What I thought about Jane Fonda prior to reading this memoir: "She's been in some movies I've enjoyed. Isn't she married to that CNN guy?" What I think about Jane Fonda after reading this memoir: "OMG, I love Jane Fonda SO MUCH! She's my new imaginary best friend/mentor/godmother."The hundreds of memoirs I've read over the years have led me to develop certain criteria about what constitutes a great memoir. First, the memoirist must have led an interesting life. Of course, this describes most memoirists. I mean, why would a publisher bother with a memoir of a person who has done nothing interesting? But, as I have so woefully discovered, just because a person has led what appears to be a fascinating life, this in no way guarantees that the memoir they write will be fascinating. (See Grace Coddington's memoir for a perfect example of this). Jane fills this first requirement in spades. Stars in a number of classic movies - check. Famous father - check. Famous husbands - check. Participates in newsworthy events - check. Secondly, the memoirist must have developed self-awareness and the ability to dissect their past actions and feelings. Oh, it's quite easy to write a "I did this and then I did that and then I did this again" sort of memoir. All you need to do is look at your past calendars. Or just google yourself if you are famous. The point of a memoir is to discover the thoughts and feelings behind the actions. Again, Jane excels at this. I must compliment her therapists. Good job! Jane is able to not only delve deeply into her motivations and beliefs, she is able take those feelings and relate them to certain universal feelings all people have.Jane also walks the fine line between revealing too much and too little. OK, personally, I rarely find anything to be too revealing, but that's just me. I enjoy gossipy luridness. Jane manages to write about really private events in her life - all those threesomes with Vadim, her affairs, her sexual fears, without getting too personal. She doesn't name the men she has affairs with, but she doesn't need to. Instead she focuses on WHY she had the affairs, what was going on in her heart and mind at the time, what the repercussions were and how she feels about the events now. The name of the guy is irrelevant. Same with the threesomes - when I have read men writing about threesomes - ok, rock stars and actors, but still - when the men write about them, it's almost like you are reading a Penthouse Forum letter. One gets the lurid details but not the emotions behind the actions. And the emotions are the truly interesting bits. OK, great, this groupie gave you a blowjob in a limo. But what about your wife back home? What about the loneliness of being on the road? What about your inability to connect with non-famous people once you become famous? What is the backstory of the blowjob??? That is a far more difficult thing to write than just writing what happened. Jane excels at the backstory. At the deeper meaning.The parts of the book dealing with her relationship with her dad totally made me cry. I read Henry Fonda's biography several years ago and was sad afterwards. I'd always loved him as an actor and it was depressing to read about what a cold, repressed man he was in real life. It affected how I viewed him in movies. I was curious to find out Jane's take on him. Would she be bitter and angry like Christina Crawford or Gary Crosby? Jane did a marvelous job revealing all the different facets to their father/daughter relationship. She also did a great job relating her specific experience with what many people who have cold, unemotional parents go through. The whole bit about making On Golden Pond - wow. I'm so glad she got to make that movie and come to a certain peace about their relationship. Also, that chapter made me love Katherine Hepburn more than I already did.I think this memoir is worth reading. You don't have to be a fan. Hell, I think people who hate her for her 1960's activism should read this. Jane does a great job discussing that period. (All those FBI files on her are so interesting!) She writes about universal emotions and feelings and thoughts that anyone who has a modicum of self-awareness would relate to. Two thumbs up. Way up.