Love Systems Insider

Date: October 22, 2010

In this issue...

 Dating Tips - Use These Right Away

 How to Get Her Phone Number

You think you know everything a man could reasonably know about women and dating and then
something like THIS comes along...

"This" of course is the Love Systems Super Conference, which just ended. You'll be hearing
about the 2010 conference for a long time...some of the new stuff around escalation, body
language, humor, framing, inner game, and strippers and hired guns was just incredible.

You'll start to see this stuff come out over the next few months so we can share it with
everyone. But for now, let's get straight to some dating tips you can use tonight:

Seven Instant Dating Tips -- Use These Right Away

These dating tips in bite-sized chunks have gotten really popular. To get a daily fix, add me on
twitter: @LS_Savoy

On Identity:
You cannot keep an exceptionally beautiful woman interested in you for very long unless you
have a coherent, convincing identity. This identity has to be interesting and attractive to her, but
also compatible with who you really are. (Source)

On Voicemail:
Don't leave voicemails unless you've had a few dates already. If she doesn't answer and you
need to leave a message, send a text/SMS. There's nothing fun or flirty about returning a
voicemail -- voicemails are for business, bills, and guys who don't "get it." (Source)

On Dates:
Whenever possible, start the date at your place. Don't hang around, just make it where you
meet. If she has to drive over, then you know she's coming home with you at the end of the
night. At the very least to get her car. So no awkward questions about a "drive back with me for
a nightcap/see my etchings/etc." at the end of a date. (credit: DYD)

On Threesomes:
Threesomes are much easier than most guys think. With an open-minded woman, it's all in the
framing. Try "I want to share another woman with you" instead of "I want you to share me."
(Source)

For more on frames and frame control: http://www.lovesystems.com/cd5

On Hair:
Your haircut says a lot about you. Are you boring? Conservative? Fashionable? Too obsessed
with your looks? Your hair needs to match both your identity and your face and body type.
Some guys obsess over going to the gym (muscles she'll never see unless she's already
attracted) and ignore their hair (a big part of her first impression of you). (Source)

On Body Language:
Slow, controlled movements. Scurrying around, fidgeting, and being in a hurry are not sexy.
Confident and deliberate movements are. As body language expert Cajun put it, "move like you
would move if you were under water." (Source)

On Jealousy: Attractive women will always have other men interested in them. Many attractive
women love to flirt. If she's not your girlfriend yet and you let her make you jealous, you're going
nowhere with her. You've just told her you're not used to attractive women and that she has
more options than you do. That might be attractive in theory to her, but not in practice. (Source)

Remember - for a great source of daily tips like these, follow me on Twitter & Facebook or
follow my blog

How to Get Her Phone Number

You spend an hour getting ready to go out. Maybe two, counting travel time. Maybe you review
your copy of the Routines Manual before you leave. You probably approach a few different
women before you find one you really like. You're about another hour into talking to her when
you ask for her phone number....
WAIT!

Don't screw this part up. You've already invested a few hours into your night - and this woman
could be your future long-term girlfriend or whatever... or you could screw it all up in about 30
seconds.

Remember these ten rules:

1. The phone number by itself is useless. What's important is that she wakes up tomorrow
wanting you to call. The phone number just gives you a way to do that. Your goal is to
make an emotional and physical connection. A phone number is not a goal.
Usually if you are making a great connection, she will offer you her number without you
even asking for it.

2. Make sure she has your phone number in her phone when you get hers. Not because
she's going to call you (she probably won't, no matter how much she likes you). But so
that when you call or text, she knows who it is. The "oh, hi, who is this?" conversation is
a momentum killer, and you know from the Magic Bullets dating guide how important
emotional momentum is.

3. If you ask for her phone number, don't act like you're applying for a job or a raise in your
allowance. She is not "rewarding" or "granting" you her phone number... think of it like
any logistical detail when two people are making plans. Ask for her phone number in the
same way you'd ask your friend what time the movie is.

4. Because of this, discuss at least vague plans before getting her phone number. Getting
her number so you can "call her sometime" is for teenagers. Get her number so you can
let her know about that concert you were talking about going to together.

5. Don't leave the conversation right after getting her phone number. Why would she want
to go to the trouble of seeing you again if you're too awkward to see her right now? Wait
for an emotional high note (leave her wanting more) and leave with a logistical excuse
("I'm ignoring my friends; I should get back to them")

6. Or even, don't leave at all, or only temporarily. There's no rule that says that once you
get her phone you can't go for the "same-night lay." [If you're new... same night lays
don't happen by just hanging around her and her group... if you're new, don't mess it up
with a woman you might be interested in by staying TOO long after getting her number]

7. When you get back to your friends, shut the heck up. Don't talk about her - your friends
will look. You can spoil the best pickup in the world in a split second if she sees your
friends cheering you on for getting her number.

8. Don't keep bumping into each other after the initial phone number. It can get really
awkward.
 9. On the other hand, don't worry if she sees you flirting with other women, as long as A)
you're not getting blown out and B) it's not the only thing you're doing. She'll probably flirt
with other men too - don't look, don't compete, don't worry about it.

10. Don't call or text her to check if it's a real number. When guys do this to women I know,
even from a different or blocked phone number, somehow they always know.

This is of course only scratching the surface. For the complete guide to getting phone numbers,
calling vs. text, hundreds of great text messages and conversations, and so on, check out The
Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game. Some of the chapters you can download right away at
no charge, so there's no reason not to head over there right now:

>>http://www.lovesystems.com/books/phone-text-game

Take care,

Nick Savoy