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by Andrew Ferebee on July 18, 2013 in Health, Women

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For the rst time in human history the availability
of high speed internet access has brought with it unprecedented levels of porn and
masturbation use among young men today.
Generation Y is in danger.
Claims are made online that masturbation is healthy for you, but thats similar to
saying a glass of wine a day is healthy for the heartwhen you overdo it, things get
out of control. Men are not aware of the negative side eects of frequent porn and
masturbation, especially when combined, and as a result they do signicant
damage to their lives. The point is if you quit masturbating and porn use you will
see dramatic improvements in your physical and emotional well being.
Before we start digging in, understand that dopamine is a chemical in the brain (a
neurotransmitter, specically), that helps control the brains pleasure center. Then,
watch the TED Talk: The Great Porn Experiment:

The great porn experiment | Gary Wilson | TEDxGlasgow

If you start masturbating in your teens, when your dopamine levels are at their
peak, then by age 22 you can develop severe chemical imbalances. These
imbalances can lead to depression, severe social anxiety, and a lack of healthy
relationships. Unending novelty also increases arousal, which makes for unhealthy
attitudes in real lifeyou condition yourself to need new porn, new women and new
scenes.
That conditioning leads to a lack of satisfaction in real life, so youre always wanting
something other than what you have in your relationships. Studies show that if
masturbating men watch successive porn scenes with the same female, it takes
longer and longer to ejaculate. Dierent women and dierent scenes lead to faster
ejaculation, which is known as The Coolidge Eect.

Notice how you didnt stare at one female, but you quickly scanned all of them looking for the next
attractive woman.

Our brains arent designed to handle so much free and easy access to the women
we desire, but now we have it all at the click of a mouse. Each of us has the ability
to view (and, to an extent, experience) more women than any man could experience
in his entire life 100 or 1,000 years ago. Your brain was never designed to handle
this much intense pleasure in such a short amount of time.
This causes dopamine spikes, and that can lead to addiction. It also leads you to
connect sexual gratication to being alone, isolation and voyeurism. In real life
sexual encounters, it may lead to performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction and
OCD.

Real Sex vs Masturbation

Porn essentially comes to replace natural, healthy sex. And what comes with sex is
more than what comes with masturbation: courtship, touching, intimacy, smells,
pheromones, and emotional connection, among other things. Masturbation skips all
of these in favor of quickly triggering orgasm in a more direct way.
Were tribal, pair-bonding creatures, and as such our brains need close contact for

good mental health throughout our lives. When we masturbate too frequently, our
brains may replace these basic human needs with ever-increasing desire and more
frequent orgasms, without the health-giving touch that actual intercourse provides.
This may modify the brain and its physiology, keeping us from feeling satised with
actual healthy real-life relationships.

According to Cyberpsychology Behavior (2/9/2006), of all activities on the

Internet, porn has the most potential to become addictive. Heres why: The reward
circuit drives humans towards natural rewards. Naked beautiful women give us too
much dopamine, which overrides our natural satiation mechanisms.
For the rst time in human history, youre able to completely binge on fake sex, and
the aect on brain chemistry is like any other drug: excessive chronic consumption
causes dopamine surges, which triggers the binge mechanism (delta fosB
accumulates), which in turn triggers cravings for more.
Its dangerously quick and easy to satisfy that craving again, and the cycle repeats
itself. So, instead of turning your natural sex drive into energy that fuels you in
meeting and keeping women, you satiate that desire with video and move on with
your dayat least until a few hours later, when the craving hits again. Youre
getting momentary gratication, and this reduces your drive (and ability) to secure
a long-term, healthy solution.
Other areas of your life are aected. You lose your condence and drive,
productivity, and adventurousness. You can push a button and have an orgasm. You
do so. Its free and its addicting. You watch some television. You do it again. Play

some video games get frustrated then do it again.

Go out and have a few beers to look forward to coming home to quick session then
pass out. Its depressing, isnt it? Quit masturbating and take control of your life.

STOP DOING THIS NOW!

Masturbation and porn does more harm than good.
Whats worse is that women sense it, toooverall, youre less attracted to them
because youve been satised without them, and in turn theyre less attracted to
you which ultimately leads to a spiral of more masturbation and porn and more
social anxiety since you have less drive to pursue women in the real world.
Do I have your attention? Its really important you are reading this because the
above stated: the more you masturbate to porn the less likely you are to get laid.
Keep reading to learn more.
In Phillip Zimbardos TED talk, The Demise of Guys?, Zimbardo asserts that the
average boy watches 50 porn clips a week. For every movie made in Hollywood,
there are 11,000 porn movies. Brains are being rewired to expect constant novelty
and constant arousal, which is out of sync with the reality of real women and real
relationships. In fact, the demand that men have for new porn stars cannot keep up
with the supply. This trend will only continue as long as men consume more and
more pornography.

