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1. Be Self-aware.
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A fundamental dimension of self-awareness is being aware of our
feelings and having the ability to process them and make sense of
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them. Feelings are information; they’re windows to self-discovery.
Every feeling we experience has a unique meaning attached to it.
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I can never become my best self wishing for a different reality and a
different me. The mantra of a self-accepting person is, “I am doing the
best I can with what I’ve been given to work with.”
3. Be Self-forgiving.
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place shall never be with those timid and cold souls who
know neither victory nor defeat.
4. Be Self-defining
There will never be another person in all eternity like me. To become
my best self, I must become my unique self. Uniqueness is life.
Imitation is death. There is no other option and yet it is so hard to do.
Dr. Eric Fromm suggested that every real step towards freedom,
authentic being and selfhood is filled with anxiety.
was given specific means to gather food, so each person was given
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5. Be Self-Navigating
There are so many decisions to make in life; big and small that impact
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the quality of our life and the lives of others we impact. When does
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one give? When does one take? When should I speak up and when
should hold my tongue? Is it always right to tell the truth? When have I
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In order to make consistently good decisions we must have a clear I was a real monster and needed to
change, fast.
and reliable moral compass. We must have a clear sense of what is
right and wrong. I can never hope to become my best self if my moral Path of the Soul #4: Patience
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compass is broken.
The root of impatience is the
erroneous belief that we are the
Where do we find such a compass? On the college campus? On masters of our fates.
Madison Avenue? In the media? Doing what’s politically correct? Does Path of the Soul #1:
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How to close the gap between the
herself what’s right and wrong? Or perhaps, the most reliable moral
high ideals we hold in mind and the living truth of how
compass may be found in Judaism, our ancient spiritual tradition. How we act in life.
6. Self-Building
7. Be Self-Transcending
The great Hillel said, “If I’m not for myself, who will be? And if I’m only
for myself, what am I?” The ultimate goal of self-development is self-
transcendence. A life of self-indulgence and self-absorption is a life of
emptiness and despair. There is no greater emotional suffering than
being a self-absorbed person who is unable to give. And there is no
greater pleasure than self-transcendence and being of service to
others.
The goal of living is to become our best self. There are many
counterfeit expressions of what this means, such as power, success,
fame, status, popularity, wealth, etc. I hope these seven pathways
clarify a truer and more meaningful understanding of what it means to
become one’s best self.
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Rabbi Dov Heller is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who holds
Masters Degrees in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University and in
Contemporary Theology form Harvard University. He also holds a B.A in
philosophy and was ordained a rabbi in Jerusalem in 1982. He currently runs
a private practice in Beverly Hills, California specializing in adult
psychotherapy, personal growth counseling, dating coaching, and marital
therapy. In addition, he provides an international coaching and counseling
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