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“If You’re So Happy with the Way Things Are,
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I tell folks all the time, “If you’re happy with the way things are, then don’t come
see me. I’m not your guy.” There are many people, though, who are looking
for a better way, a way that makes more sense to them. Americans are far
more educated and aware then they
used to be, and that is causing a profound
change in the way we view things. Let
me explain. Imagine driving your car,
and the dashboard oil light comes on.
Would you cover the light up with tape,
or would you fix the problem? Of course
you wouldn’t just cover it up, you know
better! But isn’t that what we do with
our bodies when we take most drugs?
Let me tell you my story Sixteen years
ago I was a senior in high school. I was
in an automobile accident, where I
almost lost my life. I developed a painful
condition in my neck and low back.
The pain in my neck and back was so
intense that I couldn’t get out of bed without help. My neck hurt to the
point where I couldn’t turn it to change lanes while driving. I was afraid that
I’d lose the ability to play baseball if the disability continued. After several
months of trying pain medication and muscle relaxants nothing was work-
ing. I was considering surgery, but I decided against it. But there’s more. A
friend of mine convinced me to give a chiropractor a try. The chiropractor
did an exam, took some films, explained that my spine was out of place and
was irritating the nerves in my hands. That was the problem. Then he
“adjusted” my spine. The adjustment didn’t hurt, it actually felt good. I got
relief, and I could turn my neck and stand without pain again. It worked so
well that I went to chiropractic school myself. But, tell me, what if I just took
the pain medicine? Where would I have ended up? You see, I wasn’t content
with what traditional medicine had to offer me.
Now for the photo, this is my little girl Hannah-Marie (3 years old), and my
son, Tristen (5 years old), and my wife, Jennifer. My children know enough
to ask me to adjust them when they feel like they may be getting a headache
or sick, or sometimes just to stay “tuned up.” Well I’m the guy on the right.
It’s strange how life is, because now people come to see me with their neck
and back problems. Also they come to me with their headaches, migraines,
chronic pain, neck pain, shoulder/arm pain, whiplash from car accidents, backaches,
ear infections, asthma, allergies, numbness in limbs, athletic injuries, just to name a
Here’s what some of my patients had to say:
“These Doctors really listen and care about their patients. I don’t know where I
would be without their help!” – (K. Dewitt-Florence, SC)
“I had headaches everyday of my life for the past 12 years; Dr. McKay put an end
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“I suffered with chronic pain for over 25 years. I tried numerous different treatments
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about Dr. McKay. With his help, I am now able to sleep through the night.
Thanks to my friend and Dr. McKay.” - (H. Davis - Florence, SC)
“They gave me my life back!!!” – (B. Mills - Florence, SC)
You should know that I don’t heal anyone of anything. What I do is perform a
specific spinal adjustment to remove nerve pressure, and the body responds
by healing itself. We get tremendous results. It’s as simple as that!
Many Americans no longer have health insurance, and those who do have
found that their benefits are reduced. That’s where I come in. I have a
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they are seeing a chiropractor, but, if you are happy with just traditional
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to know that I have family monthly payment plans. You see I’m not trying
to seduce you to come see me with this low start up fee, then to only make it up
with high fees after that. “Further care” is very important to consider when
making your choice of doctor. High costs can add up very quickly.
Great care at a great fee…Please, I hope that there’s no misunderstanding
about quality of care just because I have a lower fee. You’ll get great care at
a great fee. My qualifications…I did my studies at the University of South
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My assistants are Debbie and Ashley, and they are both really great people.
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letter from the editor
melia flowers berry
My Grandmother Flowers died over a decade before I was born. Although I
never had the blessing of knowing her personally, I’m sure she was indeed a very wise
woman. My DaDa never stopped talking about the wisdom she bestowed upon him
Though Bessie Flowers never had much formal education, I’m told she spoke
perfect grammar and would not tolerate anything less from her children. Recently, I
was given a copy of a memoir written by my aunt that included her recount of my
grandmother’s wisdom. In it, she wrote about how her mother would take her for
walks in the woods and tell her about different plants and their medicinal qualities.
Grandma Flowers was part Native American Indian, and she had a wealth of knowledge
about natural treatments that was handed down from her own mother.
She raised eight children during the Great Depression; yet, to hear my daddy
talk about the way they were taken care of, you would have never known they wanted
for anything. My DaDa contributed the good health he enjoyed into his nineties to the
healthy diet he had as a child. Grandma Bessie was industrial and resourceful, and I cannot
help but feel that she would have been disappointed in me, as I all-too-often take the
easy road, which does not always include home-cooked meals for my family.
I have always been drawn to WISE WOMEN. When I was a little girl, we had
an elderly neighbor, Ms. Collins. At that time, I thought she was about 175-years-old,
but now I know that she was in her late eighties. During the summers, she would sit
outside under a tree in her little chair. She was very tall and thin, and she always wore
a plain cotton dress – or frock as she called it – with an apron over it and an old-
fashioned bonnet. It was one like the ladies on Little House on the Prairie wore.
Once, I ran up behind Ms. Collins and startled her, which resulted in her shaking
the long stick she used as a walking cane at me and threatening to use it on my
“behind.” I was so scared that my little eight-year-old legs ran as fast as they could
home without looking back. After that, I was afraid of her; but, still, I was drawn to her
and couldn’t wait to go visit with her as she sat in her little spot beneath the shade tree.
Ms. Collins was a Christian and loved to talk about God. She believed that women
should not wear pants or cut their hair or wear makeup. And if you did, you would not
go to Heaven. Her beliefs scared me because I wanted to go to Heaven, but I couldn’t
imagine not being able to wear shorts in the summer or makeup when I grew older. I
loved her stories and I knew that she was wise; however, according to my beliefs, her
theology was off. Nevertheless, she was full of the love of God, and she believed in
always doing what was right, never telling a lie and turning the other cheek.
Now, as a grown woman, I recognize the wealth of wisdom that older women
have, and I am grateful that God has continued to place those WISE WOMEN in my
path – my mother and grandmothers, friends and mentors.
I think the companionship of WISE WOMEN is crucial in the life of any woman,
especially a young woman. I cannot imagine having raised my children without the wisdom
and experience that my mother shared with me. Before how-to baby books flooded
the market, how did women have babies and raise their children without doing serious
damage? By the passing down of knowledge from one wise woman to generation after
generation, that’s how.
Today, even though my children are grown, I still rely on my mother’s wisdom
for so many things. So often when cooking, I pick up the phone to ask how long this
should cook or if she thinks the three-day-old meat in my fridge is safe to eat. Now
that the She Magazine office is in Florence, I call her to chat during my commute to and
from work, and I use that time to seek her wisdom on the things going on in my life. I
cannot help but think how much better off women all would be if they would turn off
Oprah and call their moms (or any other wise woman).
The wisdom of a woman can be made manifest in various forms, I believe. One
woman’s wisdom might be contributed to life experiences, while another’s wisdom
might be learned. However, I think that, as women, we all possess a unique quality that
is women’s intuition. And, if tapped into, that intuition can be a source of great wisdom.
For more on that, read Ouida Page’s article, “Using Wisdom: Women’s Intuition and
I recently read an article in a psychology journal in which women’s intuition
was referred to as “a sixth sense.” It suggested that “those who study such behaviors
and phenomena” acknowledge that women’s intuition does exist. But, we already knew
that, didn’t we? Perhaps it’s part of the way that God equipped us so that we could
better take care of our children and others, as we are natural-born caregivers. As
women, we are able to feel or perceive things from our surroundings and have dis-
cernment on a level that seems to be quite unique to our gender.
This issue of She is called WISE WOMEN. It’s a celebration of smart women
everywhere. Since August is the back-to-school month, it seemed very fitting to include
a number of our wise teachers from the Pee Dee. We also included a timely article
by Dr. Avie Rainwater, as he answers a letter from a reader about school cliques.
Dr. Marshall Dent addresses another hot topic in “Childhood Obesity and Self-Esteem:
Important Factors When a Child Is Trying to Fit In.” You may find these helpful as your
child embarks upon a new school year.
I hope you enjoy this issue . . . It’s a (wise) woman thing!
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6. Jumana Swindler is the Director of Marketing and Public Relations for McLeod
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movies,Theater, fishing, reading and spending time with her son and family.
5. Cookie Cawthon is wild about her family. She totally digs serving as a
greeter at NewSpring Church every week, and she flat out loves reading, writing,
speaking, teaching, and blogging www.cookiecawthon.com.
10. Paige Self Thomas lives in Florence with her husband, Joey, and two Sheltie
children,Timmy and Buddy. Together, Paige and Joey have seven grown children. She works
part-time as Business Administrator for the Francis Marion University Center for the Child
and is a Licensed Realtor with Prudential Segars in Florence.
4. Ouida K Page is a Licensed Professional and National Board Certified Counselor
with a Bachelor’s Degree in Nursing and is a member of the International Honor Society
of Nursing. She specializes in families and issues relating to children, adolescents and
women of all ages.
9. Anna Pitts Fox is a Media Specialist at Greenwood Elementary School.
Anna enjoys reading and writing but more than anything, she loves being a
8. Marti Miller lives in Marion, loves writing for She Magazine and is
excited (and a little bit nervous) about returning to work fulltime as a
case manager for Marion County Guardian ad Litem program. Prayers
appreciated...especially for her supervisor.
19. Collin Smith A portrait and wedding photographer based out of Florence, Collin
launched the $100 Portrait Project that donates 50% of its revenue to the Children’s Miracle
Network & stays in the Florence area. In this issue, look for Collin’s work throughout this
month’s issue. He is also the man behind the beautiful photos in the CYNTHIA ads. View
his work at www.cmsmithportraits.com.
7. Ferebe Gasque is excited about getting married in December!
She also loves being Music Therapist at McLeod Hospice House, selling
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for She Magazine.
2. J. Marshall Dent, MD is Board Certified in Family Practice & Obstetrics and
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1. Avie J. Rainwater, III, Ph.D., ABPP A Senior Partner of LifeCare
Psychology Group, LLC, Dr. Avie J. Rainwater is the only Triple-Boarded Psychologist
in SC, holding Specialty Certification in Clinical Psychology and Sub-Specialty
Designations in both Biofeedback and Pain Management. He and his wife of 31 years,
Karen, have three children together. Chelsea, Seth and Josh.
11. Mary Dittman, MBA, is an Instructor of Marketing and Director of the
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consults for a variety of local and regional companies and is actively involved in the
Florence community. Her column “Mary Unmarried” is now a reader favorite.
18. Ricki Ford is a photographer out of marion who says, “ Photography is an art to
me and I want every image that I take to be timeless. His work is featured in various
photo shoots in this issue and more can be seen online at www.rickiford.com.
A U G U S T 2 0 1 0
13. Cheri Jordan is a Florence resident and has been married to her husband,
Robert, for eleven years. She is a stay-at-home mom to four children, Abbi, Luke,
Savannah and Matthew.
17. Peggy Thibodeau is a self-taught, recycled folk artist living in Myrtle Beach.
Raised on a horse farm in Pennsylvania, she is a wilderness girl at heart. When asked
about her artist’s statement, her only reply is, “Oh, just whatever pleases. I hope my work
is open - like the wide open spaces of my youth. If one of my paintings makes someone
laugh or smile, then I’m happy! Her studio is in her little red barn. It is there that she “fol-
lows her bliss” by taking old things and giving them new life with her trash-to-treasure
Peggy once read about message sprawled on a Paris sidewalk that said, "The
city of Paris is full of beautiful mysteries, and you are one of them." Peggy couldn’t forget
that message and began to think how wonderful it would be to spread love and joy by
writing beautiful messages on sidewalks with chalk. That idea has evolved into the words she
often includes on her art, and is the reason she calls herself “The Sidewalk Chalk Prophet.”
She is on the board of the Waccamaw Arts and Crafts Guild. She lives with her
husband and eighteen-year-old daughter in a home filled with laughter. More of her work
can be seen at the House of Blues in Myrtle Beach and at peggyart.com.
3. Melodie Griffin is a Hartsville native who is proud to call the state of SC her
home. She resides in the Midlands now with her husband, 3 children and 2 Westies.
You can learn more about Melodie at www.melodiegriffin.com.
14. Allison Marie Chandler is a senior at Francis Marion University,
majoring in English-Liberal Arts with a minor in Mass Communications. She’ll
graduate in May 2011. Allison was born in Florence, and graduated from West
Florence High School. Along with being a full-time student at FMU, she enjoys
working as a waitress and writing for She Magazine.
12. Erika Chapman loves her husband, Mark & living in Florence. Her passions
include raising her three boys, serving as a KidSpring Volunteer at NewSpring Church and
reading just about anything she can get her hands on.
16. Allie Atkinson is a French Teacher at Marion High School. She lives in
Marion with her husband, Philip, and daughter, Abbie. She Magazine is thrilled by Allie’s
return as a contributing writer. She has been missed.
15. Aron Cannon Smith and her husband, Collin, live in Florence. They have a
son, Makgill (6) and a daughter, Clara Beth (3).
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GARY SAYS I’M WISE.Of course, he also says I’m beautiful and funny
and sweet and talented and, well, you get the picture. I say he’s biased. But, I love
hearing all those things anyway. He’s promised me he’ll pamper me for the next
eighty years. I’m looking forward to that.
I don’t feel wise most of the time. I have my moments, but they are few and
far between. The Bible says if we lack wisdom, we should ask God for it (James 1:5).
I think most of us have the asking part down pat. It’s just the listening for (and fol-
lowing up with) the answers that causes the problem.
I’ve known of lots of wise women. In biblical times, there seemed to be
plenty of them. Sarah and Ruth and Esther in the Old Testament… Mary and Dorcas
and even women whose names were never revealed in the New Testament. Closer
to our lives were women like Ann Frank and Corrie ten Boom and Ethel Waters and,
frankly, some of the wives of famous men who (in my opinion) were much wiser than
their famous husbands. Yes, there have been wise men, too, but men only get spot-
lighted in June in this magazine (sorry, guys!).
Then, there have been wise women I have known “in the flesh.” I can
remember school teachers who made a major impact on my life. Three who imme-
diately come to mind were at McKenzie School. My first and fourth grade teachers,
Mrs. McElveen and Mrs. Long, are now in Heaven with those other wise women
from history. I still get to see my sixth grade teacher, Mrs. Bernice Hubbard, at
church every Sunday. Wise, loving, caring, longsuffering… I still have lots of respect
for school teachers. But, I think back in those days, when resources were few and
salaries were really meager, teachers had to be more creative and even more dedi-
cated to their calling than is true today. Those three women made an indelible
impact on my life and were influential in the lives of many others.
My Aunt Ferebe (we called her “Sister”) was wise. She was a woman ahead
of her time. She worked to finance her way through Coker College, graduating in
1931. Back then, there were no student loan programs. After graduation, she took
a train to New York City where she earned her masters degree in social work. She
was a leader in her field for many years. But, her formal education was not what
made her wise.
My mom was the wisest woman I ever knew. She was not highly educated.
She graduated from Lamar High School, but she never pursued formal education
after that. She once confessed to me that she didn’t even particularly like school.
She was very smart in spite of that. But, her brain capabilities did not make her wise.
My best friend, Beth, is
very wise. She is able to give me
advice in areas where I can’t be quite
so objective. She makes thoughtful,
solid recommendations; but, she doesn’t
force them on me. She doesn’t feel like
she’s wise. But, she is. Come to think of it, I don’t
know any wise people who think they are wise.
I’ve known other wise women. I’m wise enough
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close friends. Some of them I’ve only read about. Yet others have been those with
whom I’ve only had fleeting contact. All of them have several things in common.
The wise women I have known listened more than they talked. I know,
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haven’t been mute. But, their wisdom didn’t often come through the planned rhetoric.
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them have been able to give materially and financially, but others have not. All of
them have freely given of themselves.
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or another. But, they’ve all maintained that close contact with the Father of all wisdom.
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I suppose the wisest thing I’ve ever done is to listen to them… and to Him.
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was not so very long ago that
I would have considered the
phrase “wise women” to be
rather redundant. I used to think, in my teeny tiny liber-
ated mind, that all women were wise. Well, maybe we
are, but most of us don’t arrive at the staked out terri-
tory of womanhood with the word WISE stamped in
large letters across our foreheads. Some of us come to
“wise” by way of hugely egregious errors of choice and
countless small boo-boo’s of thought, word, and action.
In other words, some of us do not set good examples
of wise womanhood for others to follow. Oh no. Some
of us help further the cause of wise womanhood by
being stunningly horrible warnings of what NOT to do.
Ever catch an episode of “What NOT to
Wear” on the cable network? It’s a perfect example of
horrible warnings for wiser women about fashion sense
and nonsense. Any woman considering bearing arms
without benefit of prior toning can avoid being detained
by the fashion police with one simple word weapon:
sleeves. Turtlenecks do not always hide or flatter the
turkey neck.When bulging occurs, spandex is meant for
undergarments not outerwear.
Let’s see now…if we flip the cable box to tat-
too topics (like LA Ink?), wise women can take a won-
derful warning from those lower back ink arts (known
as the tramp stamp in some circles). Though they are
often beautiful to view, the back of that young woman
will begin to slide south or spread outward and over
the belt at some point down the road of life. Perhaps a
wise woman could choose to free her spirit and capture
her creativity by hanging her art on her walls instead?
And then there’s the gypsy woman…whether
by style (think long skirts, hoop earrings, and gauzy
blouses?) or by adventurous spirit (no roots, no ties,
and no home). Their style and wandering ways can be
inspirational to some or detrimental to others attempts
to become wise women. Experience can be a wonder-
ful teacher, especially when the lessons are learned the
But, of course, there are some who consider
themselves to be wise women and are far from it.
Gypsies, tramps, and sleeves, you say? How about the
writer of this article who fashions herself a discerner of
wise and unwise? She has just committed the kind of
egregious error mentioned in paragraph one (the one
she herself wrote just moments ago).Who is she (me?)
to judge whether gypsies, tramp stamps or sleeves are
wise or unwise choices? She is not allowed. She begs
the readers’ forgiveness. And will now attempt to
redeem herself by moving quickly back to the topic of
When in doubt or in need of redemption, it’s
never a mistake to seek out God’s word.And, in seek-
ing, I re-discovered that the Bible says quite a bit
about wisdom (look to Job, Ecclesiastes, and much of
Proverbs) and when referencing it, always gives wis-
dom the feminine adjective “she”. Well now, what
can we make of that? Probably not so much, but
we do get examples of big boo-boo’s and shin-
ing lights in Proverbs 14:1. It tell us that “Every
wise woman buildeth her house: but the fool-
ish plucketh it down with her hands” (KJV).
Consider Mary Magdalene. She
made some pretty colossal errors of
choice, but discovered the one true way
to find freedom from those mistakes.
She lost one life and gained another.
She became the poster person of
second chances for generations
of women who followed her.
She was both a horrible
warning and a shining
example of a wise
woman. The same
could be said for
w e l l ,
real l y,
for any woman of the Bible – even Mary. Okay, maybe
not Mary. Or Ruth. But life happens. Mistakes are made.
And wisdom often flows from mistakes, if we survive
them. Knowledge can be helpful, but it’s those mistakes
from which we gather the more lasting flowers of wis-
dom. Hmm, mistakes can become wisdom fertilizer -
unless we fail to cultivate it. If it just sits there unused,
a mistake will remain just a stinky pile of, well, life
manure. It won’t fertilize anything but the foulness of
From Proverbs 31 comes the description of “A
Wife of Noble Character”, including the following vers-
es – whether married, single, widowed, engaged or dis-
engaged of men – these are words for the wise woman.
She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
When considering this month’s wise women
topic, several names came to mind – some famous and
some only headliners in their own families or circles of
friends. But they all seemed to share certain traits in
common.They are women of great faith, patience (most
of them!), hope, humor, inner beauty and outer calm.
Without exception, they have provided incredible wis-
dom of thought and have made those colossal mistakes
and learned from them. Not only so, they have become
wiser by sharing the lessons they have learned with
other women, like me, who have so very much more to
learn before taking on the earned title of Wise Woman.
Be we gypsies, tramp-stamped, or wear no sleeves, may
we all live and learn and pass it on. Our daughters are
watching us.Thankfully, both shining examples and shud-
dering errors combine to create a world of much wiser
A N D
Marti Miller lives and works in Marion County,
SC. She attends Mullins First Baptist Church and
Revelation Church in Marion. If she were a wiser
woman, she might be able to choose just one to
call home. But for now, she remains a fence-sitter
(or a gypsy?)
By Marti Miller
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Dr. Charles W. Gould
PRESIDENT OF FLORENCE-DARLINGTON TECHNICAL COLLEGE
hen I graduated from college, my first employment was teaching Sociology in a high school in Fort Lauderdale, Florida.
I knew before that first school year had ended that I wanted to teach and be involved with education.
The enthusiasm of the students was very contagious. However, the Principal of the school was probably one of the indi-
viduals who did more to teach me about teaching and managing than anyone else I have ever worked for. She was a professional,
through and through, and took a real interest in new teachers. All of that combined helped me to make up my mind that teaching
was what I wanted to do with my career.
Growing up, I was fairly apathetic about school. My family was Roman Catholic, so I was always (with a few brief exceptions)
in a Catholic school where the discipline was harsh but the educational foundations were solid. I was a very average student
and didn’t really get excited about learning until I went to college.
My career path has always been education. The one time I left education was to become an Editor for a national
educational publication, but that only lasted three years. Then, I went back to graduate school in order to obtain another
position in education.
I had been in the Technical College system in South Carolina for approximately fifteen years and was ready to
move up the career ladder. I was the Executive Vice President at Technical College of the Lowcountry in Beaufort, SC, when
the opportunity in Florence to become President of Florence-Darlington Technical College became available.
