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It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped. Tony Robbins Of all the numerous faults that one can be accused of, being indecisive is one of the most serious faults for it makes a person fearful, confused, inept and paralyzed, thereby losing out on opportunities to progress, be productive and attain success. The sports arena illustrates this best w hen an indecisive player becomes a bane for the team and the game by poor coordination and shoddy performance. Ever noticed the mispasses on the field, w ayw ard shooting at the goal and the back chatting betw een team members; many of these are symptomatic of the malaise of poor decision making. In real life, anyone w ho often echoes his/ her concern of being confused can be quickly identified as someone prone to avoid taking a decision. Sadly, very often many of these people become indecisive not because they lack inputs but because there are too many equally attractive options or equally scary consequences and deciding on any one is challenging. Here are four pointers to help one becom e an effectiv e decision m aker. Analyze extensively but dont get paralyzed by it. Paralysis by analysis is the bane of those w ho believe in extensive study in order to minimize the chances of failure. Most people w ould profess to study threadbare the situation that needs a decision so as to be able to make the best decision, but subconsciously many of them are trying to find the best w ay to hedge their decision should it fail. As a result making it fail safe becomes the focus rather than maximizing success. W hen risk appears w e tend to demonize it and consequently vacillate betw een alternatives until forced into a decision either by time constraints or other external pressures. Accept the reality that not all decisions will be right. Human nature comprehends failure to indicate ineffectiveness, incompetence and ineptness, faults w hich in our myopic opinion grievously devalue us in the eyes of others. The reality is that failure is proof that someone dared, someone miscalculated and that there could be alternatives to the path taken. How many w ere actually ruined by the mistakes made? Barring some w ho w ere foolhardy or blinded by a false sense of invincibility, every other person w ho failed learnt from those failures and bounced back w ith better decisive strategies. Be aware of the consequences of taking the decision and also of not taking the decision. By being indecisive and avoiding making a commitment, the chances are that w e are risking not grasping opportunities, perhaps even missing out on minimizing / avoiding failure and certainly ensuring that the original issue remains unresolved. . Ask anyone w ho has invested in shares and stocks and chances are you w ill get more stories of failures in stock picking but probe further and then they will accept that they rue being indecisive. Ma n y others will blame their impulsiveness in taking decisions that led to poor stock selection. Never forget that it is only when you can bite the bullet that you can lead the
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charge. Every leader has invariably reached the top by getting bruised and battered in the battle field of life. W hat has set them apart is not just their doggedness and ability but their ability to take crucial decisions at critical junctures. At times their decisions could have backfired and send them hurtling dow n the steep slope of success but w ith renew ed vigor and enthusiasm they took the decision to battle their w ay up. Remember : Some people, however long their experience or strong their intellect, are temperamentally incapable of reaching firm decisions. James Callaghan Try this: 1. Play a game of snakes and ladders but here is the tw ist to make you be aw are of decision making. Every time you roll the dice you have a choice to accept the number that comes up or to pass the move except if the number that is throw n up moves your counter to a slot w ith a snake, in w hich case you go dow n to the tail of the snake. Check how and w hen you make the decision to pass your turn .Are there times you felt you made a mistake because you made the decision to pass your turn or not to pass your turn? 2. Take a look at the video by one of the more popular lecturers at Harvard, Prof. Michael Sandel w ho is taking a module on the Moral Side of Murder. Remember to pause the video after he asks the first set of questions and make it a point to make your DECISION to the question he asks. Also ensure you are clear w hy you made that decision. Then continue the video till he asks the second set of questions based on a scenario he de scribe s. Again pause the video and make a decision based on the question. Perhaps a different facet of decision making w ill emerge and challenge you. Click here to view the video http://tinyurl.com/yey37oe This post is courtesy www.actspot.com Y ou are also invited to visit our Inspirational and Motivational Blog www.poweract.blogspot.com Read Full Post

