Things I've Learned about Loss
By Dana Shields
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About this ebook
Author Dana Shields, who lost her brother in a plane crash, shares her insight and offers comfort and companionship to readers in mourning.
This heartfelt book of wisdom is a beacon of hope to help readers aching to find a new normal.
• Loosely guided by the stages of grief
• Helps those experiencing grief feel less alone
• A beautiful, simple, and sincere book on bereavement
When people experience a loss, it's hard to know what to do or say. Things I've Learned About Loss helps reinforce the message that those grieving are not alone or wrong in their grief, even if it sometimes feels that way.
• Features earnest content and reassurance that grief is normal
• A good pick for those grieving and struggling to cope with the loss of a loved one, or for anyone who is looking for something to help and soothe their grief
• You'll love this book if you love books like It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine; There Is No Good Card for This: What to Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love by Dr. Kelsey Crowe and Emily McDowell; and The Hot Young Widows Club: Lessons on Survival from the Front Lines of Grief by Nora McInerny.
Dana Shields
Dana Shields began to share her experiences with loss as a means of supporting her family and friends after struggling with her own grief. She lives in California with her family.
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Things I've Learned about Loss - Dana Shields
For Mom and Dad, in honor of Jeb.
Jeb was the first Shields family member killed while on active duty in the US Armed Forces since the Civil War.
Copyright © 2020 by Dana Shields.
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form without written permission from the publisher.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Shields, Dana, author.
Title: Things I’ve learned about loss / Dana Shields.
Other titles: Things I have learned about loss
Description: San Francisco : Chronicle Books, [2020]. Identifiers: LCCN 2019051684 | ISBN 9781452181066 (hardcover); ISBN 9781452183886 (epub, mobi)
Subjects: LCSH: Bereavement. | Consolation. | Conduct of life.
Classification: LCC BF575.G7 S475 2020 | DDC 155.9/37—dc23
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2019051684
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Contents
INTRODUCTION /08
STAGES OF GRIEF /14
Shock /16
Nightmares /20
Unsure how to act /21
Sadness /24
Anxiety /27
Crying /28
Sleep /30
Visits /31
Anger /32
Guilt /36
Acceptance /38
First anniversary /40
Belongings /42
Every year after /45
Rituals /48
Realizations /49
Time /51
Twenty-five years later /53