for per-
manent work?”
“Yes,” she replied. “For the time
being.” ANNE KING, Mi s s o u r i C i t y , Te x a s STUDENTS SAY THE MOST
CREATIVE THINGS
I HAD AN INKLING I’d been
■■Teacher: What’s the age
working too hard at the gift shop
difference between the two
when, at my father’s funeral, I
brothers in the story we read?
greeted all the well-wishers with, Student: Do you want to know
“Thank you. Come again.” the age difference at the begin-
T. H., v i a m a i l ning of the story or at the end?
BLANCHE DOSS, Ke r e n s , Te x a s
United States?
Student: The cupboard!
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COVER STORY
Curing
Cancer
With Your
Own Cells
CAR T and other immunotherapies are transforming
the dreaded diagnosis into a manageable disease. How
living drugs may become the final answer to this killer.
I
BY P E T E R JA RET
N 2008, just after she’d started kindergarten, Tori Lee was diagnosed
with acute lymphoblastic leukemia (ALL), an aggressive form of blood
cancer. Chemotherapy cures most children of the disease, but Tori
wasn’t as lucky. A playful little girl who was doted on by her three
older sisters, she “was treated with chemotherapy for about two years,
and then she relapsed,” says her mother, Dana Lee. “We started a new
protocol, with more intensive chemotherapy and radiation. She spent
hundreds of days in the hospital.” And still the cancer held on.
With Tori growing weaker, her par- her a better chance of survival” than
ents decided to take her to the Chil- the bone marrow transplant, says Dana.
dren’s Hospital of Philadelphia (CHOP) In April 2013, doctors injected Tori
for several weeks of chemo in prepa- with her own modified T cells. Six
ration for a bone marrow transplant, weeks later, her cancer was in remis-
a complex and risky procedure. Just sion. Four years on, Tori, now 14, re-
before the Lees were scheduled to mains cancer-free.
leave for the hospital, her doctors told This past August, after 50 more pa-
them that they would also collect Tori’s tients in the trial went into remission,
T cells as a backup plan: If Tori turned the FDA approved the treatment that
had saved Emily and
Tori. The process of
“We’re taking a first step toward an genetically engineering
approach to curing cancers that have CAR T cells, patented
been incurable,” says Dr. Rosenberg. under the brand name
Kymriah, is now avail-
out to be too sick to have the transplant, able to other children and young adults
she might be able to participate in an under the age of 25 with ALL that hasn’t
ongoing trial of a promising experi- responded to standard treatment.
mental treatment called CAR T, which “Surgery, radiation, and chemo-
takes a patient’s own immune cells and therapy cure a little over half of people
genetically reprograms them to kill can- who develop cancer. But that means
cer. CAR T had been used months earlier almost 600,000 Americans die of the
to cure another little girl, Emily White- disease every year,” says Steven A.
head, with the same form of leukemia. Rosenberg, MD, PhD, chief of the sur-
“I reached out to the Whiteheads,” says gery branch at the National Cancer
Dana. “I was petrified to put my daugh- Institute (NCI) and one of the pioneers
ter, who’d been through multiple years of the effort to use the immune system
of chemo, through the harsh reality of a to fight cancer. “With the approval of
bone marrow transplant.” CAR T, we’re taking a first step toward
Still, deciding on CAR T therapy a completely new approach to curing
wasn’t easy. While Emily was doing cancers that have been incurable.”
great, several of the children who had
followed her in the clinical trial at CHOP
had died. Tori would be only the tenth
EARLY SIGNS
to undergo the treatment. “We finally OF HOPE
said, ‘All right, we want to try CAR T.’ Scientists have known since the
We petitioned the study board to be in- 1890s that the immune system can
cluded in the trial. We thought it gave destroy cancer cells. The trouble is
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ARMING A BODY TO DO BATTLE WITH CANCER
Kymriah and Yescarta, the CAR T treatments approved by the FDA,
help key cells in a patient’s immune system destroy blood cancer cells.
Here’s how they work:
OUTSIDE THE BODY INSIDE THE BODY
T cells
Cancerous
B cells
Cancer-cell death
patient’s own immune system to fight T cells into better cancer fighters. He
the disease. In an early study of this engineered T cells to carry a chain of
treatment, tumors in 11 of the 25 pa- amino acids called chimeric antigen
tients shrank by at least half, and one receptors (CARs). These CAR-carrying
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stimulated to grow into a legion of symptoms but can escalate into plum-
CAR Ts. The resulting cells are frozen, meting blood pressure, extreme con-
sent back to the patient, and then fusion, hallucinations, tremors, and
reinjected. The production process seizures. Today, researchers under-
can take two to three weeks, and it’s stand that the reaction is actually a
jaw-droppingly expensive. The cost sign the therapy is working. When
of Kymriah: $475,000 per treatment. CAR T cells go after cancer cells in
Yescarta: $373,000. large numbers, levels of immune
Like all cancer treatments, CAR T chemicals called cytokines can rise
has side effects. The immediate dan- dangerously. “In some
ger is a severe reaction, dubbed a cy- patients with wide-
tokine storm, that begins with flu-like spread disease,
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CAR T cells destroy up to seven pounds malignant. Because the CAR T therapy
of malignant cells,” says Dr. Porter. The destroys both cancerous and healthy
more extensive a patient’s cancer, the B cells, patients may be more vulner
more likely a cytokine storm will fol able to infections such as pneumonia
low the treatment. after receiving treatment. To bolster
In the early days, however, the re their defenses, they must receive peri
action was a mystery. When Bill Lud odic injections of antibodyrich gamma
wig, the first patient to get Kymriah, globulin, a substance made from
began to run a high fever and his con human blood plasma, possibly for the
dition deteriorated, “we frankly had rest of their lives. Bill Ludwig, now 72,
no idea what was going
on,” says Dr. Porter. Fortu
nately, Ludwig recovered
“It’s a pain in the butt,” Ludwig
after receiving antibi
admits. “But in return for being
otic treatment for several
alive? I’m not complaining.”
days. When Emily White
head, the first child to receive Kym goes in once every seven weeks for the
riah, had a similar lifethreatening fourhour infusion. “It’s a pain in the
reaction, doctors ordered blood tests butt,” he admits. “But in return for be
that showed soaring levels of a cyto ing alive? I’m not complaining.”