There are several
aspects that I like most
about my job. First, I
enjoy helping to create
opportunities for peo-
ple who want to
improve their skills
and who want more
education. Second, I enjoy
the role that the college plays
in the economic development of our region, i.e. helping
businesses locate in the Pee Dee that will provide
employment options for our citizens. Third, I enjoy work-
ing with the board, the staff and the faculty at Florence-
Darlington Technical College. They are a dedicated group
of individuals who put in 110% effort to make this college
The lack of financial resources is one of the tough-
est challenges. I want to create more programs that will
serve students. I want to compensate the faculty and
staff for their hard work, and I want to build or improve
facilities that will improve the instructional environ-
ment. Much of this takes financial resources and very
long-term planning. And that is a difficult responsibility in
this day and time.
In the past ten years, education has changed in many
areas. Education, at least post-secondary education, has
become an expensive item. The technical colleges continue
to be a low-cost, high-quality option for students, and the
colleges play an important role in making post-secondary
education affordable and attainable. In addition, the world of
work has radically changed in the last ten years in that many
(almost 79% of the new jobs created) require post-secondary
education – but less than four years. The technical colleges play
a very important role in creating and preparing a modern work-
force. Lastly, education in the last ten years has begun to reflect
the changes in lifestyles that people have and are maintaining.
Speed and timeliness are critical and change is not a luxury.
Those traits and having education delivered within the sphere of
one’s lifestyle and time requirements have forced colleges to
rethink how they deliver instruction. The technical colleges have
become particularly adaptable to those changes in lifestyles.
Education is extremely important to individuals and to
our community as a whole. Quite simply, if we do not have a
sophisticated, trained workforce, we are going to lose out in
economic development. It used to be that quality of life was
number one or two on an economic development prospect’s list
when they looked for a new location. Now, workforce issues are
the number one or number two items on their lists. Not only
is the education important to get into the job market, continu-
ing education is absolutely essential for keeping that job or mov-
ing into a job with more responsibility.
Approximately 65% to 70% of our students are
women and that has remained fairly constant for the last ten
years. What has changed is that more and more women are
entering fields that were predominately male populated. The
barriers women encountered in the workforce ten years ago are
quickly disappearing. On the flipside of that, more and more
men are entering fields that were predominately female populat-
ed, like nursing. This means that the competition for jobs is get-
ting keener and keener all the time. The entire world of work is
changing in a fashion that distinctions between male-focused and
female-focused work sectors is no long applicable. This provides
many new opportunities for women in those jobs, as well as for
the jobs that are being created and do not presently exist. Jobs
are skill focused, not gender focused.
The most exciting thing Florence-Darlington Technical
College has to offer is opportunity, opportunity, opportunity!
And the opportunities that FDTC offers translate into meaning-
ful careers with decent compensation and unparalleled futures.
More and more companies are coming to us with intern and co-
op opportunities for students because they know our FDTC
students are serious about learning and they can add value to
their workforces. And I’m very excited to be a part of all that.
“Education is extremely important to individuals and
to our community as a whole. Quite simply, if we do
not have a sophisticated, trained workforce, we are
going to lose out in economic development.”
A native of Southern Florida, Dr. Charles W. Gould has been in South Carolina for the last thirty-two years. He currently resides in Florence.
He received a Bachelor’s Degree from St. John Vianney College Seminary in Boynton Beach, Florida; a Master’s Degree in Mathematical
Logic from the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee; and his Ph.D. from Duke University with a Specialty in Law and Ethics.
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Very few people will admit it.
But lots of us do IT - because it's got to be the ultimate pleasure.
Don't try to read ahead. IT isn't immoral, illegal or extravagant. IT is….loving to sing out loud even when you can't carry
a tune in a bucket or out of one - like me.
Ever notice how many of us are out there enjoying tunes and melodies, even humming to commercial jingles, while gro-
cery shopping or walking the dog? Or, are you the one chuckling in the passing car when you spot folks like us belting
out songs on the way to work, singing to ourselves like loons and obviously off-key. More people hear my toneless
outbursts when the weather's nice - I drive my convertible with the top down and shamelessly crow out the lead
parts from my favorite Broadway CD's. I can even sing in "British" style with my Mama Mia recording.
It's an eye-opener to count the number of us who are plagued by the disease of singingstarapho-
bia. That's the sickness that pervades one's mind and deludes the tone deaf into believing that
they too can imitate the vocal greatness of Celine Dion or Faith Hill (both at the same time.)
For years, I thought I was a loser, an outcast from the masses of people gifted with golden
vocal cords. Secretly, however, I was one of them - in the shower at night, or in my room, using
my hairbrush as a mike, I surpassed them all in singing talent. Barbara Streisand, Tina Turner or
Gary Puckett, I sang with the best of them - and still do.
Music is a thrill, even to the tone deaf and the rhythmically awkward. Some of it's exciting,
some emotional and some just downright meaningless between the Bee Bops and Woo Woos.
But music does make an impact on our daily lives and loves. For instance, don't some
tunes pump through you like a shot of too much chocolate? Especially themes from the older
shows like Mission Impossible, Cheers or Hawaii 5-0. Rocky's "Eye of the Tiger" once caused me to
peel a wheelie out of the Food Lion parking lot.
Other songs, especially after a big tiff with a loved one, can be as big a downer as the break up,
sad songs help splinter broken hearts and love songs entice seeking singles into a more dedicated search for
Mr. or Mrs. Right.
And these days, if you can't remember the songs you can at least remember the group's or artist's
name because they are a bit odd like: Snoop Dogg, Lady Gaga, U2, Black Eyed Peas, and Eminem.What ever
happened to easy and endearing names like The Mamas and The Papas or an easy single name like Cher?
But which are the songs everyone remembers because of their profound meaning,
depth and inspiration? We checked around. Feel free to sing along even if you can't carry a
tune but can stand the emotional impact.
Country ballads took top billing including the heartbreaker, "You Stole My Heart and
Stomped That Sucker Flat."
Bessie Smith's blue tune, "I'm Tired of Frying Pork Chops Just to Grease Your Fat Lips," also
came up several times.
Then there's the old one: "There's a Tear in My Beer," by Hank Williams Jr.
And, lest we not forget these favorites: "I got Tears in My Ears From Lying on My Back When I Cried
in My Sleep Over You," and "If You Want to Keep Your Beer Cold, Put It Next to My Ex-Wife's Heart."
No Kidding these are real - even though you might find it hard to believe songwriters could
have expressed themselves with such compassion.
There's Jimmy Dickens with "May the Blue Bird of Paradise Fly Up Your Nose, May Your
Wife be Plagued with Runners in Her Hose."
Romance numbers include: "Does Your Chewing Gum Lose its Flavor on the Bed Post at
Night" and the wisdom of Roger Miller with "Don't Roller Skate in the Buffalo Herd."
Religious songs got in on list with "Don't Kick Me Jesus Over the Goal Post of Life" and
a favorite Christmas melody, "Grandpa Got Run Over by a Reindeer."
The intellectual favorites include: "I like Bananas 'Cause They Have No Bones" and "I'm
Gonna Hire a Wino to Decorate My Home."
Albert Collins put out this tune for romantic dinners, "Don't Go Reaching 'Cross My
Plate," to equal with "Thank God and Greyhound You're Gone" or "The Blues, the Pinks,
But One Thing's Sure, Love Stinks," by the J. Geiles Band.
"The Future's So Bright I Gotta Wear Shades" and Dr. West's Medicine Show
Junk Band's "The Eggplant That Ate Chicago," are perfect distractions on long trips.
And, then there's my favorite intimate melody that says, "Your Love
Songs Filled the Bucket That Had
Holes Dug From Tears."
How different are those lyrics
from the modern rap song I
heard recently, "La Dee Dee, it's so
nice to be me…., La Dee Doo…, So
glad I'm not you…. La La Loo Loo, Ha
Ha Hoo Hoo…."
So who care's about carrying a tune,
when the lyrics can be just as challenging or just as
bad? Come on everybody, just sing out - no one will notice these days.
or Tone Up!
Jumana A. Swindler, a resident of Florence, is the Director of
Marketing and Public Relations for McLeod Health. Her personal
favorite pastimes, reflected in her writings, are RV'ing, movies,
theater, fishing, reading and spending time with her son and family.
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thought we could. And she did so with a smile! She helped us to love learning and made
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high school, I had the opportunity to sit in on her classes. Nothing had changed! She
still gives everything she has to show students how much fun learning can be. And she
pushes students to be not only good students, but also good people in general.”
“Mary Ward Baucom was my third grade teacher at North Hartsville Elementary. She
has to be the one teacher that inspired me the most. I can still remember the les-
sons that she taught me as she literally danced around the classroom! She
made learning a very entertaining experience. I also remember her compas-
sion, as well. I was sitting in her classroom the day the Challenger exploded.
She watched in awe with us, and then told us that we had just witnessed some-
thing we would never forget. And she was so right. We also watched baby
chicks hatching from their eggs – and many more amazing moments. Not only
was I fortunate enough to have her as a teacher, my son was also in her class in the first
grade! She made the transition to a new school so easy for both of us. Mrs. B always has
a smile on her face and a hug waiting for a child who needs it.”
“Margaret Norwood was my most influential teacher. She taught grades 10 - 12 at
McClenaghan High School. Mrs Norwood was the choral and church choir director and
was an inspiration in every way.”
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by Charles Martin
Do you have a favorite contemporary
author? You know, the one that you follow and
have faithfully read each and every release, anxious-
ly awaiting a new gem to be published? Oh boy, do
I! Now, I must preface this by saying that for years,
Nicholas Sparks (author of The Notebook, The
Wedding, Dear John, Message In a Bottle, among
others) and I had a “thing.” He was my book-store
boyfriend! Then, one spring day in 2006, another
“man” came on the horizon. When I read my first
Charles Martin book, my heart was wooed away from
Nick, and I fell unabashedly in book-love with Charles!
Generally, I’m not an action/adventure
reader, but The Mountain Between Us is full of both.
It is intertwined with a deeply personal and intimate
exploration of the developing relationship of the two
main characters, Ashley Knox and Dr. Ben Payne, and
their relationships with loved ones back home.
In The Mountain Between Us, a woman
writer and a male doctor are in a plane crash
together and are the sole survivors. A nice touch is
that the pilot’s dog survived the crash with them.
The three are stuck in the High Uintas
Wilderness, a hard and remote land in the United
States. Survival and love quickly take front and cen-
ter. They are injured and cold and need to survive
this experience, yet there is an attraction to each
other, despite their commitment to others in their
lives. She is about to get married to someone else,
and he is already married to someone else, although
he is strangely living apart from his wife.
The struggle for survival in the harshest of
circumstances reveals an inner strength and courage
and an unselfish human characteristic in a young
man who has already endured immeasurable per-
sonal loss in his life. For the sake of his companion, this
man’s perseverance and his unwillingness to give up, as
all hope seems to diminish, is gripping, heartwarming
and compelling. Charles Martin leaves the reader to
celebrate with the characters’ ultimate peace of heart
and soul as the final chapters intrigue and surprise.
The one thing I have found as a common
thread in all of Charles Martin’s work is the strength
of character and commitment to integrity his lead-
ing characters possess. It is awe-inspiring to read
about these characters. You want to know them, to
share their lives as they face the challenges – some
ordinary and some extraordinary. In The Mountain
Between Us, Charles Martin does not disappoint.
Although writing in the Mainstream Fiction market
versus his usual Christian Fiction market, he continues
to present the story without including unnecessary
language or other negative elements. He weaves
a story of survival, goodness, compassion and
the power of love in a way that will take your
Michelle Densmore and her husband, Bobby, are recent
newcomers to Florence. They have three children: Piper
(18), John (13) and Sam (3). Former residents of Gainesville,
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HER STORY.... I was in the “I’ve-got-to-do-something-about-my-weight” category for a long time. After several attempts to lose
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I was, it didn’t matter. But, finally, I realized that it did matter – to me!
I had my first appointment at Florence Wellness & Weight-Loss Center in January, where I had the body analysis, EKG,
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I was pre-diabetic, my eyes were opened. He also explained to me how insulin affects my metabolism. So, after getting my body
metabolically correct, my weight-loss journey began. I weighed 271.5 pounds.
I chose the Low-Carb, High-Protein Plan, which is very detailed. I could only have up to 20 grams of carbs per day. I
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choose from, which helped me change the way I ate and helps me to keep the weight off long-term. I also receive any supplements
that I may need at each appointment, as well as a B-12 injection. I chose to take the appetite suppressant, as well. And I started exer-
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The hardest part has been giving up all those foods I didn’t think I could live without. After going without them for two
weeks, though, I didn’t miss them. I will admit that I didn’t think I’d make it those first two weeks, but I did. It got easier and eas-
I was motivated to keep going because I knew that my weight was causing health issues. Also, I love the way I look now!
I don’t hate to look in the mirror anymore.
With that being said, the best thing about losing the weight is also how I look and feel. I have confidence now, and I feel
My advice to others is to really want it! When I finally got into the mindset that I was going to lose weight, and not just
half-way this time, I did it! I will never be the fat person I used to be ever again.
Today, I’m 81.5 pounds lighter at 190 pounds. I know I need to lose a lot more weight, but to someone who hasn’t been under
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at all times, and willing to
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-James 3:17 NLT
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by Cookie Cawthon
Cookie Cawthon is cutting back and slowing down…
Don’t you love the irony in God’s economy? Here I sit to write on a day
when I feel most unwise. Most unqualified to speak at all. It’s been one of those
days where all the balls I kept in the air – by way of some mad juggling skills – came
crashing down in swift succession. I missed one. And they all fell.
It begins innocently enough, right? Life presents a host of good opportu-
nities, and boy, am I a sucker for a good opportunity! A lake trip, a work trip. A
cookout here, a family gathering there. Swimming lessons. Art camp. Gymnastics
camp. Writing assignments. Teaching plans. A going-away party for our nephew.
An upcoming yard sale. A growing list of home repairs. An unfinished bedroom.
Zoo trips and park trips and children’s museum trips. A call that our home secu-
rity system has registered a burglar alarm and our side door is standing wide open
– and we are two hundred miles from home.
This morning I woke up in a hotel in Greenville, South Carolina, and knew
that my life is running me. I am not running it. At some point in early summer a
baby elephant sat on my chest, and I didn’t even realize he was there. He has eaten
well – fed by everything I have added to my plate, and now he weighs in as a full-
grown beast of burden. I can scarcely draw a full breath.
And somehow my elephant and I find ourselves aboard a runaway train.
What an adventure this summer is turning out to be! It is speeding recklessly
along the track as I – pinned to the dirty floor of the car – watch the landscape
whiz by in a blur of color. I feel powerless to stop it and unable to jump.
Weighed down and out of control. By my own choosing. By my own
expectations. By my own desires to be and do it all.
This morning I woke up in a hotel in Greenville, South Carolina, and felt
like someone had beat me up. Perhaps my elephant put it on me while I slept. I
felt like my brain had been wrung like a soapy dishcloth. No thought remained,
only automatic responses. Primitive and natural responses. When I am so spent
mentally and spiritually and physically, there is no allowance for kindness and disci-
pline and patience and creativity. They require too much when the reservoir is
depleted. There’s not even allowance for rational thought; it too is too expensive.
I leave water boiling on the stove; I can’t remember what I ate for breakfast. I for-
get to close and lock the side porch door before leaving for the Upstate.
And so begins the process of extricating myself from the elephant and
slowing and steering the loose locomotive. I can do it. I have before, but it will
require some difficult choices. I will have to significantly pare down my activity
when I sincerely enjoy all that I do. I will make room for breathing and thinking
again. For joy and worship and laughter and inspiration and imagination. And big,
fat, generous love.
I honestly don’t know where to begin. At this very moment I have no
sense of what God will have me pursue and what He will have me eliminate, but I
am completely confident that He is initiating the process. I will begin with Him.
The Love of my life. And we’ll go from there. And I’ll pray earnestly for His guidance
as I ask myself the following questions about the opportunities and obligations on
• Do I sense that God is up to something here that He wants
me to be involved in?
• Is this an opportunity to serve my family in a way they will
interpret as love?
• Is this an opportunity to invest in someone who does not
• Is this a chance to serve a believer who is struggling and could
• Is this consistent with my gifts and passions?
• Does this contribute to my physical, mental, spiritual and/or
So. I write this month as the non-example. The unwise woman. I cite Job
39:17 in my own defense, “…for God did not endow her with wisdom or give her
a share of good sense.” Though God is actually speaking of an ostrich in this verse
– contrasting her dimness against her speed, it feels particularly appropriate for me
today (though I am not at all fast). From my own folly, I realize and tout the wisdom
of reduction and elimination. And you can take that for what it’s worth from a
chick squashed by a pachyderm.
“At some point in early summer
a baby elephant sat on my chest...
and now he weighs in as a
full-grown beast of burden.”
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Ten years before I retired, I began having numerous health problems. I suffered with recurrent sinus
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I gave up and withdrew from friends and family. I just did not want to live in sickness anymore.
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Community School Coordinator at
POYNOR ADULT & COMMUNICATION EDUCATION CENTER
As Community School Coordinator at Poynor Adult & Communication
Education Center, Gayle Robertson plans all the community school courses, she hires
the instructors, maintains the Poynor website and designs and creates the school cat-
alog. She also schedules rooms and anything else that needs to be done.
Although she is beginning her third year at Poynor, she is a veteran of adult education.
Prior to her present position, she was the Academic Coordinator for Adult Education
for four years. She left Poynor for three years before accepting her present job. For
two of those years, she was Assistant Principal at the Alternative School. For one year,
she taught at Florence-Darlington Technical College in a part-time position. However,
when she found out about the Community School Coordinator position being avail-
able at Poynor, she was excited about getting back into adult education.
Education is important to Gayle on a personal level because she has always
been involved in academics. She began her career as a Teacher after graduating from
Winthrop University in Rock Hill, South Carolina, with majors in English and
Journalism and a minor in Spanish. She received her Master’s Degree in Special
Education after her children were in school and older. She has been a Teacher in pri-
vate and public schools and at Florence-Darlington Technical College.
Gayle was Student Activities Coordinator at FDTC when the college was a
new institution. Her career path led her to a great deal of work with learning-disabled
children in the private and public sector. She was Headmistress at James F. Byrnes
Academy and, then, she returned to FDTC, where she was a counselor in a grant
program. Eventually, she became a Program Director. When she left FDTC, she
went back to Poynor as Academic Coordinator and fell in love with the concept of
This particular career allows her to respond to the importance of adult edu-
cation by sharing her love of education with the people she works with at Poynor.
Gayle loves to create projects and watch them come to fruition. One such project
was in the summer of 2009. She worked closely with the One Stop Program at
Poynor, and they designed a summer program for displaced workers. All of their par-
ticipants made significant gains in reading and math by the end of the program. Many
of the participants got GEDs and Work Keys Credentials and successfully entered the
The most difficult thing about her job is finding the time she needs to do
everything that she needs to do. She admits that she could never do all she does
without her Assistant, Loretta Bonaparte. Gayle says that Loretta knows how to
keep her focused.
The successes that she sees in the people would be what she enjoys most
about her job. And she happily says that there are, indeed, so many success stories.
We asked Gayle if she would tell us about a success story that is special to her.
Gayle Robertson and her husband of forty-plus years, Tom, live in Florence.
They have two grown sons, Kyle and Brennan. She has two dogs, Tygger, a Yorkie; and
Habanero, a Havashu. In her spare time, she enjoys reading, cooking and spending time
with friends. She also enjoys being creative with her job.
“One of my favorite stories is about an 87-year-old man. I saw him walking
down the hall and asked him if I could help him. He said, ‘Lady, I’m 87, so
you’d better hurry and help me.’ He did not know how to read, and he had
promised his mother that he would be able to read a Bible verse before he
died. He told me he hoped he had not waited too late. I took him to the won-
derful Teachers in our Adult Basic Education (ABE) Lab, and they worked with
him. Eventually, the Teachers called me to the Lab and asked me to sit down.
The old gentleman came in and read a Bible verse for me.”
~ Gayle F. Robertson
photo by Paul Michaels
Women at Work
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My Family: Husband, Reeves; Son, Tallon (almost 5);
Daughter, Tess (19 months); Expecting New Baby “T”
on August 3rd
My Work: I primarily stay at home with our
children and work PRN as an RN at
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The Sound of Music
Beauty Product I
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Something You’ll Always Find In
My Fridge: Cookie dough and
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My Favorite Restaurant:
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The One Thing I Know For Sure:
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My Favorite Teacher And
Subject In School:
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To be a mom
My Escape: A good book
(especially if it’s a Karen Kingsbury book)
One Of My Most Proudest Moments: Watching
Tallon finish his first swim meet and seeing the huge
smile on his face
Biggest Challenge: Any decision that affects the future
of my children
My Music: I used to enjoy listening to contemporary
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children’s songs and nursery rhymes. I especially enjoy the
Seeds Family Worship songs.
Perfect Day: Any day that my husband is off and we’re
able to hang out as a family
First Job: Filing charts in my dad’s OB/GYN office
Guilty Pleasure: Hot homemade chocolate
Last Purchase: Cute shoes for Tess
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M. LECAROL FORD
is a retired Secondary/College Preparatory
Mathematics Teacher and College/University
Mathematics Consultant. The second of
nine children born to sharecropper
parents in Lee County, LeCarol’s family
migrated through Horry County to later
settle in Mullins, where they painstakingly
worked every year and saved what limited
resources they had to pull themselves up out
LeCarol didn’t attend school in the first or second
grades. Then, the Elementary School that she attended, St. James
Community School, went as high as the seventh grade. Her grad-
uating class had only ten students.
LeCarol had the highest grade average in the class, but
she was not awarded the title of Valedictorian, nor did she
receive any other high honors because she was from a share-
cropper family that worked on the teacher’s farm. Another fac-
tor was because she was not related to anyone in the St. James
Community. When she didn’t get the highest honor in her class,
she went home crying and explained to her parents what hap-
pened. LeCarol’s mother sat her down and gave her a lecture with
the greatest words of wisdom. She said,“Listen to me! If you get it
in your head, no one can take it from you.” That statement has been
with LeCarol her whole life.
All the students that received honors went to college.
