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    Escape from Anger; Step by Step
    Escape from Anger; Step by Step
    Escape from Anger; Step by Step
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    Escape from Anger; Step by Step

    By Wm. W. Hughes

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    Management of anger is all that is offered by psychology because the primary problem in not addressed. The shortcoming with management is that the anger is still within waiting for the next time a person or circumstance becomes too close for comfort then the ANGER will lash out again.

    This book will help the reader move down a path that will break the strongholds to completely escape the ravages of anger in their life. It is not about managing anger but deals with the real hurt issues that drive anger and rage and includes steps to make a plan that will help deliver the reader from anger and repair love relationships in their life.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherWm. W. Hughes
    Release dateAug 8, 2012
    ISBN9781476107936
    Escape from Anger; Step by Step
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    Wm. W. Hughes

    Mr. Hughes has advised people for more than 15 years as a pastoral counselor and mentor. Currently, he and his wife serve in Pastoral Care at Oasis Church in Los Angeles, CA. (OasisLA.org; @OasisLA) They now reside in Southern California. He holds a Masters in Theology degree from Fuller Theological Seminary in Pasadena CA. and a Bachelors degree from California Baptist University, Riverside.

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      Escape from Anger; Step by Step - Wm. W. Hughes

      Escape from Anger; Step by Step

      by

      Wm. W. Hughes

      Published by William W. Hughes,

      Smashwords Edition

      Copyright 2012 All Rights Reserved

      The references to Bible verses and quotations are from the following versions

      Scripture quotations marked (ESV) are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version, copyright ©2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

      Scriptures marked as (GNB) are taken from the Good News Bible – Second Edition © 1992 by American Bible Society. Used by permission.

      Scriptures marked as (KJV) This is the 1769 King James Version of the Holy Bible (also known as the Authorized Version).

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      Table of Contents

      Opening Thoughts

      My Story

      Which Beast is Which

      Door Openers

      Confronting the spirits – Stopping the voices

      God’s Way is Best

      The New Life

      Re-Introduction

      Instructions for New Believers

      Verses

      About the Author

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      Not by might nor by power but by My Spirit says the Lord of Hosts (Zechariah 4:6, ESV)

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      A note for readers:

      These are suggestions that have been effective in the life of the author and in the lives of people he has advised in the course of fifteen years of pastoral counseling. They are taken from the Bible and are offered up for your consideration in the belief that if followed they can effect change in the lives of the readers.

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      ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

      First and always at the top of my list of important people is my Lord Jesus. He changed my life when it was a train wreck due to my own management. All that I write is due to Him and the fulfilling life I discovered in the pages of the Bible. He called me to write down what I have learned and now He will take these steps from His Word to change other lives.

      I have so much appreciation for my loving wife and best friend Chris. She allows me time when she would like to have my undivided attention, is always an encouragement, and gives great input as she is reading different versions of this and other books.

      I want to thank our dear friend and sister in the Lord, Gennean Shull for ideas, reading and rereading, better phrasing and encouragement towards completing the task.

      I still appreciate my mentor Della Rentfrow and what she taught me in hours of discussion and training. She died years ago but her ministry lives on in the many people she touched and taught, of which my wife Chris and I are two.

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      Escape from Anger

      Opening Thoughts

      Anger is like the proverbial elephant in the room that no one talks about out of fear that they will awaken or disturb it. Some people just accept anger as a human frailty that everyone has, and that most can control – usually that is true. In my mind’s eye, it seems that the beast of anger is actually less like an elephant and more like a wild, uncontrollable, dangerous boar hog. One with razor sharp tusks that is dirty and bruised from rooting around where most people will not go. One that has a prideful, protective layer of tough skin; one that lashes out whenever it feels cornered, so that everyone will think twice before tackling this beast.

      If this strikes a nerve or if there is a battle inside to keep this hog in check – check this out.

      This is what I bring to the table: an Escape Plan for people who have allowed a stronghold of anger to wreak havoc on, and ruin their lives and relationships. This plan is from the most valid source we know – the Bible. To use this plan we need to be willing to have a greater desire to have healthy relationships with others more than maintain a stronghold position. Maybe you have had a desire to change, but desire was not enough; anger management was not enough. Counseling for years did not remove the anger; not enough years yet? Total Escape, not covering or management, is available.

      A few things will need to be realized in order to have change rather than cover for anger. So there is no longer a need for the protective covering of anger, there must be healing for the hurts from life. We must be willing to get over the hurdle of embarrassment while being open and honest with others about having an anger problem. This requires that pride is put down and the death grip on a strong position against a person or situation be released. Change will require a willingness and desire to know what the Bible says, and to be a doer of the Word and not a hearer only. People that only hear the Word of God and do not do what it says will NOT have change in their lives.

      Of course, it is relatively easy for people to simply cover up their anger while they cope with problems, but there is no freedom and no change, because once the beast is cornered again it will always lash out to protect itself. How’s the cover working so far?

      It’s a spiritual battle (even if it is within) to overcome anger and escape its ravages.

      Maybe you have had 5 years (or double or triple that) of therapy and recovery and there are still problems and anger within and faultfinding in others because they can’t fix themselves? Do you think it is time to do something different? This is not about recovery or management or cover over or any other solution the world brings. The world has no way to deal with spiritual problems. Escaping Anger needs a threefold spiritual solution.

      The first thing to note is that dealing with anger is not a linier process altogether. There are parts that are, but most are more akin to assembling pieces like a basket then weaving them together to form a whole, in this case, a whole solution.

      This is not psychology. Because we are a spiritual person, we must deal with the problems in the spirit man first. Every human being is a spirit man that has a soul*** (psyche) and lives in a body or container. One reference says the psyche is the human mind as the center of thought or behavior. Psychology recognizes a two-part person; body and soul. However, here is what the Bible has to say:

      1 Thessalonians 5:23 And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ (KJV).

      Adam Clark, in his commentary on the Bible, attributes to the soul the place of affections and passions, which would make it rather hard to change but could be trained to be in control. We are not seeking control, training, or coping. Jesus can heal our heart and change our actions when we start in the spirit of the human being rather than just attempt to manipulate the soul.

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      My Story

      I have found that in my life that I have had to overcome the barrier of my own anger before I could ever start working on the love part of my closest relationships. Like stages in the Ironman Competition, I had to complete the ocean swim before I could get on the bike. I had to escape the depths of anger before I could ever start moving towards truly loving others; particularly with a love that is completely void of rules, expectations, and tit for tat conditions. Truly, this is a love that the Bible calls agape, or the God kind of love; the kind of love with which God loves us (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).

      My love was far from this agape love, because I always had anger festering inside me. When I would feel unjustly accused, the devil was always there to add fuel to the fire by reminding me of similar past wrongs that had been done to me, thus blowing someone’s simple comment into tidal wave

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