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Beat THE DISEASE TO please

According to psychologist Susan Newman, PhD, author of The Book of No (Turner Publishing), people-pleasers will do whatever is asked of them to keep everyone around them happy, putting everyone’s needs before their own. She explains it as a type of addiction – constant people-pleasing spirals into feeling as though they need to be needed, and makes them feel important and validated. At their core then, compulsive people-pleasers lack self-confidence, and rely on the approval of others and outside validation for security.

According to Newman, what many peoplepleasers don’t realise is that constantly looking to please others at the expense of their own needs has serious risks. It puts a lot of pressure and stress on you, and can lead to being overcommitted

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