After graduating from Marion County Training Center, LeCarol
began her spectacular educational journey when she went to
college, as well. And the icing on the cake is that she was the
only one who graduated from college with a Bachelor’s of
Science Degree – and all the other degrees a person could earn!
During her continuous learning voyage, she received over
fifteen graduate scholarships to attend colleges and universities to
study mathematics and science. She also attended the Robert A.
Taft Institute of Government. Her last scholarship was equivalent
to the Rhodes Scholarship, which took her to London, England, and
across the English Channel to Paris, France, for ten weeks. In
London, she studied at Oxford and Cambridge Universities.
When Dr. Ford recalls her studies and teaching expe-
riences abroad, she shares, “I’ve learned that people are basi-
cally the same. Here or overseas, they all want to share their
(superior) knowledge of things, and the way they get it is by
exchanging and absorbing. Though everybody is not cut out for
the same end result and school is not a cookie cutter factory, I
try to stimulate my students to be creative
and find themselves and their specialty. I let
them know that there’s a good place in this
world for them. They’ll find just the right fit if they
put their best efforts and energy into their quest.
They can get wherever they want to go and do what-
ever they want to do. They can fulfill all their dreams
Dr. Ford excelled to earn her Bachelor’s of
Science Degree in Mathematics from South Carolina
University. She eventually garnered her Master’s of
Science Degree in Math from Indiana State University,
her Master of Arts Degree in Science and, last – but
certainly not least – her Ph.D. from Loyola University. She
holds an Education Specialist Degree from the University of
South Carolina. She also studied at Clemson University,The
Citadel and Florida A & M University.
Even after going through her own struggles in
obtaining her education, Dr. Ford continued to sacrifice.
Only now it was for the well-being of friends, family and
strangers alike. “I stayed single so that I could focus and
work to make sure that my sisters completed their edu-
cation and got jobs. I kept four of my sisters’ children in
my home for a long period of time while they were out
trying to better themselves. I still tutor youth and adult
students at home if they need it, and I am instrumental in
ensuring that the St. James Community Education Program
does not go lacking – donating books and procuring a piano
teacher for those interested in lessons and such.”
Dr. Ford made it possible for all her sisters to complete
high school. She also made the way for those who wanted to
continue their deduction to get college degrees or to get a trade
certificate. She has continually provided financial support for her
family, students and other adults. In the past – and she still does
– Dr. Ford has encouraged students and adults to take every
opportunity available to improve their way of life by improv-
ing their educational level. “Because knowledge is power!”
she asserts. . . .
M. LeCarol Ford is the daughter of the late Mr. Boston Ford and Mrs. Martha Felder Ford. The second of nine children, she was born in Bishopville, South Carolina.
After graduating from Marion County Training School, Dr. Ford went on to receive numerous degrees from many different higher-education institutions. She has
received numerous recognitions and awards for exceptional work and concern for humankind. She serves on the Finance Committee of Higher Education Campus
Ministers at Bethel United Methodist Church. And, Dr. Ford somehow finds time to garden, study Spanish and piano, travel and go to exercise class.
“I let (my students) know that there’s a
“I’m like a tea bag; you will never know
how strong I am until I get into the water.”
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good place in this world for them.”
DR. FORD told us why she chose the teaching profession as her
career: “I wanted to go into military service after graduating from Marion County
Training School, but my father forbade it. So, I pursued another area of service, one
that was more acceptable to women – teaching. I went to Orangeburg with $40 to
register. I lived with a lady and did chores for her, which is how I earned my keep.
But what kept me going was my faith in God, which was ingrained in me by both of
my parents when I was very young. Other important ladies in my life encouraged and
supported my efforts, as well.”
When Dr. Ford recalls one of the major elements missing in classrooms
today, she tells us,“Parents need to realize that it is not the teacher’s job to raise their
children. But, the problem is that in far too many instances nowadays, the parents are
children themselves who have to be raised and taught themselves. That constitutes
no culpability on the teachers’ parts.”
Dr. Ford was such an inspirational educator and teacher. She told us why
she felt so strongly about her role in young people’s lives. “A teacher’s job is to facil-
itate the pupil’s growth in developing an invaluable skill: How to think. We also instill
computational skills, healthy habits, spur curiosity, help develop a capacity for moral
judgment with a sense of age-appropriate responsibility and mold our subjects into
participating members of our society. Learning should be relevant and students
should see themselves as belonging. But we all – not just teachers and students, but
all humankind – have and must answer to the high calling, albeit a difficult one at times
and not often blessed with success. We enjoy a chief blessing in that we have
the opportunity to try anew each day to answer that calling, which is to fill one
another’s life with either misery or joy; we can be tools of torture or instruments
Dr. Ford’s last teaching position was when she taught Math at Horry-
Georgetown Technical College and served as a Math Consultant for Coastal Carolina
University for five years. She served many years as an Evaluator for Secondary
Schools and Colleges for the Southern Association of Colleges and Schools (SACS).
The highlight of Dr. Ford’s education, however, was being a Secondary
College Preparatory Mathematics Teacher (Chair of the Math Department for
many years) in Marion School District One, and Gary, Indiana, for thirty-four great,
During her teaching career, Dr. Ford only missed eight days of school, and
she missed only two summers of summer school. She took graduate courses during
the week and on Saturdays while teaching. It is very obvious that Dr. Ford was both
extremely dependable and professionally adequate in her career.
Even though Dr. Ford has spent more than three decades of stellar perform-
ance as a classroom teacher, she is much more than that. She is also a Mathematics
Major and Numbers Whiz!
Dr. Ford feels like she has been successful in life because of her hard-work-
ing, humble parents. They were both her Sheroes. They were God-fearing people and
always tried to help others by words and deeds, regardless of the situation. During the
rockiest times in her life’s journey, Dr. Ford has always applied these words of wisdom
in which she learned from her wonderful parents (which is good advice for all):
• Remember your God and set goals for yourself. No goal, no glory!
• Obey all laws – local, state and national.
• Tax your nervous system as little as possible, and take good care of your body.
• Let your word be your bond, and be strictly honest in all dealings.
• Always be around the best people, intellectually and morally.
• Think three times before you act; and if you are in doubt, don’t act at all.
• Always be prompt and to-the-minute on your job.
• Read at every spare moment and think over and try to remember what you have read.
• Keep in mind that skill and integrity are the keys to success.
And, finally, Dr. Ford gives us one last bit of wisdom – one in which she
has surely held fast and nurtured in her own life: “Make each day of your life
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WHAT IS wisdom?
wisdom as an earned knowledge
or insight. Wisdom, however, isn’t
just clear judgment. It’s the ability to
take an undesirable situation and
somehow make it seem less undesirable.
Wisdom is the ability to turn lemons into
lemonade, to move mountains that (to others)
seem unmovable and to part the seas of hardship in which
others drown. Wisdom comes from those experiences
that test our fortitude and our faith. Wisdom comes in all
shapes and sizes, all ages and genders and is applicable
across all gaps and boundaries.
Whitney Cranford well knows the power of wise
thinking and has spent the last twenty-five years of her life
parting seas, moving mountains and making lemonade.
Born premature at twenty-eight weeks, Whitney was
expected to have certain obstacles to overcome, but nei-
ther her doctors nor her parents were prepared for the
diagnosis she received. At six-months-old, she was diag-
nosed with mild Spastic Cerebral Palsy – a disease that has
affected her balance and motor skills since infancy. Battling
several surgeries, a bone infection and countless trips to
the Physical Therapist throughout her childhood, Whitney
has come out on the other side as a strong, successful
woman. She still attends physical therapy to keep her
motor skills and balance at their optimum performance,
but she says that her physical independence is get-
ting better each day.
Whitney has certainly not allowed her disability
to hinder her success in anyway whatsoever. One of her
proudest accomplishments was earning her driver’s license.
Gaining that much more independence three years ago
freed Whitney in a way she had never before experienced.
She graduated from Emmanuel Christian School
and went on to attend Coker College and earned a
Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology and Communications.
Whitney didn’t stop there, however! She is currently
attending graduate school, studying to gain a Master’s
Degree in Professional Counseling. Her hopes for her
future include earning a Doctorate in Psychology and
working in a career where she can practice professional
counseling in the areas of drug and alcohol abuse, marriage
and family therapy, children and adolescent advocacy and
trauma. She wants to use the wisdom she has gained to
show others that there is a way to solve problems and
overcome obstacles that does not involve drugs or alcohol.
She wants to teach others who are experiencing hardship
that they are not alone in the world.
Whitney’s faith is also extremely important to
her. She attends Antioch Baptist Church and says she gave
her life to Christ at the age of seven. Since then, she has
devoted her faith to God and her church and has used it as
a source of comfort and inspiration throughout her jour-
ney. Whitney has shared her testimony at several
churches and hopes to be able to continue to share her
wisdom with youth at other churches. She knows that
without her faith, she could not have accomplished what
she has because she wouldn’t have had the strength to
overcome the obstacles thrown her way.
Nevertheless, she very candidly admits that she
does not always feel thankful for the situation God has cho-
sen for her and, if given the option to trade her situation
for another more desirable condition, she would in a heart-
beat. She does, however, know that God has a special
mission for her and trusts that He will show her the
path down which He wants her to share her wisdom
Over the years,Whitney has received all kinds of
advice and wisdom from others to help her persevere
through hard times. The advice she deems most wise, how-
ever, is to always remember that God is in charge and that
her life is not her own. Whitney finds comfort in knowing
that even in her darkest hours, and the dark hours that may
be on the horizon, that she will not be alone. This wisdom
has allowed her to face her most difficult obstacles with
strength and the knowledge that she will overcome them.
Whitney has also learned to live by the quote,
“Just roll with it!” She interprets this to mean that what-
ever gets thrown in your way, you make the best of it, deal
with it and move on a stronger, better person than you
were before. She takes this advice with her everywhere
she goes and remembers it when things get tough.
Now that Whitney has victoriously come out on
the other side of her disability, she has her own wisdom to
share with the world. She wants other women in situa-
tions similar to hers to recognize the importance of the
people with which they surround themselves. Sometimes,
people say things that get you down without meaning to,
so it’s important to always have an awesome support team.
She also wants others to know the power of prayer and to
trust in God through the good and the bad times.
Whitney’s most poignant wisdom is this: “If you
want something in this life, then take the means necessary
to go get it. Don’t just sit back and wait for it to fall into
your lap. It may take blood, sweat and tears to get it, but
it’s worth it!”
So far,Whitney says she has accomplished every-
thing she wanted to – except one thing. Her current
Physical Therapist, Shane Valigora, has helped her achieve
almost total independence. She is filled with gratitude for
his role in helping her “accomplish things she has waited so
long to do.” Whitney says that her lack of 100% independ-
ence is what holds her back from meeting all her goals.
With physical therapy, she has been able to meet the goal
of transferring herself from her chair to her bed with
absolutely no help. She is independent in almost all areas
of her life except for being able to transfer herself from her
chair to all other surfaces such as the toilet or the couch.
Although she is incredibly thankful for the ability to meet
all of her basic needs on her own, she longs for the day
when she has reached total independence.
One day, she hopes to be able to move away from
home, get married and have children, while asserting the
independence she has worked so hard to obtain.
Whitney will continue to share her wisdom with the
world as she grows, learns and accomplishes her goals
– in spite of her disability.
Whitney’s parents, Kim and Brenda Cranford and
her sister, Jaimie are very proud of her for the loving person
she is and for all that she has accomplished.
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attended Spartanburg Methodist
College and Florence-Darlington
Technical College right out of
high school. Shortly after
graduating and receiving an
Associate’s Degree in
Secretarial Science, she got
married and started a career.
A few years later, she had her
first child. Everything seemed to be
right on schedule. Continuing her
education wasn’t on the calendar any
Actually, Gayle never really entertained the
idea of going back to school until her best friend, Beth
Dalrymple Flynn, asked her to go back to school with
her in the evening program at Coker College. After a
lot of hesitation, Gayle reluctantly gave in and joined
Beth at Coker.
In July 2002, Beth passed away unexpectedly,
devastating Gayle. She decided to leave school. But,
after taking a semester off, she decided she had to go
back and graduate. Not only for herself, but also for
Beth. Gayle graduated in 2005 with a Bachelor’s
Degree in Business Management.
Gayle wishes to express,“It is very important
for me to say that I could not have made it going back
to school full-time while working full time at the
Governor’s School if it had not been for the support
of my parents and my children. I owe a big thanks to
my daughter, Denise, who stepped in as a second
mama to her brothers.”
Gayle became a single mother in 2003.
Although she and her husband divorced, he continued
to play a big part in their children’s lives. For Gayle,
becoming a single mother was bittersweet. It made
her a much stronger individual than she ever thought
possible. And “being a mama has been the most
rewarding part” of her life. Her children and she depend
on each other for pretty much everything, and the love
they share is immeasurable. Of course, they have their ups
and downs; nonetheless, they have been there for each
other through the good times and the hard times. Gayle
knows that she is truly a blessed mother to have three
wonderful children that she knows, without a doubt, will
always be there for each other and for her.
Gayle decided to go back to school for her
Master’s Degree, again, in part because of her best
friend, Beth. She decided to join the Master’s Program
at the University of South Carolina because Beth was
a huge Gamecock fan (as is Gayle). They both wanted
to graduate from USC with their Master’s Degrees, so
their plan was to graduate from Coker, take a year off
and then go to USC for their Master’s Degrees.
For a little while after losing Beth, however,
Gayle just didn’t have it in her to go back to school
after Coker. But, as always, something in life comes
along that can change your mind. Last year, she was
offered the opportunity to attend USC through a
scholarship with her job to get her Master’s Degree.
Gayle truly believes it was God’s plan that she finish what
Beth and she started. Her Degree is going to be in Early
Childhood Education and, although she has no plans to
teach, she does believe it will prepare her for future
career options with the Department of Social Services.
Just as she did when attending Coker
College, she had the full support and encouragement
of her children, parents, co-workers and lots of
friends. Gayle’s children and family have seen her
struggle financially as a single mother for many years
and understand how important it has been for her
to take care of them. Therefore, they fully support
her desire to obtain her Master’s Degree. They
admire her for taking on such a challenge at this
time in her life and have been so patient with the
time she’s had to spend studying or writing papers
for class. In July, Gayle started her third course
out of the thirteen required for
the Master’s Program.
Going back to
school for anyone who
is over the age of forty
is a huge challenge. One of the
hardest hurdles Gayle found was
learning all over again how to study.
But, she thinks the hardest thing
(especially as a single mother) is learning
how to juggle a family, a full-time job
and school – and do a good job at all
three. She does admit, however, that
going back to school this time has been
easier since her children are older and more
Another thing that is easier about going back
to school now than when she was younger is that she
takes her studies more seriously. And she wants to do
her best. At Coker, Gayle set her GPA goal for grad-
uation at 3.5. However, with all the stress she went
through with Beth and being a single mother, she grad-
uated with a 3.0. And, as she should be, she is very
proud of that! “My goal for graduation from USC is a
4.0!” Gayle proclaims. . . .
Gayle Douglas was born and raised and still lives in Hartsville. Her parents are Don and Frances McElveen, who have always played
an important part in her life and she feels blessed to still have them with her. She has three children: Denise (22) and 18-year-old
twin sons, Graham and Donald. Gayle is Senior Regulatory Specialist for Child Care Licensing with the Department of Social Services.
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ALTHOUGH HERjob can be very stressful and chal-
lenging, she can honestly say that she genuinely loves the career she has now.
She says that, hopefully, she’s making a difference for the children she serves.
She’s open to possible career changes within Child Care Licensing, where she
can make even more of a difference for the children that attend childcare facil-
ities in South Carolina.
Along with being excited about continuing her education, Gayle has
one more reason to be excited. Although she has been single since her chil-
dren were very young, for several years now, she has had the support of a great
man from Columbia – Sam Alexander. On July 2nd, Sam proposed to Gayle.
Her answer? A resounding, “Yes!”
Congratulations to Gayle and Sam!
In conclusion, Gayle wishes to personally address the readers.
“I would like to say to the many woman reading this article that have thought
about going back to school but think you’re too old or that don’t have what it
takes, etc., etc., etc. – you are wrong! I know it’s cliché, but if I can do it, anyone
can! I’ve had to overcome some pretty big obstacles along the way, but that’s what
makes it even more rewarding. Yes, I must admit that it’s a big challenge, but I
must also tell you about the high I get each time I get an ‘A’ on a paper or a test.
It lets me know that with some genuine effort and discipline, anything is possible.
Even at my age! I’ve always been proud of my children in everything they tried.
Now, they’re proud of me!” ~ Gayle
“Gayle truly believes
it was God’s plan that
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and she started.”
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is not one of my talents. I do it pretty well when I’m
at the bottom of the funds and I have to juggle and get
creative. But, in general, my talents lie in other areas.
So, when I was given the opportunity to interview
Coupon Keri and attend a couple of her classes, I thought
it would be wise to take advantage of the situation.
Keri Catoe is a stay-at-home mom of a very
active four-year-old son. For awhile, she had a very
profitable internet business. However, as the recession
grew and expanded, her business went in the other
direction. Keri’s husband, Jonathan, lovingly suggested
that she either find a way to make money or a way to
save money. She looked into several options and then
discovered the wonderful world of couponing.
Coupons have been around for years. They
appear in lots of places. Sometimes they come in the
mail and sometimes in the Sunday newspaper (at least
they’re supposed to be inserted in the paper).
Sometimes they’re attached to a product to encourage
you to try something else. From the manufacturer’s
perspective, coupons are a marketing tool. From the
couponer’s point of view, they are free cash. For folks
like Keri, they present a challenge. Hmmmm…. how
much can I get for the least amount of money spent…
We’ve all seen pictures of displays captioned
“look how much I got for $15.37” or some such
amount. These are usually posted by folks who have
discovered couponing. Keri’s goal is never to spend
over fifty dollars per week at the grocery store (not
many coupons yet for meat and fresh veggies) and
never more than $1 (you read it right – ONE DOLLAR) at
Walgreens or CVS. Lest you think this is impossible,
attend one of her classes. This woman has shopping
down to a fine art!
In her classes, Keri gives very detailed informa-
tion about how to be most productive in your search for
the perfect shopping trip (spending less than $1 for an
entire week’s groceries). She is very specific about stores
and different kinds of coupons. She talks about coupon
guilt. Yes, there are some people who won’t use coupons
because they feel they’re cheating their local merchants.
Have no fear, if you’ve ever read the fine print on a coupon
(I actually have done that in the past), you’ll discover that
the store is reimbursed by the manufacturer with a small
bonus for each coupon submitted (there’s that marketing
thing again). So, think of it as supporting your local
Keri’s classes are entitled “Seek and Save.”
Not only has couponing become a way to save money
for her family, it has also become a ministry for her.
Her classes are fast-paced and informative. She is not
only thrifty in her shopping but she is very respectful
of your time when you come to her classes. She starts
on time and she ends on time. There are handouts which
include all the information presented and she is very gra-
cious in explaining the information to those who don’t
have very much experience in this new adventure.
Most of us will never be as effective in our
shopping as is Keri. What she does takes time and
planning and more patience than many of us possess.
However, her diligence makes our shopping lives easier.
On her website (www.couponkeri.com) are lists of
stores (mostly grocery stores and drug stores) with
their current sales. Also listed are coupons that can be
used along with the sale items to make the products even
less expensive. There are even links to some of the
coupons, which you can print from your home computer.
As an added perk, Keri has recently become a
local celebrity. At least one drug store in Florence has
put “We Love Coupon Keri” on their sign outside. She
has also been interviewed on local television. Now is
definitely the time to get to know Keri and attend
some of her classes before she becomes an interna-
tional celebrity! There are folks who attend all of her
classes in hopes of soaking in new and helpful informa-
tion, which Keri is excited to share. She is not selfish
in her money-saving efforts.
While not giving out lots of her secrets out-
side of class, Keri would like She Magazine readers to
know about “All You” magazine. It contains lots of
coupons and other opportunities to be good stewards
of our resources. She joined the All You Consumer
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EDUCATION HASbeen a factor in one way or the other
for most of Sara Wells Orlowski’s life. She worked for the State of South Carolina
for twenty-six years. She was a Teacher’s Assistant for twelve years. After leaving
the School District in Darlington County, she worked for the Department of
Juvenile Justice for five years as an Intake Specialist. She left there and went to
work for Florence-Darlington Technical College as a Workforce Investment Act
(WIA) Case Manager for five years. Today, she is back at “home” in the Darlington
County School District working as a Career Specialist at Hartsville High School.
And also, today, Sara can say that one of the most important rewards of education
came to her at forty-five-years-old – a college degree.
Sara graduated from St. John’s High School in Darlington in 1969. Her par-
ents planned for her to go straight to college after graduation. However, young
Sara had other plans. She decided to get married right after high school. She grad-
uated in June and got married in September. Her parents offered to pay for her
college even after she got married, but she wouldn’t have any part of that. Sara just
wanted to have children and raise a family.
In her early adult life, she didn’t think about going to college. She was
totally focused on raising her children. However, as life happened and the years
came and went and her own children were making decisions to go to college, Sara
realized the importance of a college education.
When it was time for her daughter to go off to the College of Charleston,
a Representative from Coker College came to the school where Sara was work-
ing to give them information on their program for adults, which would be held at
night. That’s when she got serious and asked herself, “Why not?” Sara registered
to start college at the same time her daughter began college. (She admits that once
she got into her studies, she had to call her daughter many, many nights for help
with her homework.)
Sara’s daughter graduated from the College of Charleston with a Degree
in Biology in four years. Sara went to school at night for five years and also worked
two jobs for most of that time. She recalls that it was a hectic five years but so
worth it! “The pride and self-fulfillment is something you will remember forever,”
Although she was terrified to go back to school at forty-years-old, Sara
remembers the other students being so kind and helpful. She actually ended up
being like a mother to many of them. In addition, there were also many adults
taking classes with her. She was also terrified because it had been a long time since
she was in school. It seemed like she had to work so much harder, so Sara always
got such a sense of pride and accomplishment when she got a test back and the
grade was an “A.” It was also nice to get a pat on the back from a professor or
classmate. For Sara, those were things that made going back to school so special.
