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John Powell, SJ
through the natural talents they have been given, to the virtues they have worked
to cultivate. When
these people find imperfections and limitations in
themselves they are compassionate. They try to understand, not to condemn
themselves. "Beyond a wholesome discipline," DESIDERATA says, "be gentle
with yourself." The well-springs for the fullness of life rise from within a person.
And, psychologically speaking, a joyful self-acceptance, a good self-image, and a
sense of self-celebration are the bedrock beginning of the fountain that rises up
into the fullness of life.
(2) To Be Oneself. Fully alive people are liberated by their selfacceptance to be authentic and real. Only people who have joyfully accepted
themselves can take all the risks and responsibilities of being themselves. "I gotta
be me!" the song lyrics insist, but most of us get seduced into wearing masks and
playing games. The old ego defense mechanisms are built up to protect us from
further vulnerability. But they buffer us from reality and reduce our visibility.
They diminish our capacity for living. Being ourselves has many implications. It
means that we are free to have and to report our emotions, ideas, and
preferences. Authentic individuals can think their own thoughts, make their
own choices. They have risen above the nagging need for the approval of others.
They do not sell out to anyone. Their feelings, thoughts, and choices are simply
not for hire. "To thine own self be true " is their life-principle and life-style.
(3) To Forget Oneself in Loving. Having learned to accept and to be
themselves, fully alive people proceed to master the art of
forgetting
themselves--the art of loving. They learn to go out of themselves in genuine
caring and concern for others. The size of a person's world is the size of his or her
heart. We can be at home in the world of reality only to the extent that we have
learned to love it.
Fully alive men and women escape from the dark and
diminished world of egocentricity, which always has a population of one. They
are filled with an empathy that enables them to feel deeply and spontaneously
with others. Because they can enter into the feeling world of others -- almost as
if they were inside others or others were inside them -- their world is greatly
enlarged and their potential for human experience greatly enhanced. They have
become "persons for others," and there are others so dear to them that they have
personally experienced the "greater love than this" sense of commitment. They
would protect their loved ones with their own lives.
Being a loving person is far different from being a so-called "do-gooder."
Do-gooders merely use other people as opportunities for practicing their acts of
virtue, of which they keep careful count. People who love learn to move the focus
of their attention and concern from themselves out to others. They care deeply
about others. The difference between do-gooders and people who love is the
difference between a life which is an on-stage performance and a life which is an
act of love. Real love cannot be successfully imitated. Our care and concern for
others must be genuine, or our love means nothing. This much is certain: There
is no learning to live without learning to love.
(4) To Believe. Having learned to transcend purely self-directed
concern, fully alive people discover "meaning" in their lives. This meaning is
found in what Victor Frankl calls "a specific vocation or mission in life." It is a