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by Judith Warner
(This material is adapted from an article published in Aikido Today . The
author, Judith Warner, is an instructor for Aikido Kokikai Rochester and has
been involved in the field of conflict resolution for the past ten years. She
works with Thomas Crum, author of The Magic of Conflict, and co-authored
Your Conflict Cookbook with Mr. Crum. Their company, Aiki Works, Inc., uses
principles and movements from the martial arts of Aikido and Tai Chi Chuan
to teach conflict resolution.)
Conflict. It surrounds us and is as natural as sunrise and sunset. Yet many of us react
to its presence with aggression, denial, or resistance. These are the knee-jerk
responses that we learned watching our parents, who watched their parents, or by
watching our buddies in the school yard, or even watching Rambo and John Wayne
movies. None of these responses really work. Have you ever truly solved a problem
by yelling at someone? Think of the last time you got frustrated with your spouse over
the monthly credit card statement. And did it ever work as a teenager when you and
your parents stuck to your positions on the use of family car rather than discussing
each other's needs? Yet, we repeat these same knee-jerk responses, day-after-day,
year-after-year.
Over the past ten years, I have been involved in countless conflict resolution
programs, helping people to deal with their dysfunctional problem-solving ways. In all
of these programs, Aikido has provided a base that helps people to examine and
change their ways of dealing with stress and conflict. Without my Aikido training, my
work in conflict resolution would be ineffective. This article explains how my company
uses Aikido in its programs. I hope that it will give you some insights into how you can
apply Aikido principles in your own life.
When we do not view conflict as a win/lose contest, we can create win/win solutions.
For this to happen, three basic conditions have to exist: acknowledgment,
conflict resolution strategies. These pieces are essential but teaching them without
addressing the mind/body aspect of conflict resolution limits their effectiveness. For
example, are you more likely to draw upon your training in communication methods if
you are uncentered, tense, and agitated, or centered, calm and relaxed?
The principle of one-point, or center, in Aikido is a direct, simple way to introduce the
optimal mind/body state for conflict resolution - relaxed, aware, able to focus.
Everyone experiences this state at certain times in their lives - during a peak
performance, or at a special moment, such as a wedding, giving birth, or graduating
from school. The learning is that it is our choice everyday, every moment to be
centered. The challenge is chosing this state of being under stress. If we do so, we
are better able to handle conflict.
their choice, they walk away with the knowledge that they have more options to
consider in handling their conflicts than they realized they had before.
Of course, the same off-the-mat applications hold true for practicing Aikidoka. If an
Aikidoist catches one point before beginning to discuss a problem with a child, boss,
or parent, the likelihood is that the discussion will go better. What is wonderful for
Aikidoka is that the opportunity to develop these conflict resolution skills is present at
every practice. Every technique on the mat is a chance to develop one-point, to play
with a metaphor for a personal issue. As long as we stay challenged and aware in our
practice, we are growing in our ability to deal with stress and conflict off the mat. I
wonder - how many of us appreciate this aspect of our practice? It never ceases to
amaze me how true the adage is that we never fully appreciate something sitting in
our own backyard. There is so much questing these days for stress management,
personal growth, relationship building. For Aikidoka, the basics for enhancing these
aspects of life are there on the mat in our daily practice. The gift is simply there for
the taking.
UNBENDABLE ARM
The classic (yet always impressive) Cool Ki Trick.
(Don't miss out on our strange interactive demo of this Cool Ki Trick!
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What Happens.
Someone tries to bend your arm when it's stiff, and succeeds. But when
your arm is very relaxed, it becomes impossible to bend. This feels very
strange. And it's probably one of the best first ways to get a feeling for
the correct mind/body state. We try to always teach this to beginners
the very first time they come to Aikido class. I remember coming home
after my first class and trying to show this idea to my wife. I couldn't do
it, but she could. It bugged me for weeks.
How To Do It.
1. Hold your arm out horizontally, make a fist, and tighten all the muscles in
your arm. Now have someone put one hand on top of your elbow, and the
other hand under your wrist.
2. Have your friend try to bend your arm. If he's about as strong as you or
stronger, he should succeed.
3. Now, hold your arm out (again, with just a slight bend at the elbow), and
relax all the muscles in your arm. Let your wrist dangle comfortably. Use
just enough muscle to keep your arm in the air.
4. Look ahead in the direction your arm is pointing. Feel as though your arm
extends out from you hundreds of feet. Imagine reaching and touching a
tree or building that is a long distance away.
5. Maintain this feeling, and have your friend try to bend your arm again.
Tips.
When you're first learning this - and all - Cool Ki Tricks, you and your
friends should really try to help each other out. You need to try to help each
other catch the right feeling. So don't try to bend each other's arms with all
your might - at least initially.
Different visualizations work better for different people. Try thinking of your
arm as a fire hose, and water shooting out of it. Or, think of yourself as
being extremely thirsty and reaching all the way across the room for a cold
drink. Or, just extend your arm and keep One-Point.
Don't make your arm completely straight. Put a slight bend in your elbow.
And orient your arm so that the thumb side of your hand is up. Remember:
Elbows only bend one way! Be careful no one tries to bend your arm a
direction it wasn't intended to go.
Try not to get distracted by the person attempting to bend your arm. Just
keep your eyes forward, and maintain the image of your arm being very
long.
There's one thing more impressive than showing people you can do
unbendable arm. And that's showing them they can do unbendable arm.
Have a friend first make her arm very stiff and try to bend it. (With some
people, you won't be able to. But that's okay.) Then have her relax and
encourage her to feel as though her arm reaches out for hundreds of miles.
Then test her arm again. This is a real good way to get people to stop
thinking you're weird and join you in your mind/body training.
conflict does not necessarily mean contest; that if we could all stay in the moment
long enough, we might find that we have shared goals despite our ways of
reaching them.
For my generation, the war in Viet Nam is a good example. There were good,
caring people who were "doves" and against the war. There were good, caring
people who were "hawks", and for the war. On the street, or in the same room, a
discussion between hawks and doves was a contest of tsuki and shomen attacks.
Each was a direct, confrontational, " I'm right, you're wrong" head on attack. Had
they turned tenkan and blended energy, they might have discovered that each
wanted a world safe for their children.
Jean-Paul Sartre said that the best thing a father could do for his son is to die
young. Maybe, if fathers and sons practiced Aikido together, they could find a
common path, if only to allow each other's growth: growth into an adult and growth
into an honored elder.
If both Dave and Beth were familiar with Aikido, the week or two before the meeting
would have been different. Rather than a time of anxiety and trepidation, there
would have been excitement and anticipation about the process. Rather than
fearing a contest and readying defenses, Beth and Dave would have been
discovering from where the energy was coming and how to use it to finish the
project.
In the best situation, the meeting would have been a celebration of energy, codiscovery and growth. Each would bring all their energy to the table, and each
would leave whole and healthy. Other team members would feel less threatened,
and therefore more able to contribute to the process. All would have less stress
and more vitality.
We do not need to wear a black belt to carry the spirit of Aikido into our daily lives.
We need only to strive for mastery and stay with one-point the best we can to
change the way we live with our families, our friends, and in our work relationships.
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