kine called interleukin6 (IL6). For
tunately, Carl June, MD, an oncologist
at the University of Pennsylvania and WHEN CAR T FAILS
the lead investigator in the clinical Despite the steady progress in per
trial, knew about a drug that lowers fecting the treatment, doctors haven’t
IL6—because his daughter was tak been able to explain why it fails to
ing it for juvenile rheumatoid arthritis. help some people, even those who
By a lucky chance, the hospital had a would seem to be ideal patients. CAR T
supply of the drug, called tocilizumab. seemed to be working as expected on
Within hours of receiving it, Emily Sophia Kappen, a fiveyearold girl
began to recover. Tocilizumab is now who, like Tori Lee and Emily White
routinely used to blunt the effects of head, hadn’t responded to chemo
cytokine storms. therapy. “This little girl who was in
Kymriah and Yescarta also have an pain, who couldn’t walk because of
other longlasting but manageable side the cancer, began to get some of her
effect. The cancers they treat, leukemia sparkle back,” her mother, Amy Kap
and lymphoma, occur when B cells—a pen, recalls. But the cancer fought
type of immune cell that guards against back. Doctors added another experi
infections—mutate and become mental drug called pembrolizumab,
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patients, grown them in the lab into after Bachini’s second treatment with
large battalions, and then reinjected TILs, the experimental therapy is still
them, much as they did with CAR Ts. holding her cancer at bay.
In early clinical trials, the treatment “Most of our patients don’t re-
has been shown to shrink and in spond,” admits Dr. Rosenberg. “But
some cases eliminate a wide range in some cases, we have seen complete
of solid tumors, including advanced and lasting remissions. We know this
melanoma, cervical cancer, colorectal can work. We just have to figure out
cancer, and other malignancies. how to do it better. Eventually, we
Melinda Bachini, 49, a mother of think TILs could be the blueprint for
six in Billings, Mon-
tana, received TIL s
as part of one of Dr.
“Eventually,” says Dr. Rosenberg, “we
Rosenberg’s clinical
think TILs could be the blueprint for
trials in 2012, for a
treating almost all kinds of cancers.”
rare and usually fatal
form of bile duct cancer. “I’d run out treating almost all kinds of cancers.”
of options,” says Bachini, who had en- That won’t happen overnight, of
dured years of chemotherapy and was course. Nor did CAR Ts. “It took a lot
then close to death. The eight patients of failures and serendipity and de-
before her in the NCI trial hadn’t re- cades of hard work,” says J. Leonard
sponded to TILs. But Bachini’s tumors, Lichtenfeld, MD, chief medical direc-
which had been growing in her lungs tor of the American Cancer Society.
and liver, began to shrink. “Every day “It took ongoing commitment to ba-
was an improvement. Breathing was sic research and a lot of courageous
easier. My cough went away. I could patients willing to enroll in clinical
walk the dog,” she remembers. A year trials to test promising new therapies,
later, when the cancer surged back, not knowing whether they would
researchers harvested another batch work or not. CAR T therapy is saving
of TILs and reinjected her. Once again, patients who couldn’t be saved be-
the tumors retreated. They have never fore. But the battle against cancer is
gone away completely. But four years far from over.”
DEPARTURE POINT
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THE STRANGER WHO CHANGED MY LIFE
Mr. Bartlett
My Soul
FED
I
WAS 13 OR 14. It was summer. popped up and almost hit me in the
We lived in a raggedy house in head. When I bent over and looked
the thumb of Michigan with no inside the open space, I could not
screens on the window in the at- believe my eyes: There was gold in
tic, where my sister and I slept in the there! I picked up a handful of shiny
same bed. It was so hot and humid up gold cubes, and I knew there had to
there that tears of sweat dripped down be millions of dollars’ worth. I ran to
my neck onto what would one day be- the bottom stair and yelled, “Mama—I
come cleavage. I got bitten on the arm found gold up here under the floor!”
by two mosquitoes at the same time, Back up the stairs I dashed, but my
and while I sat there in front of a fan siblings almost knocked me back down
that did not oscillate, I watched the as they ran right by me. When Mama,
red bumps rise because I was bored. who had heard me through a floor
While thinking about how I might vent, opened the door and stuck her
escape, I leaned sideways, and my head in, she simply said, “Chile, that’s
hand landed on a floorboard that insulation. Now put it all back.”
I thought we were going to be free. time reading about it, since I’d never
That we would be able to move out of felt it. Phew. “Passion.” “Patience.”
this dump and we would all have our “Self-Control.” “Security.” “Woman.”
own rooms with air-conditioning. I “Wishes.” “Woebegone.”
thought I had made a real discovery. I skipped to see whether there was
When I reached inside to toss the a word that started with z that might
fake gold back, my hand touched what reflect some kind of emotion I could
felt like a book. I pulled it out. It was recognize: “Zeal.”
old and small: Bartlett’s Familiar Quo- It helped to find out that Mr. Bartlett
tations. I wondered whom were they didn’t feel all these emotions himself.
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PUN INTENDED
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THE MIND
Is This
Normal
or
N UTS?
Your oddest human
compulsions, evaluated
BY LO RI KO LM AN
Why am I awkward
around kids? I have
nothing to say to
people under 12, and
frankly, I don’t find
them particularly
cute. What’s wrong
with me?
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IS THIS NORMAL OR NUTS?
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I have this
compulsion to
say hello to
everyone I
pass in the
office or on
the street.
This strikes
me (and
everyone else)
as a little
much, but I
can’t seem to
stop. How
weird is this?
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IRRATIONAL
THOUGHTS YOUR “ISSUES”: BY THE NUMBERS
I’m terrified of down
escalators. I feel as if I’m
11%
Sounds and smells
stepping off the edge of
the world. CHRISTINE J., 14%
Blakely, Pennsylvania Food and drink
COMPULSIONS
The volume on my car
20%
Sloppiness
stereo must be set on an
even number.
S. C., B l o o m i n g t o n , I l l i n o i s
27%
Irrational thoughts
Upon leaving the house,
I have to repeat, “The 28%
door is shut and locked.” Compulsions
E. J. H., L i s b o n , O h i o
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IS THIS NORMAL OR NUTS?
the thought is just a metaphor,” he In another era, they were called an-
says. It’s simmering, like dinner—with gels or spirits, which they sort of are.
some extra-special seasoning. N or N Rating: 8
N or N Rating: 3 Doctor-prescribed medicine might
You’re nuts—if you actually want to make hallucinations less vivid.
murder them. If it’s based on anger,
address that. Otherwise, don’t worry
about it. Whenever I ask someone
a question—for directions,
My elderly mother recently for instance—I find my
started saying things like mind wandering. Instead
“Oh, the children were just of listening to how to get
here.” But they weren’t. to Hicksville, I’ll focus on the
There are no children where ugly buttons on her shirt.
she lives. Is this the onset Why can’t I concentrate?
of Alzheimer’s?
