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help, more children from divorced families will need some type of help.
Compared with children whose parents stay married, children from divorce are:
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2 Transitional period
The parents are unable to make use of the divorce to resolve issues within or
between themselves and are frozen in the transition. In effect, the form of the
custody dispute or litigation becomes their new pattern of relationship
(Johnston and Campbell, 1998: 7-12).
According to Johnson and Campbell in their book Impasses of Divorce,
Impasses occur at three levels:
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5 the interactional
6 intrapsychic or internal.
The external level, the dispute may be fuelled by significant others (extended kin, new
partners or helping professionals) who have formed coalitions or alliances with the
divorcing parties and legitimized their claims.
The interactional level, the dispute can either be a continuation of a conflictual
relationship or the product of a traumatic or ambivalent separation of parents.
The intrapsychic level, disputes may serve to manage intolerable feelings engendered
by the divorce (humiliation, sadness, helplessness and guilt) in psychologically
vulnerable parents (Johnston and Campbell, 1988: 12; Johnston and Roseby, 1997: 522).
Lifetime Preoccupation:
Blaming Others
Avoid taking responsibility
All-or-nothing thinking
Seek attention and sympathy
Aggressively seek allies
Speak in dramatic and emotional
extremes
Focus intensely on others past
behaviors
Punish those guilty of harming
you
Try to get others to solve your
problems
Its okay to lie if you feel
desperate
High Conflict Personalities begin to generate distorted information which fits how they
feel. Their feelings create their facts.
the concerns and problems children of divorce face. Topics are addressed in a fun,
entertaining, and kid friendly way. Available for order online or parents can call toll free
1-877-536-6672.
Collaborative lawyer.com- www.collaborativelawyer.com provides information about
the collaborative, cooperative approach to a legal divorce.
Colorado Divorce Mediation www.coloradodivorcemediation.com award winning
information by Colorado attorney-mediators on the child-friendlier and increasingly
popular and positive alternative to adversarial divorce: family mediation.
Recommended Readings
For adults:
Moms House, Dads House, making two homes for your child. Isolina Ricci, Ph.D. A
complete guide for parents who are separated, divorced, or remarried.
Were Still Family, what grown children have to say about their parents divorce.
Constance Ahrons, Ph.D. By listening to the voices of these grown children, divorcing
parents will learn what they can do to maintain family bonds. Also by Dr. Ahrons, The
Good Divorce.
Divorce Poison. Richard Warshak, Ph.D. An excellent resource for parents dealing with
an angry, vindictive, and sabotaging ex-spouse.
Joint Custody with a Jerk. Julie Ross and Judy Corcoran. A funny title dealing with a
serious subject. How to co-parent with an uncooperative ex.
What about the Kids? Raising your children before, during, and after divorce. Judith
Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee.
Because Life Goes On - Helping Children and Youth Live with Separation and Divorce.
Available at www.mentalhealthpromotion.com. This is a thorough and useful guide for
parents and others trying to help children. Published in both English and French.
Divorce without Disaster. Janet Brumley. Collaborative law in Texas.
Stepfamilies. Dr. James Bray and John Kelly. Answers important questions of stepfamily
life.
How to Win as a Stepfamily. Emily Visher, Ph.D. and John Visher, M.D. Written by the
founders of the Stepfamily Association of America.
Taking the High Road; How to Cope with your Ex-Husband, Maintain your Sanity and
Raise your Child in Peace. Nailah Shami a witty, candid book which empowers
women to rise above it all and develop a winning attitude following divorce.
Video for Children
Lemons 2 Lemonade: How to Handle Life When Things Go Sour Between Mom and Dad.
Written and produced by two divorce experts, Stephen Loughhead and Christina
McGhee, this entertaining and informative 45 minute program gives children the
information they most need when their parents divorce.
Available at www.lemons2lemonade.com.
Books for Children
Dinosaurs Divorce. Marc Brown and Laurene Krasny Brown.
What Children Need to Know When Parents Get Divorced. William L. Coleman. A book to
read with children going through the trauma of divorce.
Its Not Your Fault, Koko Bear. Vicki Lansky. A read together book for parents and young
children during divorce.
I Dont Want to Talk About It. Jeanie Franz Ransom and Kathryn Kunz Finney. A story
about divorce for young children.
Lets Talk About It: Divorce. Fred Rogers. Famous Mister Rogers offers calm, caring
support.
Mom and Dad Dont Live Together Anymore. Kathy Stinson and Nancy Lou Reynolds.
At Daddys on Saturdays. Linda Walvoord Girard and Judith Friedman.
Two Homes. Claire Masurel and Kady MacDonald Denton.
Are We Divorce Too Daddy? Vickie Gunnells-Hodge. Encourages divorced dads to stay
involved.
Missing Rabbit. Roni Schotter A comfort to children who go back and forth,
Schotters thoughtfully conceived story addresses the anxieties of very young children
living under joint custody arrangements. For ages 3-6.
My Stick Family. Natalie Reilly and Brandi Pavaese this book emphasizes and reaffirms
the resilience and constancy of love for children within the family, even after a
marriage ends.