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Do you want to know who you are? Dont ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you. Thomas Jefferson Many of us spend a lot of time pondering over the future and going around in circles confused and fearful about our fate. We shy aw ay from finding out answ ers to some fundamental questions like W ho am I and how do I hope to shape my future? W hat do I w ant to do w ith my life? W hat are those values and qualities I cherish? W hat are the fears that torment me? W ho are the people I can depend upon? W hat are my yardsticks for success? How do I go about achieving success? Obv iously there are no easy answers that will em erge in a jiffy but if we dism iss these questions as im possible to answer, the questions would keep lurking n our m ind and torm ent us thereby im peding our productiv ity , happiness and peace of m ind. The answers to all the questions seem hidden, obscure and / or elusive but in reality they are me re ly packaged within the individual personality that you are. If you w ant to discover it, you w ould need to see yourself as a package doing the rounds in a game of passing the parcel w here a dimension of you is
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subtly revealed w hen you are vulnerable, exploited, hurt, abused or manhandled like the parcel, by those you interact and deal w ith. W hen every layer of the parcel is peeled out and you delve deeper and deeper, suddenly the parcel opens up to throw up a surprise gift Y OU The practical w ay out to discover yourself now is to unrav el the real y ou and that can be done w hen you Act with Purpose, Ponder with Insight and Accept the reality with Grace. Act with purpose : W hile our formative years w ere by and large guided and molded by parents, elders and teachers, our dependence on them w ill reduce as the years go by and w e grow up to be mature individuals. Hopefully w e w ould have accepted sane advice and guidance and focused on our values, education, manners, career choice etc. w hen w e begin to furrow our ow n path our upbringing should discipline us make choices w ith positive purpose. The learning both formal and informal, our intelligence, our experience, the feedback w e receive, the risks w e take, the options w e avoid are all partly subconscious but largely a purposeful goal driven activity. In effect we never idle away our time or waste our resources but act with purpose to achieve our goals. Ponder with Insight: Of and on w e do tend to look back and w onder about the tw ists and turns in our life and occasionally w e w ould lament and rue some mistakes and lost opportunities and also be pleased about those right moves w e made. Often w e w ill keep analyzing the present, keep attempting to improve up on the existing and make efforts to learn, improve, adjust and adapt to the changes that w e experience, perceive or imagine. We w ould simultaneous also look ahead and w ith the w isdom of past experience, the know ledge of the current trends and the applying our commonsense and foresight, ponder w ith insight and plan for the present and future. W ithout realizing w e w ould have discovered some key competencies, some harsh realities and the real facts about ourselves. Accept the reality with Grace: W here w e fail is in accepting the reality of our personality. We w ould need to enthusiastically accept our strengths, our abilities, our talents and our potential and leverage them to raise the bar of personal excellence. Tougher still is the challenge of accepting the reality of our limitations, our w eakness, our insipid temperament and our irrational fears w hich curb our risk taking, restrict our horizons and expose our inadequacies. Once w e learn to accept the reality of our personality w ith grace w e w ould have discovered the secret of how to find happiness w ithin ourselves. Begin to be now what you will be hereafter. William James Try this: How w ould you rate yourself on a scale of 1-10 (1 being very poor and 10 being excellent) your abilities on. Now ask your spouse or sibling or close associate to do a similar rating for you. Compare the results. Managing your time Taking decisions Interacting w ith people Handling crisis Being creative Dow nload the attached file Human Emotions and from the list of emotions list out 5 Positive Emotions and 5 Negative Emotions that are typical of you. Now for emotion that you have listed give a suitable example from your life to make sure the emotion has been experienced by you. Next take a print of the file and show it to the follow ing people and ask them to outline those emotions w hich in their view are applicable to you. You may make some revealing realities about yourself from the replies of others. A family member (preferably a sibling) A close friend A colleague An old school chum A new acquaintance (they have to judge your emotions based on your interactions) This post is courtesy www.actspot.com Y ou are also invited to visit our Inspirational and Motivational Blog www.poweract.blogspot.com Read Full Post

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