Going back to school at forty also meant that some of the professors
were younger than she was. Some of them even reminded Sara of her own chil-
dren. Another aspect that made her college journey different was that college life
was so different from anything that she had ever experienced. She felt a part of
something very special.
Going back to school was also very challenging for Sara in that she still
had to work and keep up with her family. Even though her children were in high
school and college, there were still things she had to do as a mom and wife. There
was dinner to be prepared, laundry to do and shopping to be done – in addition
to studying for tests and writing papers. Sometimes, it was hard for her just to find
time to rest and sleep.
Sara admits that she had many ups and downs. “It is not a bed of roses!”
she says. But, she knew that if she worked hard, she would fulfill her dream. She
was adamant about not giving up. And she wasn’t going to let anyone tell her that
she couldn’t do it all. “A woman can do anything she sets her mind to do,” Sara
declares. . . .
Sixty-year-old Sara Wells Orlowski is the Career Specialist at Hartsville High School.
She has three grown children and four grandchildren. Recently, she and her wonderful
husband, Bob Orlowski, celebrated their second wedding anniversary. In her spare
time, Sara loves to garden with her husband, who is a Master Gardener. She also
enjoys her workouts at Fitness World in Darlington.
Went Back to School at Forty
(as told to She Magazine)
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IN RETROSPECT, however, Sara thinks that her age
and experience in life had its advantages in her college years. She went in look-
ing at the big picture, whereas the younger students only looked at one day at
a time. Sara saw the “need” for getting a college education. She knew that she
had to have a good education in order to get a good job to help support her
family. Lots of the younger students never started thinking about jobs and
careers until the end of their junior year. Sara, on the other hand, had her
career in mind even before the first day of her freshman class.
”I graduated rom Coker College in 1996,” Sara says with a great deal
of pride. “I was forty-five-years-old. It took me five years to graduate – going
at night and attending every summer session. But I did it!”
Sara recalls the myriad feelings and emotions she felt when she
received that college diploma. She felt wonderful! She was excited, relieved
and very proud of herself.
Her Sociology Degree has opened up so many doors for her. She
says that she could not have held the positions at Juvenile Justice or Florence-
Darlington Technical College if she didn’t have a degree, which was required for
Sara’s life has constantly been enhanced by her decision to go back to
school. She has continued her education beyond her Degree in Sociology. She
is also a Global Career Development Facilitator and Instructor. That creden-
tial is required for her position as a Career Specialist at Hartsville High School.
She is also a Board-Certified Human Services Practitioner.
When recalling the main reason Sara went back to school after years
of doing so much for everyone else, she proudly proclaims, “I went back to
school for me! I knew that when I graduated, I would have treasures that
nobody could ever take away from me – a college degree, pride and a sense of
accomplishment and self-worth.”
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AFTER WORKINGwith the youth group at St. Paul
United Methodist Church for several years, Rentha Dill began to hear a con-
sistent message: Kids were not going into their desired college field because
they were afraid of the math requirements. Or, simply, they hated the required
math. That’s when she decided to leave her job as an Accountant and become
Lead Instructor at Mathnasium Tutoring Center in Florence.
Rentha has been involved with homeschooling for the past six years,
successfully directing the education of her daughter through her senior year.
This experience has affirmed Rentha’s passion for teaching, with math being
her favorite subject.
Rentha explains that the vision at Mathnasium is for no child to limit
his career goals because of undeveloped math skills. Mathnasium is an inter-
national franchise in sixteen countries focused on developing math skills and a
number sense that will provide a set of lifelong math tools. It is a math learn-
ing center that works with students from first through twelfth grade, focusing
on identifying and correcting any gaps in his/her math development.
Mathnasium’s concept? Rentha says that it is to make math make
sense, regardless of age. The center provides a highly personalized, individual-
ized program designed to develop skills to a mastery level, which creates a
higher confidence in math and overall learning.
Mathnasium’s mission is to develop unique problem solvers by teach-
ing students critical math skills in a way that makes sense to them. The
Mathnasium approach is designed to provide the younger students with the
basic skills and the older students with the breadth they need to pursue their
chosen career field. It is very flexible and individualized. More importantly, it
has a proven track record.
Rentha describes the Mathnasium process:
“Through an oral and written assessment, we are able to pinpoint accurately where
a student is in their math development – what they know and what they don’t
know. Then, we are able to create a unique curriculum based on the individual’s
understanding level. Trained instructors teach concepts using multiple techniques
and then challenge the student to demonstrate the concept through problem
analyses and, more importantly, in more complex problem-solving material.
The students are encouraged by a caring staff of instructors and are motivated
by a fun recognition program. The instructors provide assistance with current
material and homework as needed. At Mathnasium, we try to make math fun by
using some math games, unique incentive programs and celebrations of success.”
Mathnasium allows Rentha to share her love of math with the youth
in the community. One of her essential goals is to strengthen the real signifi-
cance of math in our world today.
Rentha agrees with Stan Gudder’s outlook on Math: “The essence of
mathematics is not to make simple things complicated, but to make complicated
* (Stan Gudder is a John Evans Professor of Mathematics
at the University of Denver in Denver, Colorado.)
Rentha Dill graduated from Francis Marion University with a BBA in Accounting. She has held multiple positions in the Florence area banking community.
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ANGIE ELLIOTT’S husband, Wally,
describes her as a shy, quiet person who, at one time, had
a hard time standing up in front of anyone publicly.
However, Roxy,Thorne, Dixie, Duchess, Hoss and Grace – her
six gorgeous Labrador Retrievers – have helped her find a con-
fidence in herself that is beautiful to see when she is with her dogs.
Since her children have become busier now in their own lives, Angie
spends more and more of her time on the family’s farm,The Diamond E, with the
dogs, training and preparing them for hunting events. Over the past few years, she
and her Labs have become a popular team for friends, as well as fellow competi-
tors, to pull for. Angie is known as the petite lady with some well-trained dogs
that cannot be overlooked.
Angie’s Labrador Retrievers compete in Hunt Test Events, as well as in
the Show Ring. At a recent Palmetto Retriever Banquet, she and her Labs received
seven of nine awards, with the most coveted being “Master Hunter of the Year”
with her male dog, HR Elliott’s Carolina Thorne MH, CGC (Master Hunter, Canine
Good Citizen). Three of her Labradors – Roxy, Thorne and Dixie – qualified for
the Master Nationals in Texas last year and competed with some of the best
Retriever Trainers in the nation. Roxy is the mother of Thorne and Dixie, and it
was a rare achievement that all three qualified for this national event. It was very
humbling for Angie to stand in the midst of – and compete – with some of the
best trainers in the nation. Also, recently, the Palmetto Retriever Club honored
Thorne as their “Dog of The Year,” with Roxy and Dixie as “Runners Up.”
For as long as she can remember, Angie has loved animals, and her child-
hood was spent participating in activities outside. She played softball and went
swimming in the summer. In the fall, it was hard to catch her when she wasn’t on a
four-wheeler somewhere. The activities she enjoyed most were outdoors.
Her specific interest in Labrador Retrievers began in 2003 with Roxy as
a new puppy in the house. Angie started working with her on basic obedience
skills. “She was like a sponge, absorbing the commands and becoming a very good
hunting dog for Wally, who loves to duck hunt,” Angie says. “It was fascinating to
me at how quickly Roxy learned and how much she enjoyed doing it.”
“Most people don’t understand just how smart dogs really are – espe-
cially Labradors,” Angie emphasizes. “Labradors are such a cheerful breed with a
great disposition, and they always desire to learn and please their master. They
never meet a stranger, always give 100% effort in all that they do and love you
unconditionally! If you can imagine a child’s face on Christmas morning, that’s my
Labs’ expressions every time we train, travel to an event or go hunting. You can’t
help but get excited, because they’re so excited!”
After seeing Roxy’s growing desire to learn and please her, Angie was
challenged with the task of learning more and more advanced skills and training
Roxy to reach her highest potential. She did this by seeking assistance from pro-
fessional trainers, reading books on training, attending seminars and workshops,
watching videos and watching professional trainers at Hunt Test Events.
When Angie first started training, it was difficult just trying to find differ-
ent locations to take the dogs so that they could be exposed to different terrain
and water elements similar to that which they would be facing during the Hunt
Test Events that they compete in. This often required extensive traveling and
scheduling in order for the training to be most productive. Now that Angie and
Wally have their farm, they have several ponds designed specifically for Retriever
training. There are also crops such as sunflowers, sorghum and corn, and pastures
and other natural habitats to simulate actual waterfowl hunting scenarios. The
farm is only one mile from their home, which has allowed Angie to be much more
productive, as her time is spent training instead of traveling.
“Labradors are just like children; each one learns differently,” Angie
explains. “They each have unique personalities and learning abilities.” Therefore,
as a responsible trainer, Angie has to know the particular dog that she is training,
and she helps him/her reach their full potential by trying different approaches.
Some of the Labs may grasp the concepts she is trying to teach quicker than oth-
ers, but she never stops trying to teach them. Being the conscientious trainer that
she is,Angie realizes that it just may take a little longer with one Lab than another to
get the same result.
With that being said, her Labs have touched and impacted Angie’s life in
many ways. She has probably learned as much from them as they have learned
from her. Through her training, she has discovered that every Lab is different.
Each one has his or her own strengths and weaknesses. “And it’s okay to be dif-
ferent,” Angie says. “Philippians 4:13 says it best: ‘For I can do all things with the
help of Christ who gives me the strength I need.’”
Angie says that the most rewarding aspect of being a trainer is “knowing
that you have taken your Retriever from a seven-week-old puppy and loved, nur-
tured and trained it for years to the point of obtaining the most advanced
Retriever skills and earning the coveted Master Hunter Title.”
As a Christian, however, Angie also feels rewarded when her talents, and
those of her Labs, are used to uplift the Kingdom of God. “Everything we have
belongs to Him, which includes our six Labradors. They each have talents and are
blessings to us; therefore, they, too, can be used for the building of God’s
Kingdom.” Angie goes on to say, “It was Roxy’s love for Wally that made us
think about how she could be used to touch the lives of young people through
analogies and Scripture.”
Thus, the Roxy Ministry Retriever Demonstration. In the “Roxy
Ministry,” its namesake Lab is used to exemplify how our faith and obedience
should be directed towards our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. With Roxy sitting
on a “swamp stand” as a portion of devotion takes place,Angie also utilizes Grace,
Thorne, Dixie, Duchess and Hoss at this time to illustrate some obedience and
honoring drills from her daily training routine. . . .
“He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader.
He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart.
You owe it to him to be worthy of his devotion.” ~ Unknown
As Told To Beverly Kelly
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SCRIPTURE ISused to show the parallels of a Labrador
Retriever in hunting scenarios and how they may apply to actual life situations
in a Christian’s walk with the Lord. This live retrieving demonstration flows
right into the devotion, which is centered around using examples of how the
Labradors have just performed and why it is so important that we, too,
should be faithful and obedient to our Master. (ElliottLabradors.com)
“On many occasions, our dogs have been deemed as underdogs, but
because of their love and desire to please their master, they have accomplished
many things,” Angie concludes. “They are a great example for me to follow.”
Angie Elliott and her six Labrador Retrievers are true representation
that . . . “God has a plan for us all – even dogs.”
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years as of July 5th, 2010,Wally, have two
children, Boone (22) and Jess (19). They
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Angie’s parents are Reggie and Evelyn
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WHEN PAT Bradley
was younger, she was determined
to be a fashion designer. She was
quite sure that was where the
road of life was leading her, and
she spent her time focusing
on that goal. And she eventual-
ly got to the end of the road;
however, a few twists and turns
along the way led her down a
new path that she hadn’t quite
imagined for herself. She found
herself teaching in a classroom.
That classroom, however, was not
your typical classroom setting.
Sometimes, her teaching takes place
around the kitchen table. Other times, it might
be nestled into the comfort of a couch. And on a real-
ly nice day, you might find her teaching out in the yard.
You see, Pat Bradley is a mother who homeschools her
four children, Kasey, Chase, Keli and Caleb.
Pat grew up in Huntington, West Virginia, and
graduated from Huntington High School. She attend-
ed college in the surrounding area and then trans-
ferred to The Art School of London located in Atlanta,
Georgia. It was in Atlanta that her career in fashion design
began to take off. She designed clothes for a few years and
sold them to various shops around Atlanta.
During her years in Atlanta, Pat met a gentleman
named Ed Bradley, who was in town on a business trip.
The two of them made an instant connection. They
went out on a first date one February evening and saw
each other only three more times before they married
in August of that same year. I asked Pat if it was love at
first sight or if they were just crazy; to which she replied,
“A little of both!” Neither Pat nor Ed was a believer at
the time of their marriage. However, after the birth of
their first child, Pat began seeking the Lord. “I couldn’t
be a good mom and live the kind of life I was living. I
knew it wasn’t right, and I began to try to be the kind
of parent that Kasey needed me to be.”
In 1991, Pat dedicated her life to the Lord. Two
years later, after the birth of their second child, Ed made
the same decision and for many of the same reasons.
“Ultimately, it was our kids that led us to the Lord.”
Pat and Ed continued to grow in their faith, and
she enjoyed raising their two little ones. She found her-
self teaching them often just through life experiences.
Pat said that people would often ask her if she home-
schooled her children. The idea of homeschooling was
not as popular at the time and she didn’t even under-
stand what it was. As the time grew closer for her old-
est child to enter school, though, she began to wonder
more and more about what homeschooling was all
about. “I wasn’t ready to turn her over to someone else.
They would have more time each day with her than I
would. I wanted my children with me,” Pat explains.
The next time someone asked her if she
homeschooled, Pat took the time to ask questions for
herself. “What exactly do you mean by homeschool?”
“How do I find out more?” After looking into it, she
realized that she had been homeschooling all along
anyway. It was only natural at that point for her to
continue. So, she found the alternative that she was
looking for, and Casey began her kindergarten year
with her mom as teacher.
Pat loved teaching her children at home and
went into it with complete confidence. “I realized that
it was about discipling my children, just as Jesus discipled
the twelve. He did this by spending time with them,
and I was excited to spend that time with my children,
training and discipling them.”
Pat said that she was always a fairly confident
person and didn’t feel any apprehension about teach-
ing her children. Over time, God took that confidence
and molded it into faith. She began to learn that God
knew exactly what her children needed and, if she
relied on Him, she was adequate to teach them.
As Pat’s family grew to encompass four chil-
dren, her faith in God and reliance on Him grew, as
well. She doesn’t claim to have wisdom of her own.
She has learned that her wisdom comes from the
Lord. One of the key verses for her life is James 1:5:
“If any of you lack wisdom, he should ask God, Who
gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will
be given to him.” . . .
by Cheri Jordan
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Cheri Jordan is a Florence resident and
has been married to her husband,
Robert, for eleven years. She is a
stay-at-home mom to four children,
Abbi, Luke, Savannah and Matthew.
Pictured left to right: Chase (17),
Kasey (19), Pat, Caleb (8), and Keli (13)
“I have made so many mistakes along
the way that now I barely make a move
without consulting the Lord.”
“I HAVEmade so many mistakes along the way that now I barely
make a move without consulting the Lord.” Pat believes that just as God has a
special plan for each person, He also has a special plan for each family.
She and her husband have learned to seek God and His plan for their
family and they encourage others to be the unique family that God created them
to be. “Only God knows what that is, and we are wise to seek His direction for
our children and families,” Pat explains.
While Pat has found homeschooling to be very rewarding, it has its
share of hurdles. With varying ages and learning styles, it can often be time con-
suming. “It was easier when they were younger, and we could work on some of
the same curriculum.”
This past year, however, Pat found herself with a freshman in college, a
high school student, a junior high student and the youngest was in the elemen-
tary level. It required her to shuffle around. Pat admits, too, to being apprehen-
sive about the high school years. It was the unknown that scared her. How
would she teach Chemistry or Biology when she didn’t quite understand it all
herself? The answer to her worries, of course, was found in seeking wisdom
from God. She had to learn – again – that He had it all in His control. Pat has,
thus far, managed the high school years quite well.
The rewards of homeschooling her children have far outweighed any of
the obstacles that she has faced along the way. “By far, the most rewarding
aspect is seeing my children growing in the Lord. I know that my children are
getting the Word in them every day. When I see them live it out in their lives, I
know that we have made the right decision.”
She also believes her family is much closer than they would have been
if they had chosen traditional school. “They still have their issues, but they have
had more opportunities to learn to submit to one another and put the needs of
others before their own. Ed and I have had more opportunity to practice par-
enting them, and we have sought God more on their behalf.” Homeschooling
has also given them more opportunities to travel and enjoy extra-curricular
activities that they might not otherwise be able to try.
Many people that are considering homeschooling have wondered how
they will ever have time to get everything done and still have time to keep their
sanity! Although, it is time consuming, Pat says that she has learned through the
years to find the time that is necessary. Her husband has always been generous
to give her that “alone time” that she may need, but they also recognize that
their time with one another is of vital importance. At times, they make a point
of separating themselves from the children and making it clear that it is “their
time.” Not only is it vital to the marriage, but it also sets an example to the chil-
dren that, as husband and wife, they have their own relationship that exists out-
side of children and homeschooling. It is a good model for their children to see,
as they will one day have relationships of their own.
I asked Pat what kind of wisdom she had to impart to any women out
there who are just beginning their homeschooling endeavors or to those that
are considering it.
She replied . . .
“I would ask myself what is my motivation for doing this? What is my goal?
I would tell them that the only way it is going to happen the way it is
supposed to is with the Lord. He will give you the wisdom that you need.
If He is directing it, it will be successful. Don’t try to be like some other
family. Be the unique family that God designed you to be.”
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that, for this WISE WOMAN issue, both
Cheryl Allread and Judy Wesley were
contacted about being in She. Both
women are top professionals in their
careers and are known throughout the Pee Dee
area for their extensive work and contributions in
education. Surprisingly, it was revealed that Cheryl
and Judy have been entwined since childhood. And, today,
they are dear friends and great co-workers. Although Judy went the
English route and Cheryl went the math route, they are so much alike
with their teaching and learning styles that they say “it is painful.”
CHERYL says that it is amazing how she and Judy have been together since child-
hood. Judy likes to tell everyone that Cheryl is older than she is since Cheryl graduated from
high school a year ahead of her. Judy doesn’t bother to share that their ages only differ by
three months! They both attended the same schools in Horry County, graduating from Floyds
High School and heading to Campbell University their freshmen year of college. Although
Cheryl decided to transfer to the University of South Carolina, their paths seemed to cross
continuously. They both started their teaching careers in Mullins and ended their careers in
Marion.When Judy retired as a Marion High English teacher, Cheryl was searching for a Federal
Programs Coordinator. It was Judy that Cheryl turned to and persuaded to coordinate the
Federal Programs in Marion School District One.
Then, after retirement from the school system and beginning her work with One-
On-One Learning, Cheryl immediately contacted Judy to join the team.
BECAUSE Cheryl thoroughly enjoyed every day of school, becoming a teacher was
the obvious career for her. The atmospheres at Floyds Elementary and High School were so
positive, and she had such respect for all her teachers, thus she knew she wanted a career that
would allow her to work in such an environment. No student anywhere could have had teach-
ers who were more encouraging. Cheryl was one who went to college with a determined
attitude to become a teacher. As she has so often said,“My teachers and coaches were some
of the first people to leave footprints on my heart.”
JUDY agrees that although the Floyds schools she attended were small and rural, stu-
dents left there knowing they could hold their own anywhere. She can still remember help-
ing students from much larger high schools with research papers during her freshman year at
Campbell College in North Carolina. The teachers at Floyds had prepared her well. She want-
ed to be able to do the same for her students.
She has always thrived on success and wanted to be the best teacher she could be. She felt it
was not what she knew, but what she did that helped her to be an effective teacher. “Learning
can happen in isolation; teaching happens between people,” Judy asserts.
Judy’s goal was to be a high school teacher; she never had aspirations to be a Principal or
District Office Supervisor. She just wanted to teach, so that’s what she did for thirty-two years. She
loved the extracurricular activities, too. For several years, she coached tennis and the Academic
Challenge Team. One of her greatest honors was being named “Swamp Fox Fan of the Year.”
After teaching English in Marion County for thirty years, Judy retired (on paper) in 2000;
but, then she continued in the classroom for two more years. In 2002, she thought she was walk-
ing away from Marion School District One, but she was wrong. Her dear friend, Cheryl, talked
her into filling in as Director of Federal Programs and Testing at the District Office until they could
find a replacement.
In 2004, Judy left that position, but the District contracted with her for special proj-
ects for the next couple years. Most recently, she worked for two years with the South
Carolina Department of Education as a Consultant in low-performing schools. She serves on
Accreditation Teams, and she also proofreads reports for the Southern Association of Colleges
and Schools (SACS). She’s Secretary for Rural Area Leader Institute (RALI) Marion County (a
non-profit organization designed to build leadership capacity in the county) and she supervis-
es student teachers at Francis Marion University. And, if that’s not enough, she is also involved
with a tutoring company called One-On-One Learning, which provides Supplemental
Education Services (SES) to free- and reduced-lunch students at low-performing Title One
Schools. However, because of the increased interest in tutoring, they have now opened
an office on Main Street in Marion and will offer private tutoring in addition to the SES.
They want to target kindergarten through twelfth grades in reading and math, as well
as offer SAT/ACT tutoring.
AS an Education Major at the University of South Carolina, Cheryl got her first job
in education in a summer program in Mullins School District Two as an Instructional Aide for
Mrs. Florence Foxworth. After graduation, she worked four years in Mullins before moving to
Marion School District One for the remainder of her thirty-six-year career in the public
schools of Marion County.
During those forty years in the educational arena, Cheryl worked eleven
as Elementary Principal, eleven as Assistant Superintendent for Instruction and
seven years as Superintendent.
