Qualities Of a Good Friend

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The old saying is true: good friends are hard to find. It can be hard to not only maintain friendships but also
to determine if a friendship is a healthy one. There are many qualities of a good friend to consider, and the following
are just a few you should consider when spending time with old friends and making new ones.
Be real. Are you trying to be friends with someone to be accepted into a certain clique, or because you'd like to get to
know someone else that he or she knows? Every new person you meet has the right to be accepted (or not) on his or
her own merits, it's better to just be yourself than let anyone else influence you into being someone you are not.
Remember, it's better to be hated for who you are, than to be liked for who you aren't. Actors are very easy to see
through. Stop acting, start being yourself.
Be honest. A dishonest person has no chance of having true friends. Keep your promises; do what you say you are
going to do, and most importantly, don't lie! Lying is when you say "Okay, I will...", but you never do: people
will eventually figure you out. People aren't stupid! Don't underestimate your friends. You'll stay without them and it
will be a great loss.
Be loyal. If your friend tells you something in confidence, don't talk about it to anyone else. Don't discuss your friend
behind his/her back except when it involves the other person, and you won't just make it worse. Nobody likes
a gossipor backstabber. But, you can't play both sides of a game or the fence. Agree with one or the other not with
both sides! But don't accuse either one without a real reason. Always think through carefully before any actions. Don't
regret after.
Be respectful. Things you and your friend discuss should be treated with care. Your friend is not sharing this
information with just anyone, and may not want to. She or he shared it with you, and only you, as far as you know. If
you are asked not to tell, stay consistent and don't share the information.
Pitch in for friends during times of crisis. If your friend has to go to the hospital, you could help pack his or her
bags, if her/his dog runs away, help to find it, if he/she needs someone to pick him/her up, be there. Don't make any
excuses if you really don't have the real ones.
If your friend is going through a crisis, don't say: "Everything is going to be all right." if it's not going to be. It's hard not
to say that sometimes, but false reassurance can often be worse than none, and it may undermine your
friends abilityto get through the crisis. Stay honest, but upbeat and positive. Even a stranger
would appreciate a sincere word or possibly a gesture of a "quick" hug, or a hand rubbed across the back for just "a
moment," but don`t overdo it. It can be misinterpreted. You never know how somebody will react. Being moderate is
always the best choice.
Give advice, add perspective. Don't judge your friend, but do advise to stay out of dangerous situations where one
may harm oneself or others. Tell him/her how you perceive his/her situation, and what you might do in the
same circumstances. Avoid saying "You should...". That may feel like you are imposing "shoulds" upon your friend.
You will probably sound like his or her mother. Nobody likes that.
Give your friend space. Understand if he/she wants to be alone or hang out with other people. Allow it to happen.
Don't become obsessive, clingy or needy. Friendship doesn't require that you always have to be paired together.
Allowing one another the time to hang with other friends gives you much-needed breathing room.
Don't be selfish. Grabbing, stealing, envying and/or begging are big nos in the rules of friendship. The friend will
soon get tired of this and eventually move towards more selfless people. Bear that in mind.
Don't expect, demand or abuse generosity or "wear out your welcome." When your friend does something nice for
you, then reciprocate quickly. Money isn't, or doesn't have to be, an issue. Surprise your friend when he or she least
expects it.
Don't compare labels, prices, size and value.
Don't let your friend pay every time you go out, even if its offered.

Go home when it seems like the time is right, don't be like furniture. Reach for the doorknob and say "Bye." turn
the knob, leave... No one wants to be friends with a moocher or to feel used.
If you borrow something from a friend, take good care of it and then return it without being asked . Don't use
that awful phrase: "Oh, I`ll bring it tomorrow" and you never do that. A good friend never does that.
Vocabulary
Nouns (substantive): Verbs (verbe):

clique trupa, grup, gac maintain a ntreine

merit virtute, merit, calitate, valoare determine a determina
influence influena consider a considera, a lua
confidence ncredere n considerare
gossip brf figure out - a pricepe
backstabber cineva care bag cuitul n spatele play of the fence a fi cu
cuiva, trdtor dou fee
reassurance asigurare accuse a acuza
ability abilitate pitch in a ajuta
gesture gest undermine a mina, a
circumstance ansa, posibilitate drma
generosity mrinimie, generozitate appreciate - a aprecia
issue ntrebare, tema overdo a ntrece msura
label eticheta judge a judeca
doorknob clan require a cere
moocher lene grab a lua n grab
henpecked husband so sub papuc envy a fi invidios
beg a ruga
demand a cere
abuse a abuza
reciprocate a retruna
Adjectives and adverbs Prepositions and
(alectivele i adverbele): conjunctions
( propoziiile i
conjunciile):

dishonest incorect -
eventually n sfrit
respectful respectuos
upbeat optimist
sincere corect
consistent - consistent
clingy lipicios, cnd cineva se lipete, nu vrea s
se despart de dvs. (copii de ex.)
needy srac, nevoia
selfish - egoist
persistent persistent
selfless - altruist
Synonyms

Nouns (substantive)

clique - group, set, crowd, pack, circle, crew (informal)

merit - worth, virtue, quality
influence - impact
confidence - trust, belief, faith, dependence, reliance, credence
gossip - hearsay, tittle - tattle
backstabber - betrayer, Brutus, double-crosser, fink, informer, Judas, quisling, snake in the grass
abiility - capability
circumstance - situation
generosity - unselfishness
issue - matter, topic, subject
doorknob - door-handle
moocker - cadger

Verbs (verbe)

maintain - preserve, save

determine - decide
consider - think, see, believe
figure out - puzzle out, solve, lick, work out, work
accuse - incriminate, impeach
pitch in - to cooperate orcontribute
undermine - weaken, compromise
appreciate - value, regard, respect, prize, admire
overdo - exaggerate, overstate, overuse
judge - evaluate, rank, value
require - need, want
grab - catch, grasp
envy - be jealous (of), begrudge, covet
beg - call off, request
demand - call for, request, want
abuse - ill-treat, ill-use, maltreat, mistreat
reciprocate - return, respond

Adjectives and adverbs (adjective i adverbe)

dishonest - dishonorable, deceitful

eventually - in the end, finally, after all
respectful - polite, civil, mannerly, humble
upbeat - positive, optimistic, promissing, encouraging
sincere - honest, genuine, real, true, frank, open
consistent - constant, persistent
needy - destitute, improverished
selfish - self-centred, self-interested, greedy, egoistic
persistent - determined, dogged
selfless - unselfish, altruistic