It could be that you are trying so hard
What you’re describing is fairly com- to show you’re a good listener that in-
mon and goes by the name of Lewy stead of actually listening, you are al-
body disease, a form of dementia. Al- ready thinking ahead. “This happens
though less common than Alzheim- a lot on first dates,” says Hilfer. “You
er’s, it usually involves “an old person ask a question and then don’t pay at-
who never had any hallucinations in tention long enough because you’re
their life, and they keep saying that already thinking about the next ques-
they see children, dead relatives, or tion you’re going to ask to show you
small animals around,” says Ruan. were paying attention.”
The disease affects the part of the The solution is to train yourself
brain devoted to vision, so the elderly to focus more. You can do this, says
person is truly “seeing” something Tessina, by turning on the TV or radio
the rest of us don’t. The sad news for short periods of time and making
is that, as with all forms of dementia, a serious effort to pay attention. Then
there is no cure. The slightly better turn it off and try to remember what
news is that the hallucinations seem was said. Pretty soon you will develop
to keep the person company, at least a less distractible brain.
for a while. If you ask what the kids N or N Rating: 3
(or small, friendly animals) are do- Not too nuts, just easily … Hey, what’s
ing, “they’ll say, ‘There they are, that white R doing in that little black
standing by the plant,’” says Ruan. box?
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Laugh Lines
ZOO-LOL-OGY
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FAMILY
“With
This Ring …”
BY R D RE A D ERS
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Why do some people find meaning in their
wedding bands—while others put them aside?
We asked Digest readers about their choices.
L
AST MARCH, Shannon Lombardo accidentally tossed her wedding and
engagement rings out with the trash. (She was cleaning them and had
put them in tissues—long story.) She called the New York City Depart-
ment of Sanitation, which invited her to look through as much garbage
as she could stomach at a dump in New Jersey. With two sanitation workers and
her husband, Jim Lombardo, she searched roughly 800 bags full of coffee grounds,
food scraps, dog poop, and other flotsam and jetsam until they found the platinum
rings. Why did she take the ultimate Dumpster dive and not just call her insur-
ance? “You’re talking about marriage and commitment,” Shannon told the Daily
News. “When the two of us are standing in the dump, the commitment’s there.”
Does that sound like you? Would you room when I had surgery. The ring
brave mountains of rotting trash to re- makes me feel safe and secure and
trieve a symbol of your love? Or are you never alone.
the type who believes that the bonds VALERIE GOLEMBIEWSKI, Tu c s o n , Ar i z o n a
of marriage are strong enough on
their own, without a mere metal band SOME PEOPLE suspect I won’t wear
as a token? With Valentine’s Day ap- a ring so that I can pick up single
proaching, we asked members of our women. But how? Pretty much every-
Inner Circle Community* whether they where I go, there’s my wife. The fact is,
“put a ring on it,” to quote Beyoncé, or we’ve been married 21 years, and no
whether the fourth finger on their left symbol on my finger can adequately
hand stays as naked as Cupid’s behind. define my love.
Some of their responses may get you to
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A. S., C r o t o n - o n - Hu d s o n , Ne w Yo r k
rethink your own ring thing.
F O R T Y- F I V E Y E A R S of wedded
I HAVE WORN my ring for the past “blister,” and I removed it only once. I
47 years and have never taken it off. was playing baseball and put the ring
I even had it tied to my hand with in a spare pair of sneakers. I lost it
gauze by the nurse in the operating when it fell out of the sneakers. That
taught me to never remove the re-
* Join the Reader’s Digest Inner Circle placement ring, and I haven’t.
Community at tmbinnercircle.com. RICK BRUECKMANN, L e m o n t , I l l i n o i s
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as opposed to the
argument we may have had the night MY RING IS TOO big for my finger
before. ERIKA CIAVATTONE, because I’ve lost weight, and I’m not
C h e s t e r f i e l d To w n s h i p , Mi c h i g a n going to risk losing it, so I don’t wear it
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and made our bands myself. We had WHEN I SEE a man wearing his wed-
a ceremony with friends and family at ding ring, it tells me he has a soft and
a time when we weren’t able to make private side reserved for someone
it legal (back in 1994). When we were special. W. B.
allowed to wed legally, we did so,
in 2015. We used the same rings for TO ME, the wedding ring stores the
that ceremony. That’s one of the few memories of all the events—good and
times I have ever taken mine off. bad—over the course of my marriage.
ERICA DAVIS, Hi g h P o i n t , N o r t h C a r o l i n a Today is our 62nd anniversary, so
the memory bank of my ring is many
MY HUSBAND was an electrician and gigabytes. MARY PHILLIPS BADALAMENTI,
could not wear a ring because of work. S o u t h Ly o n , Mi c h i g a n
GROCERY GRIPES
If there’s one thing I am good at, it’s putting reusable bags in the
car, driving them to the store, and not taking them inside.
@KELLYMELDRUM (KELLY BE AN)
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NATIONAL INTEREST
BY N I N A M A R T IN AND RE NE E M O NTAGNE
L
FR OM P R OP U B L I C A AND N PR
P
Larry, an orthopedic trauma surgeon, REECLAMPSIA, or pregnancy-
had been at Lauren’s side much of the related high blood pressure,
last 24 hours, since they had checked can become very dangerous
into the hospital. Conscious that his very quickly, leading to seizures and
role was husband rather than doc- strokes in expectant or new moth-
tor, he had tried not to overstep. Now, ers. But in developed countries, it is
though, he pressed the obstetrician- highly treatable with antihyperten-
gynecologist, John Vaclavik: What was sive drugs and magnesium sulfate
the matter with his wife? to prevent seizures. The key is to act
“He was like, ‘I see this a lot. We do fast. By standardizing its approach,
a lot of belly surgery. This is definitely Britain has reduced preeclampsia
reflux,’” Larry recalls. According to deaths to one in a million—a total
Lauren’s records, Dr. Vaclavik ordered of two deaths from 2012 to 2014. In
an antacid called Bicitra and an opi- the United States, on the other hand,
oid painkiller called Dilaudid. Lauren preeclampsia still accounts for about
vomited them up. 8 percent of maternal deaths—50 to
Lauren’s pain was soon ten on a 70 women a year.