After her retirement in June 2006, Cheryl traveled to Greece for two weeks,
returned home for two weeks and then started working part-time. For the past four years,
she has worked with the State Department of Education as a Liaison in Identified Schools. She
provides on-site instructional support, as well as services as Coach/Mentor to the Principal.
This has been a rewarding experience as they celebrate the student gains on the multitude of
accountability factors that now exists for schools.
IN the mid-1970’s, Marion One Superintendent, Frank Hart, invited Judy to partici-
pate on a Southern Association of Colleges and Schools (SACS) visit that he was chairing in
Summerville, South Carolina. That visit was her first exposure to the accreditation process as
a team member.
After that visit with Mr. Hart, Judy continued to serve on teams occasionally. Then,
once her schedule became more flexible, the State Director in South Carolina called on her
more and more often. For the past five years, Judy has served on six to ten teams each year.
In addition to visiting schools and districts in South Carolina, she has also served on teams in
North Carolina, Georgia, Florida, New Orleans and even Ecuador. . . .
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Cheryl Allread and her husband of thirty-four years, Ernest, live on the family farm in Marion County in the
home where he grew up. They have one daughter, Margaret Chase (27). Cheryl received her Bachelor’s and
Master’s Degrees from the University of South Carolina. She earned her Doctorate at Nova University.
Judy Wesley and her husband of twenty-seven years, Randy, live in Marion, along with their fifteen-year-old
Himalayan Cat, Boo. Judy graduated from Floyds High School in 1967 and Campbell College in 1970.
IN 2006, SACS merged with the North Central Association (NCA) to form
AdvancED, now the largest educational organization in the world. Accreditation is a voluntary
method of quality assurance and engages the entire school community in a continuous process
of self-evaluation, reflection and improvement. Being accredited by AdvancED provides a dis-
tinctive mark of quality recognized internationally that affords external recognition of the
school's commitment to quality.
ADVANCED had become increasingly concerned about the quality of the reports
done by the visiting Quality Assurance Teams. When teams submit the reports to AdvancED,
they are assigned to one of the readers for editing. A couple years ago, Judy was asked to be
one of the “readers” for the reports.
AdvancED decided to make another change to ensure the quality of the reports and
decided to train thirty “lead evaluators.” The state office encouraged Cheryl and Judy to apply.
They did but had little hope of being chosen, considering how many applicants there would be
from across the nation. However, in mid-June, Cheryl and Judy heard that they were selected.
AFTER Cheryl retired as Superintendent, Judy persuaded her to become more
involved with SACS. She had done a few visits, but it’s really hard to have a full-time job and
participate on these teams very often. Cheryl and Judy have been involved in school-level vis-
its, as well as district visits during the past couple years. Because of the quality of their work,
they became Field Consultants for the South Carolina SACS office, meaning that they can pro-
vide assistance to schools and districts preparing for SACS visits.
Serving on the Southern Association of Colleges and Schools (SACS) Accreditation
Teams was another educational opportunity for Cheryl. In fact, her first encounter with the
accreditation process came in 1975-76, the first year of total integration of the schools in
Marion District One. Some schools were closed, the system changed to a feeder system with
the K-2, 3-5, 6-7, and 9-12 grade-level configurations, and staffs merged. No school in Marion
One had ever been accredited. With Mr. Frank Hart as Superintendent the leaders decided that
SACS Accreditation was the tool to move them forward in a unified direction.
Cheryl was asked to chair the school’s SACS Team. Although it seemed to be a daunt-
ing task, she accepted the challenge and still, to this day, believes the SACS School Improvement
Process was the springboard for bringing staff and community together.
THE tutoring (Supplemental Educational Services) is additional academic instruction
provided for children of low-income families who attend schools that have not met the
Adequate Yearly Progress (AYP) for three years. No Child Left Behind (NCLB) Funds the after-
school services in the identified schools, and parents choose their child’s tutors from a list of
providers who have been approved to offer tutoring. Cheryl is a member of the One-On-One
Learning Team, whose services will cover children in eight states for the 2010-11 school year.
Cheryl is excited about having their South Carolina office in Marion for the upcoming year. To
add to the Swamp Fox scene, to provide free tutoring for children who might otherwise not
have the opportunity for tutoring, and to continue her quest for being involved in teaching and
learning in the Pee Dee area are just some of the many reasons Cheryl works with One-On-
In addition to the tutoring services funded by NCLB, they also offer private tutoring
and SAT and ACT Prep classes. When a company is owned and operated by educators who
lead by example, keep their eye on the kids and whether they’re learning and give the team
members the tools, authority and resources to get their jobs done effectively and efficiently,
Cheryl knows that she has chosen well for her “Golden Years.”
JUDY’S rewards in her career are many! She can now choose her doctor, dentist,
accountant, lawyer – and even her undertaker – from students she has taught. Her former stu-
dents are officers in the military, ministers, principals of schools, teachers and superintend-
ents of school districts. One of her students recently sent her a copy of his application for
“Teacher of the Year” in his school, and he had mentioned the influence that Judy had on
him. How rewarding is that!
ONE of two “tangible” highlights of Cheryl’s career includes having Easterling School
named as “Palmetto’s Finest.” Serving as Principal of a high-performance school and having
the staff’s drive for quality recognized at the state level brought untold satisfaction to her
as an educator. The other highlight is the restoration of the old Marion High building for
use as the District Office. It was this intensely emotional project that taught Cheryl the
meaning of courage and the entitlement to dream of “what could be.”
As an Administrator for twenty-nine of her thirty-six years in public education, she
was sometimes asked why she left teaching. “I never did!” Cheryl exclaims. “Part of being
an effective administrator is to be a good teacher; part of being a good teacher is to be a
JUDY can’t really explain her reasons for retiring. Her thoughts were why would
she consider retiring from a job she loved? The year she retired is also the year her
mother died of a stroke. During the six months of her illness, Judy tried to be a good
teacher and a good daughter. She was concerned that she wasn’t doing a great job at
either. She had her thirty years in (required at that time), so she decided to retire.
Luckily, Cheryl convinced her to stay on at Marion High for another two years
as a “double dipper,” which was allowed because of the shortage of high school English
teachers at the time. Then, Judy worked for a few years at the District Office, but her
position there allowed her to be in the schools daily.
Judy’s also not sure how her “retirement” has led to all the part-time jobs that
she has. She knew that she would want to work some because she tried being a lady of
leisure for a couple of weeks. The day she washed the lawnmower was a sign that she
needed to find something a little more mentally stimulating to do. She guesses the work
ethic instilled in her as a child has given her a reputation of dependability because she does-
n’t think she ever called anyone about a job; people started calling her.
AFTER thirty-six years of giving it “my all,” Cheryl felt the time was right to tran-
sition to a new phase of her life. She has never known what it was to “just show up” for
work, shirk responsibilities or delegate every tough task. Working an average of seventy-
to eighty-hour weeks and feeling she was “on duty” at work and at home made her real-
ize there were only two solutions. She needed for her days to contain more than twen-
ty-four hours or she needed to “hang it up” as Superintendent. Flexibility in time demands
was her priority for the next phase of her professional career.
Although Cheryl’s plans were not definite, she knew that she would continue in
some phase of education. Shortly after retirement and her summer travels, she was con-
tacted about several job opportunities. She quickly found herself with four commitments:
Contracting with the State Department for consultant work, consulting with an education-
al company to conduct academic audits, working with SACS Accreditation Teams and serv-
ing as Coordinator of Supplemental Educational Services in after-school programs. Cheryl
knows that many would say she should have remained in the school setting, but the beau-
ty of the opportunities provided is the flexibility with each one. Within certain limits, she
can “pick and choose” her hours and her days to work. She can spend time with family
and provide more support for her husband, who is suffering with congestive heart failure.
DURING Cheryl’s forty years in education, she has learned that the best work-
ing environment is one in which people can work hard and disagree openly about profes-
sional issues without taking things personally. Pulling this off successfully takes discipline
and the ability to know what’s personal and what’s not. But it also takes a conscious effort
to build and maintain closer, more personal relationships with those around you. Cheryl
is proud that this is what she and Judy have been able to do!
When Judy is giving Cheryl “advice,” she always thinks about how much they both
loved their alma mater, Floyds High, and the awesome educators who were so instrumen-
tal in their lives and their decision to become teachers. She also recalls how much they
love Marion and the children who have been a part of their educational system, how much
they love teaching and learning, how much they thrive on gains in student achievement and
just how much their “directive” leadership style is the same.Their future will be one with
expansion of services to children and packing just as much into each week as they possi-
bly can. Needless to say, they both “failed retirement.”
FRIENDS and family members have asked both Cheryl and Judy why they don’t
relax and enjoy life. Their answer is that they are doing exactly what they enjoy. They can’t
think of any activities that could bring them more joy than they get from their work with
schools and young people.
Cheryl and Judy both agree, “When our work is no longer fun, then we might
have time to ‘do lunch’ with other retirees.”
photos by Ricki Ford
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IT WAS a tour out of New York City with a
group of girls from Jill Heiden’s summer camp that gave
birth to what would be her lifelong love of traveling. All
the girls were sixteen and most knew each other very
well. The trip began in New York City and proceeded
on to Philadelphia; Washington, DC; Virginia;
Tennessee and, then, to Chicago, Illinois.
Jill recalls the adventure, “I remember going
to Pocatello, Idaho, which we all thought was very
different and rather cool.”
The group spent a long time in California. From San
Francisco, they traveled down a beautiful seventeen-mile
stretch and stayed at the Hotel del Coronado, Southern
California’s landmark Pacific resort where they made the Marilyn
Monroe and Tony Curtis movie, Some Like It Hot. From there, they
went all the way to Tijuana, Mexico, to see a real bull fight. Once they
got back into the United States, they took a train ride in cars with win-
dows that allowed them to look out over the countryside through
Louisiana and, eventually, back to New York City. It was eight weeks of
adventure and thrills that sixteen-year-old Jill would never forget.
That amazing trip made Jill realize that there was so much
more in life to see, so much to experience and to possibly help others.
It opened her heart to a desire to learn and understand other people
and cultures, other ways of life and the needs of others. She points out
that “even in the United States, cultures are different than they are at
home in our own surroundings.”
Even today, with decades shading the memories of that sum-
mer, the experience remains vivid in Jill’s mind. She explains, “What
sticks out most are the lifelong friendships that were made and the shar-
ing of everything we experienced, the people we met and the absolutely
beautiful country that God created for us to enjoy.”
Having traveled very little in my life, I was quite impressed with
Jill’s response to my question,“Where have your travels taken you since
that incredible summer’s journey?”
“To about half of the United States, Belgium, Holland, Italy,
Germany, France, England, Greece, Sicily, Denmark, Portugal, Spain,
Iceland, Switzerland, Sweden, Peru, Argentina, Brazil, Chile, Mexico,
Turkey, Luxembourg, Australia, New Zealand, the British Virgin Islands, the
French Leeward Islands, Bermuda, Grenada, the American Virgin islands,
Canada, the “North Pole” in Greenland and the Galapagos Islands.”
Impressive? Yes! Boastful? Definitely not. In fact, one thing
that Jill made clear throughout our conversation is that she has never taken
her gift of being able to travel lightly. She knows it is a tremendous gift;
but, even more so, she realizes that it is also a
wonderful blessing. And she never takes
blessings for granted.
Jill has experienced much travel
through work-related trips; however,
her favorite travel is excursions with
family and friends. She feels that
personal travel is the only way you
can get a real feel for cultures and
other things. When you’re travel-
ing with someone that you enjoy
sharing the experience with,
you get so much more out of
the adventure. With that
being said, she shares a
quote with me, “One
thing I have always said:
Where you go is
important - but with
whom you go makes
the trip - because
sharing and enjoying
is what life is all
about.” . . .
by Melia Flowers Berry
“Where you go is important -
but with whom you go makes
the trip - because sharing and
enjoying is what life is all about.”
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JILL BELIEVESthat travel could – and should – be an edu-
cational experience, as it brings families together. “Traveling with family is great
education and exposure for the children. It really allows families to bond and
learn about our country or countries abroad. It reminds me of the old saying,
‘Families that pray together, stay together’ or ‘Families that play together, stay
together.’ It’s kind of corny, but it makes sense!”
In addition, she says that there are still ways for families to travel inex-
pensively, especially if you drive across the country. And speaking of our coun-
try, Jill never ceases to be amazed at the vast, diverse travel opportunities that
await us – right here in the good ol’ US of A!
Meeting people is one of the best parts of traveling for Jill. She has
come to believe that while people can be very different in their customs, reli-
gion and culture, there are many commonalities that tie us all together. It has been
her experience “that people are always willing to share, assist, bond and learn.”
Jill wouldn’t call herself “world-wise” and she knows many people that
are far more widely traveled than she. However, she considers herself lucky to
have the experiences and companionship that have made it possible to travel.
She does admit that she has learned quite a few things during her travels. Most
importantly is “to be pleasant and patient and always smile and understand the
culture and customs of the place you are visiting.”
After having said that, Jill explains that we should never neglect paying
attention to those differences and practice respect for them. Everyone has a
story to tell, and Jill loves learning about the people in the places she visits, taking
in the history and the majestic scenery.
Jill shared another quote with me that she read recently,“Beauty is simply
reality seen with the eyes of love – love of our world and its people.”
Finally, I asked Jill, “Are there any places left that you would like to see?”
Without any hesitation whatsoever, she responded, “Wales,
China, Egypt – I can think of many!”
Happy travels, Jill!
Born in New York City, Jill Heiden moved to New Jersey and
went to high school in Tenafly, New Jersey. Presently, she lives
in Florence. She has three children: Sons, Adam Siegal (Robin),
Christopher Siegal (Pat) Siegal; and daughter, Nicole Sodoma
(Ron). She has seven grandchildren: Arthur Rabon and Mae
Margaret Siegal; Anna Elyse and twins, Natalie and Samuel
Siegal; and Bauer and Shepard Sodoma.
Jill is Vice President of Institutional Advancement at
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the people in the places she
visits, taking in the history and
the majestic scenery.”
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WHEN I planned the theme for this issue, WISE
WOMEN, the first name that came to mind was Ms. Bobbie Croft. In
fact, it was almost as if the two thoughts came as a package deal.
Although I’ve only known this wise woman a little over ten years,
without a doubt, she is indeed wisdom personified.
I first met Ms. Bobbie when I joined Marion Baptist Church.
On first impression, I thought she was kind and her countenance was
very godly – this I gathered without even holding a conversation with
her. As I grew to know her intimately as a friend and spiritual mentor,
I realized that my initial perception of her was only the tip of the
depth of this petite woman with the strength of a mighty warrior.
I received a call from Ms. Bobbie in the summer of 2001 asking
if I would consider being on the Prayer Warrior Team for Judgment
House, which our church was hosting for the first year. She explained
that she was in charge of the Prayer Group and that my job would be
to meet with the group and pray for the participants in Judgment
House, as well as those who would attend. That sounded easy enough,
so I agreed.
On the day I walked in the meeting for the Prayer Warriors,
I immediately thought, “Oh, no! What have I done?” As my eyes
scanned the room, I felt so inadequate. The room was filled with older,
wiser, much stronger Christians than I; therefore, I was sure I needed
to bow out. However, feeling the authority of Ms. Bobbie looming over
me, I quietly sat down as my mind began to think of possible excuses that
I could give her as to why I couldn’t be in this Prayer Group.
Then, she spoke in a tone that was tender – yet strong. And
I listened. (In fact, when Ms. Bobbie speaks, everyone within hearing
distance listens.) She began to tell us that we were all there because
God wanted us to be. She explained that before calling us, she sat
with a long list of names that she had prayed over. And, as she called
each name out, she listened for God to speak to her heart as to
whether or not she needed to call that person.
I remember thinking to myself,“I’m afraid you misunderstood
God, Ms. Bobbie, because God couldn’t have told you to call me. I can-
not pray like these people. I am not worthy of being in this group.”
Then, she looked directly at me and smiled as our eyes met, and I
knew she was right.
That year, as our church opened its doors to the community
with our first Judgment House, Ms. Bobbie opened her heart to me as
a Sister-in-Christ. I have been blessed beyond words by her wisdom
that comes from her relationship with Jesus Christ. In the eight years
since that Judgment House, she has continued to head up the Prayer
Warriors. And, most every year, I have had the honor of serving with her.
In fact, I talked about her so much in my home that my son
asked to join the group three years ago. It didn’t take long for Jacob
to see what I had been talking about. My young son was so blessed
by what he saw in Ms. Bobbie and has returned to serve with her in
the Prayer Group every year since. Her reach is not limited to her
gender or generation; she has the respect and love of many. She is
indeed an example of the wise woman in Proverbs 31:28, “Her chil-
dren arise up, and call her blessed.”
Bobbie Croft knows prayer. And I’m not talking about the
generic, “Dear Lord, hear our prayers, please. Thank you and Amen.”
This woman prays with her entire being to the God she serves. And
if she tells you she will pray for you, you can rest assured she will do
just that. And let me also assure you that she is a God-fearing, Bible-
believing woman who serves her Master with her whole heart, soul,
mind, body and spirit. When she prays, not a stone is left unturned.
Those of us in her Prayer Group know that serving with Ms. Bobbie
is not for wimps. She wants you on your feet when you pray (unless
you’re not able to, in which case she will happily have you sit). And
when she starts, she doesn’t stop until she has poured her heart out
to God. . . .
by Melia Flowers Berry
photo by Ricki Ford
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LEST I paint her as an angel, I should tell you that she does have a
stubborn side. In fact, I faced that stubbornness when I told her I wanted to write
about her in this WISE WOMEN issue. While she was honored, she let me know that
she did not see herself as wise and wasn’t sure she wanted to do this. After some con-
versation, I thought I had won. Then, my Assistant, Heather, informed me that when she
called to set up her photo shoot, Ms. Bobbie told her she just couldn’t do it.
So, back to phone I went. I understand where she was coming from because she
is very humble and recognizes that all that she is comes from God. She acknowledges that
she is not wise; it is God who is wise. She quotes this Scripture,“Proverbs 2:6 says,‘For the
Lord gives wisdom. And from His mouth comes knowledge and understanding.’”
Still, I knew that above all else in this world, Bobbie Croft desires to glorify
God, and I believed her story would do just that. I just had to convince her.
Thankfully, I was able to.
While Ms. Bobbie’s faith is unshakable, that doesn’t mean she hasn’t had her
struggles. In fact, she knows firsthand that “serving God means serving Him in good
times, as well as bad,” as I have often heard her say. In talking with her about this
story, she did not wish to go into great detail regarding her struggles. However, in
our conversations throughout the years, she has alluded to pain in her life
and that pain was reflected in her eyes. Bobbie Croft is a very private
woman, and I sense that she had rather her pain remain between
her and her God. At the same time, she wants everyone to
know that life as a Christian does not mean a life without
pain. In fact, she will quickly tell you that sometimes when
we turn our lives over to God, they can get even tougher
to travel. The difference is that God is with you, and He
will bare the burdens for us. She experienced that
promise when her first husband, Stewart Bailey, died at
only thirty-seven-years-old, leaving Bobbie to raise her
fourteen-year-old-son and ten-year-old daughter alone.
During that time, she recalls lying awake in her bed
and looking up at the ceiling and feeling God’s presence. “It is in
these difficult times when God’s light shines through the brightest.
I learned I was not alone in the wee hours of the morning before
dawn breaks. I learned that I had a comforter who was not only with me,
but in me. I already knew that in my heart; but, until that time, I really had not
experienced – nor had I fully understood – how real His presence could be to His child
in her time of need.” While she was already a believer, I suspect this was the event that
took Ms. Bobbie from a believer to having an amazing personal relationship with the Lord.
How does one overcome a hurt like that, I wondered. In her wisdom, Ms.
Bobbie says, “I don’t think one ever overcomes or forgets a loss like that, but you do
the only thing you can do. After a time of mourning and crying out to God, I did
what we all must do who have experienced loss. I began to be thankful for what
my husband had left me. I had two beautiful children who needed me. And I had
wonderful, thoughtful, praying friends who came and spent time with me. Last,
but certainly not least, I was growing stronger in my prayer life.”
Ms. Bobbie believes that Jesus chose to leave her here for a reason, so she
learned to have even more faith and trust in Him. She says that “when a person is
trying to heal from sorrow and loss and also trying to grow, there is only one place
to go – that is to the foot of the Cross and talk to the Master. It is there where
healing will begin. And it is there where you find peace and strength. It is there that
Jesus lets us know He is near and He will never leave us or forsake us.”
God used the Judgment House Prayer Group to bring Ms. Bobbie and me
together from that time until present. She has shown me that prayer is crucial in our
relationship with Christ. I wanted her to tell me in her own words what prayer
means to her. This is what she said:
“Prayer is as important as breathing. Getting on my knees before the Mighty God keeps me
humble. Prayer is fellowship with God. I come to Him often because I love Him so much.
When you love someone, you want to be near them and talk to them all the time. That is
how it is with prayer. Prayer is coming to our Father in the name of Jesus,
worshiping Him because of who He is, because He is worthy to be worshiped and praised.
Prayer is humbling ourselves before God, coming with thankfulness for what He has done and
telling Him we love Him. Prayer is talking things over with our Father and then listening for
His answer. Prayer is sitting quietly in the spirit of prayer before the Lord, in humble adora-
tion, without asking for a thing. Prayer can be just sitting quietly in the
presence of God and basking in his Presence.”
When I need prayer, I’m very blessed to have close, praying friends whom I
know will pray for me. Also, my mother, along with Ms. Bobbie, is always praying for
me. It’s kind of humorous the way I think of her prayers. In fact, I’m a little embar-
rassed to share this; but, I think of it like “calling in the big guns.” It’s not that I think
any less of anyone else’s prayers because I know with all my heart that God hears all
the prayers of believers. And I’m convinced that if we could see the prayers of mother’s,
they would shine brightest. However, I believe that God has given unique gifts to
each of us, and I think Ms. Bobbie’s is the gift of praying. I just feel like she has a special
connection with God. I can imagine my prayers going up to Heaven via regular mail and
hers, express mail. Or, mine, with dial-up Internet and hers, DSL. You get the picture.
