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The use of personal electronic devices has increased, because there are now smartphones that have access to the Internet. There are many social interactions that can cause distraction away from friends. Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest for example, have collected many fans and regular users. The ma ority of free time that an individual has, is spent consuming these to fulfill their boredom, their desire to stay connected, and the craving of checking new updates or notifications. These sites can be used on a regular computer or laptop, but with smartphones the convenience is what adds more attention to it, because it is right there in the hand or pocket. People are constantly in contact because they have easy access, and in some situations, it is the only connection with friends or family. Although the connections are an easy way to stay caught up on current events, I think the relationships and friendships that we interact with in person need to be respected and gratified. In the current era, using smartphones has has an incline on social connections. The ma ority of people have these new devices, and that is not always a good thing. In the article iFamily Internet and Social Media...Family Context,! by "illiams and #erten, it talks about how the Internet has risks and benefits, while it has become a common discussion. They state $The topics of social media and Internet use have become common in most conversations about youth and family development!%&'(). The use of the Internet and smartphones has become like a second nature, that people are caught up in it. People who don*t have smartphones, or a cell phone at all, are disrespected and ignored when the people around them are on their phones. From personal experience, there are times when I am sitting at a filled table for lunch, and everyone is on their devices either texting, on Facebook, or who knows what else they are looking at. I am left sitting there scanning the table seeing everyone on their phones, doing something, while we are having a meal. "hile they are trapped in the moment, I am sitting there surrounded by fellow classmates, but alone at the same time. Trying to start a conversation is pointless because they do not respond, because they are in tune with the phones. "hile I am seeing the view of

loneliness, the individuals who are on their phones are in a whole different world. +onversation ,martphones engage many applications and advancements that seem really interesting, popular, and well used. The users of these electronic devices are proactive with the involvement that they contain. The site of Twitter is really popular, and consistently used. The purpose of Twitter allows individuals to update a status of where they are, what they doing and who they are with. #any actors, celebrities, and bands are followed so that people know where they are located at the time. Twitter users can follow people that they know, but there are cases where people will follow people that they don*t even know. It is common that users will come across someone who has an interest of theirs, so they decide to $follow! them, and keep up to date with that person even if they don*t know them. The bonus of these devices mainly is the form of communicating with others and staying involved with the current updates. ,teven -ohnson, the author of the newspaper article Texting our Way to Isolation, mentions the advancements of technology that have happened, and how the involvement of individuals has differentiated over time. .e states $The key difference between then and now/ 0sing a computer used to be an at1the1desk experience, distinct from everyday life. 2ow, with the advent of the mobile phone, the mobile "eb and social networks in our pockets, the digital life is everyday life!%-ohnson). The usage of the mobile phones or even ust the websites in general has become extremely active, that people are constantly connected. In the article The Impact of lectronic Communication on !ersonal "elationships, by 3ori ,hannon talks about the instant connection to the Internet and how easy it is to be online. ,he states $"e now have cell phones that enable text messaging and smartphones that let us text, email, and even video chat anywhere we can get a cellular signal or a wireless Internet connection!%'). There is easy access to be online constantly and in contact with someone every minute of the day. The documentary video #igital $ation broadcasted by Frontline, talks about how the media and

electronic devices are influencing the population. 4ne of the ladies interviewed stated that she is connected to her 5lackberry, that she needs it at all times. ,he says that she cannot imagine not having it. The video interviews a student and she claims that the students are multitasking at all times with their phones and Internet sites while in class and that the professors need to accept that. It was interesting because a professor at #IT was interviewed who said that the grades were starting to decline because it was obvious that the students were distracted. Individuals will get on the popular websites when they get up for the day. They will be on it any minute they can be. #any people turn to these sites when they are bored, or want to see current updates of a certain person. The website Facebook allows people to post a status of what*s going on, or thoughts on their mind. People can comment and6or$like! the status if somehow they are affected by it. Facebook allows individuals to have a profile about them, and albums where one can post as many pictures as wanted. ,ince the population of Facebook members is multiplying, businesses and companies create profiles with the intention of promoting and advertising new material, upcoming sales, and coupons. The use of current web social interactions has become a main focus for some friendships and relationships. It has become it*s own type of verb. $I*ll Facebook you, I*ll ,napchat you.! #any friendships or relationships will engage their time together through these, and that is the main intimacy they have together. 2o interpersonal involvement. 2o long talks together. 2o eye contact. The trouble behind this, is that these relations are lacking the intimate involvement that is really needed. In the article We %ould rather Text than Tal&, ,herry Turkle, a professor of ,ocial ,tudies of ,cience and Technology at #IT is interviewed by #alini 7oyal and she states $People have new confusions about when they are alone and when they are together. They are confused about intimacy and solitude! %7oyal). I found that really interesting. From past memories, I had a friend who was obsessed about texting her current boyfriend or crush. They would text and say cute things back and forth. "hen I asked her why she wouldn*t say that to these boys in person, she said $that would be so