scale of ten, she told Larry and the The ability to protect the health
nurses. Ominously, her blood pressure of mothers and babies in childbirth
was spiking. An hour after giving birth, is a basic measure of a society’s de-
the reading was 160/95; an hour after velopment. Yet every year in the
that, 169/108. At her final prenatal United States, 700 to 900 women die
appointment, her reading had been from pregnancy or childbirth-related
just 118/69. Obstetrics wasn’t Larry’s causes, and some 65,000 nearly die—
specialty, but he knew enough to ask the worst record in the developed
a nurse: Could this be preeclampsia? world. In every other wealthy country,
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and many less affluent ones, maternal “We worry a lot about vulnerable
mortality rates have been falling. But little babies,” says Barbara Levy, vice
in the United States, maternal deaths president for health policy/advocacy
increased from 2000 to 2014. In a re at the American Congress of Obste
cent analysis by the CDC Foundation, tricians and Gynecologists and a
nearly 60 percent were preventable. member of the Council on Patient
The fragmented health system makes Safety in Women’s Health Care. “We
it hard for new mothers, especially don’t pay enough attention to those
those without good insurance, to get things that can be catastrophic for
the care they need. Confusion about women.”
how to recognize worrisome
symptoms and treat obstet
ric emergencies makes care
givers more prone to error.
A pregnant Lauren was “the
Preeclampsia, for exam happiest and most alive I’d
ple, affects 3 to 5 percent of ever seen her,” says Larry.
expectant or new mothers
in the United States, up to
L
200,000 women a year. It can strike A U R E N B L O O M S T E I N was
out of the blue. But its symptoms— maybe the last person you’d
swelling, rapid weight gain, gastric expect to find in this kind of
discomfort and vomiting, headache, catastrophic situation. As a neonatal
and anxiety—are often mistaken for intensive care nurse, she had been
the normal irritations that crop up taking care of other people’s babies for
during pregnancy or after giving birth. years. Finally, at 33, she was thrilled
“We don’t have a yesno test for it,” says to be expecting one of her own. The
Eleni Tsigas, executive director of the prospect of becoming a mother made
Preeclampsia Foundation. her giddy—“the happiest and most
Yet the lifesaving practices that alive I’d ever seen her,” says Larry.
have become widely accepted in other When Lauren was 13, her mother died
affluent countries—and in a few of a massive heart attack. The chance
states, notably California (see sidebar to create her own family, to be the
on page 94)—have yet to take hold in mother she didn’t have, touched a
many American hospitals. Outdated place deep inside her.
notions—for example, that deliver Other than some nausea in her
ing the baby cures the condition— first trimester, the pregnancy had
unfamiliarity with best practices, and gone smoothly. Larry helped moni
lack of crisis preparation can further tor her blood pressure at home, and
hinder the response. all was normal. On Lauren’s days off,
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she got organized, picking out stroll- of those people that everyone liked,”
ers and car seats, stocking up on Byron says.
diapers and onesies. Despite all she Another person everyone liked was
knew about what could go wrong, John Vaclavik. He was on call that
her only real worry was going into weekend and had agreed to schedule
labor prematurely. “You have to stay an induction of labor for Lauren and
in there at least until 32 weeks,” she to handle the delivery himself. Induc-
would tell her belly. “I see how the tions often go slowly, and Lauren’s la-
babies do before 32. Just don’t come bor stretched well into the next day. At
out too soon.” one point, she was overcome by a sud-
den, sharp pain in her back,
but the nurses bumped up
During labor, Lauren’s blood her epidural, and the stab-
bing stopped. On Saturday,
pressure was high, and she October 1, at 6:49 p.m.,
was in unbearable pain. 23 hours after Lauren had
checked into the hospital,
Hailey Anne Bloomstein was
When she reached 39 weeks and six born, weighing 5 pounds 12 ounces.
days—Friday, September 30, 2011—
L
Larry and Lauren drove to Monmouth AUREN’S BLO OD PRES SURE
Medical Center in Long Branch, New was high when she entered the
Jersey, the hospital where they had hospital—147/99, according to
met in 2004 and where Lauren had her admissions paperwork. During
spent virtually her entire career. If labor, she had 21 systolic readings at
anyone would watch out for her and or above 140 and 13 diastolic readings
her baby, she figured, it would be the at or above 90. Later, in a deposition,
doctors and nurses she worked with. Dr. Vaclavik called her 147/99 reading
The neonatal floor was a world unto “elevated” compared with her usual,
itself, Lauren Byron, another longtime but not abnormal. He said he would
nurse there, explains: “There’s a lot of use 180/110 as a cutoff to suspect pre-
stress and pressure, and you are in eclampsia. He did order a preeclamp-
life-and-death situations. You develop sia test around 8:40 p.m., but a nurse
a very close relationship with some noted: “No abnormal labs present.”
people.” The environment tended (According to Larry, the results were
to attract very strong personalities. borderline.) But Lauren continued to
Lauren Bloomstein’s nickname in her complain of unbearable pain. In his
family football pool was the Feisty deposition, Dr. Vaclavik attributed
One, so she fit right in. “She was one that to inflammation of the esophagus,
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which had afflicted her before. Larry transfusions and more perineal tear-
began pushing to call in a specialist. ing. The “weekend effect” has also
Around 10 p.m., the ob-gyn phoned been associated with higher fatality
the on-call gastroenterologist, who rates from heart attacks, strokes, and
ordered an X-ray and more tests, Di- head trauma.
laudid, and antacids. Nothing helped. Desperate, Larry reached out to his
The fact that Lauren gave birth colleagues in the trauma unit at Coo-
over the weekend may have worked per University Hospital in Camden,
against her. Hospitals may be staffed New Jersey. By chance, the doctor
differently on weekends, adding to on call happened to be a fairly new
the challenges of managing a crisis. A mother. As Larry described Lauren’s
Baylor College of Medicine analysis of symptoms, she interrupted him. “I
45 million pregnancies in the United know what this is.” She said Lauren
States from 2004 to 2014 found that had HELLP syndrome, the most severe
mothers who deliver on a Saturday or variation of preeclampsia, character-
Sunday have nearly 50 percent higher ized by hemolysis, or the breakdown
mortality rates, as well as more blood of red blood cells; elevated liver
25 U.S. 26.4*
20
U.K. 9.2
Germany 9
15 Portugal 9
France 7.8
Netherlands 6.7
10 Spain 5.6
Australia 5.5
Ireland 4.7
5 Sweden 4.4
Denmark 4.2
Italy 4.2
0 Finland 3.8
1990 2000 2015
While the maternal death rate has declined in many other developed countries, it has been
rising steadily in the United States. American women die in childbirth (or shortly after) much
more frequently than in most European countries, according to an analysis by the Lancet.
