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    Create Your Legacy: Four Portals to Living a Life of Love and Caring
    Create Your Legacy: Four Portals to Living a Life of Love and Caring
    Create Your Legacy: Four Portals to Living a Life of Love and Caring
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    Create Your Legacy: Four Portals to Living a Life of Love and Caring

    By Dr. Hyder Zahed

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    Hyder Zahed, PhD, had a good life until it was turned upside down. Following a divorce, a job loss, and a heart attack, he was determined to redesign his life by creating an ongoing legacy.

    Create Your Legacy offers a simple model (named LGGC) and practical examples for creating and leaving a lasting legacy. Topics include shifting life, accepting and loving yourself and others, balancing work and relationships, being generous, living with compassion and cultivating gratitude. Create Your Legacy seeks to help you visualize and make conscious, life-improving decisions in order to leave behind an enduring legacy for your loved ones, friends and community. This book is recommended for those who want to transform their lives in positive ways using this simple model.

    This is within everyones reach, and living the legacy costs nothing. Without a doubt, the rewards from living a good life and creating a legacy are immeasurable.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBalboa Press
    Release dateNov 1, 2013
    ISBN9781452580319
    Create Your Legacy: Four Portals to Living a Life of Love and Caring
    Author

    Dr. Hyder Zahed

    Dr. Hyder Zahed was born in India. This book is about his reflections on his life and his personal struggles in the face of major setbacks. This is also a legacy the author wants to leave behind for his family, friends and society in general.

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      Create Your Legacy - Dr. Hyder Zahed

      Copyright © 2013 Dr. Hyder Zahed.

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the publisher except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

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      Because of the dynamic nature of the Internet, any web addresses or links contained in this book may have changed since publication and may no longer be valid. The views expressed in this work are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher, and the publisher hereby disclaims any responsibility for them.

      The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being. In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, which is your constitutional right, the author and the publisher assume no responsibility for your actions.

      Any people depicted in stock imagery provided by Thinkstock are models, and such images are being used for illustrative purposes only.

      Certain stock imagery © Thinkstock.

      ISBN: 978-1-4525-8029-6 (sc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4525-8030-2 (hc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4525-8031-9 (e)

      Library of Congress Control Number: 2013914998

      Balboa Press rev. date: 10/29/2013

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      Contents

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      Dedication

      Acknowledgements

      Introduction

      Shifting Life

      Contemplating the Law of Emergence

      Chapter 1 – Love

      Love as a Virtue

      Unconditional Love

      Self-Love and Respect

      Loving-Kindness

      Honesty

      Balancing Love Relationships and Work

      Being Truly Present

      Patient Love

      Love Requires Action

      Water as a Symbol of Love

      Relishing Our Connections

      Entering the Portal of Love

      Daily Expressing Love

      Key Ideas to Remember about Love

      Chapter 2 – Generosity

      Generosity

      Generosity as a Virtue

      Generosity Requires Humility

      Unconditional Generosity

      Conditional Giving

      Finding Generosity in Strained Relationships

      Personal Generosity

      Community Generosity

      Global Generosity

      Earth’s Generosity

      Entering the Portal of Generosity

      Daily Expressing Generosity

      Key Ideas to Remember About Generosity

      Chapter 3 – Gratitude

      Gratitude

      Gratitude as a Virtue

      Unconditional Gratitude

      Gratitude Impacts Well-Being and Disposition

      Accepting Oneself and Others

      Reveling in the Ordinary

      Living in the Present Moment

      Entering the Portal of Gratitude

      Practices for Cultivating Gratitude

      Daily Expressing Gratitude

      Key Ideas to Remember about Gratitude

      Chapter 4 – Compassion

      Compassion

      Compassion as a Virtue

      Compassion’s Reward

      Compassion’s Spaciousness in Relationships

      Nonjudgment in Compassion

      Compassionate Empathy

      Looking for Hidden Stories

      Personal Compassion

      Courtesy Circulates Compassion

      Community Compassion

      Global Compassion

      Entering the Portal of Compassion

      Daily Expressing Compassion

      Key Ideas to Remember About Compassion

      Conclusion

      Reference Sources

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      DEDICATION

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      For my beloved parents and their unfailing loving kindness and generosity

      and for

      my beautiful daughter, Auria, without whose love, support and encouragement, I would not have completed my Legacy!

