Documentos de Académico
Documentos de Profesional
Documentos de Cultura
Terms:
Aftercare: The time after a BDSM scene or play session in which the participants calm
down, discuss the previous events and their personal reactions to them, and slowly come
back in touch with reality. BDSM often involves an endorphin high and very intense
experience, and failure to engage in proper aftercare can lead to subdrop as these return to
more everyday levels.
Ageplay: Usually referring to daddy or mommy/daughter or boy or baby role play. Does
not usually include or imply aspects of incest, but rather the nurturing relationship of
parent/child or teacher/student.
Bottom:
Breathplay: Refers to play involving control of or restriction of air and / or oxygen to the
brain. Other examples would be strangling, which is compression of the neck/throat area
to prevent the flow of oxygen to the brain. Suffocation involves reducing the level of oxygen
available to breathe; hanging where the body is suspended by the neck (remember, all
these games are dangerous to play, either alone or with a partner).
Chastity:
Collar: A collar worn around the neck to indicate one's submissiveness. These can be
made of leather, steel, rubber, rope. Used in scenes for humiliation and / or examples
such as dog / puppy or even boy / girl play.
Contract: A written-out agreement between the dominant & submissive. It can be either
formal or non, and is usually written after much negotiation by the dominant and the sub,
outlining what structure, guidelines, rules and boundaries to the relationship are agreed
upon by the two. It is not legally binding.
Electrical Play: SM play involving electricity such as TENS units or violet wands.
Exhibitionism/Exhibitionist: Sceneing involving the display of public / private
exhibitionism in order to exert control and / or humiliation.
Hard Limit: What someone absolutely will not do, usually non-negotiable.
Leather: The leather subculture denotes practices and styles of dress organized around
sexual activities. Wearing leather garments is one way that participants in this culture selfconsciously distinguish themselves from mainstream sexual cultures.
Lifestyle: A relationship in which one person surrenders control to another person for an
indefinite duration, and in which the relationship is defined by the fact that one person is
always dominant and the other is always submissive. OR: The lifestyle
Pet Play: Any activity in which one or more participants takes on the role of a pet, such
as in puppy or pony play.
Role Play: Any activity in which the people involved assume roles or identities different
from their own and act out a scenario- i.e. teacher/student, doctor/nurse, etc.
Sadism/Sadist:
Service:
Soft Limit: Something that someone is hesitant to do or nervous to try. They can
sometimes be talked into the activity, or preferably it may be negotiated at a trial or
beginner level into a scene.
Spanking: Involves striking someone with the palm of the hand or other object (i.e.,
paddle, hairbrush, pig slapper, riding crop, etc.) on the buttocks as a form of punishment /
humiliation. Mild spanking can be very erotic and when done correctly can push the
submissive into "subspace" releasing endorphins which in turn creates a sense of euphoria.
submissive/sub/s:
Person that gives up control either all the time or for a specified
Subspace: A "natural high" that a sub (or bottom) gets during a scene or when being
controlled. The sub may feel disconnected from time, space, and/or their body, and may
have limited ability to communicate. It is critical that a Dom/top take responsibility for the
sub/bottom and be aware of their sub's wellbeing if they are in subspace.
Top: the Dominant, the person who takes control of the sub(s)/bottom(s)
Top Drop: A sudden, abrupt feeling of depression, unhappiness, or similar negative
emotion in a dominant which may occasionally occur immediately after a period of BDSM
activity. May include feelings of guilt, especially if the dominant believes he or she has made
an error, or has traditional ideas about relationship or socially appropriate behavior.
Further Reading:
http://tinyurl.com/kinkyresources: General resource sheet on BDSM stuff
http://clarissethorn.com/bdsm-resources/: Another resource sheet
Instructionals
www.kinkacademy.com/
2KnottyBoys Youtube Channel
WordWize FetLife group
Fiction:
Abigail Barnette's The Boss
Sleeping Beauty Trilogy by Anne Rice
The Story of O by Anne Desclos
Kushiels Dart by Jacqueline Carey
Leather Daddy and the Femme by Carol Queen
Doc and Fluff by Patrick Califa
Crash by JG Ballard