I don’t claim to know why Ms. Bobbie has that thing she has, I just know that is real
because I have experienced it firsthand.
When I knew my daddy was not going to live long, I called Ms. Bobbie to
pray for me because I was struggling with the need to go out of town and the fear
that he would die while I was gone. I so wanted to be with him at the time and
couldn’t bare the thought of not being there for him in his last hours. As Ms. Bobbie
was praying for me, she began praising God and, later, told me to go on my trip. She
said that I would be with my daddy when he died and that she saw me at
his bedside standing at the right of his head. She said that I would
witness the glory of God – and I would never be the same.
I was alone with my DaDa when he died, and it was just
as she had told me. I remember thinking as I stood by
his bedside, surrounded by the presence of God, “Ms.
Bobbie was right.”
I’m sure she would rather I had not shared that
with you because she wouldn’t want to be seen in a
way that shines the light on her. But, if you are read-
ing this, it means I convinced her to let it be told
because, again, it’s not about her. It’s about what God
will do in our lives when we are open and obedient to
I could write a book about the God-given wis-
dom of Ms. Bobbie. In fact, I have told her that one day
when I am given the time, I would like to write a book and
title it, Bobbisims. It would be filled with her advice and sayings.
I have many written down, like this one, “When people or the enemy
gives you something that doesn’t belong to you, return to sender. Just say, ‘God,
this doesn’t belong to me. I will not accept it,’ and return to sender.”
If she speaks on something that she did not get from the Bible, she is quick
to say, “Now this isn’t from God; it’s from me,” making sure not to imply that God
has given her something that He hasn’t.
Bobbie Croft is full of wise advice for anyone, but I am especially thankful
for the Godly wisdom and advice she has shared with me in areas that affect me as
a woman. She says, “For women to be strong in the Lord, it does not take anything
away from the man. We are not to tower over the man but to come alongside him
and be his helpmate. A wife needs to be strong where the husband is weak, and the
husband needs to be strong where the wife is weak. They should complement each
other, not lord their strengths over one another. God did not make women to be
as strong, physically, as men. Man is to protect his wife and cherish her. Women have
a gentle side that can kiss a bruise on a child and make the hurt go away. Husband
and wife working together for the Lord is a beautiful thing. God’s strength on the
inside of us is an asset – not a liability.”
Ms. Bobbie says that we can all get that strength if we ask our Lord for it.
“God is so good! He equips us with what we need – as we need it. God gives us
strength in so many areas of our lives: wisdom is strength, information is strength, divine
insight is strength, love is strength, the Holy Spirit gives us strength and knowledge
Bobbie Croft is definitely a wise woman, but she is so much more. She is
stylish and modern yet traditional. She takes care of her body and her health and
her mind. At 77-years-old, she can hold her own with those decades her junior. Ms.
Bobbie is funny and fun to be around. She enjoys laughter and believes that, as children
of God, we should be joyful. And her sweet smile is evidence of her joy. I am blessed
to call her my friend. I am even more so blessed to call her my Sister-in-Christ.
Ms. Bobbie Bailey Croft lives in Marion. She is a Member of Marion Baptist
Church, where she serves anywhere she is called by God. She has a son, Larry, and a
daughter, Linda. She blessed to be a mother, a grandmother and a great-grandmother.
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I AM BLESSED to have grown up with a
mother who strives to be like Christ every day. Teaching
is my mother’s calling – her spiritual gift. There is no
doubt in anyone’s mind that God blessed Yvonne Rhodes
with the ability to teach. Some of my youngest and fondest
memories of her are summer Bible studies in our kitchen – and
she wasn’t even a School Teacher then.
At the age of thirty-six, with three children under thirteen, my
mama went back to college to pursue her dream of teaching. Looking
back, I don’t know how she did it. My parents sacrificed so much during those
four years, but my mother walked across the stage at Francis Marion College with
a Degree in Political Science. I was so proud of her! We all were. But, even more
so, we were inspired! Since her graduation, my siblings and I have all
graduated from college.
Upon graduation, at forty-years-old, my mother start-
ed teaching at Wilson High School in Florence. It wasn’t as
easy as she thought it would be. She assumed that a teacher
is someone who is nice and has good lesson plans. She
learned quickly that some students didn’t care how nice she
was or how amazing her lessons were. But, she never gave
up. She gave it to God. She is now in her twentieth year
of teaching at Wilson. And she is still nice and has amaz-
ing lesson plans! With God’s help, my mama has spent
those twenty years reaching students’ hearts and
minds. She loves them. And they love her back.
I’m proud to share my mother with her
students. I love hearing, “You’re Mrs. Rhodes’
daughter? I love her! She’s great!” And I agree with
them completely. She is great, and I love her, too!
For as long as I can remember, I have want-
ed to be a teacher, just like my mama. Literature has
always been important in my family, so I decided to
major in Secondary Education English. Being my
mother’s daughter, I knew how difficult teaching could
be. I remember calling her in tears from Clemson the
day before I started student teaching because I was so
nervous. She told me I would be fine if I would just
pray, be calm and confident. She was right.
In my first year of teaching, I recall getting
so frustrated because I could not get across to
my students what I was trying to or when a stu-
dent said something to upset me. Every day
after school, I would call my mama and just let
it all out! She was – and still is – an amazing
sounding board. She always knows the right
thing to say or the right way for me to handle a
situation.And, as always, she is right.
After eight years of teaching ninth-grade English, I love my job at West
Florence High School! I rely on my mother for advice, support and resources. Even
though we’re in different areas of teaching – she, in the Social Studies Department,
and I, in English – we are able to help each other. Just recently, I was developing a
unit on the Holocaust, and my mother provided a plethora of information to help
my students understand the historical background to parallel with the novel we
were reading in class.
With my Master’s Degree in Technology, my mother comes to me for help
whenever she needs it, as well. If asked, my mother would tell you that technology is
the main aspect of teaching that has changed in her twenty years of teaching. I’m
trying to catch her up! . . .
“The Greatest Teacher of All did not teach Arithmetic, Literature or Geography.
The Greatest Teacher of All taught us how to love one another,
respect each other, pray and have faith in the unseen.”
Gina Lee (right) with her mom,Yvonne (center) and sister, Crystal
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“For as long as I
can remember, I
have wanted to
be a teacher, just
like my mama.”
Gina Lee and her husband, Michael, love living in the same town they grew up in,
and they love being close to their parents. Their joy, laughter and constant chatter
comes from their little man, J.D.
Yvonne and Gerald Rhodes are proud parents of Jerry and his wife, Allison; Crystal
and her husband,Tim; and Gina and her husband, Michael. They are the wonderful
grandparents to Reed, Addie, Ryan, J.D. and Trey.
Crystal and Tim Bausmith are the excellent parents of Reed, Addie and Ryan.
They enjoy living close to their parents in Florence.
MY MOTHERand I are not the only ones in our family that
love children and teaching. My sister, Crystal, has her Master’s of Arts in Teaching
for the Learning Disabled. Crystal has chosen a different path than traditional
school settings. She facilitates her son’s learning at home.
Crystal has always loved children. Growing up, one could always find her
in the nursery at church, teaching swimming lessons or babysitting. Crystal start-
ed college with the intention of becoming a Pediatric Nurse, but that wasn’t a
good fit for her. You guessed it! She changed her major to Teaching.
After getting married, she and her husband moved back to his home-
town, where they both graduated from Ohio State University. They came back
to Florence, and Crystal went to Graduate School at Francis Marion University.
She finished her Graduate Degree, and two weeks later, she had her first son. She
has since been blessed with two more children.
Crystal believes that her children were given to her by the Lord, and she
wants to do what is best for them. Right now, keeping her eldest son home for
his education is what he needs. She works with South Carolina Connections
Academy to create his curriculum and lesson plans. Crystal enjoys teaching her
son. At this time in her life, she feels that this is where the Lord wants her to be.
She doesn’t know what the future holds, but she is willing to allow Him to direct
Teaching can be a struggle. Sometimes, it is really tough. Nevertheless,
we all knew that going in to the profession. It’s hard to forgive a student when
they are rude and disrespectful. It’s hard to teach the same thing over and over
and feel like no one is listening. But, these are not the things we thrive on.
Teachers thrive on that moment when she (or he) sees a student learn a concept
and she knows they got it! A teacher feels like she has succeeded when she sees
a frightened student learn to be confident in themselves and become a strong
leader. Teachers are proud when they receive comments like, “I thought
Shakespeare was boring, but this is great!” or “I learned things in your class that
I use in college.”
Teaching isn’t something we do for the glory. And it’s definitely not for
the paycheck. As my sister and I witnessed my mother spending countless hours
outside the classroom – setting up for prom, coaching her students for competi-
tion or grading papers (and more papers and more papers) – it allowed us to
know what to expect going into teaching.
Our students are children, and it’s our job to teach them how to grow.
A responsible teacher doesn’t just teach her students from textbooks. We hope
to teach them how to laugh, enjoy school and have a desire to learn. To reiter-
ate what’s really important to teachers – it’s when a student’s face lights up with
that “Ah ha!” moment that we receive our biggest reward.
As another school year begins, my mother, sister and I are excited about
new opportunities to teach. With the help of our Lord, we pray that we are able
to reach our students to show them love, respect – and faith in their futures.
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KEEPING THE PEACE
SOME PEOPLE break out in hives and a cold sweat
just thinking about conflict within relationships. They avoid an argument
like the plague and would rather shrug than state an opinion that will
make someone else mad. Other people view conflict as a potentially healthy
and natural part of relationships. They seek to learn new ways to communicate their
feelings and look forward to the growth that can occur through conflict handled in a healthy
and productive manner. Teresa Johnson Ramey is one of the latter.
As Vice President for Student Affairs and Dean of Students at Francis Marion University, Teresa
finds many opportunities to use her skills as a trained and certified mediator. She is often called upon to
personally mediate between two students. She will also work with students individually, supplying them with techniques
for resolving their conflicts. Teresa trains students in the Leadership FMU Program in the overall concept of conflict
management. This helps the students to “better understand their own conflict style and recognize styles in
others in an effort to effectively resolve conflict.”
Teresa shares, “Understanding conflict management also prepares students for difficult conversations
with other students, parents and situations that are in immediate need of resolution.”
Teresa and her husband, Darrell, moved to Florence in July 2006; however, her journey to her current
position at FMU began as a Residence Hall Director at Jacksonville State University in Jacksonville, Alabama.
She then became the Assistant Area Coordinator at Georgia Tech in Atlanta, Georgia, and then moved to
Cleveland, Ohio, to become the Area Coordinator at Case Western Reserve University. She then moved to
Aiken, South Carolina, to become the Job Training Partnership Act (JTPA) Case Management Counselor and
Instructor in Continuing Education at Aiken Technical College. Her career next took her to Lubbock, Texas,
where she first served as Coordinator for Judicial Affairs at Texas Tech University and, eventually, as their
Assistant Dean of Students. Next, Teresa accepted the position of Associate Dean of Students at Spelman
College in Atlanta, Georgia, and then she became the Interim Dean of Students. In July of 2006, the Ramey family
joined the family of Francis Marion University in Florence.
Teresa feels that FMU is a wonderful place for her. When asked how she feels her current position
fits her gifting, she shares, “I see my current position at FMU as a natural progression for my career. I have
been blessed with great mentors who have guided and supported my efforts. I also have a wonderful staff that
makes going to work every day a pleasure. Having worked at a variety of colleges and universities, I find that a
smaller institution gives me an opportunity to get to know the students and work more closely with the faculty.”
She continues,“I enjoy contributing to student success. Student Affairs provides students with an out-
of-the-classroom experience that complements their education. It may sound like a lot of jargon, but I believe
that we make an impact on student life. Within the Division of Student Affairs is Student Programming,
Multicultural Services, International Student Services, Recreational Services, Career Development, Counseling
and Testing, Student Organizations, Student Disability Services, Greek Life, Student Health,The Code of Student
Conduct, activities in the student center and our Leadership Development Series. Each department in the division
provides our students an opportunity to be successful.” . . .
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ON Amore personal level, Teresa concludes, “I also enjoy the
amount of creativity my position allows. As students change, so do their
needs. Keeping up with student needs makes the job interesting and, at
times, exciting! I am free to laugh with students and witness them experi-
ence new concepts and ideas and make them applicable to their lives.”
Through her experiences and work as a Personal Mediator, Teresa
has learned some life lessons that she tries to pass on to her students. “I
have learned that every situation is different and that as society changes, so
do the types of conflict. It is important for me, as a problem solver, to keep
up-to-date on my training and continue to search for opportunities to share
with others. I encourage students to ‘think for yourself ’ and to remember
that “trends come and go; be consistent by doing what is best for you and
what makes you proud.’”
She also finds a common area that can often lead to conflict is when
students rely too much on electronic communication. Teresa explains,“I am
certainly a technology junkie, but I prefer to speak to others in person when
there is a conflict. That’s what makes conflict mediation so powerful. Face-
to-face communication allows for reading facial expressions, body language
and portrays the true meaning of a statement versus trying to communicate
real issues through a computer screen or via a text message. As an avid
Facebook user and supporter of technology, I still feel that it’s important that
these devices be placed in proper perspective and not replace the value of
Personally, Teresa feels that as her career has changed, she has also
changed. She has learned to relax. She says she used to always be on edge,
failing to look at the big picture. She evaluated her every decision and how
other people viewed her. She has learned to use her conflict management
to help her relax and laugh. She has learned to value and use what her mentors have
taught her. She determined whether she wanted a “job” or a “career.”
Teresa chose a career.
She still looks forward to growing and learning. She would love to
learn more about the law and how to be a successful entrepreneur. In the
meantime, she has her hands full as she continues to teach and share with
young people how to handle conflict. Teresa’s wisdom in this area is one that
is desperately needed – and will never end.
Erika Chapman lives in Florence with her amazing husband
and three busy little boys. She gets excited about discovering
a great read, NewSpring Church and sharing her most recent
adventures at www.erikaivory.wordpress.com.
“I am free to laugh with
students and witness them
experience new concepts
and ideas and make them
applicable to their lives.”
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“The plans of the diligent lead surely to advantage, but everyone who is hasty comes surely to poverty.” (Proverbs 21:5)
Submitted by: Linda Weatherford
...BUT IT WAS
Okay. Admit it. At some point in the past, you purchased an item that you
absolutely did not need; but, because it was such a bargain, you just couldn’t pass it up.
I’ve heard (and often lived by) these famous quotes:
• “Don’t worry about where you’ll put it; you’ll figure that out when
you get home!”
• “But they were practically giving it away!”
• “It was on sale, so I bought one in every color!”
• “Just imagine if I’d paid full price for this!”
What is it about a sale that makes us lose all sense of reason? Why would we
consider buying yet another pair of shoes when we already have enough to start our own
In my mind, somehow, the thought of what I’m saving justifies the purchase.
Whether it’s the incredible price or the thought that we would never be able to find a
certain item again, we convince ourselves that we just “have to
have it!” It’s too good to leave behind.
A quick survey among my work associates reminded me that I am not alone.
There were countless instances of purchasing clothing that still hangs in the closet. Or,
better yet, those clothes were donated or put on a yard sale with the tags still in place.
Those, along with a bamboo fountain still in a box in the attic. An M&M Christmas Village
that’s never been used, but it was 60% off! Exercise equipment that collects more dust
than workout time. A multi-dimensional hair coloring valued at over $100 that resem-
bled a skunk when completed. And, finally – my favorite – the Twitter Critter, a coyote decoy
There are countless ways we waste money. Less than a third of Americans are
cooking their meals at home. Although 75% of Americans eat their meals at home, those
meals come from fast food and take out. The average cost of a tall latte at Starbucks is
$2.75. The cost of a Saturday night movie at the theater is now reaching $10. Add pop-
corn and a drink and you’ll quickly reach $25 per person.
In short, Proverbs 21:5 sum’s it up quite well – haste leads to waste!
As we consider how we might become more frugal and make wise choices with
our money, take into consideration these tips:
• Practice the 30-day rule. When considering a major purchase, allow 30 days to
research and compare before making the purchase.
• Consider your “collection.” Most people collect something. Consider if your
collectibles truly add value or just take up space. Could this money be used for some-
thing more beneficial to the household?
• Make a shopping list and stick to it. Don’t put anything in the cart that’s not
on the list and you’ll save a bundle.
• Invite friends over instead of going out. Invite several friends and make it a
potluck dinner, with each family contributing one item. That way, everyone enjoys a feast!
• Make it a family movie night at home. A movie rental and popcorn can be
just pennies per person.
• Drink more water! Not only is this good for your health, it’s also good for your wallet.
• Clean your air filters. A clean air filter can improve your gas mileage by up to 7%,
saving you more than $100 for every 10,000 miles you drive in an average vehicle. At
home, a clean air filter will improve the efficiency of your heating/cooling and lower your
• Maintenance. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure! Take the time to
maintain your car, your home and appliances. Maintaining what we already have is much
cheaper than purchasing new.
• Create a budget and stick to it. Taking the time to educate yourself and your
family on how much money you have, your basic needs and what you can afford is the
wisest decision you’ll ever make. Only when we understand what we have, what we need
and what we can afford will we begin to control our money – instead of our money con-
So, the burning question remains: Do we make the purchase if it’s on sale? For
me, the wise words of my husband come to mind, “Stop saving us so much money!”
Just because it’s on sale does not mean it’s a smart choice. By applying the simple “haste
makes waste” principle, we can make a wise decision regarding sale items.
Consider the following:
• If it’s something that you or your family will use, you have a need and you can afford to
make the purchase, it’s probably a good decision.
• It’s fine to “stock up” on items when they are on sale; however, you don’t need to pur-
chase enough to last for years. If the item is on sale now, it will likely be on sale again.
With all you save by making smarter choices with your money and sticking to a
budget, you can create savings for future emergencies, a fun-filled family vacation or an
occasional trip to the movies. You may even be able to afford popcorn!
Linda H.Weatherford is thankful to share her life with her husband, Mike, and their two great sons,
Robbie and Jordan. She is a Member of Cornerstone Baptist Church in Darlington and is
Director of Marketing/Business Development at SPC Credit Union.
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by Melodie Griffin
Kids crack me up. One can never predict what might tumble from their
imaginative brains down to their unfiltered little lips! Thus was the case with
seven year old Hannah the other day. Skipping along the sidewalk to the library,
she spouted this random, unsolicited advice, “Never bark at a dog.” While wait-
ing for her to finish pontificating, my grownup mind searched a list of possible rea-
sons never to bark at the canine species. It might bite you was the response I was
expecting, but her words interrupted my wondering. “NEVER bark at a dog
because you don’t know what you might be saying!” This is true. I am not fluent
in dog language. My little friend further cautioned me that I might even be saying
bad words to the dog and not even know it! Oh, the humanity.
Words are powerful. God surely knows this and warned us to be care-
ful with our words – long before the thought ever occurred to Hannah! Proverbs
18:21a tells us,“The tongue has the power of life and death…” Ruff ruff! It sounds
like maybe I need to pay better attention to my own barking. My words hold the
power of death? Yes – death to dreams, confidence, courage, hope, affection, trust,
respect – just to name a few. I may never know the damage I’ve done by my care-
less words! Maybe I was being sarcastic or just making a joke, but at what
expense? My beloved mentor, Florence Littauer, wrote a best-selling book years
ago entitled, “Silver Boxes.” In this wonderful book, she shares her own experi-
ences with the power of words. Here is her poem by the same name:
My words were harsh & hasty
And they came without a thought.
Then I saw the pain & anguish
That my bitter words had brought. Bitter words that I had spoken
Made me think back through the past;
Of how many times I'd uttered
Biting words whose pain would last.Then I wondered of the people
I had hurt by things I'd said;
All the ones I had discouraged
When I didn't use my head.Then I thought about my own life
Of painful words I've heard;
And of the times I'd been discouraged
By a sharp and cruel word. And now clearly I remember
All the things I might have done;
But, by a word I was discouraged
And they never were begun. So, help my words be silver boxes,
Neatly wrapped up with a bow;
That I give to all so freely,
As through each day I gladly go. Silver boxes full of treasure,
Precious gifts from above;
That all the people I encounter
Might have a box of love
Ah, my words can also be power-packed with life! I see this most of all
in my relationship with my children. When I praise them or affirm the God-gifts
in their lives, my words are like cool water to the parched soil of their hearts.
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My High School: 1986 Graduate of West Florence High School
My Attitude: I was very shy and modest. I followed the rules and wanted to
end high school just as quickly as it began.
My Friends: I didn’t have a lot of best friends; I tried to be friends with everyone.
My Style: The Big Hair, Gasoline Jeans and Journey was the band (and still is). I
considered myself to be plain but willing to “fit in.” I wanted very much to be
myself, but I seemed to follow the trends of the time, which included fashion, hair-
styles and music.
What I Loved Most About High School: Seeing my then-boyfriend and
going to basketball and football games
What I Worried Most About In High School: If someone was talking
about me, turning in a paper on time or making the grade I wanted
My Favorite Subjects and Teachers: My English Teacher, Mrs. Moose, and
my Psychology Teacher, Coach Nelson. They made school incredibly interesting,
and I looked forward to everything they had to talk about.
My Dreams: I wanted to be a Nurse. I loved helping others and feeling needed.
My Family: My husband and best friend of twenty years, Curt Summerford;
and our three beautiful children, Joshua (18), Zachary (11) and Jessica (7)
My Attitude: I’m still just as compassionate as I was in high school.
My Work: I’m a Realtor with Century 21 Bellray Properties. I didn’t follow
through with Nursing, but I’m still helping people, just in a different way. I also
volunteer with the Florence Area Humane Society and administer its
Facebook Page. I think an animal’s home is very important.
What I Love About My Life: I love my life now because I live it for God.