*per 100,000 live births
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enzymes; and low platelet count, a cuff on her arm was adding to her
clotting deficiency that can lead to discomfort, so around 10:30 p.m.,
excessive bleeding and hemorrhagic her nurse removed it—on the theory
stroke. “Your wife’s in a lot of danger,” that, Larry says, “we know her blood
the trauma doctor said. pressure is high. There’s no point to
Larry went to Lauren’s caregivers. retaking it.” According to Lauren’s
They insisted the tests didn’t show records, her blood pressure went
preeclampsia, he says. Meanwhile, unmonitored for another hour and
Lauren’s agony had become almost 44 minutes. Dr. Vaclavik later ac-
unendurable. The blood pressure knowledged that, in retrospect, it
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A
awareness of … that she was not go- FTER THAT DAY, people asked
ing to make it.” Larry a lot of questions. Every-
Around 2 a.m., a neurosurgeon con- one wanted to know how this
firmed what the trauma doctor had could have happened. Despite the
said four hours before: Lauren had missteps he had witnessed, Larry was
HELLP syndrome. Then he delivered hesitant to lay blame. But the fact that
more bad news: Her blood platelets— someone with Lauren’s advantages
COURTESY LA RRY BLOOM STEIN
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Hailey Anne Bloomstein has her mother’s brown hair and green eyes.
That’s the approach in the United nor does it assess whether a death was
Kingdom, where maternal deaths are preventable. A bipartisan bill in Con
regarded as systems failures and in gress, the Preventing Maternal Deaths
vestigated by a national committee of Act of 2017, would authorize funding
experts. Its reports help set policy for for states to establish review panels
hospitals throughout the country. In or improve their processes. It went to
the United States, maternal mortality the Congressional Subcommittee on
reviews are left up to states. As of last Health in March 2017.
spring, 26 states (and one city, Phila Someone eventually steered Larry
delphia) had a wellestablished pro toward the New Jersey Department of
cess in place; another five states had Health’s (DOH) licensing and inspec
committees that were less than a year tion division, which oversees hospital
old. In almost every case, resources and nursing home safety. He filed a
are tight, the reviews take years, and complaint against Monmouth Medi
the findings get little attention. New cal Center. In December 2012, the
Jersey’s review committee doesn’t in DOH issued a report backing up every
terview the relatives of the deceased, thing Larry had seen firsthand. The
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report faulted the hospital. As a result, muster. But beyond the taking of de-
Monmouth established mandatory positions, at this point, there has been
education about preeclampsia and little action in the case.
HELLP syndrome and more training
N
on life support and communications. OW SIX YEARS old, Hailey feels
Some of the changes were strikingly her mother’s presence every-
basic: Staff nurses were urged to ob- where, thanks to Larry and his
tain patients’ prenatal records and to new wife, Carolyn. They met when
check vital signs regularly.
Larry was gratified by the
findings but dismayed that
they weren’t publicly posted. Staff nurses are now urged to
That meant hardly anyone obtain prenatal records and
would see them. The DOH
forwarded his complaint to
check vital signs regularly.
the Board of Medical Ex-
aminers and the New Jersey Board of she was a surgical tech at one of the
Nursing. After a full inquiry, the Board hospitals he worked at after Lauren
of Medical Examiners notified Larry died, and married in 2014. Photos and
that it had found no basis to discipline drawings of Lauren occupy their man-
Dr. Vaclavik. Nor has the Board of tel, the bookcase in the dining room,
Nursing taken any disciplinary action. and the walls of the upstairs hallway.
A few months after the D O H Larry’s younger daughter, three-year-
weighed in, Larry sued Monmouth, old Aria, calls her Mommy Lauren. On
Dr. Vaclavik, and five nurses in Mon- birthdays and holidays, Larry takes the
mouth County Superior Court. For girls to the cemetery. He designed the
a medical malpractice lawsuit to go gravestone: his handprint and Lauren’s
forward in New Jersey, an expert must reaching away from each other,
certify that it has merit. Larry’s passed Hailey’s linking them forever.
ADAPTED FROM PROPUBLICA (MAY 12, 2017), COPYRIGHT © 2017 BY PROPUBLICA, PROPUBLICA.ORG.
PUBLISHED IN COOPERATION WITH NPR, NPR.ORG.
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Missing
When You’re Not
Listening
O
BY JO H N KO RD LAGEM A N N
OPUS #133, 2007. COU RTE SY OF THE ARTIST AND MARIAN G OOD MAN G AL L E RY.
Hearing
“Try it yourself,” he said. We did, and which he guessed by the ear with great
with a little practice, we found it easy. accuracy.”
On the way home, my wife and I Sound engineers call it ambience:
took turns closing our eyes and listen the impression we all get in some de
ing to the sounds of our taxi on the gree from sound waves bouncing off
wet street as they bounced off of cars walls, trees, even people. For a blind
parked along the curb. From that alone person to interpret the echoes effec
we were able to tell small foreign cars tively, he uses a tapping cane, prefer
from larger American cars. Games like ably with a tip of metal, nylon, or other
this are one of the best ways to open substance that produces a distinct,
up new realms of hearing experience. consistent sound. (Wood doesn’t work,
because it creates a different sound wet
A
NOTHER BENEFIT of honing than dry.) The metal noisemaker called
your hearing is that extra a cricket is equally effective. Animals,
sensory faculty that blind peo both terrestrial and nonterrestrial, also
ple call facial vision. More than 200 use “echolocation.” The bat, for exam
years ago, Erasmus Darwin, grandfa ple, emits a very highpitched sound
ther of Charles Darwin, reported a and picks up echoes from any obstacle,
visit by a blind friend named Justice even as thin as a human hair.
