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2. Distinguish between thoughts and feelings.
3. Take responsibility for their feelings.
4. Use their feelings to help them make decisions.
5. Show respect for other people's feelings.
6. Feel energized, not angry.
7. Validate other people's feelings.
8. Practice getting a positive value from their
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9. Don't advise, command, control, criticize, judge
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Thoughts: I feel like...& I feel as if.... & I feel that
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receiving end of such behavior, so they avoid it.
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