Philip Zimbardo: The demise of guys?

This causes everyday pleasures to be less exciting than porn activity. This is same
for other addicts, but its true for porn addicts as well. Few things can cause the
kind of dopamine spike that an orgasm can, and healthy activities are steadily
phased out. This causes a dullness in the life of man. There is no gusto. No drive to
succeed in business, relationships and life. Men wont be pursuing women in real

life. They will go to work, joke around with guys, come home, eat, get online, jerk o
to porn, and repeat.
Porn, the Sexual Performance Killer
A 2011 survey by The Italian Society of Andrology and Sexual Medicine spells it out
in depressing black and white: excessive porn kills sexual performance.
In Psychology Today, Marnia Robinson stated that when people abstain from porn
and cut way back on masturbation, their desire to connect with others surges. So
does their condence, their ability to look others in the eye, their sense of humor,
their perception of their manliness, their concentration, charisma, their optimism,
their judgment, their attractiveness to potential mates, and so forth.
Even those formerly suering from social anxiety are more often than not
emboldened to explore new avenues for social contact: smiling and joking with work
colleagues, online dating, meditationgroups, nightspots, and so forth. In some
cases it takes months, but often the shift is so rapid that it catches them by
surprise.

Without easy gratication, sex drive becomes energy expended in various parts of
life. Quitting frequent porn and masturbation can dramatically improve the quality

of your life, especially if its a problem in your life that you have not even identied.
Youll notice that you feel more energized, sharper, and focusedbecause the
biological drive that has developed to present you with an evolutionary edge is
being put to use instead of squandered.
Take this drive and put it towards focusing on health, your social life, and your
career, and youll nd that you have little need for porn anymore, since women will
naturally be attracted to the great life you live.
When stuck in the endless loop of porn indulgence and easy gratication, on the
other hand, forming meaningful relationships (sexual and emotional) becomes
virtually impossible. Your attachment is to your addiction, nothing else. And since
your addiction takes place in private, essentially a secret, you become more
isolated and withdrawn socially. This leads to a further decrease in self esteem and
sociability, which makes it harder to hang out with people, and the cycle repeats
itself.
I suggest quit masturbating and go on a 30 day, then 60 day, then 90 day
challenge to fully experience the positive aects of no porn and frequent
masturbation. You will see results within two weeks. Strive to make love with women
to fulll your desires instead.
You will nd that with all the free time you are being more productive, social,
meeting new people, attracting more women into your life, and trying new things.
The key is to understand that frequent porn use and masturbation does not serve
you, it only hurts you in the long run. Instead, use that sexual energy to penetrate
the world.

Enter Tony Robbins

Self help coach and motivational speaker Tony Robbins discusses how all human
experiences can be boiled down into four classes, each determined by the pleasure
we feel, if it serves us, if it serves others, and if it serves a greater good.
Class

Class

Class

Class

Feels good

Yes

No

Yes

No

Is good for you

Yes

Yes

No

No

Is good for others

Yes

Yes

No

No

Serves the greater

Yes

Yes

No

No

good

On the ip side, we have Class 3 experiences that feel good, but ultimately destroy
our quality of life and give us pain. Any guesses what class porn and masturbation
falls in?
Ding ding ding! Frequent Porn and masturbation use is a Class 3 experience.
And the immediate after-eect transitions into a Class 4 experience as you feel
depressed, guilty, isolated, lonely, embarrassed, and socially anxious, which
prevents you from going out, building relationships and enjoying life.
Tony Robbins argues that the secret is understanding and using the six basic
human needs, which are:
1. Certainty feeling of comfort
2. Uncertainty variety, surprise
3. Signicance sense that we are unique in some way
4. Love and Contribution sense of connection with others
5. Growth everything that is alive is either growing or dying we need to grow
6. Contribution a need to grow beyond ourselves
Its impossible to meet all of these needs if youre feeling depressed, socially
anxious, lazy, or lonely from frequent masturbation and porn use. The eects are
horrendous and most people are completely unaware of the negative aects.
Excessive porn and masturbation can dramatically decrease your ability to acquire
the six basic human needs.

Enter David Deida

David Deida is an insightful sex essayist and author of The Way of the Superior
Man who argues that the way we ejaculate typically mirrors the way we interact
with the world at large. If we waste our seed, were likely also wasting our energy,
skills and creativity. As such, he advocates withholding ejaculation (or at least
picking the time and situation wisely.)

Quit masturbating and use this newfound energy and

drive to fuck the world, not yourself.
Taoists have traditionally been into this idea as wellmany of them link semen with
vital life force, and as such unnecessary ejaculation equates to needlessly sapping
ones self of energy. At the root of Deidas concepts is the idea that most masculine
energy comes from pent-up sexual drive, so when we allow ourselves to let that
build up a little, we see more energy and ambition in our lives.