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      ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

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      I would like to express my deepest appreciation and gratitude to all those who provided me the support to complete this book. A special gratitude I give to my friends Jay and Gabriella Cole whose moral support and encouragement helped me coordinate my thoughts in writing this book. Furthermore, I would also like to acknowledge with much appreciation Laura Bollinger and Christy Hummer for their editing expertise and suggestions; my friend Leonard Szymczak who encouraged me to write from my heart and to share my inner voice with my readers. My thanks are also due to Chan Minh for his photographic input.

      I owe my thanks also to Kathy Juline who reviewed my book, provided me with helpful comments and suggestions and shared some valuable affirmations on love, generosity, gratitude and compassion which the readers will find condensed at the end of the book. Many thanks are also due to my friends Duncan and Shannon for their ongoing loving support and friendship; Fatima Khan for reviewing the manuscript and offering some additional insights; and my friend Doug Godsman who inspired me to redesign my life. Last but not the least my special appreciation and thanks to Angenieta Wuerth for helping me with the design of the book cover.

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      INTRODUCTION

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      Shifting Life

      A few years back, I not only thought my life was good, but I also would have said it was great. I enjoyed good health, a happy marriage, a beautiful daughter, a comfortable home, a wonderful community, and meaningful work. Then one day, quite out of the blue, came a shocking thunderbolt. While getting ready for a business trip to Europe, my wife informed me that she had decided not to return home this time! At first I thought I did not hear her correctly. Maybe the statement was incomplete or she was going to tell me she was coming back later or earlier than planned. That was not the case. She was clearly stating that our twenty-year marriage was ending soon. Perhaps it was the shock of the statement, or maybe there wasn’t enough time to get into a lengthy discussion, but nothing more was said. I was left behind to process the end of my deeply cherished family life.

      After the shock, I immersed myself in the demands of work. I worked in the research and development department of a major pharmaceutical company, and I felt good about my contribution in finding cures for diseases and illnesses. I continued my daily workout regimen and tried to remain positive.

      As I was trying to cope with the impending disintegration of my family, I was struck with more disastrous news, this time from my supervisor. He informed me that due to a corporate reorganization, my department was being dissolved; 450 employees, including me, were being let go. Once again, I was speechless. Quietly I left the meeting, handed my badge to the security guard, and wished him well. I recall sitting in my car, feeling like this was all surreal, and just trying to process my job loss. I was in so much pain. I had lost my marriage and my job. I wondered what was to come next.

      The next day I would wake up not knowing what to do with my day. There would be no structure, no expectations, and no purpose. Though I was in a state of shock, I knew I must reach out for help.

      I called my friend Doug and shared with him what had transpired at work that morning. He said quietly, I can hear in your voice that this is serious. Stay where you are. I’ll come over within thirty minutes. When he arrived, he suggested, Let’s go out for breakfast so we can talk.

      As I began to describe what had just taken place that morning, I felt my emotions beginning to loosen as my words flowed out spontaneously. Sitting at the table over scrambled eggs and toast, Doug listened with care and understanding, giving me the empathetic support I needed with his caring words of wisdom.

      I’ll never forget one important insight he shared during that breakfast: Hyder, this is your chance to redesign your life. As a career counselor, I have known many people who have taken a major loss like this, survived it, and changed their lives along the lines of what they truly want to accomplish in the aftermath. Years later, looking back, they have seen that the loss turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to them.

      While Doug was talking, I kept remembering a line from Hafiz, one of my favorite Sufi poets: Before a breakthrough, there is always a breakdown. As I revisited these wise words of the ancient Persian mystic, I felt a mixture of sorrow, hope, and fear.

      To move forward toward redesigning my life, Doug told me to make a list of the things I really wanted to do before I die. I knew right then this list would become the blueprint of the new life I was supposed to design. I started with a list of all the things I hadn’t been able to do because of my former work demands. This was my list.

      1.   Spend more time

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