Stay or Go: Loving or Leaving Someone with PTSD: Healing For Life, #3
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Quick reads - Lifelong results.
This book is for you if you love someone with PTSD and you are not sure if you should continue that relationship.
Whether you are married, living together, or simply dating, you have important choices to make. Post traumatic stress disorder is a serious relationship challenge.
The underlying trauma may have irrevocably changed the one you love and that changes your relationship. You do not want to walk away from love, but is the love still there?
This book will help you avoid some big mistakes.
It will you show the signposts that indicate if the relationship can be salvaged or if it is already over.
It will give you the right questions to ask yourself and a few unique ways of assessing your relationship.
We all deserve love in our lives. This book was written to help you figure out if the love you have now is the love that is right for you.
Suzanne Grosser
The only thing I ever wanted to be when I grew up was a writer. (Except for a brief period when I was three years old and decided I would be a fire fighter because I really wanted to drive that fire engine.) My parents read to me every day. Children's books, of course. But poetry and bits of the classics, too. Story time was my favorite part of the day. Left alone to play, I enacted elaborate dramas with my stuffed animals. I told my dolls stories while I jumped on my bed. For some reason, the plot lines flowed better when I was jumping. (For the record I no longer do this. My knees are not as forgiving as they used to be.) When I was five, I was so obsessed with stories, that I was even willing to give up my play time to go to school. My parents promised I would learn to read, so it seemed a fair deal. My plan was simple. Once I could read, I would not have to wait for someone else to read to me. Best of all, I could learn anything I needed or wanted to know. I figured I would not even have to go to school anymore. Brilliant! That is when I learned that life does always follow your plan.
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Stay or Go - Suzanne Grosser
Table of Contents
Introduction
What PTSD Does to a Relationship
Can Someone with PTSD Love?
If You Stay
If You Go
How Not to Decide
Good Signs, Bad Signs
Stay or Go
Conclusion
About the Author
Final Notes
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Introduction
Deciding whether to end a relationship is a difficult decision. You know there will be consequences to deal with if you leave. But choosing to stay also has consequences.
Leaving cuts off any chance for love to grow. Staying gives your love a change to grow, despite the problems.
Leaving can put an end to emotional pain. Staying can prolong the pain of a love that has already died.
Either choice will change your life.
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What PTSD Does to a Relationship
Post traumatic stress disorder by itself does not destroy a relationship. It does add stress and press on the weak spots that already exist in a relationship. It may shatter your trust in one another or it could strengthen it. It will definitely change the way you relate to one another.
Trauma may change one or both partners. And that changes the relationship into something different. It may force you to change your dreams and goals.
All life is about change. You have to decide if these changes are things you can live with.
Loving him is easy. You know who he used to be. You want that person back! Be aware you may never get him back. The man he once was has changed. He may have permanent scars, both physical and emotional. Given time, he may grow through this experience and become a stronger, wiser man. Or he might not.
Things are bad now, and there is no guarantee it will get better. Love never comes with a guarantee. That does not mean you should not stay. It does mean that staying, if that is your choice, will not be easy. Later on in this book, I will give you some tips to help you if you decide to stay.
If you leave, some people will