Fielding. “He walked into my room The human ear is an amazing
for the first time and, after speaking a mechanism. Though its inner oper
few words, said, ‘This room is about 22 ating parts occupy less than a cubic
feet long, 18 wide, and 12 high’—all of inch, it can distinguish from 300,000
induced hearing loss can damage your ears DeWine. “I was shocked
today than teens did over time.” when music played at
ten years ago, thanks to How can you tell when church was in the ‘need
loud music played on sounds are loud enough protection’ range.”
earbuds or headphones. to be harmful? A free Wearing earplugs
“The smartest thing app such as Sound- or noise-canceling
we can do to protect our Check or Decibel Meter headphones will protect
ears is to avoid exposure can turn your smart- your ears during noisy
to loud noise,” explains phone into a sound tasks such as using a
Cincinnati audiologist meter that shows when snowblower or vacuum
Laurie DeWine. “Listen- you’re in the danger cleaner. Keeping the
ing to loud music on zone. “You may be sur- volume on low when
an iPod or using a lawn prised at how much watching TV or listen-
mower or snowblower you’re exposed to,” says ing to music helps too.
to 400,000 variations of tone and in- Just cutting down reflected sound
tensity. The loudest sound it can tol- can produce some odd results. The
erate is a trillion times more intense nearest thing on Earth to the silence of
than the faintest sounds it can pick outer space is the “anechoic chamber”
up—the dropping of the proverbial at the Nokia Bell Labs in Murray Hill,
pin (or, if you prefer, the soft thud of New Jersey, which is lined with mate-
falling snowflakes). When the ear- rial that absorbs 99.98 percent of all
drums vibrate in re- reflected sound. People
sponse to sound, the who have remained in
tiny piston-like stirrup the room for more than
bones of the middle ear
The inner ear an hour reported that
amplify the vibrations. can discern they felt jittery and out
This motion is passed of touch with reality.
along to the snail-like as many as One remarkable
chamber of the inner 400,000 quality of the human
ear, which is filled with ear is its ability to pick
liquid and contains variations out a specific sound
some 30,000 tiny hair or voice from a sur-
cells. These fibers are
of tone and rou n di ng w el ter o f
made to bend, depend- intensity. sound, and to locate its
ing on the frequency of position. The conduc-
the vibration—shorter tor Arturo Toscanini,
strands respond to higher wave- rehearsing a symphony orchestra of
lengths, longer strands to lower—and almost 100 musicians, unerringly
this movement is translated into nerve singled out the oboist who slurred a
impulses and sent to the brain, which phrase. “I hear a mute somewhere
then, somehow, “hears.” on one of the second violins,” he said
another time in stopping a rehearsal.
W
HILE WE ARE still under Sure enough, a second violinist far
age 20, most of us can hear back on the stage discovered that he
tones as high as 20,000 cy- had failed to remove his mute.
cles per second (CPS), about five times We owe our ability to zero in on a
as high as the highest C on a piano. particular sound to the fact that we
With age, the inner ear loses its elastic- have two ears. A sound to the right
ity. It is unusual for a person over 50 to of us reaches the right ear perhaps
TATI ANA AYA ZO
hear well above 12,000 CPS. He can still .0001 second before it reaches the left.
function, of course, since most conver- This tiny time lag is unconsciously
sation is carried on within an octave or perceived and allows us to localize
two of middle C, or about 260 CPS. the object in the direction of the ear
stimulated first. If you turn your head the low-frequency tones that seem
until the sound strikes both ears at to us to give our voices resonance
once, the source is directly ahead. Try and power are conducted to our ears
it sometime when you hear the distant through the skull; in a recording, they
approach of a car. are missing, so our voices often strike
The sound you hear most of- us as thin and weak.
ten and with greatest interest is the Alas, it’s possible that hearing will
sound of your own voice. You hear atrophy even further in the future, as
it not only through air vibrations civilization becomes busier. When too
that strike your eardrums but also much is going on, we learn to ignore
through bone conduction, vibrations most of the sound around us, which
transmitted directly to the inner ear means we also miss much that could
through your skull. When you chew give us pleasure and information.
on a stalk of celery, the loud crunch- That’s too bad—because there is a
ing noise comes mainly through bone wisdom in hearing.
conduction. Such bone conduction
explains why we hardly recognize This article first appeared in the August
a recording of our speech. Many of 1969 issue of Reader’s Digest.
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THE
DRIVE
OF HIS
LIFE
A CABBIE,
HIS KIDNAPPER,
AND THE UNLIKELY
CONNECTION THAT
REDEEMED THEM
BY PAU L K IX FR O M G Q
“Take us to Walmart,” said the man who settled into the passen-
ger seat. The driver, Long Ma, 71, recognized from his voice that he was the one
who’d called for the cab, telling Ma that he and his friends needed a ride home
from a restaurant. His name was Bac Duong. He spoke to Ma in Vietnamese—
their shared native language—and wore a salt-and-pepper goatee on his thin
and weary face. It was 9:30 on a chilly Friday night in Santa Ana, California. Now
T
needed, so they told Ma to drive them HE JAILBREAK HAD
to a Target 45 minutes away. Ma had occurred a day earlier,
no way of knowing that they were on January 22, 2016.
desperate for phones, for clothes, and It began after Duong,
for some semblance of a plan. They fi- sprawled on a bunk in
nally emerged from Target. “My mom’s the open-floor dormitory of the Or-
place is right around here,” Duong lied. ange County Jail’s Module F, watched
“Take us there, please.” a guard finish his 5 a.m. head count.
The streets were dark and quiet, Duong then gathered the tools that
and after a few minutes, Duong mo- he’d been hoarding and shuffled to
tioned to a mangy strip mall. “Pull the rear of the housing block, where
in here,” he said. As Ma parked his Nayeri and Tieu waited for him. There,
Honda Civic, Tieu handed Duong a hidden behind a bunk bed, the three
pistol, which Duong pointed at Ma. used their tools to work loose a metal
Ma’s mind raced as Nayeri shouted, grate. They bellied through the hole
“Boom, boom, old man!” and, surrounded by pipes and wiring,
The men placed Ma in the back seat, inched along a metal walkway until it
where Tieu now trained the gun on his dead-ended against a wall. Using the
stomach. Nayeri jumped behind the pipes, they shinnied skyward into a
wheel and set out for a nearby motel. ventilation shaft that led to a trapdoor,
By the time they arrived, Ma was which they shoved open.
convinced he was going to die—he Now on the roof, they fastened a
just didn’t know how or when. Inside a makeshift rope that they’d fashioned
cramped room, he watched as Nayeri, from bedsheets and rappelled down
who he suspected was the group’s ring- four stories to the ground. No alarms
leader, splayed out on one of the two sounded; no lights swept the exterior.