I’ve learned that I cannot please everyone, and I shouldn’t have to. When I put
God first, everything else follows behind just as it’s supposed to.
My High School Experiences That Influences Me Today: Though I
probably didn’t agree with them much then, my parents have had a lasting
influence on my life. I wish I could just laugh with my daddy one more time or
have my mama tell me what time to be home from a date.
The One Thing I Would Change About My High School Years: I would
worry less, study more and laugh much more often.
Wisdom I Have Now That I Could Have Used Then: I wish I hadn’t
worried about what those girls were saying and had just walked up to them
and said, “Hi!” I wish I could go back and study just a little harder instead of
worrying if the phone would ring. Finally, I wish I had hugged my parents
more, made more conversations with them and reached for my goals with
Wisdom I Have Now That Would Have Made My High School Years
Better: My confidence and faith in God. God gives me the strength and the
wisdom to live each day to the fullest success.
Most Important Thing To Me Now: My family. I would do anything for them.
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My High School: 1979 Graduate of West Florence High School
My Attitude: Quiet, Artistic, Observant
My Friends: Tammy, Darlene, Marit and Joan-Marie
My Style: Levi’s and Flannel Shirts with a pair of Clogs or Docksiders
What I Loved Most About High School: My aunt, Lucy Davis, was our
Principal. She created a good environment for us to excel and learn in.
My Favorite Teacher & Subject: Ned Owings and Biology
My Dreams: To be an Artist/Illustrator of some kind or to be a
Most Important Thing To Me Then: Making good grades – and my
My Family: I’m happily married and our children are all four-legged.
My Attitude: Compassionate, Fun, Opinionated, Busy with the life I have
created around me
What I Love About My Life: A great husband and great health are at
the top of a really long list.
My High School Experiences That Influences Me Today: My aunt,
Lucy Davis, was the Principal. She demanded respect, and she earned it.
Our society lacks that today. Instead, fear rules. Lucy feared nothing.
The One Thing I Would Change About My High School
Years: That’s another list that’s too long, but I wish I had been
more focused on my future and less on my boyfriend.
Wisdom I Have Now That I Could Have Used Then: It’s
not the end of the world if somebody breaks your heart. Oh,
and history. I wish I had paid more attention in history classes.
I’m intrigued now.
Most Important Thing To Me Now: Following the example
of my Savior and what He desires for me on a daily basis. It’s not
about me; it’s about the person standing next to me. I want to
make a difference in his/her life, even if it’s really small. Some
days, I’m good at it; some days, I fail miserably.
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West Florence High
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My High School: 1977 Graduate of Point Pleasant Borough High
School, Point Pleasant, New Jersey
My Attitude: I was shy around new people but loyal to the end with
my closest girlfriends. I was a straight ‘A’ student, a bit of a goody
two-shoes with the same boyfriend from tenth grade to graduation
and a few years beyond. In retrospect, I was a “glass-half-empty” per-
son, full of worry about my future to the point of grimness (especial-
ly judging by that prom photo!).
My Style: In my hometown in 1977, the unofficial daily “uniform”
was hip-hugger-bell-bottoms worn with shiny, long-sleeved polyester
print blouses; shag haircuts and big-framed eye glasses. Orthodontia
was typically worn for four years so that made for a really good look.
What I Loved Most About High School: I loved that I could
choose electives – even though my mom and I occasionally disagreed
about some of my choices. (Latin was approved but not so much for
theater, which was my attempt at breaking out of the shy bubble.)
My Favorite Subject: Ninth-grade Algebra taught by Mr. Manzo
was my favorite “class” – but definitely not my favorite “subject.” Mr.
Manzo had collar-length hair, bell bottoms and big goofy glasses. He
was very hip! I was terrible at Algebra! I just didn’t get it and brought
home a less-than-acceptable grade the first quarter. Mr. Manzo and
my mom worked out a deal that I could sit in on a second class daily
and do twice the classroom time, twice the homework and twice the
quizzes and tests. One day, the mystery of Algebra clicked, and I got
it! While Algebra will never be my favorite subject (even with my own
children, I send them to their dad for help), Mr. Manzo will remain my
favorite teacher just for his willingness to make sure I “got it.”
My Dreams: To finish high school and move on to the “real world”
– whatever that was
My Work: My senior year, I was in a work/study program, so I went
to school until noon, and then I went to the local hospital from 1:00
to 5:00 PM, wearing white pants and a yellow smock. To this day, you
will never catch me in white pants or anything yellow.
Most Important Thing To Me Then: Graduating!
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My Family: My husband, John Webb, and I met on a blind date while I was
vacationing in Hawaii. It was set up by my sister, who was an Army Nurse
stationed there. John was a Lieutenant in the Submarine Service. We mar-
ried at the United States Naval Academy in Annapolis, Maryland, in January
1989. Today, we have three wonderful children: Nora, Connor and Brennan.
We also have a fourteen-year-old German Shepherd, Charlotte; and four
cats, Carolyn, Frances, Sheila and Miss Kitty.
My Work: Full-Time Mom, Part-Time Volunteer
What I Love About My Life: As infants, I would bounce my cranky
babies and tell them they were “warm and fed and safe and dry.” That still
stands today. Often, this life I love as a Full-Time Mom seems crazy, messy
and disorganized, but a good day still ends with everyone being warm and
fed and safe and dry.
My High School Experiences That Influences Me Today: Sometimes,
perseverance in the form of dull repetition is what it takes to succeed,
whether at a skill or task. When one child (to remain unnamed) gets frus-
trated that he can’t master something on the first try, I have to “bore him
with a story of my youth,” and it’s often the Mr.-Manzo-Algebra tale. Also,
the “glass-half-empty person” has evolved positively into my skill of always
having a “Plan B.” And if Plan B fails, humor is sometimes all that’s left!
The One Thing I Would Change About My High School Years:
Though I have no regrets about having had a steady boyfriend, I wish I had
spent more time with my girlfriends and less time with his friends. Because
of that, we strongly encouraged our daughter not to date until she was six-
teen in order to get a better sense of herself. It’s amazing to me the
strong relationships my Nora has with her friends (and her ability to do the
girly things). Recently, I went with her to help with fashion, hair care prod-
ucts and makeup. I told her I missed all that because I was too busy with
“the boyfriend.” She’s dating now and knows herself much better than I
knew myself back then.
Wisdom I Have Now That I Could Have Used Then: Hold tightly
onto your own identity! I didn’t have to always plan for the worst case
because, amazingly enough, sometimes good things did happen! And even
if the best case didn’t happen, it was okay to laugh and learn from perceived
failures until something else did work. I tell my three children that some-
thing can always be learned from any situation – good or bad. And I know now
that the threat of “your permanent record” was not as bad as it sounded; we
all went to college or on to the workplace and found our niche.
Most Important Thing To Me Now: Getting our three children ready
to eventually leave the nest. I suppose every parent says that; but, it’s a
crazy time to be starting out as an adult, whether they choose college, the
military or workplace. I hope each of my children find their passion,
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Susan’s 1963 Senior Portrait
My High School: 1963 Graduate
of McClenaghan High in Florence
My Attitude: Fun, Energetic, Carefree
My Friends: Carol Beaty, Jane Goff,
Gwen Smith, Phyllis Tripp, Joan Hatfield
My Style: Athletic
What I Loved Most About High
School: Playing Sports
My Favorite Teacher:
My Dreams: To be a Physical
Most Important Thing To Me
Then: Playing Basketball and Tennis
My Family: Wonderful Husband of 36 years, Leo Elvington; Two Stepchildren:
Marnie E. Carter, Gil Elvington; Three Children: Brice Elvington, Zan Elvington,
Morgan Walker; Daughter-in-Law: Kim Coxe Elvington; Sons-in-Law: King Carter and
Michael Walker;Two Grandchildren: Megann McKinney, King Carter
My Work: Owner of The Toy Shop in Florence
What I Love About My Life: I have wonderful family and friends.
The One Thing I Would Change About My High School Years: I would
have put more emphasis on my studies.
Wisdom I Have Now That I Could Have Used Then: High school would
have been a lot easier if I had studied more.
Most Important Thing To Me Now: Family. There is nothing more important
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My High School: 1987 Graduate of Hartsville High
My Attitude: Carefree!
My Style: Jeans and a shirt
What I Loved Most About High School: Socializing
My Favorite Subject: Geography
My Dreams: To be a hair stylist
My Work: I worked at Mr. B’s for two years, and then I worked at
Bi-Lo my senior year. I loved to work and save my money.
Most Important Thing To Me Then: Spending time with family
My Family: Husband of 20 years, Phillip Watford; five-year-old son,Andon
My Priorities: My son is the number one priority in my life today.
When it comes to me, however, I enjoy pampering myself. What lady
doesn’t enjoy shopping for herself and her home?
My Work: Full-time employee at SPC Credit Union, where I’ve been
for over 20 years
What I Love About My Life: God blessed me with a healthy almost-
ten-pound baby boy on August 23, 2004.
My Goal: To make as many wonderful memories for my son as I can.
My parents made sure I had lots of special memories growing up, and I
want – and will – do the same for my son.
My High School Experiences That Influence Me Today: To always
do my best and never take things for granted
The One Thing I Would Change About My High School Years:
In high school, all I worried about was going out with friends instead of wor-
rying about my future. Like the song goes,“If I could turn back time . . .”
Wisdom I Had Then That I Could Use Now: I wish that I loved to
save my money like I did when I was in high school.
Wisdom I Have Now That I Could Have Used Then: I know now
that I should have taken my studies more seriously.
Most Important Thing To Me Now: My family is still the most
important thing to me. However, now, it’s more important that I spend
as much time as I can with them and to enjoy every moment we share.
In addtion to Wendy’s husand and son, she has two sisters, Nancy Huggins and
Rachel Wint. Her wonderful mom is Libby Lee. And last, but definitely not least,
is her wonderful dad and her hero, Charles Lee, who lost his battle with ALS on
December 6, 2006.
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Important Factors When a Child Is Trying to Fit In
by J. Marshall Dent, III, MD
As our world becomes more and more over-
weight, we are now seeing obesity becoming more
prevalent at a younger age. Many of you are parents of
children that are overweight. We are looking at a gen-
eration where the life expectancy is less than the gener-
ation at hand. This has never been the case before and is a
staggering statistic. As parents, what are we to do? With
children spending more time in front of the television, com-
puter and playing video games and less time with physical
activity, it’s only a matter of time before we start seeing
heart disease in children before the age of twenty!
Not only are the health consequences great,
but even more is the loss of self-esteem associated with
obesity in children at a time when they are so desper-
ately trying to fit in. I thought a good topic would be to give
a list of “dos” and “don’ts” for parents with heavier children.
• Love and accept your children unconditionally. This
will help them to love and accept themselves.
• Treat size and weight as characteristics that contribute
to their uniqueness. Diversity is what makes the world
• Educate yourself about what causes some people to
be larger than others so that you can separate fact from
myths. Explain that body size is an inherited characteristic
as much as height is.
• Emphasize your children’s positive attributes and tal-
ents. Help them to develop the things they are good at.
• Make an effort to find clothes similar to what his/her
friends wear. At a young age, it’s important to blend in.
• Arm your child with ways to deal with the outside
world and our culture’s obsession with thinness. Help
her/him to have a plan to react to negative comments.
Do some role playing.
• Make the home and family a safe haven for your over-
weight child. Make it a place where she/he can always
count on your support and love.
• Be a good role model; don’t criticize your own body.
In particular, how a mother feels about her own body
has a significant impact on her daughter’s body image.
• Help your larger child to unravel the “thin is in” media
hype. Less than 1% of the population has the genetic
potential to look like a fashion model. Attractive people
come in many sizes and shapes. Attractiveness is not
always an external appearance; a good personality, being
witty and smart is oftentimes listed higher than physical
appearance for many of the opposite sex.
• Be encouraging when you notice that your child is losing
weight or exercising. Resist the temptation to provide
a positive reward, however, because this only encour-
ages the loss for a short term and is rarely maintained.
• Never ever imply that your child’s weight makes
him/her less attractive or less acceptable in any way.This
can cause lifelong damage and lead to eating disorders.
• Don’t give compliments such as, “You have such a
pretty face. If you would only lose some weight.”
• Don’t tell your child that no one will date her/him
unless she is thin. Instead, reiterate to your child that
lasting relationships look beyond the surface.
• Don’t put your child on a traditional “diet.” Focus on
developing healthy lifestyles – for the whole family. Have
meals at home with the family. This builds bonding and
eliminates many of the excessive calories we typically
eat in restaurants.
• Don’t become the “food police.” This activity will
surely backfire. Children can always find ways to
get forbidden foods, and this may encourage eating
disorders, as well.
A final piece of advice is this: despite your best
efforts, your child may never be thin; therefore, teach
her/him that a rich and rewarding life has nothing to do
with their weight and everything to do with their own
attitude and self-esteem.
As a Bariatric Physician, I am in a unique posi-
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disorders and the treatment of disorders that lead to
obesity. Lifestyle changes must start with the parents.
With that being said, oftentimes, there is a “trickle
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the steps necessary to start losing weight.
As with anything, there is no “quick fix,” and it
takes a concerted effort from parents, siblings and oth-
ers close to the family to make a positive impact on the
self-esteem of a child. Only then can we start to see real
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OUR SKIN MAY BE A BIT LIKE OUR CHILDREN. If you’re good to them, then they will
be good to you. As with children, nature and nurture contribute to the appearance and well-being of our skin. In
either case, however, the effect of treatment – or mistreatment – may present itself only after a prolonged period
of time. I’m not going to presume to offer any suggestions on how to avoid creating a juvenile delinquent; but, I
will throw out a few ideas on smart skin care – particularly as it relates to our diet.
The skin is our largest organ, providing a protective barrier from our environment. It is exposed
to numerous sources of trauma every day of our lives, but it is uniquely designed to withstand a constant
process of damage and repair. Unfortunately, we are not blessed with the ability to shed our old skin
each season and slither away like a snake. (I suspect, however, there is little else to envy about a crea-
ture whose mobility requires an aptitude for crawling on its belly.)
Genetics affect skin color, ability to tan or burn and one’s predilection for cutaneous malig-
nancies. It’s no secret that chronic exposure to ultraviolet light (sun exposure) changes the skin’s
texture, causing wrinkling and age spots. Suffice it to say that tanning to improve one’s appearance is
Rather than preach on the obvious benefits of sun protection, I would like to provide some
less-obvious information that links nutrition to healthy skin. Basically, a diet optimal for an overall healthy body
should be optional for skin health, as well. It stands to reason that a healthy diet slows down physiological mechanisms of
aging in all tissues – and that includes the skin. Some aspects of a healthy diet, however, are more likely than oth-
ers to give a boost of glowing good health to your complexion. Let’s explore.
We know that fruits and vegetables are good for us, but do they really have a direct effect on the skin?
The answer is, “Absolutely!” They contain a wide variety of antioxidants, especially in the pigments responsible
for their color. These antioxidants help protect skin cells from damage by free radicals that are triggered in the
skin due to environmental and sun exposure. It’s best to favor fresh and uncooked (or minimally cooked) fruits
and veggies since heat inactivates most antioxidants. Some fruits and vegetables are richer in antioxidants
than others. These include artichokes, beans (black, red and pinto) and prunes.
What else should be on our plate? Well, how about salmon, walnuts, pecans, canola oil and
flax seed? These may seem a bit random and unrelated, but they provide essential fatty acids
which are responsible for healthy cell membranes. Cell membranes provide barriers to harm-
ful things and are the passageway for nutrients to enter and waste products to exit our cells.
Because the cell membrane is what holds water in, the stronger that barrier is, the better your
cells can hold moisture. That means plumper, younger-looking skin. In addition, essential fatty
acids help reduce the inflammatory process, which can harm skin cells. Look for foods that
contain Omega 3 fatty acids such as those just mentioned. Green tea is another food item
that is anti-inflammatory and protects the cell membrane. Whether taken orally or applied to
the skin, it can reduce the risk of damage from ultraviolet light (sun exposure).
The skin is also protected when we consume whole wheat bread, muffins, cereals, turkey,
tuna and Brazil nuts. These all contain selenium, which plays a key role in the health of skin cells. Even
skin damaged by the sun may suffer fewer consequences if selenium levels are up because it reduces
oxidative damage that contributes to the development of skin cancers.
It’s always a good idea to include healthy oils with our foods. Not only do they contain essential
fatty acids, they also help to keep the skin lubricated, making it look and feel healthier. The best oils are ones
that have not been commercially processed. Look for oils that are labeled “cold pressed,” “expeller
processed” or “extra virgin.” That way, you’ll get all the nutrients that are not only good for your skin but
good for your body, as well.
No one can dispute the role that good hydration plays in keeping skin looking healthy. Well-
moisturized skin is less prone to the development of wrinkles. Drinking plenty of fluids throughout the
day ensures proper hydration of the body and helps reduce skin dryness. Water helps cells move
nutrients in and toxins out. Experts recommend drinking six to eight glasses (at least half a gallon)
of water a day. Coffee and sodas are not a good substitute because they contain caffeine, which
is a diuretic. Water is cheap, convenient and healthy. You can’t beat that!
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SO, THE THEME OF THIS MONTH’S SHE IS “WISE WOMEN,” HUH? I don’t know that I
would ever consider myself as a “wise woman.” In fact, the majority of the time, I feel as though I’m floundering. I
have trouble making even the simplest of decisions now; and, for the life of me, I cannot figure out why that may be.
When I was a little girl, I always felt smart. I scored really high on an IQ test and absolutely loved to read.
Consequently, I had an extensive vocabulary and was able to carry on conversations with adults, which always
seemed to impress them. I studied hard in school because it was something I actually enjoyed doing
and for which I was praised. I felt a certain pleasure when other children were compared
to me and were encouraged to be more like me.
Outside the classroom, though, I never felt as smart. Other girls seemed to
be aware of some unwritten rules that I never received. They knew how to be
giggly and girly. They had slumber parties. They loved to have pretty clothes,
and they had that knack for putting together fashionable outfits. I admired
them. I was jealous of them. I wanted to be like them. I just didn’t get it.
When my family moved to South Carolina the summer before ninth
grade, I “got smart” and decided to try something different. I would
start over. No one knew who I was, so I could be anyone that I
wanted to be. I began to pore over fashion magazines and to
imitate new styles of dress and makeup. I recalled the girls that
I had admired as a young girl and tried to mimic their flirtiness
and carefree attitudes. I became someone new. I even
began to do less well in school because I thought that guys
didn’t like smart girls. How smart is that? Not very. Sadly, few
people who knew me then know the real me.
A smart decision I made was to go to the college I chose. I made
such good, life-long friends. I learned so much. I chose an all-girls school so
that I could focus on my learning and not be distracted by having guys in class with me. I had a won-
derful college experience and made more smart decisions.
The toughest decision, however, was choosing to study for a semester in France. It was
hard for me to leave everything and everyone that I knew and loved so that I could delve into
this new experience. But I felt as though it was something that I desperately needed to do.
You see, I had done such a good job of pretending to be someone else for so long that even
I didn’t know the “real” me anymore. And that was sad. Being alone for all those months
in France forced me to come to grips with who I am as a person.
So, I found myself again. I graduated, found a job and got married. I felt like I knew me
again. I was a wife and a teacher. I had an identity again. Knowing myself made me feel
smart – or wise - again.
Then, I had a baby. And I found out that I am the least wise person in the world.
Ask any mother and I believe she will tell you that of all the things she knows, she
knows the least about being a mother. But, hopefully, we have learned by this time
how we gain knowledge and become wise. I consulted more mature, wiser women
– women who had been mothers and knew what a particular cry meant.
And, that, Ladies (and Gentlemen who secretly read She and won’t
admit it), is the secret of true wisdom. Wisdom is knowing enough to know
that you don’t know it all. Wisdom is the ability to admit that you don’t
know it all. Wisdom is the courage to ask for help and advice when
you need it.
Most importantly, though, we should never forget that
the source of all wisdom is God. He is the One Who grants
us wisdom and knowledge. All we have to do is ask for it.
– or WISE
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Eight-year-old Kylie Shea Davis has always been very dramatic and full of
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could talk, Kylie was dressing up and climbing up on stools and singing into hair-
brushes or whatever else she could pretend to be a microphone. Then, she would
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She made All-Stars this year for the first time in softball, and she was very excited.
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Kylie’s friends are extremely important to her. She loves to help others and
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Kylie is the daughter of Ashley Carnahan of Scranton. She has a little sister, Maddie
Grace, and a little brother, Carson. This month’s “Wee She” was nominated by Kylie’s
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In my experiences over the years, I have found that a few men
have – and use – the gift of intuition. However, there are very few of
them that know and understand what intuition is. Most men are male
thinkers and use facts and logic to analyze their data. They draw their
conclusions based on what is in their face, so to speak.
Webster describes intuition as the immediate knowing of some-
thing without the conscious use of reasoning. You sense – or just know
– when something is not right. Sometimes, it is also referred to as “gut
feelings.” Intuition is a God-given tool or gauge to measure physical,
emotional, spiritual and relational situations that are potentially danger-
ous. I believe that when you are aware of this gift, then you can fine tune
it and become even more adept at using it for your good and well-being
and for helping other people. Women are not usually as physically strong
as men are, so having intuition – and understanding how to use it – can
be an invaluable tool.
I know women who have walked into situations where they felt
uncomfortable and maybe even became aware or sensed danger and got
out of that situation immediately. Later, they found out that they proba-
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There have been women who became involved in relationships
that just did not seem right, yet they ignored their intuition and got blast-
ed emotionally. If it doesn’t seem right, maybe you
should get out. Or at least investigate the facts.
You can choose to ignore intuition,
or you can learn to use it for your advantage.
Learn to use wisdom when making decisions
based on intuition. The best approach, when
possible, would be to get the facts and then go
with your gut. However, be smart about what you
do and say. Speak out and declare, “My intuition is
telling me thus and so.” Don’t just say,“I feel . . .” or
“My gut says . . .” Explain yourself more thorough-
ly and make yourself credible sounding.
