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Dear Therapist: I’m Tired of Explaining Why I Don’t Want to Get Pregnant

What I do, or don’t do, with my uterus is nobody’s business.
Source: BIANCA BAGNARELLI

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Dear Therapist,

I’m 27 years old and have been married to my wonderful husband for three months, and already the inevitable onslaught of questions regarding our reproductive choices has begun. It seems that we are constantly asked about our plans to have a baby by every extended family member, co-worker, friend, and acquaintance.

I find these questions to be incredibly invasive and rude, as it is really nobody’s business what I do, or don’t do, with my uterus. I have struggled with anorexia for 10 years, and the possible complications of a pregnancy related

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