beds. Ma was ordered to double up They’d done it. They were out.
with Duong on the other as Tieu slept The fugitives allegedly first visited
on the floor near the door, the gun un- friends, who gave them money. By
der his pillow. For Ma, there was no 9 p.m., the escapees were still in Santa
escape and, with all the dread he felt, Ana and needed to get away. Duong
no easy way to fall asleep. dialed a cab service that advertised in
In the morning, Duong turned on the local Vietnamese newspaper. Long
the TV. A report about a prison es- Ma answered the call.
cape was on the news. “Hey,” Duong As the men in the motel hooted and
shouted, “that’s us!” Mug shots filled marveled at their images on the TV, Ma
the screen. A massive manhunt, Ma was introduced to his captors by their
now learned, was under way for his televised rap sheets. Tieu had allegedly
three roommates. taken part in a drive-by shooting that
left one college-age kid dead; Duong his goatee and dyed his hair black.
had allegedly shot a man in the chest When they left the salon, Nayeri
after an argument. And Nayeri, well, and Tieu took the van. Duong and Ma
Nayeri was plenty notorious. got into the Civic, and there, alone in
Four years earlier, acting on a hunchthe car, Duong became relaxed and
that the owner of a marijuana dis- even chatty, asking about the cabbie’s
pensary had buried $1 million in the life in their native Vietnamese. At one
Mojave Desert, Nayeri had allegedly point, he even called Ma “Uncle,” a
snatched the guy and his roommate term of endearment that implied re-
and driven them to the spot where spect for the old man. But Ma was
the loot was thought to be hidden. leery. For all he knew, Duong was
There, Nayeri and his crew were said playing an angle. As always in the
to have shocked the man with a Taser, States, Ma found his fellow Vietnam-
burned him with a butane torch, and ese the hardest people to read.
poured bleach on his wounds, among When Ma had landed in California
other abuses, all in a failed attempt toin 1992, with a wife and four kids,
he’d struggled. A former lieu-
tenant colonel in the South
Vietnamese Army during
MA KNEW IF HIS KIDNAPPERS
the Vietnam War, he still had
KILLED HIM NOW, THEY COULD the physical and emotional
MAKE A CLEANER ESCAPE. scars from seven punishing
years spent in a Communist
forced-labor camp. The war
locate the cash. After the man assured and his time in the camp had placed
Nayeri there was no buried money, he him nearly two decades behind the
was left out there to die. (His room- first wave of emigrants who’d left
mate found help and saved his life.) Vietnam for the United States. For
Spooked, perhaps, by the prospect years he took menial jobs, and he
that Ma’s disappearance had been would later say that his siblings—
noticed, the escapees decided they who had arrived earlier and become
needed a second vehicle. The next dentists and pharmacists and white-
morning, they found a van for sale collar success stories—made him feel
on Craigslist. Duong took the vehicle ashamed of the life he had made.
for a test spin and then simply drove Money had always been tight,
away. He met up with the others again which exacerbated the arguments be-
later, and the fugitives visited a hair tween Ma and his wife. He knew she
salon and altered their appearances, was losing respect for him and that
none more than Duong, who shaved everyone in the family had noticed it.
Rather than suffer the indignity, Ma that he woke Duong, who was lying
moved one day, without explanation, beside him. But Duong didn’t elbow
from their home in San Diego. He him awake. Instead, he slowly climbed
found a little room in a boardinghouse out of bed, careful not to stir Ma, and
near Santa Ana, 90 minutes north, and curled up on the floor, so Uncle might
began a solitary existence as a taxi rest more peacefully.
driver—a choice that seemed to have The next day, Nayeri announced
led to his current predicament. that he and Tieu needed to take Ma
D
out for a while in the van. By the
UONG STEERED time they parked near the ocean in
the Civic toward a new Santa Cruz, Ma had figured he’d been
motel, the Flamingo driven to the beach to be executed.
Inn, where they would His stroll with Nayeri and Tieu began
meet Nayeri and Tieu. aimlessly—and because of that, it felt
Deep into the night, the fugitives even more malevolent to Ma. Nayeri
laughed and drank and smoked ciga- had them pose for pictures. With the
rettes, while on television the news ocean, the beach, and the pier as their
anchors said that the reward for in- backdrop, Nayeri acted as if they were
formation leading to their arrest had friends. What is he doing? Ma thought.
increased from $20,000 to $50,000. And then ... nothing. The three got in
Sunday dawned, and Nayeri seemed the van and drove back to the motel.
more distant than usual. Ma’s cap- After watching another news report
tors drank and talked in urgent tones. on themselves, Nayeri and Duong
Nayeri soon began yelling at Duong. started shouting at each other. Sud-
The room became loud and tense and denly, Nayeri glanced at Ma and ran
small. Ma, with his limited English, his index finger across his throat. In
sensed that the argument concerned an instant, days of anger and anxiety
him. He’d begun to consider what the broke, and Nayeri and Duong fell into
men must have realized themselves: If a rolling heap. Nayeri ended up on
they killed him now, they could make a top and landed a series of clean shots
cleaner escape. Ma watched as Nayeri to Duong’s nose and jaw, one after
pointed in his direction and again another. Satisfied, Nayeri pulled him-
shouted, “Boom, boom, old man!” self out of his rage. Each man gasped
The escapees decided they needed for air.
to move north, and on Tuesday Ma was terrified. But Nayeri did not
morning—day four of Ma’s captivity— grab the gun and shoot the cabdriver.
they drove 350 stressful miles to a mo- He did not haul the old man outside
tel in San Jose. The journey exhausted and, in the shadows of the motel, slit
Ma, and that night he snored so loudly his throat. Nayeri simply retreated to
a corner. For another night, the four a Santa Ana man after an argument.
watched one another and, as they And yet, in spite of Duong’s past,
went to bed, stewed in the frustration there had been, this whole week, an-
that filled the room. other composite on view: that of a
The news reports were no better flawed but compassionate man. Ma
the next morning—their seventh day had caught flashes of details but not
on the run. Law enforcement shared the full picture of Duong’s conflicted
photos of the stolen van the men were life. He didn’t realize how chronic
driving. This rattled Nayeri and Tieu, drug dependency and what Duong’s
who announced to Duong that they friends saw as mental disorders had
pushed Duong down a crim-
inal path—and he didn’t yet
know that Duong was also
THEY BOTH FELT SO GRATEFUL, the father of two boys, Peter
SO SURPRISED BY THE and Benny.