awkward.! It came to my attention that it is not a problem to text people intimate details because they are not there in person, so it*s not as heart enduring ust to text it. There is a wall that is built when texting someone rather than talking to them in person. 2ot being there with said person makes it easier to talk about things, but there isn*t any awkward feelings or reactions when they mention something personal. "hen in physical contact with this person, it can be awkward because one may not want to talk about what was texted, one may not know how to act around the person, and there is an awkward confusion regarding where the friendship6relationship stands at that point. Texting has become a main source of communication, people don*t make as many phone calls nowadays. In the article The "ole of Text Messaging and Instant Messaging... !eer'to'!eer Friendships, by 3inda 8atherine "eeks, she talks about the interaction that is not present when not with friends in person. ,he states $There are differences, however, in having a friendship that exists only online. ,ome studies find that friendships initiated online lack the same physical and emotional support that a real1life friendship provides! %9). The intimacy that a friendship provides is lacking when they are not there in in person. The purpose of having a friend come over when going through a hard time, is because one would physically want them there. "hen they are not there in person, out of curiosity one would wonder what that person is doing at that time, because they may not seem too involved in the conversation that is being held through texting. 5ut if they are there in person, one can see that they are giving their undivided attention %unless they are texting). Thinking of past memories of having get togethers with friends, they were fun, but also boring. "e had the same routine and same people involved with our gatherings. "e would meet at the same friends house, make cookies, or breakfast, or crepes, then watch a movie. The social involvement was active while making the snack of the night. 5ut then we would watch a movie, and stare at a big screen in silence. "here*s the fun in that: ,ure, it*s usually ;uiet in the room when watching a movie, but how is watching a movie with friends spending time together: 5esides literally sitting next to them, there isn*t any time spent together. .aving many get togethers with friends like this, it started to run dry. I

was often thinking $I can stare at a screen at home in a room by myself.! The time with friends while watching a movie is not wasted, but it*s not the same as spending time talking with friends. These get togethers with friends can be seen differently as a time to really interact with people. Throw an invite via text, have them come over, make a snack, sociali<e, have fun, and get to know each other. +ontrast of =lectronic >evices In the documentary video #igital $ation broadcasted from Frontline, ?achel >ret<in mentions how things are working in her household when she takes a look at it. ,he states $ ,o, it really hit me one night not that long ago... "e*re all in the same house, but also in other worlds... I didn*t see it coming! %>ret<in). "hen thinking of how things go at this household, it*s funny. I imagine the way that someone would see how it isor what they would think if they were looking in from the outside. #om and >ad are upstairs watching !(S, my brother is in the family room on Facebook and playing the @box, and I*m in my room watching 2etflix. It*s funny to think that we are all doing the same thing, but spread throughout the house. "ould it be any different if we were all watching something together: >oes that have an affect on relationships: "e would ust be watching a movie. Along with the personal electronic devices, the communication between the relationships is missing. There is no guided intimacy. This applies to smartphones also, because one may be sitting next to someone who is being distracted by their phone that they cannot give you any respected attention. "e sometimes find ourselves on our own devices, that we are neglecting the deserved attention of those around us. Along with >ret<in, I agree that the use of any electronic devices can put us in our own world that detaches us from our surroundings. People get in the <one with their specific networks and waste time being trapped in the material on the sites that they can become unaware of their environment, or lose track of time, or lose the interest of friends. "ho wants to sit with a friend while they are wrapped up in whatever it is on their phone: 2ot me. The interaction with our peers can be changed by the way an individual approaches the situation. I recommend that people become aware of the issue that is at hand because of their phone. People need to understand that they are treating their peers poorly, and

that can affect the friendship negatively. They may not reali<e the disrespect and lonesome feeling they could be creating ust by having eye contact with the phone in their hand. These situations can be avoided by establishing personal rules of phone use when with your friends and family. 4ne of my peer*s personal rules is not to have the phone on the counter while having a meal, unless absolutely necessary. +onclusion The use of smartphones has excelled and there is a large amount of population that is addicted to the use of them. Friendships and relationships are challenging because there is a lack of communication when one or both of them are on their phones and not communicating with each other. Individuals who do not have a smartphone often will give their attention to the people they are with. 5ut knowing that the other people are on their phones because they are bored, can hurt feelings knowing that the phone has authority. There has been confusion of what intimacy is because situations happen where people become uncomfortable when talking in personA They have gotten used to talking through text. ?elationships and friendships are at stake. Facebook has been an easy way to connect with someone, but it doesn*t provide the intimacy of having a conversation in person. There are occasions where one person will come across someone on Facebook that they don*t know anything about, but will add them to be friends, and friendships take place only online and there is not connection in person at all. People get wrapped up in their own little world when it comes to any electronic device. ,elective attention is placed on the material that is being looked at, or the game that is being played, or the TB show that is being watched. Professors are disrespected when students are on their laptops $taking notes!, but they really are not. ,tudents will also have their phones right there on their desks waiting for a reply. Friendships, relationships, and the interactions with professors are becoming a problem because there is rude behavior that is active and it is a challenging situation to deal with. I suggest thinking about an appropriate level of smartphones and other electronic devices. I suggest looking at how the relationships are doing. Are they healthy: >oes it seem that this is issue is a

problem with active friendships: If I could make a challenge of my own for everyone ust for one day, I would ask that everyone went without a smartphone, or any electronic device, and see the differences between relationships and interactions with peers.

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