Another example of intuition would be the mother who was leaving
her young infant at a new daycare center. She didn’t feel comfortable but
thought she was just being silly. She left the child anyway and had marked the
diaper to check and see if they changed the child during the day. The child had
on the same diaper she had put on that morning when she picked up the child
that afternoon. Needless to say, the child never went back to that daycare,
and the mom started listening to her intuitions.
People that are spiritually minded are aware of a gift called dis-
cernment, which is very similar to intuition. Discernment is a gift of the
Holy Spirit and is an awareness that the Holy Spirit gives of a particular
situation being safe or not safe, good or bad and peaceful or conflictual.
(This is a broad generalization; but, hopefully, you get the idea.) The Bible
tells us in Matthew 10:16,“Therefore, be as shrewd as snakes and as inno-
cent as doves.”
So, begin to listen to that inner voice
and focus on what it tells you. When you learn how
it communicates, take note to see if what your intuition or discernment
tells you turns out to be correct. Get used to its sound or feeling. Trust
it, learn from it and use it with wisdom.
Remember that this is not spooky or new age; it is a gift of the
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Wow, this question reminds me of just how a mother’s work is never
done. Unfortunately, it also brings to mind two unsettling facts: One, teenage
girls can be very mean; and, two, high school is just a rough time in general.
Why is it rough? Everyone – and I do mean everyone (even the girls
and boys in the cliques) – is just doing anything they can to fit in. You may
remember in high school feeling alternatively pretty good about yourself and
wondering if you were, in fact, the most detestable person on campus. As an
adult, you are (hopefully) way past this type of conflict in your life, but it is a
very real conundrum for your daughters.
Yes, both of your daughters; but, it seems one of them is coping well,
while the other is struggling. It is important, however, to remind yourself that
they are both going through the same developmental challenge – identity. The
developmental task of life at your daughters’ ages is resolving “identity” ver-
sus “role confusion.” Who am I? How do I become myself, who I am sup-
posed to be? What is my life going to be about? How do I learn to be myself
and to be accepted for who I am? Accomplishing this task, gaining a sense of
self – and of self-worth – is of monumental importance. In later life, this will
serve your daughters well as a women.
Life is funny, though, because we have to satisfy this self-mystery dur-
ing a very uncertain time in life – or so it seems. Actually, the opposite is true.
It is an uncertainty precisely because the dilemma hasn’t been resolved. The
stronger we get in our sense of self, the less uncertain our life becomes. It
still may not be easy, but at least we can tackle the challenges with confidence
when we have adequate self-assurance.
The essential key is that your struggling daughter must develop
enough self-assurance to be able to have an internal sense of what is good and
right for her. She will draw upon your family’s morals and the values of your
family’s spiritual faith, but she also has to find her place of comfort in implementing
these in her life. Then, she can be herself – even her developing self – and be
able to talk and interact with people comfortably.
We are all drawn to people with a quiet sense of self-assurance (not
arrogance or conceit); thus, that change will go a long way in helping solve her
social interaction struggles. To do this, however, at this stage in the game, she
will probably need some psychotherapeutic support. Simply put, with only
two years of high school left, the stakes are too high to continue to try to
work things out on her own. Your daughter needs a strong resolution to these
problem areas so she’ll be sufficiently self-confident and secure to be able to
handle the next level of challenges (e.g., the next developmental phase is “inti-
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lenges she’ll face at college. With a sufficient sense of self (i.e., identity), the
challenges of intimacy is frequently misunderstood as being simply sexual.
Thus, at college, away from parental restraints, physical involvement is found
to bring a form of intimacy, but it also robs the person of learning how to
gain true emotional intimacy. Obviously, that error leads to a whole new
set of even more devastating problems.
There are obvious things that can be addressed in psychotherapy. Is
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With school soon starting back, my question
is about my children.
Dear Dr. Avie,
Much of last year was filled with stress and drama for my two girls, who
are very close in age. One is “Miss Popular” and had a wonderful year, while the other just never seems to fit in. Her school has a
lot of cliques and, no matter how she tries, she never feels like she is wanted in any of the groups of girls. When she does find her
way in, heartache soon follows because she seems to always wind up being the brunt of a joke. She is smart and has so much going
for her; I just don’t know how to help.
My question: Should I encourage her to try to fit into a clique, or should I suggest she avoid them and find her way outside of
them? She will be a junior this year, and I want her to enjoy high school while she has a chance.
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not quite sure how to define Tammy Pawloski. I’m not quite sure that I
want to try. Putting her in a box would be much too confining. To me, she is a
Professor of Education at one of the finest institutions in our state. I can proudly say
that because she works in the Department of Education at my alma mater, Francis
Marion University (albeit it was merely a college in the early years when I was a bright-
eyed student of business). I’m not exactly sure how or why she ended up teaching on
the campus at FMU, as she has taught in higher education in two different states.
Nevertheless, it seems to fit. Our University had as its goals to form a college in the
heart of the Pee Dee where students who could not attain higher education would
have a greater chance to make a dream come true.
This is also the heart of Tammy’s passion. Somewhere in her early years, she
gained an uncommon insight into the plight of children who, because of life in rural
areas and the poverty that seemed to be a part of that life, were not pursuing educa-
tion as a viable need. I recently heard a quote that “much of life is a reaction to cir-
cumstance,” and this tends to perhaps put a definition to what Tammy does. She had
a tremendous example in her parents, both of whom worked in the education system.
Therefore, she was exposed to areas of poverty and the obscurities that surround a
child, especially concerning education.
Her father was a High School Principal in a rural, impoverished area and
believed that “teachers and schools should take care of every child and every family,
along with their work in the classroom.” He worked closely beside his wife, and
Tammy’s mother, to engage families, school staff and the community in service learning
projects long before they became known as such. Thus was born Tammy’s passion.
Much of what she has done today, in every arena, focuses on parent partnerships, early
childhood curriculum and language development in students.
I met Tammy when I started work at The Center for the Child at FMU when
it opened its doors in 2008. I didn’t know much about her work and activities other
than she had an office in the adjacent wing, and she taught some of the education classes
in our building. I often saw her walking the halls before and after class with the students,
and I was attracted to her smile and energy. While her work and qualities were
admirable, this was only the icing on the cake.
Tammy is one of those people that works what she loves and feels. I’ve got-
ten to know some of her students, as I work with them in my position at the college,
and they all will tell you that teaching children of poverty is who she is. They joke that
they may not know how to teach anything else, but they will definitely know how to
do that. It speaks volumes of a person’s character when they don’t really have to tell
you who they are; you just see it in what they do.
Tammy began her career in the same impoverished areas as her childhood.
She followed her parents’ examples and worked hard to create connections with fam-
ilies in poverty, helping them to see that education is a viable life skill and a possible
solution to the problems they faced. She has come a long way since then; she now
holds a Doctor of Philosophy in Elementary Education. But her goals and methods
have not changed.
Tammy served on the Planning Committee for the original grant that began
the Center for Excellence to prepare Teachers of Children of Poverty. As I type this,
my eyes fill with tears, and I get a lump in my throat for people who have such passion
and concern. Had it not been for teachers, educators and parents who cared when my
son and I learned of his hearing disability years ago, I don’t know where we would have
turned. And because of my experiences, I know firsthand how vital it is that someone
with the knowledge and insight comes along to tell us what can be done. It can be the
difference between independence and solitude, wellbeing and welfare, esteem and disrespect.
Tammy now serves as Director of the Center of Excellence, and she has over
thirty years of experience as a teacher on all levels. She offers herself to do presenta-
tions and workshops, as well as giving speeches on different subjects involving curricu-
lum choice and the effects of poverty. She has also authored numerous articles and
papers. All these avenues have offered insight into the work of the Center, and she feels
they have confirmed its value in providing more effective services for children of poverty.
Every year, the Center extends its research toward this end.
In 2009, she served as a Member of the Florence District One School
Foundation Board and was reappointed for 2010. As if her professional contributions
were not enough, she remains active in the life of her son, who she says might suggest
that her most important contribution has been her service as a room parent during
his years in elementary school. (A room parent is one who volunteers or supports the
regular teacher in a classroom.) Together,Tammy and her son now volunteer their time
at the Florence Area Humane Society and have led food drives in support of the House
of Hope and Kids’ Café in Florence.
Tammy is grateful to have had the opportunity to engage and participate in a
wealth of experiences. And she is thankful for supportive colleagues with whom she
has been able to collaborate on many of these accomplishments. Every person and
every venture has greatly influenced her service interests and activities.
As she was awarded the 2010 Faculty Award for Outstanding Service at FMU,
I think we can expect that she will continue down a path of concern and passion to
reach and teach all children and in teaching others to reach out and give of what they
know and have.
Thanks,Tammy, for all you do and for being one of our deserved Sheroes of 2010!
Paige Self Thomas lives in Florence with her husband, Joey, and two Sheltie pups. She has three grown sons and four stepchildren. She works part-time as
Business Administrator for the Francis Marion University Center for the Child, and she is currently licensed as a Realtor with Prudential Segars Realty in Florence.
by Paige Self Thomas
No Child Left...
Dr. Tammy Pawloski
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I heard a definition of wisdom once that I love: Wisdom is the ability to man-
age life and to make good decisions.
In today’s culture, it’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that you can’t have
a full and complete life if you’re single. Most of our popular movies, television programs,
literature and advertising images are centered around the idea that you need to find that one
special someone who will save you from your life, complete you (thanks, Jerry Maguire) and
set you on the path towards happily-ever-after. And, by the way, lots of products are
available for purchase to help you find that “special someone” faster.
If you’re single now, it’s a possibility that you will remain single. However,
between the high divorce rate (51% on first marriages) and the biological fact that
women outlive men by an average of seven years, it’s highly probable that many married
women will become single again.
Either way, you want to have a happy life. Everybody wants to feel secure, have
peace and be happy. If you’re hoping to “find someone,” I promise that men are very
attracted to women who have their lives in order and who can live independently and
confidently. Plus, if you already have a great life, you won’t desperately settle for a man
who ends up not being such a great guy.
So, here are some words of wisdom to help my single girls as you make your
way in the world. (Okay, I know you guys are reading this. You’ll enjoy it, too.)
Tip #1: Friends are not forever. I used to say,“Men come and go, but your
friends are forever.” Most of us have experienced the “breakup” of a friendship with a
girl pal, and I think it’s worse than the end of any romantic relationship. People grow
and change. We mature in our opinions and attitudes. We have new life experiences
and our priorities change. If you have one friend that you remain in a relationship with
for your entire life, you are in the minority.
Some of the friendships that were really important to me a few years ago are
not so healthy for me now. I used to believe that friendships had to last a lifetime, but
now I view them as I would an article of clothing – I probably don’t need to hang on to
it forever. One of you may outgrow the relationship. Maybe it will be you; maybe it will
be your friend. Relationships go through seasons. Sometimes you’re close as can be;
other times you drift away.
One way to have healthy friendships is to diversify – have several friendships.
My “best friend” in Florence has been my BFF for about eight years now. When she
started having children, I was afraid that she would leave me behind and want friends
who were moms. She was afraid I wouldn’t want to be her friend because she’d be a
“boring mom” (her words, not mine). Over the years, our relationship has changed.
No, we don’t go out for “girl’s night” very often. We opt for lunch, instead. Sometimes,
I get tired of hearing stories about her children, and sometimes she wishes I would offer
to babysit. We’ve had to adapt to our new life circumstances, but she still holds the
“best friend” title. We’ve just grown into a different kind of friendship.
Because my bestie isn’t as available now that she has children, I’ve added in
some additional friends. But no one person is going to be a perfect fit for every area
of your life. Stop looking for the “perfect friend” who you can do everything with.
Expand your collection. I go to the movies with Kristin (but her favorite genre is hor-
ror – which horrifies me – so she always has to ask another friend to go to those). I
attend the symphony with Katie. I watch sports with Terri. I talk about spirituality with
Nancy. I eat sushi with Julia. I shop with Shawna. Find a different friend for the differ-
ent aspects of your life.
Diversifying in this way will also protect you when you have problems in a
friendship. When one of my friends is busy with work or a new boyfriend, I don’t feel
lonely. I just call another girl. And if a friendship is fading, let it go. Maybe it’ll
come back, or maybe it’s time for it to fade away. Don’t be afraid to let go. You’ll
find new friends.
The best way to find friends? I was told, “If you want a friend, be a friend.”
There are a lot of lonely people in the world. Reach out and be a friend.
Tip #2: Get your financial house in order. I could fill up this entire mag-
azine with advice on managing your finances, but let me sum up the basics with this: Live
beneath your means. This means you spend less than you make. Period. Once you’re
doing that, you have the cash to pay off your debts (critically important) and to save.
You must invest in your retirement and plan for your future. Don’t know how
to do that? Start reading. I love the money section on the msn.com website; it’s easy
to understand. Pick up a book on the subject at the library or bookstore. I recom-
mend any of the Rich Dad, Poor Dad books by Robert T. Kiyosaki or The Millionaire
Next Door by Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko. Go see a Certified Financial
Planner or Certified Financial Analyst for some face-to-face guidance.
Don’t wait around hoping a man will save you financially. You may remain sin-
gle, or your Prince Charming may not have the financial resources you wanted. Be finan-
cially healthy regardless of your marital status.
Tip #3: Take care of yourself. It’s easy to start thinking there’s something
wrong with you when you feel like a single in a world of couples. Almost every single
man and woman I know has felt (in the past or currently) that there is something wrong
with him or her.
Now, if there is something “wrong” with you, work on “fixing” it. Do the best
you can with what you have. If you’re a single woman looking for a man, you need to
know that appearance matters because men are visually stimulated. You don’t have to
be a supermodel, but spruce up a little bit. Is your hairstyle flattering? Is your makeup
attractive and age-appropriate? Do you look and feel
confident in your clothes? Do you look friendly and
You also need to take care of yourself
beyond the physical. Finding a mate isn’t going to
change who you are. If you’re not happy now, you
won’t be happy with the guy of your dreams. As
I’ve said many times before, your dream guy
probably won’t be attracted to you in a
depressed state. Men like happy women.
Do whatever you need to do to
have a happy, joyful life – right now!
That’s the best way to attract love. And
even if you don’t meet Mr. Right, you’ll
feel better! Eat right, exercise, put your
home in order, clean out your car, find a
therapist, volunteer, adopt a pet or take
up meditation. Just get involved in some-
thing healthy and positive. This will help
you be happy whether or not you end
up as part of a couple.
Definitely, you must stop play-
ing the “there’s something wrong with
me” tape in your head. Change what you
think needs changing, and then just accept
yourself for who you are.
If you need a romantic rela-
tionship to validate that you are okay,
you will never experience peace and
security because that person will con-
stantly have to reassure you. And most
people get weary of that kind of insecu-
rity. They leave, and you are devastated.
Don’t put your happiness,
peace and joy on hold until Prince
Charming shows up. Live now! And even
if he is delayed for a while, you won’t
notice because you’ll be loving life.
by Mary R. Dittman, MBA
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ack to school is looking a little bit different around our house this
year. In the past, it has involved that dreaded school-supply shopping trip. Well,
maybe “dreaded” is the wrong word. I once loved that shopping trip. You know,
back in the good ol’ days when all we had was a 3K shopping list in front of us.
It was fun watching my son decide which folder would perfectly represent
him. And I have never seen a person deliberate for such a long period over
which Band-Aids he should bring to school – Nascar or Nemo. In the end,
Nascar won out. That was three years ago.
I also remember that back to school meant that I (Mama Bear)
would spend many hours stressing over who my child would get for a
teacher. Would she be new to this whole teaching thing? Or would she
be an experienced person who has been teaching children to read for
twenty years? Which would be better for my son? Would I feel com-
fortable leaving my precious baby in this person’s care for more
hours in a day than I had ever been apart from him? I just wasn’t
sure. And, trust me, those questions kept me up at night pray-
ing. It turns out that, yes, my son did get the perfect teacher
for him. She taught him amazing things and loved him like crazy.
But, boy, did I worry that first year!
And, then, of course, there was the search for the first-
day-of-school outfit. If you are a mother to a boy, you understand
that all those cute new clothes you bought him last spring are
now covered in stains of grass, dirt, ketchup and who knows
what else. You can’t send him to school looking like that!
At least not the first week. You save those dirty duds for
week two. On that first day, he must look extra sweet and
lovable. So, off you go to search for the perfect shirt that
he deems “boy” enough and you deem “cute” enough. For my
sweet three-year-old boy, that shirt had a front loader on it. He
loved it! And I loved the way he smiled when he wore it. And he did look pretty lovable!
But, this year, things are different. I’m not scouring the aisles of Target and Walmart for pen-
cils, folders and ruled paper. Instead, I’m scouring the Internet because the math curriculum that I
thought would be perfect for my little man turned out to be not so perfect, and I need a new one
– fast! I haven’t given the first thought as to what he will wear on the first day of school. And I do
have concerns about his teacher this year, but I’m not a bit curious about who she will be.
Remember a few months ago when I told you that I would be homeschooling my son this
year? Well, the time has come. We are knee-deep in school books, maps, chalkboards and big – huge
– binders full of information that I am responsible for teaching him. Sometimes, I look at my dining
room table that has been littered with papers and books for weeks and I want to cry because I’m
not sure I will get it together. But then my son will do something sweet like bring me a book about
dinosaurs and the Bible and I remember that this boy will be all mine next year. I get to teach him
about The Great Dinosaur Mystery and the Bible (fabulous book, by the way!) and what an
“onomatopoeia” is. And that’s just in the first week! (I’m not going to lie to you; I had to remind
myself of what an onomatopoeia is – which is, by the way, the naming of a thing or action by a vocal
imitation of the sound associated with it, as buzz, hiss.)
So, this year for back to school, I’m actually going back to school – to first grade, to be exact.
And I can’t wait!
by Aron Cannon Smith
Aron Cannon Smith and her husband, Collin, live in Florence.
They have a son, Makgill (6) and a daughter, Clara Beth (3).
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“Get plenty of fresh air and sunshine!” Where have we
heard that before? Sunshine, or more specifically, sunlight’s UV-B
radiation, creates vitamin D within our skin, which helps our bodies
build strong bones, muscles, and immune system and may help
protect us from certain cancers, cardiovascular disease and falls as
we age. Good news, except studies show that the number of
vitamin D deprived Caucasian Americans has almost doubled in the
last fifteen years. Only ten percent of African
American and Latino Americans are vitamin D
sufficient. Sunscreens, whether they are the
pigment in our skin or lotion from a bottle,
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oil, calcium and vitamin D supplements are used in its treatment. In
our older population, scientists believe adequate vitamin D levels
may reduce risk of falls and fractures by strengthening muscles,
stabilizing gait, and maintaining bone density. Vitamin D appears to
protect our cardiovascular system, as studies show that illness from
peripheral artery disease, heart failure, and coronary artery disease
increase as our vitamin D levels decrease. Evidence suggests a
vitamin D role in the metabolic syndrome of insulin resistance,
hypertension, and obesity. The role of vitamin D in cancer research
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MY TOWN: Florence, SC
MY SCHOOL: South Florence High School
MY ACCOMPLISHMENTS: I’ve had interviews and auditions
with leading producers and casting directors, and I won First
Place in the “Model of The South” photography competition. I
was a finalist in the Roxy Swimwear Shoot for the 2011 advertis-
ing campaign. I was a lead in the television show, Mystery
Diagnosis, which will air the new season in September on
Discovery Health. And, I’m on the Varsity Soccer Team.
MY DREAMS FOR THE FUTURE: To go to college and have
a career in modeling and acting
MY FAVORITE SONG: “Heaven” by Jason Aldean
MY FAVORITE MOVIE: Forrest Gump
IF I COULD MEET ANYONE, IT WOULD BE . . .
IF I COULD GO ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD, I
WOULD GO TO . . . the Great Barrier Reef in Australia.
ONE WORD THAT DESCRIBES ME AND MY
WORDS THAT INSPIRE ME: “Be strong and courageous. Do
not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord, your God, goes
with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you” (Deuteronomy 31:6)
– and – “Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.” ~ Will Rogers
WHAT MAKES ME LAUGH: My friends and family
THE COOLEST PERSON I KNOW IS . . . my mom; she
teaches me a lot and is the biggest support system I have. We
always have fun together.
“As a rising junior,
I’m looking forward
to the school year
because I know it’s
not the end of high
school, but I’m
almost there. I’m
looking forward to
being with my
friends again, too.”
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Your familyneeds care.
We’re readytoprovide it.
Jon H. Docherty, Sr., M.D.
Pee Dee Internal Medicine
Medical Mall C, Suite 100
1594 Freedom Boulevard
Badri Giri, M.D.
Pee Dee Internal Medicine
Medical Mall C, Suite 100
1594 Freedom Boulevard
Raina Karanjeet, M.D.
Pee Dee Internal Medicine
Medical Mall C, Suite 100
1594 Freedom Boulevard
Krista M. Kozacki, M.D.
Carolinas Family Physicians
Medical Mall B, Suite 230
805 Pamplico Highway
Traesa Brown, M.D.
Carolinas Family Physicians
Medical Mall B, Suite 230
805 Pamplico Highway
Ezra Ash, M.D.
Pee Dee Family Physicians
Medical Mall C, Suite 202
1594 Freedom Boulevard
Eduardo Donato, Jr., M.D.
Carolinas Medical Practice
Medical Mall C, Suite 102
1594 Freedom Boulevard
All the technology. All the heart. All the time.
Members of the Medical Staff at Carolinas Hospital System
805 Pamplico Highway • Florence, SC • (843) 674-5000 • www.carolinashospital.com
At Carolinas Hospital System, we’re committed to providing primary physician care to our community.
While new patients are being turned away at some practices, we’re expanding access to primary care – with
seven dedicated physicians ready to meet your family’s healthcare needs. Easy access to experienced
physicians: it’s just one more way we’re making the Carolinas difference.
To schedule an appointment with one of our physicians, simply call one of the ofﬁce numbers listed below.
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