POSSIBILITY OF FRIENDSHIP. Duong, his eyes filling
with tears, told Ma that he
hated how his crimes had
were leaving to have the van’s windows placed him outside society. That was
tinted and its license plates changed. the most painful thing—not being
When the door closed behind them, accepted. His father wouldn’t speak
Duong turned quickly to Ma. “Uncle, to him, and his mother said she was
we have to go,” he said in Vietnamese. ashamed. A few years earlier, out of
T
prison after serving a drug sentence,
HE TWO MEN drove Duong had asked his friend Theresa
south in Ma’s Civic, Nguyen and her husband to go with
with Duong behind the him to his mother’s home—“Because
wheel. When Duong I want her to know that I have nor-
said to him, “Don’t be mal friends, too,” he told Nguyen. He
afraid; you’re not in danger anymore,” could never atone in his family’s eyes.
Ma snickered to himself. We’ll see, he Nguyen began to get it, why Duong
thought. He had understood enough had been calling her “Sister.” Why
of the news to piece together Duong’s he’d phoned her the day her daughter
criminal past: a 1995 burglary convic- graduated from college, another im-
tion in San Diego, four years after he migrant success story: “I’m proud of
became a U.S. resident; twice plead- you, Sister.” She was as close to family
ing guilty to selling cocaine; stints in as he had.
state prison; and then, in November Ma listened, reticent but know-
2015, the alleged attempted murder of ing that sometimes people need to
T
be heard even more than consoled. H E D AY A F T E R
Duong told Ma that Nayeri’s plan Duong turned himself
had been to kill the driver on the in, Tieu and Nayeri were
beach. But for whatever reason, captured in San Fran
Nayeri hadn’t gone through with it. cisco after police were
The brutal fight the night before had alerted to their van parked on a city
been over Ma too. Duong couldn’t street. Ma returned to his boarding
abide seeing the cabdriver murdered house. No one had even reported him
for Duong’s mistakes. missing.
Ma said at last, “You should turn Though Duong is back in jail now,
yourself in.” Ma has stayed in touch. And while
Duong didn’t balk at the suggestion. money is scarce for the cabdriver, he
He was grateful for the way Ma hadn’t has put cash in Duong’s jail account.
judged him. He didn’t want to call Ma Ma has even visited the man who kid
“Uncle” anymore, he said. Given the napped him. The last time he went,
circumstances of the past week, Du Ma watched through a glass partition
ong said he wanted to call Ma “Father.” as Duong, in an orange jumpsuit,
The suggestion moved Ma, who bowed when they met. “Daddy Long!”
understood the cultural obligation that Duong said, greeting his friend.
came with the moniker: To call Duong Throughout their halfhour visit,
“Son.” To trust him, to love him, even. the two men wept softly and spoke
This scared Ma. Life had taught him to in their native language of the bond
be cautious around love. And yet when they had nurtured since their week on
he looked at the damaged man next the run. They both felt so grateful, so
to him, his face bruised from the fight surprised by the possibility of friend
with Nayeri, his psyche scarred, he ship. Perhaps Ma especially. Whatever
saw the good that the rest of the world he had expected to experience on
failed to see. It warmed him. that dark, cold night when he left his
“Yes,” Ma said. “You can call me ‘Fa house in his pajamas, it wasn’t this.
ther,’ and I will call you ‘Son.’” Wherever he’d figured that trip might
After hours on the road, they pulled lead, it wasn’t here.
up to an autorepair shop in Santa As Ma grinned through the glass
Ana. As instructed, Ma slunk inside of the visitors’ room wall, he realized
the garage while Duong sat in the car. that Duong had saved his life, even
In a moment, the old man returned redeemed his soul.
with a woman, who put her head in “My son,” Ma said to Duong, “as
side the vehicle. Duong started to cry. long as you are still here, I will rescue
“Sister,” he said to Nguyen, “I’m tired.” you like you rescued me.”
GQ (MAY 1, 2017), COPYRIGHT © 2017 BY PAUL KIX, GQ.COM.
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This month we premiere an eclectic medley of musical terms—some
classical, some modern, and some slangy. If you’re missing a few beats,
waltz over to the next page for answers.
BY E M ILY COX & H E NRY R ATHVON
Answers
1. clam—[B] wrong note. Emmett’s 9. beatboxer—[B] vocal percussion-
violin solo was going wonderfully— ist. Marina is such an amazing
until he hit a clam. beatboxer that you’d swear there
was a drummer in the room.
2. legato—[A] smoothly. Lullabies
should always be sung legato. 10. barrelhouse—[B] rhythmic
style of jazz. Cynthia played an old
3. woodshed—[C] practice an
barrelhouse tune on the piano.
instrument. If Lydia wants to make
it to Carnegie Hall, she needs to 11. tonic—[A] first tone of a scale.
woodshed a lot more often. “This concerto is in C major, so the
tonic is C,” the professor explained.
4. busk—[C] play for donations.
I’m between gigs right now, unless 12. noodle—[C] improvise casually.
you count busking in the park. I was just noodling around on my
guitar when I wrote this riff.
5. ska—[C] Jamaican music. Blake’s
ska band is holding open auditions 13. hook—[C] catchy musical phrase.
for horn players this weekend. The Beatles had an undeniable knack
for melodic hooks.
6. nonet—[B] composition for
nine voices. Our baseball team is 14. skiffle—[B] music played on
also a singing group; we perform rudimentary instruments. Our family
only nonets! skiffle band features Mom on kazoo,
Dad on washboard,
7. pipes—[A] sing-
and Uncle John on
ing voice. Brandon
SING, SING, SING slide whistle.
killed “Livin’ on a
Prayer” at karaoke Many vocal terms have 15. earworm—
last night—who their roots in the Latin verb [B] tune that re-
knew he had such cantare (“to sing”). Cantatas peats in one’s head.
are pieces for singers, and
great pipes? That TV jingle has
bel canto (literally “beauti-
ful singing” in Italian) is op- become my latest
8. da capo—
eratic singing. A chanson is a earworm, and it’s
[A] from the top.
cabaret song, and its female driving me crazy!
Even though the
singer is a chanteuse. Chants
score said da capo,
and incantations are often
the bandleader en- VOCABULARY
sung. And a long poem, RATINGS
joyed bellowing to whether recited or sung, 9 & below: roadie
his musicians, “Take may be divided into cantos. 10–12: soloist
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THE HISTORY OF My daughter started making
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