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    Should I Get Married? 10 Questions to Answer Before You Say I Do
    Should I Get Married? 10 Questions to Answer Before You Say I Do
    Should I Get Married? 10 Questions to Answer Before You Say I Do
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    Should I Get Married? 10 Questions to Answer Before You Say I Do

    By Jennifer Jessica

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    If you’ve been pinning dream wedding dresses on your visualization board, or wondering how much an engagement ring costs, you’ve been struck by Cupid’s arrow. There’s nothing like being in love, and it’s easy to dream of a happily-ever-after scenario when you’re floating in the clouds of romantic bliss.

    We’re a country in love with ideal of love. Children read stories like Cinderella and Snow White where romantic love conquers all. Nicholas Sparks’ books are snapped up as soon as they hit the press. And romance novels are one of the best selling fiction genres.

    Over two billion people tuned in to watch Prince William and Kate Middleton’s wedding in 2011. And tabloids are filled daily with breaking news about which celebrity is getting married next.

    There are few emotions as powerful as love. Sadly many people can’t distinguish between love and infatuation, and rush to the altar under the spell of love. They decide to get married because they’re in the stage of love called “limerence” (an involuntarily desire to have one’s feelings reciprocated) where they’re blind to faults and have unrealistic expectations. When the bloom fades from the rose, they divorce because the marriage didn’t live up to their romantic idealism.

    Couples rush into marriage for varied reasons including convenience, infatuation, pregnancy, or response to familial pressure. If you rush into a marriage, you may later find yourself in a difficult situation that could affect you financially and emotionally, and may negatively affect innocent people such as children or family members.

    With a divorce rate of 40% for first-time marriages, a person has about a 60% chance of a successful marriage (even less chances for a second or third-time). It’s best to think things through before walking down the aisle. Let your head make the decision, even if your heart wants to race forward, which will improve your chances of making a wise decision.

    Marriage may be the most significant decision you’ll ever make. To help you make the best decision possible, we’ve developed ten questions to ask before you decide to get married.

    We’ve also provided advice for improving your situation in each chapter so you’ll know how to strengthen your relationship, and increase your chances of a happy and fulfilling marriage should you decide to get married.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherLaurenzanaPress
    Release dateMay 25, 2012
    ISBN9781937918323
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      Should I Get Married? 10 Questions to Answer Before You Say I Do - Jennifer Jessica

      SHOULD I GET MARRIED? 10 QUESTIONS TO 
ANSWER BEFORE YOU SAY I DO

      Jennifer Jessica

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      Laurenzana Press at Smashwords

      Copyright (c) 2012 by Laurenzana Press

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      Published by: Laurenzana Press PO Box 1220 Melrose, FL 32666 USA

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      TABLE OF CONTENTS

      Introduction: Getting Married

      1. How Well Do You Communicate?

      • Communication Builds or Inhibits Emotional Intimacy

      • The Importance of Good Communication Skills for Conflict Resolution

      o Poor Conflict Resolution:

      - Builds Resentment

      - Creates a Me Against You Mentality

      - Can Be Dangerous

      • Warning Signs

      o Criticism

      o Stonewalling

      o Contempt

      o Defensiveness

      • Poor Communication Habits to Break

      • Good Communication Habits to Develop

      • Conclusion: How Well Do You Communicate?

      2. Are You Financially Compatible?

      • Comparing Credit Histories:

      • What Career Goals Do You Have?

      • What Are Your Financial Expectations?

      • What Are Your Financial Goals As a Couple?

      • What Sort of Financial Partnership Do You Envision?

      • What is Your Spending History?

      • What About Charitable Giving?

      • Conclusion: Are You Financially Compatible as a Couple?

      3. Do You Work Well Together?

      • Household Responsibilities

      • Joint Projects

      • Level of Sacrifice

      • Conclusion: Do You Work Well Together?

      4. Are You Sexually Compatible?

      • Attraction

      • Frequency and Quality of Love-Making

      • Are You Normal?

      • Can You Improve Your Sex Life?

      • Sexual Morals

      • What if You Haven’t Had Sex Yet?

      • Conclusion: Are You Sexually Compatible?

      5. Are You Best Friends?

      • Trust

      o Signs of Distrust

      o Ways to Improve Trust

      • Respect

      o Signs of Disrespect

      o Ways to Improve Respect

      • Companionship

      o Signs That You Need to Improve Your Companionship Level

      o Ways to Build a Healthier Companionship Level

      • Emotional Intimacy

      o Signs of Distance

      o Ways to Improve Emotional Intimacy

      • Conclusion: Are You Best Friends

      6. Are You Philosophically and Culturally Compatible?

      • Religious Perspectives

      o Do You Respect Each Other’s Religious Views?

      o Are You Okay With Worshipping Separately?

      o Will Your Religious Views Affect You in Any Way?

      o Will Your Religious Differences Affect Your Families?

      • Cultural Expectations

      • Political Views

      • Conclusion: Are You Philosophically and Culturally Compatible?

      7. Do You Share Complementary Goals and Dreams?

      • Having Children

      o Sooner or Later?

      o Just One Please? Or the More the Merrier?

      o Identifying Your Parenting Styles

      • Career

      o Climb the Ladder or Just Pay the Bills?

      o Purposeful Employment or Funding Your Passion?

      • Family

      o Sunday Dinners? Or See You Every Other Christmas?

      o Looking Ahead

      • Lifestyle

      o On the Go? Or on the Front Porch?

      o Neat Freak or a Clutter Bug?

      o Social Butterfly? Or Only Private Party of Two?

      o Do It Yourself or Hire It Out?

      o Traditional Goals? Or Out to Change the World?

      o Conclusion: Do You Have Complementary Goals and Dreams?

      8. Are You Mature Enough to Commit?

      • Age

      • Character

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