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Unless you already know (or can get introduced to) the girl via a social
circle (e.g., friends, job, church, etc), youll have no other choice but to come
up to complete strangers and talk to them.
A cold approach is the purest way of meeting a girl. Purest in the sense
that you do not need to know anyone else in order to get to her. The only
thing you need is the desire to meet new women and the right techniques to
get there.
The objective of this guide is to help you approach women in the wild:
streets, parks, coffee shops, malls, planes, bars and clubs.
Strategy
Direct vs. Indirect
Approaching typically falls into two general categories: direct and indirect.
A direct approach is when you come up to a girl and start the conversation
in a way so she knows right away that youre interested in her.
You might, for example, come up to a girl and tell her that she looks
beautiful, ask her if shes single, then ask her whether shes available for
dinner, drinks, or sex.
An indirect approach is when you come up to a girl and start the
conversation in a way thats not easily obvious youre interested in her.
You might, for example, ask her for directions to a nearby landmark,
whether she knows what time supermarkets close, or whether she can give
directions to some destination.
Most of the time youll be using an indirect approach. The reason for that
is because an indirect approach gives the girl more time before she forms an
opinion about you. Whereas a direct approach forces her to make up her
mind within seconds (mostly on your physical appearance), an indirect
approach lets you build up a connection with the girl before you move
deeper in the seduction phase.
During daytime you want to use mostly indirect approaches, but in
nighttime youll be using a mix of direct and indirect approaches.
Your job is to open your mouth, blurt out something interesting, and then
hope that she finds you, combined with what you said, interesting enough to
ask a followup question or two.
The bait is an indirect way of hooking the girl so that she can easily
followup with a question to you. Same way that you use bait on a hook
when you go fishing, an effective opener baits the girls interest and continue
the conversation.
Keep the opener simple; the easier the bait, the easier it will be for a girl to
respond to your opener.
Once youve delivered the opener, try to segue into a normal conversation.
Ask open-ended questions avoid yes or no questions at all costs.
Daytime Approaching
Street
Strategy
Street approaches are the bread and butter of any cold approach.
First, approach only if the girl is slowly walking somewhere or is stopped.
Remember the basic rule from physics: an object in motion tends to stay in
motion.
Girls that are walking somewhere fast will be harder to stop, than girls that
are walking slowly or have completely stopped.
The best is to come up from the side, but if that isnt possible, come up
from the front.
Never approach directly from behind.
Examples
General Inquires
Do you know a good coffee shop around here? One with great coffee?
Do you know a good local restaurant with local food?
Do you know a bar thats open late?
Do you know wheres the train station?
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Situational
Be a bit more clever and creative.
How is she dressed? Is she carrying some popular designer bag? Does she
look like shes a local?
I like your [sunglasses/bag/etc], do you know where I can buy them?
Thats a cute dog, what kind is it?
Is this the way to the train/metro station?
Follow up: No, why do people keep telling me otherwise. Am I that
gullible?
Is there a restaurant called [some name] around here?
Follow up: This city is one of the most confusing Ive ever been to.
It this towards [some neighborhood]?
Follow up: youre the 4th person Ive asked this today
Coffee Shops
Strategy
Coffee shops are synonymous with relaxed atmosphere and are ideal for
approaching.
The key is to sit yourself next, or close to the girl.
Either make a comment about an environment (e.g., weather, another
person, etc.), about one of her possessions (e.g., laptop, book shes reading,
etc).
Examples
The language student
Bring a foreign language book to the coffee shop, and pretend youre
studying her language. All of a sudden act really confused because you
misunderstood something (pronunciation, grammar rule, etc). Suddenly you
find a girl sitting next you whom you can ask question.
Excuse me, do you know how to pronounce ?
Excuse me, these words seem very similar, do you know a difference?
You guys have a difficult language, sort of similar to my own.
The dramatic call
Call a friend, or just fake a call. Speak in English (or another language) for
a little bit, then abruptly hang up displaying some emotion (e.g., anger,
disappointment, happiness). Look over to the girl next to you and share your
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Book Stores/Libraries
Strategy
Book stores and libraries are great for approaching because people are
browsing for information which you can use as a springboard for your
opener.
Examples
At the bookshelves
This book is very interesting. Have you read it?
Are you going to travel to [some country shes planning to travel]
I wonder if this book is any good
For some reason I always keep coming back to this section.
Why is it every time I come back, they have more and more [or less and
less] books here?
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Parks
Strategy
Approaching in parks is great because the girl demonstrated that shes not
in a rush to get somewhere, and would be more open to talking to a stranger.
Bring a book or some reading material even if you dont have any
intention of reading.
Walk around the park, and find a bench next to a cutie.
Dont ask her something right away.
Wait five or ten minutes.
Examples
The weather
What a beautiful day, I didnt think they have such nice days in [current
place]
Is it always sunny/cloudy/rainy here?
They said its going to rain, but all I see is sun and blue skies.
Her book
Sounds like an interesting book.
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Malls
Strategy
Malls are great for approaching because theyre a target-rich environment
with many opportunities.
Your approach ideas range from asking information about a particular
store to flirting with store assistants.
Examples
Excuse me, do you know where I can buy sports clothes? I want to buy
some Adidas pants so I can look cool.
Where I can find [store that doesnt yet exist in the city].
Where can I find a flower store?
Where can I find some local food here?
Once youre done with this, you can follow with regular street openers.
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Bus stops
Strategy
Bus stops are great for approaching because you can ask for directions and
then continue into topics related to the current place.
Carry a map with you so you can ask for information on the spot.
Since shes not going anywhere, you can approach casually by slowly
walking up to the time table, studying it, then looking at your map. Then you
can ask her a question.
Examples
Excuse me, does this bus go to point A? If not how do I get there?
Do you know how to get to here (pointing on your map)?
How late to the buses run until?
Seems like buses dont run often, should I just take a taxi?
How much does the bus cost?
Does the driver accept cash or coins, or only some card?
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Nighttime Approaching
Bars
Strategy
Bars make an ideal environment for approaching because theyre social
arenas meant to gather not previously known individual together, and with
the help of alcohol help them mate.
Examples
At the bar
You look/dont look like you speak English.
You seem/dont seem to be from around here.
You look/dont look [some nationality].
After she answers in English:
Oh, your English is really good. Where did you learn it?
Were you just speaking [some language] to your friend?
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Clubs
Strategy
Clubs are like bars on steroids. Theyre the modern day equivalent of
animal leks, areas specifically created for human beings, to go, drink,
stimulate sexual acts (dance), and eventually make further arrangements to
perform those acts (pickup and have sex).
Using aggressive indirect approaching or direct approaching.
Examples
At the line to the club
Seems like the whole town is here, is it always this busy?
Seems like no one showed up.
At the bar
What kind of drink is that?
You look like you speak English?
You dont look like you speak English.
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Other Approaching
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If approaching was easy, then youd see everyone talking to everyone else
on the streets.
While it can be challenging at first, with proper methods, practice, and a
little bit of luck, youd wonder why youve never done it before.
Happy approaching.
Also, dont forget to visit www.mavericktraveler.com for more tips on
approaching, meeting and seducing women from all over the world.
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