Isnt Masturbating Healthy?

The doctor says its good to ejaculate because its helpful for your prostate. It
ushes your system, so to speak. But no doctor is going to recommend that you
masturbate to porn 2+ times a day and replace normal sexual activity with it.
Masturbating to another male having sex puts you in the beta male position where
you are the spectator in another mans pleasure. The psychological eects of this
puts you in a weak state where you place other men on a pedestal who are more
superior or alpha than you. You will see yourself as inferior to other men which
ONLY HARMS YOUR PSYCHOLOGY!
You want a healthy sex life, not a healthy masturbatory life. The point is the
physical eects of masturbating once a week may serve you well, yet the emotional
eects can hinder your success with women and life.
I am encouraging you to quit masturbating and porn use for now, and feel the
benets of no masturbation and porn while you go out and attract the woman you
want to be with. Trust me you will develop an aura of energy and condence that
will naturally attract women and others to you like no other.
Given the choice between a great social life, a healthy lifestyle, and regular sex with
a woman you are highly attracted to vs. masturbating alone at home, all of us are
likely to choose the rst option. However, we know the hard route and the easy
route and most men will take the easy route. I challenge you to ght for what you
want in life and make a stand.
Stop doing what hurts you and do more of what serves you.

I will get the life I want. Say it out loud dammit! I WILL GET THE LIFE I WANT!

How to Quit Masturbating Strategy

Its going to be tough. Its going to be very challenging. And some men have found
it to be the hardest thing they have ever done, but you are not alone.
The goal is to reduce the amount of masturbation to once per week and eventually
to phase it out altogether, replacing it with regular sexual activity with a woman.
Not exactly rocket science, right? Jerk it less, work it more. Your body knows the
dierence stop kidding yourself.
Masturbation Sessions

Reduce to

Duration

3+ per day

2 per day

1 week

2 per day

1 per day

1 week

1 per day

3 per week

2 weeks

3 per week

2 per week

2 weeks

2 per week

1 per week

2 weeks

1 per week

Acceptable

Once you achieve 1 per week go for 1 every 2 weeks and you will see very powerful
results. From this point you will want to phase out masturbation and porn
altogether as you have the energy, drive and condence to attract a woman and
engage in healthy sexual activity. See the testimonials below.
Porn
The goal is to only watch 1 scene to control the dopamine spikes. Yes, this is not as
exciting, but it prevents you from becoming addicted. This is like only taking 1 shot
of whiskey versus 10. You will not become addicted this way. You want to make
porn boring to the point where you would rather go out and do something fun,
social, and activeor, better yet, have real sex.

Testimonials
Ive been to psychologists for the last 8 years. Diagnosed with depression, social
anxiety, memory impairment. tried aecto,zanex, patel many other drugs. dropped
out of college twice, red twice. Women y away from me even when im good

looking. Porn addict since age 14 in late 20s now.

Quit porn and o all medication and my anxiety is non existent. My memory and
focus are sharper than ever. Huge chick magnet and my ED is gone too. I
seriously think I had a rebirth, a second chance at life.[highlight]Today, on my
109th day of a streak, I feel happy, condent, social, smart, capable of meeting any
challenge
I decided to try out a 90 day period of not wanking it at all.
Right now Im only on day 33 and the results are far beyond what Iever expected.
Things have been happening thats never happened to me before. There is just a
very huge dierence in my life. As soon as my eyes meet a girl I get this huge
Iwant to screw you right nowvibe from them. Ifeel like a god at this point.
Ihave an incredible amount of free time that ive freed up now, so I spent it starting
a new business. I get things done and dont procrastinate anymore.
When I feel the urge to beat my meat Itake that as a cue to go get something
done. RSD Nation Forum Member

The moral of the story: if you want a real adult life, dont fap. Face your instincts
and deeper feelings that youve been ignoring since puberty. They are like a
double-edged sword, it can really hurt you, but you will learn to use it if you decide
to accept the challenge and strive towards real life. -Harry Palmer
Increasing your testosterone can have powerful cognitive and physiological
eects. It can enhance your tolerance for stress, helps alleviate fatigue, has mood
brightening eects, and improves body composition.

