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    Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person: A pessimist’s guide to marriage, offering insight, practical advice, and consolation
    Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person: A pessimist’s guide to marriage, offering insight, practical advice, and consolation
    Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person: A pessimist’s guide to marriage, offering insight, practical advice, and consolation
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    Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person: A pessimist’s guide to marriage, offering insight, practical advice, and consolation

    By Campus London LTD (The School of Life)

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    A pessimist's guide to marriage.


    Anyone we might marry could be wrong for us - even just a little bit. We know that perfection is not in the cards. And yet, errors of deep-seated incompatibility in married couples seem to occur regularly. 

    This informative (and funny) book examines the reasons why - and then suggests a new approach to marriage. The time has come to bury the Romantic intuition-based view of marriage and learn to practice and rehearse marriage as one would ice-skating or violin playing, activities no more deserving of systematic periods of institution.

    • BASED ON THE NEW YORK TIMES MOST-READ ARTICLE OF 2016
    • A THOUGHT-PROVOKING ESSAY COLLECTION about relationships and marriage. 
    • A PESSIMIST'S GUIDE TO MARRIAGE offering insight, practical advice, and consolation. 

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherThe School of Life
    Release dateJul 29, 2020
    ISBN9780995753563
    Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person: A pessimist’s guide to marriage, offering insight, practical advice, and consolation
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    Campus London LTD (The School of Life)

    The School of Life is a groundbreaking enterprise which offers good ideas for everyday living. Founded in 2008, The School of Life runs a diverse range of programmes and services which address questions of personal fulfilment and how to lead a better life. Drawing insights from philosophy, psychology, literature, the visual arts and sciences, The School of Life offers evening classes, weekends, conversation meals and other events that explore issues relating to big themes such as Love,Work, Play, Self, Family and Community.

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    Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person - Campus London LTD (The School of Life)

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    Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

    Anyone we might marry could, of course, be a little bit wrong for us. We don’t expect bliss every day. We know that perfection is not on the cards. Nevertheless, there are couples who display such deep-seated incompatibility, such heightened rage and disappointment, that we have to conclude that something else is at play beyond the normal scratchiness: they appear to have married the wrong person.

    How do such errors happen in our enlightened, knowledge-rich times? We can say straight off that they occur with appalling ease and regularity. Academic achievement and career success seem to provide no vaccines. Otherwise intelligent people daily and blithely make the move.

    Given that it is about the single costliest mistake any of us can make (it places rather large burdens on the state, employers and the next generation too), there would seem to be few issues more important than that of marrying intelligently.

    It’s all the more poignant that the reasons why people make the wrong choices are rather easy to lay out and unsurprising in their structure. We ruin our lives for reasons that can be summed up in an essay. They tend to fall into some of the following basic categories:

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    We don’t understand ourselves

    When first looking out for a partner, the requirements we come up with are coloured by a beautifully non-specific sentimental vagueness: we’ll say we really want to find someone who is ‘kind’ or ‘fun to be with’, ‘attractive’ or ‘up for adventure…’.

    It isn’t that such desires are wrong; they are just not remotely precise enough in their understanding of what we in particular are going to require in order to stand a chance of being happy – or, more accurately, not consistently glum.

    All of us are crazy in very particular ways. We’re distinctively neurotic, unbalanced and immature, but don’t know quite the details because no one ever encourages us too hard to find them out. An urgent, primary task of any lover is therefore to get a handle on the specific ways in which they are mad. They have to get up to speed on their individual neuroses. They have to grasp

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