QSW: Quotes, Summary, Wonderings

Stage 1 : Empathize

This form will help you shape your thoughts and research as you dig
into your chosen topic. Remember that this is more than simple
research! You are working towards gaining empathy, so select sources
that help you truly understand your topic on a deeper level.

For EACH SOURCE complete the following: First, list the article title
and copy/paste the link to the article. Then, copy/paste at least 3-5
powerful or informative quotes (depending on article length) that help
guide your understanding of your topic. Next, summarize the article
you just read in YOUR OWN WORDS (about 1-2 paragraphs depending on
article length). Finally, write down a wondering. A wondering is
something this article made you more curious about, a hole or a gap
that hasnt been answered, or a question that you have after reading
the article that will help guide you moving forward with your
research.

Article Title: Behind the Veil: Inside the Mind of Men That Abuse

Link:

Quotes: Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women, sending

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article length)**
over 1 million every year to doctors offices or emergency rooms.
Domestic violence is when a partner physically, verbally, emotionally,
and sexually abuses their intimate partner by exerting power and control
over them.
Domestic violence occurs in all cultures, races, religions, classes and
same sex relationships.
Every 12 seconds a woman is abused by her intimate partner in the
U.S.
37% of pregnant women are battered during pregnancy, including
blows to the abdomen.
Most of these men have a personality that draws people in because of
their level of charm. This is part of their art to deceive and manipulate.
This is why often times when a victim does report an assault she is not
easily believed because people usually say not him, he is so nice you
are so lucky. All of this plays into his because if he gets people outside
of the home to buy into his deceit the victim has little if no support.
 Most batterers are seen as Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde because of the
stark contrast in their public and private selves.

Summary: There is a cycle with three recurring stages in an abusive relationship:

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Phase 1 is Tension Building (tension from abuser and usually an
length)** argument), phase 2 is Explosion (the abuser assaults the victim), and
phase 3 is called the Honeymoon Phase (the abuser apologizes and
attempts to make it up with gifts or promises that it wont happen again).
The Five Types of Abuse: 1. Emotional (killing pet, playing mind
games), 2. Verbal (calling names), 3. Technological (GPS
system/Facebook sabotage), 4. Sexual (forcing sex while the victim is
asleep or based on the bible), 5. Physical (killing, punching, choking).
Some of these behaviors can be seen in an abusive partner before the
assaults begin are jealousy, controlling behavior, isolation, forcing sex,
and holding rigid gender roles.
Abusers are often diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder,
borderline personality disorder, or narcissistic personality disorder.
Many batterers use their diagnosis as an excuse for their behavior.
Abusers can change their behavior and learn to have healthy
relationships with intimate partners, but they must make the change
themselves. Seeking psychological treatment is a good step towards
improvement.

Wondering: Im wondering what a partner is thinking during the first displays of

abusive behavior, before any explosions. Do they stay with them
because they are already afraid that the abuser may take violent actions?
Do they stay because they think it was a one-time thing or they trust the
partner to change? I think I would break up with the person if they did
something so horrible as kill my pet or try to control me, but so many
people dont. Would my case really be different from theirs?
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Article Title:

Link: http://scholarworks.sjsu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?arti
cle=1016&context=themi

Quotes: The gender symmetry theory of domestic violence, however, states that
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women are just as likely as men to be violent (Robertson & Murachver,
2007).
Some of the mental health problems that can occur from domestic
violence include depression, alcohol or substance abuse, anxiety,
personality disorders, posttraumatic stress disorder, sleeping and eating
disorders, social dysfunction, and suicide (Abbot & Williamson, 1999;
 Gerlock, 1999; Howard, Trevillion, & Agnew-Davies, 2010; McCaw et
al., 2007).
(On a study done on multiple sites in ten countries) In most sites, they
found that 30% to 60% of women had been the victims of domestic
abuse; the absolute range was from 15% to 71%, with physical and
sexual violence being the most common.
The Domestic Violence Resource Center estimates between 600,000
and six million women, and between 100,000 and six million men, were
victims of domestic violence in 2003.
Unfortunately, only a small percentage of abused men are willing to
speak out in fear of ridicule, social isolation, and humiliation (Barber,
2008). Therefore, because of the limited availability of information
pertaining to female-on-male domestic violence, the statistics are likely
underestimated.
(On a survey done on 1,000 gay/lesbian residents of Virginia, only 68 of
which were returned) They found that 56.1% of the participants had
experienced domestic violence in their lifetime; the most common forms
of violence were verbal abuse, physical abuse, and destruction of
property.
In fact, many same-sex domestic incidents do not get reported because
of the lack of societal support and for fear of being ridiculed by law
enforcement (Peterman & Dixon, 2003).
Fifty-eight percent of the women also identified themselves as
depressed, listing domestic violence as the cause.

Summary: Because it is typically not expected in this patriarchal society that

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women will be the perpetrators of domestic violence against their
length)** partners, it is commonly thought that men are usually not the victims,
causing male victims to not speak out in fear of ridicule or social
isolation. The statistics of male victims may be lower than the actual rate
due to this. The stereotype that women wont be batterers also creates the
misconception that abuse in lesbian relationships is uncommon, when
exactly the opposite is true. While the risks of domestic violence are just
as serious with homosexual and heterosexual women, studies show that
the most threatened group of people is homosexual men. Unfortunately,
even though society is growing more accepting of the LGBT community,
many cases of domestic violence in same sex relationships is not
reported for fear of being ridiculed by law enforcement and lack of
societal support.
Victims of domestic violence are more likely to smoke, so a study was
done in 2009 to see how common cervical cancer was in victims. They
concluded that women who have experienced domestic violence were
more likely to have contracted human papillomavirus, to use illegal
 drugs, and to smoke cigarettes, all of which are contributing factors to
cervical cancer.
Women with mental disorders are at a higher risk of being in an abusive
relationship. In a cycle, the abuse has negative impacts on their mental
health, which in turn makes them vulnerable to experience the abuse
again.

Wondering: Im wondering if gay men feel the same fear of humiliation from
speaking up about being abused. I understand that they have the fear of
being mocked by law enforcement for their sexual orientation, and I also
understand that they dont have the same embarrassment of letting a
woman beat them up, but I wonder if theres still that fear of being too
weak to fend off their partner. Does it threaten their masculinity?