Signs and Symptoms of High Testosterone Levels:

Well-being (reduction in depression and mild euphoria)
Condence (reduced social anxiety and greater assertiveness)
Energy improvements and greater work capacity
Motivation (greater ambition)
Sex drive/libido and response times heightened (shorter refractory period)
Concentration (greater ability to complete complex mental tasks)
Strength and muscle mass increases
Body fat reduction and higher basal metabolic rate
-Maskatu
I have been motivated as hell to get my life on track and beyond. All of a sudden,
everything is a goal, not an obstacle. ohropax mentioned this. (On a side-note,
short-term, and long-term memory is improved, heh)I nally understand what it
feels like to be a man who has a hunger for achievement. There really is no way to
explain the feeling except that its a primal desire, a horniness for success.
Achieving goals, no matter how small, feels awesome. Its a great little boost to get
a long the way. reddit user
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Final Thoughts
Using porn to achieve sexual gratication is ultimately a shortcut. The body wants
sex, and so you simulate it to quench your craving. Thats called a cop-out.
Were not about shortcuts and cop-outs here. Were about healthy, permanent
solutions to the things holding you back in life. Men need to go out and meet
people, socialize, work out, eat healthy, take care of themselves, and crush it in
their professional lives.
These are the things that will attract women to you, and a woman will satisfy you
more fully than your own hand every night of the week. The benets of no porn or
masturbation overwhelmingly outweight the short term gain of a quick
masturbation sessionyoull have more energy, more drive, more sexual stamina,
more motivation, and an overall sense of better wellbeing. The other option
increases your isolation, loneliness, and lack of self-worth.

So, no more excuses, and no more shortcuts. Start the plan today, quit
masturbating and porn and be amazed at the results.
Once you arrive, you will never turn back. I guarantee it.
A new life awaits.
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1. Clear thinking
2. Breathe better
3. Smoother mood transitions
4. Sharper mental dexterity
5. More articulate
6. Better memory
7. Working through stress more eectively
8. Increased energy levels
9. Reduced depression
10. Deeper interactions with others
11. Improved integrity
12. Boosted condence
13. No social anxiety

14. Better focus on task at hand

15. Enjoying simple pleasures more deeply
16. Increased faith in ability to control negative mental triggers
17. No risk of arrest or legal troubles
18. Increased joy
19. Renewed self-respect
20. More free time;
21. Need to sleep less
22. More free cash;
23. Condence to try new things
24. Increased humility
25. Asking others for help
26. Better partnership with girlfriend
27. Better ability to learn and remember new things and new songs
28. Can travel without paranoia of border checks
29. No worries about of being found by somebody
30. Not supporting organized crime
31. True bonds with friends
32. Better tness level
33. New doors opening to spiritual world
34. Condence to take on any task
35. Ability to strike up conversation with anyone I choose without fear or insecurity
36. No paranoia
37. Increased motivation for self-improvement
38. Feeling of wholeness that is not reliant on an external source
39. Not being enslaved by the need for porn
40. No more feeling guilty
41. Saving time
42. Communicating more
43. Renewed sense to sensations
44. So much more energy than before
45. Deeper philosophical thinking
46. Way more patience
47. Increased brainpower and mental endurance
48. Regain of focus to nish one job before starting the next one
49. Waking up in the morning feeling rested
50. The return of wit
51. Improved ability to relate
52. Regain of job satisfaction
53. Stronger mental control over moods and thought processes
54. Better crisis management
55. Experiencing natural highs
56. The ability to inspire other people
57. The development of healthy habits
58. A sharper mental game
59. Increased muscle tone

60. Heightened sense of humor

61. More lovetowards life
62. Better response to emotionally charged situations
63. Renewed sense of life, waking up to greet the morning sun and air
64. Easier to get out of bed
65. Development of mature, competent coping mechanisms
66. Feeling in control always
67. A stronger sense of optimism about life
68. Being better at controlling other aspects of life, like cooking, exercising etc
69. Improved quality of work
70. More present for family and friends
71. More agility and awareness
72. No need to worry about porn
73. I am not constantly craving something every time I get bored or stressed
74. Better health, less sickness
75. Reduced anger
76. Better communication of feelings
77. Dramatic improvement of self-esteem
78. Being more interesting person
79. Clearer memories
80. More laughs
81. No panic attacks
82. Feeling of more freedom
83. Better teamwork
84. Reduced anxiety
85. No more eye strain or need of eye drops
86. Reduced paper tissue consumption
87. The joy of making things happen and being powerful;
88. Enjoying the daylight and sunlight;
89. Enjoying the observation of lives around
90. Better emotional health
91. Emotional energy savings
92. Feeling intense emotions without being ruled by them
93. Strength to keep going when the going gets tough
94. Joy of keeping promises
95. Enjoyment of the relaxed mental state
96. Improved courage
97. Reduced desk clutter
98. Increased trust
99. Joy of sharing
100. Success.
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Psychology Today:Was the Cowardly Lion Just Masturbating too Much
TED Talk: The Great Porn Experiment by Gary Wilson
TED Talk: The Demise of Guys by Phillip Zombardo
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